60 Tips On How To Give A Great Blowjob ?
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Posted:May 23, 2020 2:38 am
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1.How About a Blow Job?
The right words are often more powerful than the best blow job techniques. A mans orgasm happens in his mind; saying what he doesnt even know he desires to hear can trigger an instant orgasm. Thats why blowjob dirty talk is so important. Ask him How about a blow job? and see the instant smile on his face.
Most women are quiet and make an Im-working-on-an-important-assignment face, without saying a single word.
Why so serious? Relax have fun with it. Nobody expects you to talk while having a penis in your mouth, stop for a second, take a breath smile give him a compliment, tell him youre enjoying yourself, ask him for feedback, or tell him what you want him to do.
The rule for blowjob dirty talk is: whatever you say, say it with complete belief.
If you are afraid that what you say will sound too fake or awkward: it will.
Believe in what you say and say it fearlessly, and anything you say will sound great. Theres nothing clean about a blowjob, so dont try to be classy about it once you are already on your knees.
Never forget that how you say it is more important than what you say. You dont need dirty talking lines, you need playfulness and the confidence to let go of your fear of being looked down upon for talking dirty. He wants you to be slutty, so give yourself permission to cross the line.
Also, know that saying anything is usually better than saying nothing at all. You dont want him to feel as if you are in your head, thinking, worrying, and giving him the this-is-rocket-science serious face. So speak up!
2. Moan (louder)
If youre not sure what line to throw at him, then at least moan. Then moan some more, and some more.
Moaning creates pleasurable vibrations that make your blow job better in more than one way. Moaning is perfect as a substitute for talking dirty, if youre still shy about it.
Moaning a lot communicates an important message: Im mmm enjoying myself. And that is the core of a great blow job.
Dont expect him to enjoy receiving it if you dont enjoy giving it.
3.It may be called a blow job, but its not a job, if you think it is thats why you suck at it
Viewing a blow job as a JOB is the main reason why most women are horrible at blowjobs. Dont be one of those nasty women.
View blow jobs as a source of ultimate-pleasure for yourself, and thats exactly what it will become for you.
Of course, you need to find the right guy for this, naturally, for some men its simply not worth your effort, but for a guy you truly love, its only natural that you enjoy pleasuring him in any way he desires.
Find a guy like that. (Then keep him by giving great blow jobs!) You deserve it. Or maybe not, yet. As long as you view blowjobs as a job youll have a hard time finding Mr. Right, okay you may find him, but keeping him? Thats a whole other field.
Stop viewing blow jobs with a whats in it for me? way of thinking. Or as a gift you are giving him.
Women that give miraculous blowjobs are so good at them because they not only love it, but they also view it as a source of pleasure for them.
They are thankful for the opportunity to get pleasure from it.
4. Look Into His Soul
Dont be shy. Your eyes are the windows to your soul. Let him see the passion in your eyes. Your eyes can almost smile up at him.
Let him see pure joy in your eyes. Smile with your eyes. Wink at him when youve got him deep.
Dont worry, you look great from up there. By looking up at him you communicate; you see his reactions to your moves and you can adjust your performance. The most important moment for eye contact is the moment he is having an orgasm. Thats when he falls in love.
5. Choose a Good Position
When giving a blowjob you have total power over him. Either he gets complete pleasure or complete pain in case you bite off his manhood.
So even tough you have power, still, a blowjob is a submissive act where you submit to your mans power. In a way it is your attempt to tame him, a moment where you have his full attention.
Your submission to him is something you should exaggerate because thats part of the turn on behind a blow job.
Because men are visual be in a position where he has a nice view of you, and a position where he appears more dominant.
Choose a position in which you are more submissive, down, on your knees, for example, looking up at him from below. When thinking about good position look for good comfort and a good view, in the sense that you are comfortable so that you dont lose focus and so that he has the feeling of power over you because of your complete submission to him.
6. Change Your Attitude: just enjoying it is not enough
Attitude is everything. The right attitude means that you give a blow job for your own pleasure, not his, and that you dont just enjoy doing it, as some magazines will tell you, but that you can not live without having his penis in your mouth.
