Circumstantial Chemistry
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Posted:Dec 11, 2015 12:07 pm
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There just seem to be times, good people, when Life gets in the way of passion..
{ Blasphemy, Blasphemy!! Burn The Heretic At The Stake!! }
No Really......The Lovely Siren and I like to think that we're as delighted by Naughty Playtime as the next couple...more so if it's an Amish pairing..... but what does one do when the realities of leading a "normal" existence just keep getting in the way?? I feel like Life is my latest Cockblocker,... and I thought the other guys in the local chat room were bad....
Seriously.....without even having had a major disaster befall us, knock wood, there has been SO little time to even consider finding playmates that our little black book is covered in cobwebs. Remember Little Black Books?? I actually had a physical hard-copy of exactly that, a statement that probably qualifies me for a place in a museum...but I digress. It's not actually that the passion has disappeared; we both hunger for each other, enjoy the closeness of our cuddles, and savor the kisses and other little affections that go along with a happy relationship. But....we are on here......It would be nice to partake in all of that with other people as well.
But...and here's the catch...We're not, and never have been, hit and run artists. For us, the best aspect of playtime comes from KNOWing our partners in debauchery. So, for us, the concept of finding new friends means exactly that. You can't have FWB's without getting friendly. And THAT is where the whole process staggers to a lurching halt. When one Knows that one's time is extremely limited by circumstance, is it really fair to yourself, or more importantly, to your prospective bedmates, to even begin to start up new relationships? The amount of rants here in Blogland about people who begin conversations and then disappear for long stretches of time would point to the contrary.
SO.....we're here but we're not here. We have enough acquaintances hereabouts that we enjoy chatting with when time permits that we're not about to shut down our profile. AND, I suppose that if Mr & Mrs Perfect decided to introduce themselves to us, we MIGHT be able to allocate some specific time to get to know them, But otherwise, I'd wager that it will be at least 2016 before we actually endeavor to reach out to anyone unsolicited.
What the heck....that's less than a month. And we still have each other in the meantime......
Just expect to see a lot of emails coming through in the New Year!
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Vanity ; Carly Simon Was Talkin about ME!
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Posted:Sep 23, 2015 7:46 am
Last Updated:Sep 23, 2015 7:52 am
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I was hanging around our local chat room the other morning, when the subject of vanity came up. A delicate topic, to be sure, but certainly one worth pursuing. There are two things that come to mind concerning this particular vice. The first would be; should ANYone be compulsively vain about a particular body part? After all, you had little to do with the size of your breasts, or your cock, or your non gender-specific shapely ass. You were born with it, you did very little to make it so wondrous, and if you actually take care of it, you'll have it your entire life. It's just part of your genetic imprint. Certainly you can be proud of these attributes, and certainly you can feel free to show all these lovely singularities off to myself and the Lovely Siren { Because, we are pervs, after all! }. The issue, we believe, is when people begin to consider themselves better, and thereby, more demanding, because of said body parts. IF your vanity over WHAT you were blessed with starts to interfere with your ability to judge what you have to offer to a relationship of any sort, it's probably time to look in a mirror, and NOT just to admire your spectacularness......
The second fascinating question we considered about the subject of vanity was.....
Is that how people consider Siren and I ? We do a lot of camming around here, ( in relative terms, I guess...) and get a ton of complimentary things said to / about us while on the air. While we don't consider ourselves in any way more good looking than some on here, and far worse , in some cases, Neither are we shy about displaying ourselves, nor realizing where we stand in the vast panoply of this site's residents. We're OK, both in looks and attitude, and content with where that leaves us. But whilst on cam, we often see comments accusing us of that dreaded vanity that we spoke of so disparagingly earlier in this post. And that, in fact, does bother us, because we feel it limits our interactions with people who might otherwise be interested in meeting us in person. And THAT , of course, is our primary reason for being here, NOT to indulge in ego-stroking. { Well.....OK........ego stroking is somewhere on our list....just not in the foremost position...}
So what does a person(s) do? We REALLY don't think we're all that special! We try with all our rather considerable conversational skills to deny this image of "The Vain Couple" . But self-deprecatory wit can only carry one so far. In the end, people seem to mostly like us, and that, in and of itself, is a heady brew to consume. I suppose we'll just have to go with the old cliche of, " You can never please all of the people all of the time" { Thank you Mr Lincoln...} and carry on having our fun while trying to connect with the people who believe we don't read our own press clippings, to use yet another witty saying.....
In the end, I think we'll connect with the people who "get us" , and understand that, though we may be confident and composed, we're just another couple seeking friends and playmates in a confusing and complex situation. We're neither better nor worse than anyone else on here, and try to make an effort to show that feeling while we communicate.
But one thing we DO promise...?
