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I had my first interracial encounter in the 70s. My husband is highly supportive of my activities. I like to go out on dates as well as spend evenings with my guys in the comfort of our own home.... and sometimes theirs.
Love seeing comments about our blog entries also. And, don't forget to add your votes to the various polls we have.
My husband [ who is straight ] does most of the posting here and you will find a lot of tips about improving your chances of meeting us here as well as all kinds of stories from our past and new things we decide to write about that are happening.
Enjoy!
Some blog entries that will help you when contacting me.
Tips on making it happen
Carol39s interest in Interracial
Members who are not real or sincere
The Perfect Date
And also... recently went CRAZY and posted a whole set of tips about meeting and getting with Carol. Hope you have some time to spend reading them. They are: One on One Play, Overnights, I promice, I won't cum in your mouth, Kiss me Baby, Bareback, I need to be descreet because I'm married, I'm white do I have a chance, Becoming a regular, and Being persistant and patient
Polls - We have several polls in our blog, be sure and cast your vote:
How far would you drive
Another preference question
Are you into Interracial
How important is fucking on the first date
What's with all the polls
Just for fun poll
Did you ever
Long term relationship
Which is more exciting for you\8b
Since standard members can't see my profile, I have included it within my blog.
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Married, white, love my chocolate! May be interested in a DOM,
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Posted:May 1, 2010 7:46 am
Last Updated:Aug 6, 2010 3:34 am
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Recently changed the introduction to the profile.
This DOM/sub thing has Carol all a flutter. She is both excited as hell by the idea as well as scared shitless that she might be getting into something beyond her control.
So, one thing is for sure... anytime she agrees to meet someone on this DOM/sub topic, she wants me to be her safety net and be in the room the whole time.
Although she definitely loves her private one on one sessions, a good compromose is for her to don her recently purchased blindfold. She has already told me that when she wore it the other day, she literally got so consumed by the event that she forgot I was there.
Of course, we have definitely run into guys who are a bit too nervous to do their thing with her when I am there which is one of the reasons she usually takes her guest up to the bedroom for privacy. However, I suspect a true DOM may even be more into having the husband watch as he takes control of her.
I simply have no idea where (or how far) she is willing to take this. I know that pain or real humilation or extreme forcefulness isn't in the card, ever!
In case you are interested... where is my interest in all this? Guess it is a part of my own DOM leanings to see Carol virtually owned by another man in my presence. Weird huh?
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Being a submissive
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Posted:Apr 29, 2010 1:12 am
Last Updated:Oct 19, 2010 4:19 pm
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Last night was an interesting night...
Carol agreed to have a gentleman come over for a first meet. Although that is standard operating procedure around here, it started off differently in that Carol didn't even see his picture or read his profile.
During her standard 'Getting to know you' phone chats with him, the subject of being a submissive and domination as well as having a blindfolded encounter came up in the conversation. And, we all agreed to have a little fun this way.
So, a date was setup for him to come over Friday. The agreement was that I would have Carol lying on her bed, blindfolded and naked when he arrived. The event was scheduled for Friday partially because one of her oldest friends had previously been scheduled for Wednesday morning. This was someone she had been with at least a couple of dozen times over the years and she was anxious to add another round to their list of encounters. But, Tuesday night, he had to cancel so we got in touch with this new 'Mystery Lover' to see if he wanted to move the event to Wednesday night.
Carol is the type of person who is usually pretty calm and relaxed about meeting someone. At most, if an event is an actual date (dinner and/or movies), she sometimes starts getting a little excited once she starts her womanly ritual of the bubble bath and makeup and attire selection.
I must admit, I was kinda excited by this since Carol has only had a couple of blindfolded events before and both were sometime ago. I even took off work a tad early because yesterday I had been, let's say, a tad bit preoccupied with the evening's event. So had Carol. In fact, she went out to run some errands around 2:30PM just to stay busy to make the time pass so when I got home around 4:15, she wasn't here. The mystery lover was due sometime around 5:30PM.
He called just before 5:30PM to give us a heads up that he was enroute and I had to tell him that Carol was out and that we might have to go have a drink because obviously he couldn't be setting on the living room couch when she finally got home. But, she arrived home a few minutes later. She had been so successful getting her mind off the event that without wearing a watch, she didn't realize what time it was.
So, she came in and immediately headed up the stairs to shower and get ready. (he he) No need to pick out something to wear this time. But she was PUMPED! I haven't see her this excited about meeting someone or an event in years. All of a sudden, I was worried that the actual event wouldn't, in fact couldn't live up to either of our expectations.
Man, was I wrong!
