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Holding You Close
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Holding You Close Is there anything more irritating with a site such as this than the near constant litany both in chat and in pic comments of......... "Wish You Were Closer" I'll be writing the rest of this post with my head in my hands just thinking about it.. The way Siren and I look at it, is like this. You have 2 choices. Get closer, or put a zipper on it. The point of any "interaction" between 2 { or 3, or 4, or more...} people is to connect. That's why Siren and I don't often have adventures. Because that feeling of connection often isn't there. Not because of a lack of desire, not because we're Trolls trying to hook up with people way better looking than us, not because we're shy about getting sweaty with other folk, and Certainly not because we're afraid to jump in the car for a road-trip to meet compatible souls. No, the one thing that hangs us up more often than not......is a lack of a feeling of "Closeness" As we've Often said, the very first thing we look for from prospective playmates, be they Single Women, Couples, Groups, or even the somewhat un-looked for but still possible Single Male, would be a feeling that they are as interested in us, as we are in them.THAT would be the beginning of the closeness that WE seek. Physical proximity is either doable or not. A REAL closeness would be somewhat more difficult to achieve than a bus ride South to Portland ( or wherever, as long as it's not Renton...) But again, to return to the point of this post { there's a Point?? } what does one possibly achieve by spouting the inane and cliche.......Wish You Were Closer......... When we cam, as we are wont to do, we get that a lot. While it may be flattering { the ONLY acceptable reason for it's use, I guess...} it is somewhat useless to see it come across our screens from places as far flung as Germany, Italy, and Brazil. We're NOT going to connect with you, so why say it? If you lived in Wenatchee, or Spokane, or even up North with our friends in Canada, we could at least judge whether that elusive Feeling of Closeness existed, and thereby decide if sharing the cost of gas money was warranted.....IF you have somehow developed a closeness online, then distance is just a number. True "Closeness" can close just about any gap if the will is there....But to say Wish You Were Closer, from New York, or Pittsburgh, or Off-Continent without any kind of connection other than seeing a pic or a cam, just seems to be nothing more than a platitude; saying something just for the point of saying something. Nope, saying "Wish You Were Closer" is about as useful as me saying "Wish I was 6' Tall and Twenty Again". Neither is likely to happen without an awful lot of effort and good luck. BUT.......if you manage to convince us that you actually want to spend some time with us, that you care about us as people AND playmates, that you want to share a closeness both emotional and physical.....then you'll have made me feel 6 feet tall, and made both of us feel like twenty-somethings again.........and that would be close enough! 
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Do you mind if I pimp this post? I've often thought of posting on this very subject - but you said it so much better. Check out my profile or and become a "watcher" of my blog FMAOPLS,to learn more about me, and for intelligent, lively, smartassy and fun discussion, with a little irreverence thrown in. "Like" or comment on my photos, and I promise I'll add more. Thanks.
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We've all heard the old "wish you were closer" line. As a single lady, what really gets my goat is when a guy who is in a reasonable driving distance (from 2 - 5 hours) uses that. Especially when he has waxed rhapsodic about how much he likes my profile, and what a great person I seem to be. IF I am really that wonderful, perhaps he would put some effort into getting to know me, instead of whining that there is physical distance between us. Just another way of saying "I don't want to go to any effort". People who don't want to "go to the effort" may as well just have a big L tattooed on their foreheads. To which my unspoken (or is that un-typed?) reaction is either "oh, you poor baby", or "shut up, you're bothering me" Check out my profile or and become a "watcher" of my blog FMAOPLS,to learn more about me, and for intelligent, lively, smartassy and fun discussion, with a little irreverence thrown in. "Like" or comment on my photos, and I promise I'll add more. Thanks.
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Its true- any physical distance is surmountable if the will is there. Saying "wish we were closer" as flattery is somewhat fine, I guess, but my personal thought when I see that is "couldn't you come up with something better?" The saying is pointless in my mind, I don't think its particularly flattering. Now, if the person saying it had developed a rapport, over time, with intelligent conversation... then I'd consider it differently perhaps. Because the mental closeness engendered a desire for physical closeness and perhaps circumstances prevent it from coming to fruition.... that's more acceptable to my mind. And didn't someone recently tell me that he's taller when laying down....? mmmmmm
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