We'll NEVER refer to our watchers as "Fans"
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Mixed Up Ages
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Posted:May 17, 2015 7:15 am
Last Updated:May 18, 2015 2:43 am
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The Lovely Siren and I actually enjoy reading profiles while awaiting our next sensual encounter. ( Yeah, there has to be somebody actually READing them, right? ) There's an awful lot one can learn about potential playmates that way, and not just in the actual words on the printed page.Between the lines is where the real information lies.
But, one of the more pertinent factors to us is the relative age of the possible participants writing said profiles. Because we have a fairly hefty gap of years between ourselves, we take great note of the ages of people we look at, and indeed, the space between. Aside from the fact that we seem to notice a lot of Really young, AND really old people hanging around here, we do feel a wee bit consoled to see couples with notable differences in age.
As a pair of sexual adventurers, we can assure you, having such an age difference does NOT make the search for like-minded people any easier, and in fact, will often complicate the issues involved in making new friends. For instance...
I am as old as dirt. OK....perhaps not THAT ancient, but in the eyes of many on here, I'm past my best-before date. And that's OK, we don't quibble with people going after exactly what they're after. BUT, as a result of MY years, the vast number of "inquiries" that we receive come from people even older than myself. Now.....if you go back and look at our profile, you will see that Siren has just crested 40. As such, despite the fact that I'm chronologically mature, she has little initial desire for people older than myself, male or female. Not a particular judgement, since I am living breathing proof that one can be over 50 and still strong, virile, and good looking, ( Siren MADE me say that....seriously..)
BUT.....If you are the typical Old Age Pensioner, it is unlikely the Lovely Siren will find you to be her cup of tea.
Conversely, Since Siren is relatively young, and I'm certifiably immature, we will look at Couples and Ladies younger still than her.While we're not particularly comfortable with the idea of being "instructors", we not so modest as to try and say we can't be woo'd by some nice bodies. However, when we view such a profile, People will take a peek at her seductive pictures, come looking for this nice piece of stuff, and get freaked when they see who she's attached to. Perhaps this is merely a factor, since we have a lot of things about ourselves that could also make people go to running, but we see an awful lot of LOOKS from younger folk, with NO follow up.....
Which is, in our obviously biased opinion, unfortunate. If others believe like we do, that playtime is more fun with people who make a connection from similarities, how does mixed-up-age couple find common ground? IF the 1st and foremost thing one considers are the relative ages of the potential participants, how does anyone get together when people on here are often a number of years apart in ages? We believe the answer lies with doing what we talked about in the first paragraph of this post. READ the profile ( and maybe even look at the pictures ) before you arbitrarily dismiss ANYone based on preconceived ideas. Despite what i said earlier about Siren not being particularly aroused by the thought of playtime with people more advanced in years than myself...we still go and Look at the profiles to see if there might be connection someplace other than just age. If there isn't...THEN we move on. Not because of age, but because there was a basic incompatibility. As we said, nobody should feel any pressure to take less than what they desire on a site such as this, but we think it's in everyone's best interest to make educated choices, the better to not miss out on someone you might click with
So.....that's why we like to see Couple's with mixed ages. Makes us feel a little more "normal" , in a place defined by it's lack of Vanilla expectations. With mixed age couples, we at least have the opportunity to experience the thrill of being with an older Man / Woman.....or of robbing the cradle. Two fantasies for the price of one.
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We Don't Just Write, We Reply As Well!
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Posted:May 6, 2015 11:16 pm
Last Updated:May 8, 2015 5:56 pm
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I saw a fascinating post by a Lady by the name of 2somemore, entitled "WHY". In it, she pondered why so many profiles , especially those of couples, insisted on "No Men!" Which is a fair and reasonable question. Enough so that it moved me to type out this reply, which I THEN realized would service Siren and myself as a stand alone blog to illustrate our point of view on that same subject.( With a few small corrections and additions...) To Totally understand what I'm about to say, you could { maybe, should...} go read 2somemore's original post, but I'd guess you'll get the gist of it either way.
To whit:
"Perhaps your post was making reference to those couples who seek "ONLY women", but as a couple who have been called to task on the specificity of our choices on more than a few occasions, we felt it befitting for us to reply.
One of the things that the Lovely Siren and I have tried to do while experiencing our sensuous adventure is not to put TOO many parameters onto our desires. While we generally have tried to leave these things open-ended, { hmmm....perhaps a different phrase should be used there...} we've been consistent regarding our stating a specific lack of desire for Single males. Why? Two reasons.
The first being that we would hope to get all the extra male attention that the two of us desire from the manly half of any couple who find us interesting. Since Siren is an avowed bisexual, we're generally looking for a woman to be involved primarily. But, bisexual being exactly what the word says, neither do we shy away from the thought of having men involved as well. As such , couple play suits us both most appropriately.