7. Its a Marathon, Not a Sprint
Hurrying during a blow job and racing to the finish line wont make that blow job great.
On the contrary, it will only give an impression that you just want to get it over with and continue with your no-blowjobs policy life. Never make an impression like that because it kills all your previous effort.
Take things slow. Focus on the journey. Enjoy every second of it and forget about the destination.
There IS NO DESTINATION. You dont want to get anywhere.
There is a practical time and place to speed up a blow job and its not now.
Dont worry about weather too much time has passed since you started. Dont put time-constraints on your blowjobs. Let it last as long as it lasts.
You are not in a rush. If you get tired too fast thats because you arent using all of your assets.
8.Turn Off Your Mind You Must
Logic kills emotions.
The two cannot work together, and, in a blow job, there simply is no space for logic.
Emotions, feelings, passion those should be your guidelines for a great blow job.
Any logical thinking can only kill the pleasure and take away your focus.
When you think you are not present, and when you are not present you are not in the moment enjoying it but rather worried about something. Why didnt he come yet? Am I doing it right?
You make eye contact, so he will see that your mind is racing away, and once he sees that you are in your mind, worried about something its over. Youve killed it. Now hes thinking about what you are thinking, and he cant relax and enjoy the pleasure you are giving him.
Dont think. Turn off any logical thinking during a blow job and youll instantly see positive effects.
9.Love It So Much That Hes Scared for Your Sanity
Love his cock. Love it beyond normal love. Love it more than your best friends, family, your dog, air, water. Love it more than your favourite food after months of starvation.
You need to be hungry. Literally starve for it, need it, like a drug addict needs his or her drug, thats the way you must need and desire his penis. Without love for his little friend or big fella you will never give the kind of blowjob every man dreams of.
Believe me, this addiction is the best thing you can do for your relationship.
10.Leave No Solider Behind
Amiga, Im talking about his cojones.
So many women forget about this.
Dare to be different!
There is more to his penis than his penis. All around that area is sensitive and you have to use all of it to create a full-package blow job.
Theres so much you can do with his testicles. Tickle, kiss, gently suck, massage, the list goes on. Just make sure you are gentle and considerate because one wrong move can lead to supreme pain.
11.Use Your Hands (Correctly)
If you think that your mouth is the only tool you can use for a great blow job then you are very, very wrong. Imagine you are going to war with a knife while you have a full arsenal of weapons like bazookas, AK-47s and grenades in your trunk. What a waste.
Your hands are the basis of a great blow job. Use oil, lots of it actually, for foreplay purposes. Learn to give hand jobs by taking your time to practice on him.
Give him a hand job and take your time, let him teach you how to satisfy him, where to have a tighter grip and how. Make sure you oil it up!
You can only learn this by practicing, and again, not being in a hurry. Be playful with it. Have fun and take your time. Every man will appreciate your efforts of improving yourself and the best you can do is to be open about it.
12.Believe in Yourself (even if you have to fake it)
Look, nobody expects you to be super-confident about something you are not yet good at.
People are confident about something they are good at, and the only way you can get good is by practicing. The better you get the more confidant you will become and the better your blow jobs will be until then: fake it.
You know, fake it till you make it.
The worst thing you can do is to be indecisive about your moves, because indecisiveness brings you back into your HEAD. And we dont want that (Tip 8 Dont Think).
So until you naturally get confident about your blowjobs by practicing, simply fake your confidence. Wait. Scratch that. You can practice as long as you want, but if you practice the WRONG stuff, youre just waiting your time (and his patience).
Convincing yourself that what you are doing is the right thing and even though you may be wrong, still, youll be sure of your moves and that by itself is a good thing.
13. Dont Bite (too hard)
This is a tip you already know, obviously, nobody wants his penis chopped off by some razor sharp teeth.
But dont think that teeth can ONLY produce pain, actually, biting his penis can be erotic, but also a bit scary. So, it can also excite him, if you do it playfully.
Just dont try this if youre a beginner.