She was 99% 'ready' by the time he knocked on the door. We waited maybe 3 minutes before she called down and said she was ready for us to come up. Lately, Carol has opted to have the majority of her playtime one on one while either I stayed downstairs or she played at the man's place. Typically, she starts an evening with a man by chatting on the couch and if things are going well, there may be some preliminary smooching and fondling and often some body massage that at least gets Carol undressed. Sometimes she might even give her guest some head before she finally suggests that they 'get more comfortable' in the bedroom.
It was the fact that, due to the lack of preliminary face to face getting to know you chat and her being blindfolded, we had agreed that I would set-in on the encounter from start to finish so even this part of the plan was a bit unusal. Now, sometimes, Carol and her guest have actually done their thing right there in the living room and at most sometimes I might come upstairs just to see if everybody was having fun or needed a drink of water, whatever so getting to see the entire episode was also fueling my excitement.
So, it started. We got up the stairs, she was lying in the bed, totally naked, music playing and she was totally blindfolded.
Now, although the DOM/sub topic had been talked about some, this wasn't really the major plan although obviously with Carol blindfolded... she had placed herself into a submissive role simply by being blindfolded. And, her mystery lover immediately stepped up to taking a Dominent attitude with her.
He was a perfect gentleman with it however. He was continually checking to see if she was ok with what he was doing with her. Also, his dominance was perfect for her experience with this sort of role play.
He spent a lot of time with the massage and foreplay and when he finally did start screwing her she was definitely wet and hot and ready for him. He finished her off by pulling out and shooting in her mouth.
Due to the fact that he had to work the next day, as did I, and poor Carol had to get up at for an early work shift, the evening ended almost instantly after the encounter. One thing the guy and I had chatted about via text messaging before the event was that we thought it would add to the excitement if she kept her blindfold on for the entire affair and, maybe even keep Carol from seeing him the next time or two as well. I told him I doubted she could keep her mask on throughout the event but he made it a point to tell her to not take it off. In fact, in his 'dominent' role, he told her that she wouldn't get to see him until after at least 3 encounters.
This was one of the things she and I discussed afterwards. I was surprised that she was also quite excited about keeping this man who... had never seen her with clothes on, who had touched every inch of her body, had fucked her and even come in her mouth as a mystery. Its quite possible that even if he does her over and over again (which she definitely hopes), that she may never see what he looks like.
She also was literally HIGH from playing the submissive role to his dominance. This was as perfect an introduction to DOM/sub as it could have been.
Well, that is about it. Morning after thoughts abound as to whether she will get further into DOM/sub or whether she will keep this role play as 'special' between her and her new DOM or whether it is just a passing phase that will get old quickly. Only time will tell.
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Interviewing for a DOM
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Posted:Apr 26, 2010 2:47 pm
Last Updated:May 12, 2010 10:19 pm
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Ok, bet I got some attention with THAT title...
Carol and I have been chatting some of late about Blindfolded encounters. It has raised some interesting side topics because lets face it, when a woman allows herself to be blindfolded, sure she is primarily doing it because loss of one sence makes your other sences kick it up a notch.
And, with massage being one of Carol's most treasured parts of this lifestyle, being blindfolded can certainly increase her pleasure in this area.
But...
Being blindfolded also places oneself into somewhat of a submissive situation. This led us into a whole talk session on what is often refered to as DOMINANCE/submission.
Although one would not typically think of Carol as being submissive, at least I don't... the little she and I know about the subject has some interesting aspects.
Although this is totally a Carol issue in that if she ever did have some sort of D/s relationship with a guy, I wouldn't be more than an idle spectator to whatever happened. I suspect I understand somewhat how this might be fun for me. Seeing her 'obeidient' to someone's control is not a far stretch from simply enjoying seeing her get pleasure in a purely sexual encounter.
But, what does Carol get out of such a relationship?
It is pretty obvious what the 'Master' gets out of it, but about the most I've heard about the enjoyment for the 'slave' is that she gets pleasure from serving her master.
So, we're kinda interested in talking to an 'experienced' DOM. Although I believe any man could sort of act the part, I also believe we would be much better served (pardon the pub) by someone who has had women slaves in the past.
Carol and I have a lot more talking to do between us on this but I also think having a meet with someone who understands the ritual of this kind of role play could really help us figure out if this is something we want to experiment with.
What research I've found that wasn't buried deep in some web-based porn site indicates that a form of 'contract' is agreed to by the parties involved which layout limits.
And, Carol would have a TON of limits... especially to start (he he).
Thusfar, if I were to make as simple a description of where her head is at, I would say that her biggest driving factor is the occasional (light) slap on the butt a man might give her. She FEELS submissive to the man when this happens. Then, there is the being blindfolded kink which once you get past the raised other sences is also a submissive act. And, lastly... she has a fantasy about trying handcuffs some time.