The second is pretty much encapsulated by your first paragraph above. { Ms 2somemore discussed the crudity and crassness of a notable percentage of Single Male interactions }While we would never rule out any sort of carnal congress, to date we have had no interaction with any Single men that would lead us to believe that investing more time getting to know them further would be a profitable experience for either them or us. As such, we tend to do our best to dissuade them from contacting us in the first place. Why begin what you are unlikely to finish? It is our somewhat quixotic belief that if ever an Appropriate Single Gentleman were to find us overwhelmingly desirable, he will Know what to say and do to attract our conversation.
But.....to be perfectly frank....Siren finds a lot more females to be physically attractive than males. As shallow as that might seem at first glance, we all have a certain capacity for comfort in detailing Exactly what it is that we seek on a site such as this. Your profile does, as does ours, as does anyone who is after a total pleasurable experience, and not just a body to fill the other half of their bed. Where else but in the realm of the senses should one have total discretion over the type of person you share yourself with? So... if, as is the case with my Beloved Siren, 99% of the men we look at get merely a "meh" from her, why would we encourage any of them to potentially waste their time in pursuing us? Because of this,even with couples profiles, it's sometimes hard to find a perfect 4-way match of physical attraction, so we aren't always the fastest pair to respond to the various flirts,hotlists, and such either. If Siren gets no "click" from the male of a couple, ( No matter how enticing the female might be...) we won't continue chatting with them " just to see...". Like so many people who play as a release from their day to day, time is the most scant and yet precious commodity we have to dole out....we won't steal anyone else's in the pursuit of our own pleasure.
OK....to synopsize a rather lengthy reply to YOUR blog post { sorry! } :
While we do not rule out the possibility of playtime with men, neither do we encourage it; and to be honest and fair, even actively discourage it with Single men in an effort to not play false with anyone's time or emotions.
Now why didn't I just say that in the first place?"
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Ageing...Are We The Cheese Of Senior Sizzle?
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Posted:Apr 15, 2015 8:51 am
Last Updated:Apr 18, 2015 8:39 am
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The Lovely Siren and I will be celebrating our birthdays over the next few months. As these chronological milestones continue to tick on by, we wonder about the upper limits of "all of this". As each year passes, and our fellow "Lifestylers" appear to be more and more younger, { Perspective IS everything, in this case....} we ruminate over the appropriateness of our desires. Is there actually room in a Swingers world for " more mature" individuals. By the way, there will continue to be a liberal usage of semantics in this post; anything to avoid using the word, "Old".
NOT that either Siren or myself feel, act, or look, over-the-hill. Quite the contrary, if we may be so bold. BUT....I did comment on a post the other day by Ms. aNAUGHTYmous entitled, "Fudged Age? Right On?", and during the course of my reply, was struck once again about the effect the numbers next to a profiles name have on the one's relative success rate around here. So...the question seems valid. Does your age determine whether you should continue to seek out adventures of a sexual nature?
I suppose in the case of some individuals, such introspection is neither acknowledged, nor even considered. There will always be people in this venue who care not one whit about the why's & hows of having fun. They will just go after the brief physical release that they've always sought, and no doubt enjoy themselves doing so. But in our case, we seek a somewhat more emotional and intellectual connection, combined with a physical satisfaction, So, as people concerned with being pleased, so too do we seek to be pleasing to our playmates. And without a doubt, time, and it's relentless companion gravity, continue to take a toll on one's physical aspect, and thereby the ability to please, especially in the corporeal sense. We do age, we do change, these are facts that cannot be denied.
Perhaps, however, the nearness of our birthdays has merely put the thought of numbers too far forward into our lateral region of the anterior prefrontal cortex and the anterior cingulate. { I stole that from a medical journal...*wink!* } Perhaps all of our inward looking has merely fixated us on numbers, rather than on the other facets that go into making a wonderful play-partner. Does a slightly less tight body make one less affectionate? Does a wattle make one less sensuous? Do liver spots make a Lover less considerate? Does thinning hair render one unable to kiss and caress? Does a date on a Birth Certificate consign one to never having the opportunity to have another date ? I think not.
While we certainly would never deny any of the younger folk on here the prerogative of rejecting us because of our relative ages, neither do we feel any need to limit ourselves as to the ages of the people we flirt with.{ within reason } Because....we are fit, healthy,moderately good looking, and caring people, who also happen to have a naughty side to them as well. IF we truly felt that we were aged,infirm, broken down, and boring, we would gladly pull the plug, and walk away from the Life of Sexual Adventure we've chosen to share with each other, and all of you. But, you can be assured, any decision taken in that regard will not be taken on a basis of an arbitrary number, but rather on our ability to be both pleasant and pleasing playmates to the people we pursue. The numbers continue to add up, it's true, but so also does the experience and self-awareness that go into being excellent Friends and Lovers. And THAT is what we are ultimately about when we play.