14. Learn from the Masters, Young Padawan
There is a reason porn is a multi-billion dollar industry.
They know what sells. And theres a reason why it sells, because thats what the market of men are looking for. Thats what makes them hard.
So start watching porn and see how and what the pros are doing.
Copy what you like.
15. Smile, Mona Lisa
Again, its not about techniques, but about what you communicate to your guy during a blow job.
Of course, you cant smile while having him in your mouth, but what you can do is stop for a second, take a breath, say something kinky, then smile the point is that you communicate a simple message I like what Im doing you are there because you want to be there, not because youre just doing him a favor and he should be thankful he got any.
A negative, bitchy attitude like that wont get you far. Communicate the right message and the orgasm will start in his mind, not his penis.
16. Practice, baby, practice!
Ive read somewhere (I think Malcolm Gladwell first mentioned it in his book Outliers) that you need about 10 000 hours of doing something to master it, any skill.
I doubt that you need 10 000 hours of blow jobs to become great at them.
With the right information, you can progress quickly. Unlearning what you are doing wrong is a longer process than learning from scratch.
Whats important is that you understand that nobody expects you to born with awesome blow jobs skills. It takes time and practice.
You know the story when a tourist asked a street musician Excuse me, do you know how do I get to Carnegie Hall? Practice, baby, practice!
Its natural to be a beginner at anything and it takes time, practice and dedication to get good at it.
Find a guy that you truly like so you are naturally motivated to make him happy and practicing on him will be fun.
Dont be afraid of failure or doing things wrong, every sane guy will appreciate your efforts of improving and practicing on him
Just view it as a challenge.
17. Look Better (dont be lazy)
The better you look the more attractive you are to him and this simply adds to the physical and psychological pleasure you are giving him. View it as an extra. All else being equal (sex skills, personality, compatibility etc.) how hot (or not) you are is what makes the final difference.
Discover his fetish. Nice bras, corsets, fishnets, G-strings, high-heels, or spandex he can rip apart also, whatever makes you feel sexier.
This is a rule: You cant be sexy for him if you dont feel sexy about yourself. So dont work on your looks because of him, do it for yourself.
18. Tease to Please
Tease, but dont overtease.
Be playful. Take your time and give him longer and slower licks and kisses. The point is that you have fun all the time during a blow job.
Dont jump into action right away, its should be a fun game, not a race to get a job done.
Add playfulness to your blow jobs and cut out the dull, scientific-like seriousness by teasing him, giggling, taking your time and helping him mentally relax and get into the mood.
Put some temptation into the game before you jump into the real stuff. Bite his shaft for fun to tease him (as if youll bite it off) and see how hell get rock hard in an instant.
19. Play Games
Have fun and play some games Role-play isnt just for sex, you can do it for blowjobs too.
Bring some props, pour chocolate sauce all over him, lick it off of him. Keep it fresh.
Dont forget that too much of a good thing can become a bad thing after some time simply because its not scarce anymore.
This doesnt imply that you should give him a blow job once a year. Hell no. But also not every hour. Find a balance and stay playful and creative about your blowjobs.
Know when its not the right moment for a blow job and when it is.
20. Surprise!
Theres no point in having everything planned out, theres nothing exciting happening then that you didnt expect.
Surprise him from time to time with an out of a sudden blow job when he least expects it. It shows you care. Never wait for him to ask for a blow job, thats just lame. Take initiative. This alone will already set you apart from other women.
Remember, you dont have to give the best blow jobs in the world, just better than anything hes experienced thus far.
21. Go Deep or Go Home
Warren Buffett, the greatest investor of all time said The best investment you can make is an investment in yourself. Amen to that.
If theres one sex skill you should invest in, then thats learning how to deep-throat.
Set yourself apart from other women luring over your guy by being unique in this rare skill. One in 10 women give great blow jobs, and that one can usually deep-throat with ease.
Knowing how to deep throat shows your dedication to learn something completely and go through a doze of, lets say pain, but more precisely discomfort, to learn something priceless and get to a stage where its not uncomfortable at all anymore.