That said... if you asked her straight out about REAL B&D and S&M and whips and chains and pain... she'd run for cover and dial 911.
What is even more interesting is that she isn't sure she isn't the one that wants to be the DOM! And, in this fantasy... there might well be whips and chains!
Anyway... all of this is just another one of those streams of conciousness that come out of my head now and then. Something to write about at the end of a work day which unfortunately is still a long way from being the weekend.
Comments on this especially appreciated. Even more so if you have ever participated in any form of DOM/sub experiences.
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Open Marriage
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Posted:Apr 25, 2010 9:39 am
Last Updated:Apr 25, 2010 5:36 pm
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Now that is a term that occasionally pops up but its origins date back to the seventies.
In a nutshell, an open mariage is one where either participant is allowed to experience and spend time with people other than their spouse.
One example of an open marriage relationship we here about far too often is the "Don't ask, Don't tell' variety where typically the man will tell Carol that he has an 'agreement' with his wife because his sex drive is more than his wife wants or can handle and that she has told him to 'do his thing but I don't want to know'.
Frankly, we're more apt to assume the guy is totally bull-shiting us about his situation and he is only doing it to get the woman to accept him being married while at the same time, keeping it a 'secret'.
Of cource, the main problem with a married man is that the relationship (at least one with Carol) must obviously be so one sided. He is unable to make firm commitments about when to meet, he is afriad to be seen in public for fear his wife or one of their family friends will spot him out with another woman. If he calls and happens to get voice mail on Carol's phone, he probably even has the phone hidden from his wife so he is never able to talk.
Not to mention the obvious danger he places Carol in! The last thing she wants is an irate wife banging on the front door carrying her shotgun.
If a man is upfront and lets Carol know that she doesn't know and can never find out... she is much more likely to agree to a meet with him because she knows that it has to be really descrete. Plus, she has absolutely no allusions about a meet and is 100% aware that it is 100% booty call.
We've talked about this an although Carol really isn't looking for just the booty side of it, there is a part of her that feels that if a man is going to cheat... it needs to be with a person such as herself who won't be pushing the man to leave his wife. In fact, although I sure a cheated on wife would typically not view Carol screwing her husband as a kindness... it may in fact actually improve her relationship with her husband because he has an outlet for his biologically driven urges that has limited 'risk' with regards his permenent situation.
Our "open marriage" is pretty much the ULTIMATE in "open marriage". You will often see the phrase "no strings attached" as part of a man's profile but lets face it... strings get attached. Sex and just spending time together starts weaving 'strings' from the first 'hello' issued between two people. It took years to make this happen. But, we reached a point where Carol might say that someone was the best fuck of her life or she might even have extended, multiple dates with a guy and maybe even develop real affections with someone and it is all 100% cool and ok... because we learned who we are and developed what we can handle over years of trial and error.
I think we got it right!
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Have we fucked (part 2)
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Posted:Apr 25, 2010 7:45 am
Last Updated:May 14, 2024 8:51 am
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A secondary note on the previous blog entry...
Something I hadn't considered that MIGHT be worth exploring. I'll mention this to Carol later today or next week to see what her reaction to it might be.
In the initial post, I talked about how a man has to have some 'trust' about a situation such as this which prety much entails having someone he trust to set it up.
However... as you might imagine, my primary interest is that Carol have a good time. It is her excitement and pleasure at this that is my primary goal.
So, an idea might be that if a man she hasn't yet met called and hit if off well with her... either he or Carol might bring up the blindfolded idea. However, they would speak of all the likes and dislikes each has prior to the event just like any normal encounter.
However, the agreed upon meet would be that Carol is upstairs, naked and blind folded when the man arrives, and for his 'comfort' with the situation, he comes into it eyes wide open and stays visioned thoughout the encounter.
Although I KNOW Carol's curiosity will finally get the better of her and she will most likely remove her blindfold... it would be fun to get her to agree to not look and wait for a second encounter. In fact, wouldn't it be a riot if she had several encounters with the man, all of them blindfolded.
Carol's typical way of meeting guys from this site is that I give someone I think has a good chance of sparking her interest her phone number. Sometimes immediately, sometimes even weeks later he makes the initial call and they chat. Depending upon a dozen factors from health issues to work schedules to how recently she just got her brains fucked out... that first call can lead to a scheduled meeting or it may take several calls where over time, she develops a real interest in meeting someone face to face.