So...we are content with our lot in life, and will remain. Until such time as we feel that our ability to please has departed us, we will ignore each birthday as it passes, and continue upon our erotic journey. The only numbers that will concern us, will be the number of friends we can share that journey with.
OK....time to go creep out some twenty-something couples by flirting....
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Posted:Feb 26, 2015 11:00 am
Last Updated:Jun 13, 2016 7:56 am
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I was reading the blogs the other day, as writing and reading are two of mine and Siren's favorite things.....OK, they're substantially below kissing , fondling, cuddling, and, making the beast with two backs...... but nonetheless. One blog in particular caught my eye. To paraphrase ( because I have the memory of a 95 year old on pain medication ) ; It had to do with advice for bloggers. I liked some of what I read, agreed with some, and found others of questionable value. The one I found most unappealing was something like, " If you don't get comments, you're most likely not writing on interesting subjects."
Now, while Siren and I write strictly as an outlet for our thoughts, and not to pad our "numbers" in the Blogosphere, we will admit to a touch of envy over that notable lack of said comments. However....we always put it down to the length of our posts, and presumed that most people took one look at the volume of words on the page and hit the "back button" immediately. So, in an effort to see if the other blog writer or ourselves had the correct viewpoint, we kept this one deliberately brief ( for us...).
We will now sit back and wait for the torrent of comments to arrive.
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Chat Room Exodus: NO Christian Bale!
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Posted:Feb 16, 2015 9:18 am
Last Updated:Nov 9, 2015 2:29 pm
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Or Paul Newman, for those of you who remember back THAT far....
Anywaaay.......Siren and I quite enjoy spending time chatting in the local rooms designed for that pastime. Because we are your quintessential poor country cousins who don't get out to the big city all that often, we find it an amusing and convenient way to get to know potential playmates. And we HAVE met loads of people who fall into that category to a greater or lesser degree. Also, because in our case, we live close enough to the border, we're actually able to genuinely consider people from two different rooms, or let them consider us, to be less egotistical. So, all in all, a delightful situation, yes?
Well......not exactly. Over the last few months there seems to have been a downward trend in the population of one of the two rooms we frequent. At times, there is literally NObody in that room,whereas when we first stumbled upon the site, and these accompanying rooms, they were busy from morning til night, and sometimes beyond even that. Conversations of all sorts and descriptions were taking place throughout the day; from the flirty to the dirty, from the subtle to the obvious, from those completely concerned with sex, to those involving the ubiquitous recipes that everyone SAYS they're actually here looking for. In other words, there was a community of people, reveling in the joy of the companionship of like minded people.
Now, however,this once vibrant chat-room sits mostly empty for hours at a time. Maybe it's just that all of the previous habitues finally got jobs, or that the all too plentiful 20-something guys FINALLY gave up in their search for "Older Women" { yeah, THAT phrase will get you far......} , or that other rooms offered more and better "opportunities". Any one of those possibilities may have happened, but Siren and I have a different theory. And unfortunately, it's not too pretty.
What we have seen, and we believe to be the root cause of this chat-room exodus, is a gradual decrease in the sense of community, and a corresponding increase in people looking to concentrate solely upon their individual interests. And we are not discussing here, the always plentiful sorts who burst into the room and announce themselves available for a quick hook-up in the local convenience store parking lot. That sort of thing is at least understandable on a sex-site, if not palatable for most of us. What we're talking about is the total lack of caring for what other people are saying, and an inane rambling of thoughts and ideas which are always preceded by the word........ "I" .
Whether in this "Lifestyle" community, or in the outside greater world, people tend to look for companionship of some sort. In our case, it's companionship based on sexual adventures, but the point remains the same. People want to SHARE something. But,when, as has taken place in this particular chat-room, people are not there to share, but rather to promote only themselves, their bias' , their agendas, THEIR wants and needs, then the majority of their roommates will soon lose interest, and probably wander away. If this sort of thing were to take place at infrequent and irregular moments, it could be tolerable. But when it begins to be a near constant drone, as it has in this room, people close their ears, and move on.
And how, you ask, have you come to this conclusion Mr Prime? What empirical evidence do you have to present to substantiate such a potentially slanderous assertion? Well.......if you were to ever visit this particular chat-room at almost any hour from dawn to dusk, you would find several threads going on, all of them copious and verbose, all of them adamant in their point of view, all of them self-righteous and insular........and ALL of them unconnected to ANY other conversation taking place at that time. They are all about that particular typer, regardless of the general tenor of the room, regardless of who is in the room, regardless of the events of the wider world going on about us all. It is ALL about THEM, whether anyone else is paying attention or not. As I have always understood it, conversation is a reciprocal undertaking,so what does one call a one way chat? And,even if we don't find such chat appealing what can those of us who find this type of behavior off-putting DO about it? Nothing...the last I checked, self-centeredness was not grounds for banning, no matter how irritating the majority of us may find it.