With enough willpower you can master anything, even deep throating and killing your gag reflex. Once you can do that, your guy will never, ever desire another womans mouth in his life.
When it comes to deep throating: you have to believe in yourself. You can do whatever you believe you can or cant.
Simply stop being a quitter and giving up every time you try to take him in deeper. Focus on relaxing your gag reflex and pushing through it. Push your tongue out, go a bit deeper and then hold it there for as long as you can until you get more and more comfortable with it. Be in a position where you control the movement so he doesnt try to thrust deeper himself.
Believe you are great at giving blow jobs and you will be with more time and practice, but start by believing in yourself and adding a dose of confidence to everything you do. Every suck, kiss, lick and look needs to be more secure.
22. A Brazilian is Not Just for Women Anymore
Stopping every minute to take hair off your tongue or from between your teeth is horribly annoying not just to him but of course to you as well. It kills your momentum.
Make him shave both his bush and his balls so that its a more welcoming place for you.
Its a simple trade-off. He shaves, and thus you enjoy giving him blow jobs more and youll give them more often. Its a win-win.
23. Dont Make Strange, Confused, or Disgusted Faces (we read them better than you think)
You dont see your facial expressions when giving your guy head so youre not aware of the strange faces you may be making and what these faces may communicate to him.
It doesnt matter if you say you enjoy it when your face tells him the truth.
Let him see true desire on your face. Love all about him and his penis completely.
Just avoid making the Im working on an important project face or the am I doing this right? face, or the why didnt he came yet? face.
These ruin a blow job, no wonder he cant orgasm.
24. Observe and Adjust
Women that give great blowjobs all have a simple thing in common: they are great observers.
They use their intuition and they study their guys movements, reactions, sighs, moans, words, they look up at him from down below seductively and follow his reactions to her every move, then she knows weather she should speed up or slow down. When, where, how.
Force your guy to be more vocal about his true desires and force him tell you what he likes most. Ask him what he likes and hell open up, just make sure he knows that you wont give him a bad reaction if hes brutally honest with you. If he likes giving you a facial then thats what he should get.
25. Use All of Your Assets
Nice breasts? Show them. Put on a sexy bra, or take it off, have a nice long necklace that shines around while youre doing your blowjob magic. Play with your boobs (or give him a boob job too, just oil it up
If your booty is your best feature then thats what should be in focus. Put your booty high up in the air so he can have a spectacular view of it as a bonus to looking at you going deep (see tip 21).
Tilt your back so he can see your thongs and butt nicely, and especially your feet if he has a foot fetish (a lot of guys do) and you are on your knees while hes standing.
You need to use all your assets to your advantage. Whatever it is, use it, because a blowjob isnt just about using your mouth.
There must be something specific about you that he enjoys most otherwise he couldnt get an erection.
26. Blindfold Him to Focus His Senses
Men may be visual, but imagination is king.
Blindfold him so he doesnt see you. This is good if you are too self-conscious during a blowjob, youll be able to relax a bit and focus on pleasing him (yourself) without worrying how you look.
The good thing is that hell rely on his other senses, not just his eyes, and this can often lead to something even more powerful because he cant see it in case you pause, move your hair or take hair off your tongue, or make strange faces sometime.
27. Blindfold Yourself to Improve Your Focus
Even though eye contact with your guy is important during a blowjob, still, whats important is that you depend on fewer senses so you can hone your skills.
Blindfold yourself and see how different your technique will become.
Youll improve a lot because youll have more focus on your technique and less on whats going around, this will help you calm your mind (tip
Give yourself up to him, let him abuse you (gently, of course) or maybe even more roughly if you can deep-throat.
Men like to feel dominant in bed, and the more you can submit to his power the more youll boost his ego and feeling of ownership. Let go and surrender to him.
When blindfolded youll have nothing to see, so youll have to rely on touch, smell, taste, the sounds of his moans instead of looking up at him and analyzing his facial expressions.
28. Wear a Sexy Mask (Who Are You?)
Think of catwoman put on a sexy mask like that so you can still maintain eye contact, and then add black thongs, heels, and a sexy corset what more can a guy ask for?