What would probably work best for this little game would be a scenario where she does have a chance over several calls to reveal herself and learn about her future partner before they actually meet. The idea of her being blindfolded in that initial meet would be introduced into the conversation early either by the man or by Carol herself. And, once this was decided as 'the plan', then they could focus on getting to know each other's likes and dislikes while although he may have seen her pic here online... he remains a total mystery image for her. And, if it did develop into a regular thing, what fun it would be for her to chat with the man on the phone knowing that although she has fucked him several times... she is clueless about what he looks like other than what she has learned via touch.
Of course, the ULTIMATE in this scenario would be for a man who she has been with several times to come at her as a 'new' person just to see if she recognizes him in the bed with her eyes wide open.
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Have we fucked?
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Posted:Apr 25, 2010 7:06 am
Last Updated:Apr 25, 2010 7:20 am
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Carol has had two experiences in her life where she was blindfolded during an initial encounter. In one of them, both her and the guy were both blindfolded and neither had seen or even talked to each other before they both reached out and touched the tips of their fingers together.
Unfortunately, this event didn't go well. Mainly because of the environment it occurred in. We had agreed to meet a guy and his lady friend and the guy's friend at their apartment. The man who lived there had of course seen Carol's picture on whatever site it was where we first contacted each other however the other man had not.
When we arrived, the friend was waiting upstairs while we prepared Carol by putting a rolled up scarf around her head to cover her eyes. Then, they brought the other guy down also blindfolded and we helped them find each other.
What went wrong was that they were both still dressed, and this occurred in the living room where there were a couple of small couches and a small living room coffee table that was too near the couches. There were bruised knees and more than once we had to catch one of them before they fell on their ass.
The second experience was much better. This encounter occurred in a motel room and it was with two men. She had been with one of them a couple of times before and the new person was his brother. I went inside first with Carol, she got undressed, laid on the bed, and I got her eyes covered and then I opened the motel room door for the two men.
Neither of them were blindfolded however.
Carol had zero difficulty figuring out who was new and who wasn't. That took her about 20 seconds just from the feel of their skin and the size of their hands at way she was kissed. But, knowing which one was NEW didn't effect the fun everyone had for sure.
Anyway, at some point, her curiosity about the man got the best of her and she pulled off the mask so get formally intoduced to the man she had just fucked. (He he) He is a member of this site and of course you know who you are and you also know that probably Carol has been with you more than any man in the world other than myself.
However, it has most certainly been sometime since this experience occurred. Setting one up however is HIGHLY difficult however. First off, a man is unlikely to even find us without first seeing Carol's pictures online. Second, most men are going to be a bit concerned that a totally anonymous encounter such as this might be with some sort of Lorena Bobbit woman who is going to whack off your dick while you lay there with it exposed.
Both Carol and her new partner need assistance to set this up. It absolutely needs to include someone whom she has been with and trust who has a friend who trusts him even more. Both the man's taste in women as well as Carol's taste in men need to be evaluated to insure that the two players in this game are compatible with each other.
And, of course, the process must be that the two guides get both parties naked and blindfolded and ease them both into the bed and help them make that first contact.
For it to really work best... both participants should agree to not speak. It needs to be known by both participants about what is off-limits. For example, Carol is NOT into anal at all so the event can go south in a hurry if the man starts putting his dick in the wrong place. Condom usage is pretty much out of the question because of the difficulties in getting one on... unless the man's friend wants to put it on for him (unlikely to say the least).
And, of course the man's guide and I will need to be there to not only observe 'the fun' but to also make sure no one falls off the bed and hurts themselves.
As I write this, I did have a thought about a party event I wrote about earlier today coming up (May 15th) that might give Carol the chance to have another experience with this. We could have Carol wait in out hotel room's bathroom while I pick out a guy at the party. Although he and Carol might have seen each other already and maybe even talked... they wouldn't know this as it went down. I'd get the guy into the room, let him get undressed, blindfolded, and into the bed, then I could get Carol out of the restroom and lead her to the bed and there you go.
The thing is, when you are blindfolded... your other sences try to take up the slack. Your hearing and sence of touch and smell is enhanced. He he, even MORE fun would be to get the participants to agree to not remove their blindfolds at all until the event was completed. Then, for the rest of the evening... both of them would be taking a second look at everyone there wondering... have we fucked?
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Road Trip!
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Posted:Apr 25, 2010 6:24 am
Last Updated:May 14, 2024 8:51 am
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One interesting area for Carol especially over the last few years are the big 18 wheeler rigs and truck drivers.
One of Carol's hardest fantasies to finally obtain was to be 'done' in the sleeper cab of a big truck. It finally happend about 4 years ago.
She also seems to have developed a soft spot in her heart for truck drivers. In fact, her most recent encounter was a total booty call with a guy whom she had talked to by phone a few times as he traveled the country.
Something we've talked about a lot is her taking a road trip with a trucker. Although she got naked once in a sleeper cab, she still has never had the chance to climb aboard and head down the road.