SO....with SO many people in a given room going off on their own particular tangents, what sense of community are the remaining denizens of such a room left with? Little or none. And so......they leave. And their departure leaves the rest of us poorer for their loss.
Siren and I hope that this is merely a cyclical occurrence, and that the room we have grown so fond of will one day regain it's comfortable an cozy atmosphere. But just as with neighbors, the good ones move away, but the a**holes linger on forever. We'll still hang out there, we're kind of masochistic in that regard. ( Don't go there BDSM people! } Perseverance is a virtue after all, so trying to get as much enjoyment from an uncomfortable situation may just be the only choice we have. In the grand scheme of things, as graceless as the room has become, it still offers some conversational opportunities. BUT... we ARE looking into heading over to the Azerbaijan room as an alternative....
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Holding You Close
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Posted:Nov 24, 2014 7:37 am
Last Updated:Oct 13, 2020 6:38 pm
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Is there anything more irritating with a site such as this than the near constant litany both in chat and in pic comments of.........
"Wish You Were Closer"
I'll be writing the rest of this post with my head in my hands just thinking about it..
The way Siren and I look at it, is like this. You have 2 choices. Get closer, or put a zipper on it. The point of any "interaction" between 2 { or 3, or 4, or more...} people is to connect. That's why Siren and I don't often have adventures. Because that feeling of connection often isn't there. Not because of a lack of desire, not because we're Trolls trying to hook up with people way better looking than us, not because we're shy about getting sweaty with other folk, and Certainly not because we're afraid to jump in the car for a road-trip to meet compatible souls. No, the one thing that hangs us up more often than not......is a lack of a feeling of "Closeness"
As we've Often said, the very first thing we look for from prospective playmates, be they Single Women, Couples, Groups, or even the somewhat un-looked for but still possible Single Male, would be a feeling that they are as interested in us, as we are in them.THAT would be the beginning of the closeness that WE seek. Physical proximity is either doable or not. A REAL closeness would be somewhat more difficult to achieve than a bus ride South to Portland ( or wherever, as long as it's not Renton...) But again, to return to the point of this post { there's a Point?? } what does one possibly achieve by spouting the inane and cliche.......Wish You Were Closer.........
When we cam, as we are wont to do, we get that a lot. While it may be flattering { the ONLY acceptable reason for it's use, I guess...} it is somewhat useless to see it come across our screens from places as far flung as Germany, Italy, and Brazil. We're NOT going to connect with you, so why say it? If you lived in Wenatchee, or Spokane, or even up North with our friends in Canada, we could at least judge whether that elusive Feeling of Closeness existed, and thereby decide if sharing the cost of gas money was warranted.....IF you have somehow developed a closeness online, then distance is just a number. True "Closeness" can close just about any gap if the will is there....But to say Wish You Were Closer, from New York, or Pittsburgh, or Off-Continent without any kind of connection other than seeing a pic or a cam, just seems to be nothing more than a platitude; saying something just for the point of saying something.
Nope, saying "Wish You Were Closer" is about as useful as me saying "Wish I was 6' Tall and Twenty Again". Neither is likely to happen without an awful lot of effort and good luck. BUT.......if you manage to convince us that you actually want to spend some time with us, that you care about us as people AND playmates, that you want to share a closeness both emotional and physical.....then you'll have made me feel 6 feet tall, and made both of us feel like twenty-somethings again.........and that would be close enough!
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Forgive Us For Being Human...
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Posted:Sep 3, 2014 9:22 am
Last Updated:Sep 4, 2014 8:35 am
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We LOVE to read profiles! As a starting point to any grand, mutually pleasing, adventure, actually seeing what people have to say makes a pretty good beginning. Information IS everything, when it comes to deciding who to contact, and who to pass by. But , as of late, we've noticed a somewhat disturbing trend in a lot of profiles towards an unnecessary specificity. That is, a preponderance of "demands" , rather than a discussion of desires.
Now...we're not trying to say that people here { of all places...} aren't entitled to their own set of standards. We have, ours, and stick to them rather rigorously, and accept that others do as well. But what we've noticed lately, is that rather than having an undefined and open-minded wish list, people on the site are getting downright particular. { with "particular" being a nicer way of putting it than "pickass"...}
The particular profile that motivated these thoughts was one that stated that, "A bath or shower will be required before play, whether you had one at home before coming over or not". Well! Isn't THAT both arousing and enticing! Not that we're against personal hygiene. { we like a clean bum as much as the next couple....}. No, it's the tone of the statement that we find disturbing. It comes off as sounding completely punctilious, at the expense of any romantic disposition. We see this all the time now: "You Must be shaven down below", "Please be as fit as we are at the least", " We're great looking, you need to be too", " Men need to be over 8", and women must be busty" , "You must be able to host", She must be multi-orgasmic, and he must stay rock hard the entire night", etc etc etc....
