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Blogs > whitewhife4black > Vanilla Lady Loves Chocolate

Sometimes it takes a while...  

whitewhife4black 72F
314 posts
4/15/2010 4:42 am

Last Read:
4/17/2010 2:32 pm
Sometimes it takes a while...

This evening, Carol has plans to meet a gentleman who has been trying to meet her probably for 8 or 9 months.

They had plans to meet on two previous occasions but once Carol was forced to cancel and once he was forced to Cancel.

Cancelations are tough especially when the people onvolved have not met yet. A major frustration for both the men on her as well as for Carol is that everyone knows that you just don't know for sure if the person you have exchanged emails with and talked to on the phone is really real.

Carol is actually pretty good about keeping her commitments even when her diabetes is giving her some fits. The number of times she has had to cancel is probably less than 1/3rd of the times men have cancelled on her.

I am reminded of one individual whom we haven't seen in a couple of years now. He was somewhat of an entreprenour in that he worked a job where either he was in sales or he promoted things in some fashion. This meant that sometimes an 'opportunity' came up during the standard hours Carol typically schedules her dates on.

Now, we all know that putting food on the table and advancing your career is more important than anything that happens by virtue of a site such as this. However...

... I certainly wish that the guys who are in this kind of situation would not make plans with Carol except on a 'right now' basis.

Carol has historically preferred to put some space between meets. So, when someone who gets last minute scheduling conflicts at the last minute calls on a Thursday, Makes plans to meet Carol on Monday... Carol becomes unavailable typically between the Thursday evening acceptance all the way to Monday and also turns down invites up through maybe the following Thursday. So, when the guy calls an hour before the meet and Cancels... Friday, Saturday, Sunday are already gone and opportunities to meet are lost.

Also, this lifestyle is often feast or famine. No one is likely to be around who can meet on a moment's notice and she has already told the people most likely to call that her next available time slot isn't until the coming Thursday.

In the past, I can remember one period where things went wrong and the stars were mis-aligned and Carol had nearly a month where despite her best attempts at meeting... the cancellations caused her not to meet anyone for that entire month because of her own work schedule.

The point I suppose I want to make is... that a guy should be aware of his own situation and if he is often forced to make last minute changes, then don't commit someone and take them out of their game. Go real time! Call and make 'now' plans with Carol. Sure, that is harder to get a connection but it will be much appreciated by us.

SexPleasure59

4/15/2010 5:07 am

 I am really sorry about your experience that you went through. I understand your frustration. I suggest that you can set up A , B , and C schedule plan. It may be easier to adjust the schedule in the case of cancellation. Another member may have different idea.


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