Although this fantasy is very high on her list, it is also very difficult and perhaps even doubtful that it will ever happen. For one thing, Carol has some concerns that she might get car sick riding up high and for a long distance. She also has some concerns about even a short ride if it was simply an overnight or two and back because obviously there is a huge commitment up front about 'overnight'. And, the most obvious issues are that most truckers with big rigs are long haul drivers and we're talking days of commitment with the very real likelhood that even a relatively short trip might get changed and she wouldn't be able to get back home when she planned.
Her last encounter has chatted with Carol about a road trip but he states up front that she needs to allocate at least 2 weeks to such a trip and not only could she not commit to being off-work for that long, she would never commit to being gone or with someone for 2 weeks.
There is another gentleman however whome she has also been with that has a different type of schedule and he stands a real good chance of getting her onboard for at least a day trip if not a couple of nights out on the road. So, we will see if 'Road Trip' remains a fantasy or becomes an experience.
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Cucumbers...
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Posted:Apr 25, 2010 6:06 am
Last Updated:May 14, 2024 8:51 am
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How many people here remember the scene in the film Animal House where the fraternity brother made sexual advances to the Dean's wife by using a large cucumber to talk about size?
One of the characteristics of Carol is that this would most likely NEVER work with her. Lets put it this way... it has NEVER happened in the many years we have been in this lifestyle.
Carol looks the part of your average soccor mom (or soccor grand mother now of cource) when she is out in public shopping or having lunch. Even if she happens to set in the bar while awaiting our pizza order at the local Italian resturant... it is unlikely that a man will try to pick her up and even if he tried, chances are that she would stay in character and ward off any advance.
Take a look at the previous blog entry about an upcoming party we are attending. At those, it is easier to approach Carol and get down with her than it would be to visit your local red light district and find a willing .
Why the difference? Don't know for sure although I think I can explain it. The 'lifestyle' is a special place for Carol. When she is in her 'special place', and a sex party is about as special as it can get... she is a totally different person than the one who might be standing next to you in the checkout isle at the supermarket.
When someone I've given her phone number to calls the first time and introduces himself as being from Senior Sizzle, she also slides easily into her lifestyle self and the conversation can turn erotic instantly.
However, a word of advice these days with Carol....
She as reached a point in her experiences where she is seeking more than booty calls. In fact, a man who focuses on how big he is or how he wants to eat her pussy and fuck her her all night and doesn't focus on getting to know her on the phone will most likely fail.
Carol has moved on in the lifestyle to wanting to be treated as a single lady. She likes to be courted and romanced. Seduced. Maybe even trying to pretend that she was found on a dating site rather than a sex site such as Senior Sizzle.
Side note: Her last encounter was 100% booty call. However, it simply isn't the best way to approach her anymore.
Your most likely road to success with Carol is when you call her, identify yourself as Senior Sizzle which instantly gets her out of 'soccer mom' mode and then to treat her as you would any single lady you might come in contact with in daily life. Find out what she likes to do beyond what position is her favorite. Tell her what you like to do besides eating pussy. If there is a best 'date' to suggest, it is one that YOU like to do as she likes to experience activities that she might not normally do with me or others.
Of course, there is always the standard dinner and/or movie as well as go out for drinks but one of her most enjoyable experiences over the last few years was when someone asked her to go to the State Fair. Another time she was asked to go bowling and on another occasion (which turned out to be a no-show unfortunately), the man asked her to go out and shoot pool.
There are so many things that are less common that a man can suggest that gets her attention a bit more than 'meet for drinks' does. Some examples off the top of my head...
* visiting a local adult store to look at toys and sexually explicit clothing
* a sporting event
* a concert in the park
* a picnic
* a museum
* a day at the local nudist camp
* visiting a winery or a brewery or any sort of factory tour
And, I want to also mention those second and subsequent meetings. Once she has had a chance to spend quality time with someone and gotten to know them, other activities besides just fucking are possible. And, these can often be in the form of more extended encounters. Such as:
* a weekend at the beach or a mountain cabin
* riding the train somewhere for just a night on the town somewhere besides the nearby Greensboro and Durham or Raleigh or even Charlotte
The point is, someone like Carol needs to be in her lifestyle zone. You will never find her there at the grocery store but once you do get her in her zone, you need to be more than just a piece of meat for her or to treat her as a peice of ass for yourself.
You need to become interesting to her. You need to treat her to experiences that are new and exciting. A lot of guys on this site state clearly in their profile that they are just here for the sex. And, of course this does work on some women but if you were to take a poll amougst the ladies... 9 times out of 10 you will find that they seek romance, excitement, variety in activities and more than just a hard cock.