Now, maybe the people writing these overly discriminating profiles are having Waaaaay more success at finding compatible playmates than the rest of us. Or perhaps they are just SO much more better looking and sexy than the norm that they feel demands such as these are their right. But REALLY?? Whatever happened to having an idea of the kind of person you would find compatible and then seeing how much of a connection you all felt after a bit of "getting to know you"? Because......we're kind of human. We have some grey hair. Our teeth aren't pristine anymore. Our bodies aren't flaw free, and sometimes smell like a body does. The lady has baby marks, and an occasional hemorrhoid { those take a toll!! } The gentleman has a few scars, an will probably gain a few more as the years continue to roll by. When we go for a long run our feet stink. We don't shave our nether regions daily, because , yes, it's hard on the skin. We even get pimples! { gasp! } In other words........we're a normal couple next door, with a tendency towards lascivious thoughts and deeds.
As we said earlier, our attitude is not one of trying to dissuade anyone from trying to find exactly what it is that they seek. Quite the contrary, in fact. But we just find that profiles that are written in such fastidious terms are somewhat demeaning to the average person on here, and do not take into account such important factors as personality and attitude. One of the things that we've always tried to do while we search, is to keep an open mind. We've stated often that we'll chat with anyone, because we believe that everyone has something to offer. We like relatively in shape females, but don't ignore women with curves. We prefer our couples to be reasonably young, since our Lady is, but don't block more mature pairs. We really have little interest in single males, but a respectful conversational one might get a response. In other words....we're here to meet people; real, flawed, imperfect, and less than wonderful people.....just like ourselves. It's the learning about these people that often leads us to a feeling of affection and arousal....not just their physical attributes. And besides, once you develop some romance and affection, physical imperfection fades into the rearview, just as it does in the "real" world. If you LIKE someone.....will that pimple on their nose drive you away? We hope not! { we'll be buying lots more Clearasil, just in case. }
Nope, we hope that this tendency towards being outrageously persnickety is just a short term aberration on this site. But if it isn't, perhaps we can just encamp in the ghetto created for those less fortunate "human" people hereabouts. Probably a nicer place to be anyway.......
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Visionary Viewpoint
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Posted:Apr 26, 2014 6:41 am
Last Updated:Mar 10, 2015 5:51 am
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As in..............Could everyone please LOOK at the pics you post BEFORE you hit send? My Goodness!
Siren and I LOVE to look at the pics that accompany the profiles we peruse. As well as helping us find people of a suitable similarity, it IS just plain fun for a pair of perverts such as ourselves to be able to fire up our imaginations with a tasteful, thoughtful, descriptive, and informative representation of someone's persona. We're horny, no apologies....we like to look at naked, and semi-naked people....
However, { and we'll try and keep this general, for the sake of both your and our stomachs....} how much effort does it take to view the proposed image in advance, and perhaps say to yourself, or your significant other;
"That's Just Not Good!"
As promised, we won't go into the minutiae....but haven't we all gone down the "Activities" scroll and been stopped dead in our tracks with something that produced more of a gag reflex than a feeling of desire? And, like us, don't you turn to your Lover, or perhaps even just say aloud to an empty room, "What the Hell were they thinking?"
Now, as we've stated both in this blog, and in many a personal conversation, Siren and I do NOT consider ourselves as material for either Vogue or GQ, but we DO make a huge effort to shine the light of public opinion on those qualities which we HOPE will draw like-minded people towards us. { Just Good Lighting And Angles is our common response to anyone who gushes over us....} So....we're constantly left scratching our heads over some of the choices a few of our peers on here have made. And we stress...this is NOT a judgement about the quality of anyone's bodies, but rather about how those corporeal representations are presented to the world. We grant you....not everyone is blessed with genetic gifts that allow for spectacular photographs. But why, oh WHY, not incorporate a little self-editing into your work? Why not put forth something that both you, and your prospective audience will enjoy, rather than posting something that leaves an empty room with the faint echo of screaming as the only evidence that your pic has even been seen??
To each their own, they say, and certainly there is a taste for every extreme, even on a site such as this. There has to be SOMEone who likes those pics that the majority of us find troublesome, and there certainly is a demand for all types of bodies and kinks. But unless some of these pics are simply tests to see how far these limits can be pushed, can we just ask for one simple step to be taken?
Stop, look at the picture you want to submit, and ask.....Is THIS something I would want to see??
Perhaps then we can stop hesitating over every new addition to the activities page.......
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A Little Less Conversation?? Sorry Elvis!