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Attending a party May 15th
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Posted:Apr 25, 2010 5:09 am
Last Updated:Apr 25, 2010 5:36 pm
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We will be attending a party in Charlotte on May 15th. This is one of the hotel floor takeover types where the sponsoring group takes over the entire floor of a hotel. This particular group has them once each month. It is a group called Le Classic Touch.
These are nice because the ladies tend to dress in outfits you see at your local adult stores as the parade up and down the hallway. There will be a couple of open to anyone party suites where you can watch or be watched and of course, you can reserver your own room on the party floor.
We haven't been to a party such as this since last July so we (and especially Carol) is really looking forward to it.
There is a kind of protocol that is followed at parties such as this. Of course, the standard No Means No applies. However it is also somewhat understood that it mostly ladies choice. The guys tend to hang back a bit so that the ladies can make the initial contact with whom they choose.
Unfortunately, this doesn't work well for Carol. She simply isn't the type to walk up to a stange man and start talking to him. She will definitely be dressed in 'fuck me' clothing and any man that does approach her pretty much has it made. I've seen scenarios where Carol might be settng in a chair, nibbling on some of the finger food that has been laid out on a snacks table when a man came over, set beside her and said. 'Hello, my name is Jack. How are you?". She replied "Great, and You"? He then laid his hand on her exposed leg and asked 'Would you like to play?". And, her answer being "Sure".
More than once at parties, I've seen Carol having a go with a man on the bed and as he finished and rolled off her... another man who was standing next to the bed has hased her "May I?" and she gave the same "Sure" answer. I think once a man just walked up, took her hand and smiled at her and gently led her away to the nearest bed without even a "Hello".
Of course, it is probably better advice both with Carol and the other women that if you do approach someone, that you go ahead and try to spend at least a few moments just chatting and getting to know the lady. Give the woman time to enjoy being with you in her "Yes" outfit. Unfortunately, I've seen this happen... a man will come up and start talking to Carol and that is all he ever does... just talk. And, this keeps other men from approaching her.
Both single or unattached ladies as well as couples attend these parties. Couples often are the most difficult to deal with because they often stay together as they wander the various areas of the party. Couples are more likely to be pickers and choosers in that they have a specific agenda they are following. They are seeking a particular type of partner... either another couple or a man to service the wife in front of the husband or for a threesome where the husband will be involved.
When Carol and I attend such a party, I usually have her in sight but I tend to stay distant from her in order to make it easier for a guy to approach her. Anyone who has read her profile and these blog entries already knows that Carol likes to role play the part of a single lady anyway. And, during the cours of an evening I try to focus on the eye-candy of the other ladies and simply keep her in sight out of the corner of my eye. At least once during the evening, I'll look over to where she was and she will be gone and I won't even see who whe has gone off with. Typically, I will visit the common party rooms to see if she is there and then I will walk down the hall looking through any doors that are ajar to see if I can locate her. But, sometimes she has gone to a man's room and he has closed the door so I just have to wait until she reappears.
We always get our own room at these parties and since most of the guys don't have a room of their own, ours gets used a lot. Carol prefers to leave our door ajar and if anyone male, female, or couple wants to step in and watch or join, she is totally cool with that.
Parties such as this give Carol a chance to be a lot different than she normally is. Her own comment about them is that they are 'fuck parties'. So, WHO you fuck makes absolutely no difference. A guy who might be totally wrong for her if contacted here on Senior Sizzle (earlies 20s for example) is just as welcome 'on top' as anyone else.
Carol has her limits on stamina and endurance. One of the main reasons she doesn't do younger guys or schedule 2 (or more) men to come over at the same time is that she doesn't want the man (men) to feel like they didn't get all they needed out of the encounter. However, at a party where there are other females, Carol has been known to be in bed with multiple sets of hands on her at the same time. In fact at one party, she was on the bed with three men and 5 others were in our room either watching or occasionally slipping their dicks into range of her hand or mouth.
If I do have a frustration with these types of parties, it is that we keep a historical record of the men she has been with. We do this to help us remember the encounter, sometimes to make sure a dear friend hasn't been neglected, etc. However, our list always has one or two 'Unknown' entries for the name when we attend parties.
Carol has an excellent skill with facial recognition. Much better than mine and of note her ability to do cross-racial identification with black males is a testimate to the fact that she is highly attracted to black men and NOT because they are black. But parties such as this can result in scenarios where maybe she and a party attendee fuck one night yet neither would recognize the other one even the next day if they pased each other on the street.
If you have never attended a party such as this, you really owe it to yourself to go to one even if it is just to observe. I mentioned the name of the group hosting the party in Charlotte earlier in this blog. You can easily find this group by searching online for it. You definitely need to contact them and get on the guest list. If you aren't on their list... you won't get in.
This particular group is somewhat interracially oriented with black men on white women being the most common scenario however it is definitely open to all races. If you are a white guy, you may not be able to have the same success that a brother might simply because a lot of thw women are there for the interracial experience. However, even if you are a white guy... there are usually excellent opportunities available for you there. Carol has her preference but at the last party, the main guy she spent time with was white. And, a side note... we are bringing a lady friend to this party who happens to be black and has a real taste for white men.
So, Party On Dude!
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My Lady by day, my by night...
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Posted:Apr 22, 2010 5:10 am
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Isn't that what all men secretly want?
Had an email exchange recently where this topic came up. Although typically not the recommended flavor in an opening dialogue... the man and I got into a discussion about 'nasty talk'.
I probably wrote about this in a previous blog entry however at this point, there are too many blogs even for me to study and research anymore.
Carol surprised me one day when we were returning from an encounter she had experienced in a motel room. This particular one I happened to be there and there was some extreamly mild nasty talk going on during the height of the sexual encounter.
I asked Carol how she felt about it as we drove home. I was actually concerned that she might have gotton upset with it. Man was I surprised when she told me that she was trying to hint to the man that he could go further with the pillow talk then he did.
I asked her flat out... what sort of terms are you comfortable with. She did qualify her answer somewhat in that she made the point that she viewed it as added spice to the encounter but was adament that everyone knew it was just role play and not meant 'seriously'. So, I asked her again after saying... yes, I understand that but what words are OK when the man is on top. And, she calmly answered ', bitch, slut'. I almost drove off the road I was so surprised to hear this.
Since then, we often use the term slut and being slutty when we talk about events that occurred or events being planned.
Just curious... the women who read this... how do you feel about being someone's ''? The couples... how do you feel about your wife being another man's slut?
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And your point is?
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Posted:Apr 17, 2010 4:50 am
Last Updated:Apr 19, 2010 9:02 am
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About 8 years ago, when we were just getting back into the lifestyle after several years away from it... we discovered a swingers site called (probably get in trouble for naming it).
When we joined it, the site was really top shelf however a few years ago, the original founder sold his interest and this site has noticibly lost members ever since. Were it not for the fact that in 2002 we were able to join as 'life time' members for $99 one time... I am sure we would have stopped using it a long time ago.
Anyway, that site like some others allows it's members to post private galleries of images that you can grant access to other members if desired. The obvious usage for us of course was that we could use a private gallery to easily allow someone to see a face shot while still having public (yet non-identifiable) images than any lurker or wannabee lifestyler and see. One other usage we have seen for private galleries is when the member is into something specific such as interracial, they keep those shots in the private gallery. And, yet others have your standard fully clothed images public and use the private gallery for the pussy, dick, and tit shots.
Our usage was that once we started exchanging emails with someone clsoe enough to be a potential meet, and some 'trust' was starting to develop, then we would grant access to those photos which all had Carol's face in both solo shots as well as action pics.
This morning, something that seemed to have started about a year ago on that site occurred. We got an email from someone miles away (like 400 miles), whom we never contacted nor who had ever contacted us before. It was a granting of access to their private gallery.
Why?
Often, the people who do this have virtually no differences between their public and private galleries. Face pics on both, pussy, dick, and tit shots in both... in fact no reason to even have a 'private, invitiation only' gallery at all.
Now, if you have a charitable heart, you might conclude that these people are so interested in your own profile that they wanted to establish an instant repore with us. But, typically and this morning was no exception... all we received was the automated email stating that the member had granted access to their private gallery. No accompanying email, no instant messaging... just offering us... well NOTHING considering that their private gallery was the same stuff as their public one.
The only possibly assumption is that they HOPE we will return the favor and just grant access to them to our private stash.
I suppose it is all about picture collecting. Which... I see as what is the point? There is far better looking eye candy online than most of us 'common people' people are capable of presenting and if it is the thrill of seeing people who are not professional models or porn stars... well, there is only about a million or two of those online and amature videos out there that there simply isn't a need to solicit more.
So, can someone else explain it to me?
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Where is the fun in that?
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Posted:Apr 17, 2010 3:35 am
Last Updated:May 6, 2010 8:24 pm
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Woke up early this morning, glad I did. I have a few things I really need to attend to. Pay some bills, send off that damn Census Form I've left laying on my desk for weeks it seems.
Carol is in the process of having an away night. Her new friend came over to meet us for the first time early yesterday evening and the three of us set around for over 2 hours and just had a blast chatting about old times. It was all the more fun because I had asked the man earlier by phone what he wanted Carol to be wearing when he first laid eyes on her. He said something sexy and Carol decided to simply come down, mostly dry after her bubble bath with just her towel. And, so her and her date spend most of those two hours buck-ass naked together on the love seat.