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Posted:Apr 19, 2014 8:12 am
Last Updated:Jun 1, 2014 10:46 pm
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Well, it certainly seems that a LOT of the people who contact us have the attitude mentioned in the title of this blog. Despite the fact that we are VERY plain in our profile about our desire to engage anybody we even consider for play in some of that chat thing. ( Oh yeah.....READing the profile..... ) OK....for those of you without the wherewithal to actually pass your eyes over the words we struggled to get JUST right...
Siren and I DO enjoy a night or 6 of sharing with Ladies and Couples. That much is unequivocal. However..... Both of us spent plenty of time as singles in "The Lifestyle" { still gag over THAT phrase....}. Yes, the Lovely Siren WAS a unicorn, so single Ladies feel free to chat with her to compare notes...*wink* And Prime was a rogue, of some reputation. SO....therefore, we went through just about any and every situation which one could conceive of within that life. And, as one might expect from all of that experience, we learned a thing or two. And what, you might ask, was the most important lesson you took away from all that solo playtime>?
Make your mistakes in chat....NOT in person!
Therefore....we do tend to be a bit more chatty than some of our contemporaries around here might be. And yes, we see and meet several people on a regular basis who purport to have the same desire. But when the rubber hits the road, it's befuddling how many lose interest after a few conversations. Now....we grant you....we're a bit wordy, long-winded, and rambling. And SOMEtimes, those first few opportunities to talk can be a bit awkward, especially given the limitations of IM or cam-chat. BUT, really..... If you are wanting to "get to know" someone.....don't we go through all of that in real life as well?? Perseverance is a virtue in this case, both for ourselves and our "potentials". But...in a revealing number of cases, a bit of stilted conversation leads to a discontinuation of the potential friendship.
And.....even more often....there seems to be a two conversation limit to that process of learning about us. After that it quickly becomes a chorus of, "When can we meet? / What are your Names? / Can You Send Us face Pics? " So, let us reiterate our position.
We are VERY discrete, VERY slow moving, and VERY conversational, all in an effort to remove any possibility of connecting with the WRONG person or persons. ( and with some of the con artists and fakes on here, not even all of that will guarantee we'll always make perfect choices ) But, even with all the Bad people around, when it's right it's SO good, so we'll continue to cautiously seek out real friends to enjoy together. But...if you have a problem with all of that, please feel free not to contact us. Do NOT tell us that you want to get to know us if you have no intention of dedicating some time to the process. Not all conversations lead to a relationship, but certainly NO conversation will lead US nowhere.
It IS a tricky method of finding "potentials" and we haven't always worked it perfectly ourselves. We still have a few people we need to get back to in order to say "Thanks, but No Thanks". ( NObody like that particular task unless you're inherently cruel....) But in the end, it works for us. Aside from the safety issue { which we take VERY seriously, there's CRAZIES out there!! } , there's also the desire not to lead anyone on, and find just the RIGHT type of playmates for us. And since we're not looking for just another body ( or two ) to use, how else but actually talking will we know if it IS right?? So we chat, and talk, and have conversations, just like "normal" people. And just like on the real world, we like some, others we don't. Some people like us, others think we're pompous jerks. Friendships blossom, and sometimes they wilt. But if you don't put a little time into your planting, how do you ever expect to enjoy a garden?
SO....if you caught us on cam...or actually read our profile....or even just liked the pics we post....AND you want to get to KNOW us...feel free to contact us. But be forewarned.....before we ever chew on your nether regions, we'll chew off your ear with conversation.
Mind you....despite looking like Vincent van Gogh, we think you'll find us worth it.....
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What ARE These People Up To??
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Posted:Mar 28, 2014 10:41 am
Last Updated:Mar 30, 2014 10:18 pm
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One of the (many) things that Siren and I enjoy about Senior Sizzle is perusing the "Activity" posts on the home page. Aside from the obvious pleasure that looking at beautiful bodies provides us, and it's corresponding dismay at the less than spectacular photo choices, we find it informative to see what people choose to post as their "Status". As there are a multitude of different people and couples here on the site, so are there just as many different choices for what people want to say about their own site-time. The post that made me start to wonder about where we're all going was one advertising, so to speak, a business providing bedroom furniture to the denizens of a sex site. While I agree that there IS a connection in that regard, I just was amused that it took so long for us to see it. Around the old Senior Sizzle corral, there are many a breed of livestock, each with a particular type of feed required for their satisfaction. Looking for the ONE, looking for as many as I can get, looking for someone TODAY, looking for someones long-term,looking for a Dom, looking for a Sub, looking for a Switch....etc., etc., etc......