Anyway, the plan was that he wanted to take her out to dinner so finally they both got dressed an headed to a local Italian place Carol likes. Haven't heard any reports of how all that went but considering that they came back about 90 minutes, later long enough for Carol to grab an overnight bag, and off they went to his home which was about 45 miles away... I'd say things went very well.
Carol actually doesn't do a lot of overnights. Most of the ones she does occur here at our home however without a doubt Carol enjoys being taken to (as I call it), the Man's Lair. This particular gentlemen had mentioned in an earlier phone chat that given a choice, he would prefer to have Carol stay at his home if an overnight happened so earlier yesterday afternoon, I had asked Carol whether she was going to have her guest 'home' or 'away' tonight should an overnight develop as the plan. She had said that probably they would stay here at least this first time.
So, considering he got here a bit before 6PM, it was close to 8:30PM when they left for dinner and after 10PM when they got back... things must have really gone well over dinner for them to hit the road for nearly an hour's drive that late.
But... there is a reason Carol doesn't do a lot of overnights. Carol has never been capable of all night fuck sessions. She reaches a point where she gets tender and continued clitorial stimulation quits being pleasurable and starts to hurt. Also, for Carol, there is a reason she gets in bed at night and it ain't to be pestered all night. She simply needs to get some sleep!
For Carol, the fun of an overnight is that you start off with the obvious activities and there is a relaxing nature to it in that there isn't any kind of rush to it. It tends to have more passion than lust as opposed to an afternoon's delight being more lust than passion. She also appreciates being awaken in the morning to Morning Wood.
There is another guy who has had overnights with her but may have had his last because later she told me that it seemed like she got no sleep at all. He was constandly reaching over and grabbing and fondling her. And, she pays for this the next day and suffers after effects of having virtually no sleep that night for even a day after that.
As I said, where is the fun in that?
In a recent blog entry, I posted that Carol had agreed to her first weekend guest. Where he would be arriving Friday night and staying at least until Sunday. Carol really fretted about this as the weekend got closer and closer. She was terrified that it would be 48 hours of trying to keep the man off her because as I mentioned, she simply can't do marathons and of course little or no sleep. However, the man couldn't have played his hand better by keeping each encounter that occurred that weekend spaced apart and most importantly, letting her actually SLEEP next to him at night.
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Sometimes it takes a while...
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Posted:Apr 15, 2010 4:42 am
Last Updated:Apr 17, 2010 2:32 pm
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This evening, Carol has plans to meet a gentleman who has been trying to meet her probably for 8 or 9 months.
They had plans to meet on two previous occasions but once Carol was forced to cancel and once he was forced to Cancel.
Cancelations are tough especially when the people onvolved have not met yet. A major frustration for both the men on her as well as for Carol is that everyone knows that you just don't know for sure if the person you have exchanged emails with and talked to on the phone is really real.
Carol is actually pretty good about keeping her commitments even when her diabetes is giving her some fits. The number of times she has had to cancel is probably less than 1/3rd of the times men have cancelled on her.
I am reminded of one individual whom we haven't seen in a couple of years now. He was somewhat of an entreprenour in that he worked a job where either he was in sales or he promoted things in some fashion. This meant that sometimes an 'opportunity' came up during the standard hours Carol typically schedules her dates on.
Now, we all know that putting food on the table and advancing your career is more important than anything that happens by virtue of a site such as this. However...
... I certainly wish that the guys who are in this kind of situation would not make plans with Carol except on a 'right now' basis.
Carol has historically preferred to put some space between meets. So, when someone who gets last minute scheduling conflicts at the last minute calls on a Thursday, Makes plans to meet Carol on Monday... Carol becomes unavailable typically between the Thursday evening acceptance all the way to Monday and also turns down invites up through maybe the following Thursday. So, when the guy calls an hour before the meet and Cancels... Friday, Saturday, Sunday are already gone and opportunities to meet are lost.
Also, this lifestyle is often feast or famine. No one is likely to be around who can meet on a moment's notice and she has already told the people most likely to call that her next available time slot isn't until the coming Thursday.
In the past, I can remember one period where things went wrong and the stars were mis-aligned and Carol had nearly a month where despite her best attempts at meeting... the cancellations caused her not to meet anyone for that entire month because of her own work schedule.
The point I suppose I want to make is... that a guy should be aware of his own situation and if he is often forced to make last minute changes, then don't commit someone and take them out of their game. Go real time! Call and make 'now' plans with Carol. Sure, that is harder to get a connection but it will be much appreciated by us.
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