In fact, there are SO many different permutations to what is available to us all here that the oft-repeated, { and despised by yours-truly } cliche phrase, "What Are You Looking For?" has found it's way permanently into the lexicon of Swingers worldwide. However, up until this point, excepting those members of a more "Professional" mien, as far as I can tell, I don't believe I've ever before seen the answer to be "customers". Now...as those of you who've worked their way through our ramblings before know, we try really hard not to be judgmental in our views of things "Lifestyle". And, I should point out that I have brief knowledge of the poster in question and think she's both beautiful and fun. But REALLY?? A furniture store dedicated to sexaholics? Mirrored headboards? Specially reinforced bedposts?? iPhone plugins for immediate text response? Cam mountings on the foot-board for better angles?? And please don't forget to add a rack for multiple towels for Siren & Prime's special order Bedroom Set!
I totally hope for the best for the poster of that "activity". I especially hope that she hasn't broken any of the rules abounding in our somewhat regulated habitat. Because she's a cool Lady, and I'm pretty sure she was just trying to share something new with her friends and acquaintances. And , after all....We've all seen plenty of more disturbing things posted on this site. But mostly I wish her success because she reminded me once again of the wonderful diversity of the people we MIGHT encounter while we visit here for either a little, or a long time. And finding people who interest you, and teach you new things, and open up your mind to new ideas, and want to learn just as much from you as you have from them......is ultimately the reason why Siren and I are here......
Now, if I can just order our bedroom set in Stain-resistant material
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Catagories, Catagorically...
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Posted:Feb 4, 2014 5:54 pm
Last Updated:Apr 24, 2014 3:39 pm
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Siren and I had an interesting discussion last night, that we thought we'd share with all of you. We started off talking, once again, about people looking for "Drive-by's". { For anyone who is as ignorant of that phrase as we usually feel, a Drive-by is when someone will be in your town for a day...afternoon.....hour...the length of time it take to buy a coffee...and suggests hooking up while they're there... }. This discussion had it's germination in a chatroom, and while the idea was almost universally rejected, there were still one or two individuals who actually felt fine with that concept. Which brings us to the conversation that Siren and I shared a little later.
It seems that no matter how off the wall, kooky, aberrant, nonconformist,bewildering, unromantic, confusing, or even disgusting an act,or series of acts,are around this website that we share...There WILL be people who want to partake of them. Of course, it does sometimes get hard not to sit in judgement of all of that. People,like water, always seek their own level. And it's therefore only natural that couples and individuals view their particular idiosyncrasies as the "Best" way to have fun. Which of course, is ludicrous, since there are almost as many kinks to be found as members in a site such as this, and not everyone but ourselves can be "wrong".
No, we try VERY hard not to adjudicate anyone else's concept of what "swinging" might be. That would, aside from being somewhat elitist, be a fools errand, since as previously noted, OUR view of that issue is only ours...other's views can and do differ. But, having said that, it would be ever so nice to be held to the bosom of people who DO think as we do, and who DO want to experience "The LIfestyle" in the same way as we do.
And that was the gist of the conversation that Siren and I found ourselves having. { SEE?? If you hang around long enough...I DO get to my point. } To wit; We wondered if the powers that be around here ever considered grouping people together by concurrent desires, rather than just location and "orientation". Perhaps they could open up a whole substrata of categories: Everynighters. Onlyonholidayers. Whenthekidsareolderers. Wedon'tcarewhatyoulooklikeers. Welikedrivebyers. Thenastierthebetterers. Onlywithpeoplewe'vemeters. Or...our personal favorite..Wewantfriendshipandromancers.
Indeed, the idea we kicked around was self-serving ( who isn't? ) in that we wish that it wasn't SO difficult to winnow out the folk, who may well be as decent as Siren and myself, but who clearly do not come anywhere close to having the same sort of desires for interaction as the two of us. How wonderful would it be if it was that everybody who wanted to spend the time getting to really KNOW their prospective playmates were all gathered together under one heading, while people who just wanted to bang your brains out five minutes after meeting would be collected in their own corral? { Just two examples. Remember? No judgement! }
Alas! Even though we were able to conceive of multiple ways for these designations to be arrived at, we sadly came to the conclusion that our wishful-thinking was just exactly that. Because, as we've already seen, there are just TOO many different permutations of basically the same notion. People wanting to share themselves with others of the same mind-set. Our poor website would be driven mad trying to whittle every subset down to the nucleus of what defines each one. Each group would get smaller and smaller, as more criteria for entry were analyzed and added in. Probably cost-prohibitive too, if we were to try and take the business view of things. Ah well, perhaps this falls under the idea of "If something seems to good to be true, it probably is". At the end of the discussion, we regretfully were left with just one remaining probably functional designation that we'd still like to see added. "Just how Bisexual ARE you?" { Siren NEEDS to know! *wink* }
In the meantime, I suppose we'll just have to go back to clicking "looking for a couple" on our search page, as vague as that might be, and hoping that we might yet be able to connect with like-minded people who like our minds.
After all, if people can find friends who wear those fuzzy animal heads while having sex,( not that there's anything wrong with that...) then surely there must be people exactly like us out there as well, right?? Right?....hello......hello..... Is that an echo...???
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