Just the visual itself will spark his imagination, let alone if your blow job is awesome. Hell go blind when hes eyes flip back from the power of the orgasm you give him.
29. The Blowjob Squad Dress Code: Thongs and High Heels
A great blow job is all about the show, the performance you make for him.
Thats why you have to look as sexy as possible. Get high heels, thongs, and knee pads
You need to be dressed in a way that you FEEL sexy about yourself, thats when youll be sexy for him as well, youll have this attractive energy about you that simply radiates your feminine sexuality.
Invest in a sexy pair of thongs, high heels and other accessories (like a nice necklace) just for his viewing pleasures and youll see his jaw drop sooner than later in disbelief when he achieves the most powerful orgasms of his life, one after the other.
30. Let Him (Ab)Use You
As said in tip 27, let go and surrender yourself to him.
When giving him a blow job you have the power to give him ultimate pain or pleasure, so you are in charge, but at some point you can surrender your mouth to him and let him do whatever he wishes to it.
You may be afraid of choking to death, but you can always hold on to his legs and control his movements to be gentler and less forceful.
Try and see for yourself how much this will turn him on. The gagging sounds you make and the sloppy saliva that builds up will make him think hes dreaming.
Remember, you dont have to be the BEST in the world at giving blow jobs, you just need to be better than all the other women your guy had sex with in the past.
We compare you to past experiences and set benchmarks for the quality we expect in our sex lives. Dont meet his expectations, surpass them. Astonish him.
31. The Golden Word
The thing most women lack in order to give great blow jobs is the right attitude.
You view it as a job, or as something you give him and he should be thankful for.
Thats a HORRIBLE way to view blowjobs and it just makes your blowjobs mediocre, if even that.
Instead, view blow jobs as a gift, a blessing you are getting from him.
Hes giving you this incredible opportunity, an opportunity you are thankful for.
Ask him for permission to give him a blow job and see how this will make his MIND melt before he even reaches orgasm. Just say: Can I please give you a blow job? (playfully) Its the most powerful word in your sexcabulary.
32. Stay Foolish
Dont view blowjobs as rocket science or something.
Its a skill any woman can learn if she wants to, but you dont have to view the learning process and blowjobs as something serious.
Keep having fun. Take your time. Dont worry about making it perfect. The perfect blowjob will happen when everything falls into place, and often it simply is not your fault when things go wrong.
You cant influence everything around you. Control what you can (your attitude) and the rest will fall into its place.
Dont worry about being perfect; just think of it as having fun and that should be your one and only goal when giving a blowjob. Play games, act more innocent than you are but be naughty and dirty at the same time.
Let go of your nonsense fears of being looked down upon.
The only thing you should fear when giving your guy a blowjob is fear itself. Keep having fun and stay foolish.
33. And Hungry
Maybe you misunderstood Steve Jobs when he said Stay hungry, stay foolish in his 2005 commencement speech at Stanford. Just for the record he was talking about blow jobs. He was just speaking in code.
Stay hungry and your guy will stay in love. No joke. Men are far simpler than you think.
34. That Secret Spot
Youve heard this a million times, but its advice worth repeating. It is the string of skin connecting the head of his penis with the outside skin. It is super-sensitive and giving quick-licks to it can be very stimulating.
Use it to your advantage.
35. Slap and Giggle
Put on a show.
Slap your tongue with his penis as youre saying aaah, then giggle and smile.
Its part of taking your time and being playful about it. Grow familiar with his buddy and accept it completely.
Look at it with a hint of fascination in your eyes that will only boost his ego even further. Measure it up to see if its longer than your faces length just for fun.
Anyone can learn the techniques and that will get you somewhere, but a great blow job isnt just about conquering physical but psychological pleasure, thats the harder part.
36. Make It Wet and Sloppy
Saliva needs to be dripping all over the place.
The more excited you are about giving him a blow job the more excited he will be about receiving it.
When you are drooling all over his penis and just the sight of him is making your mouth water and you feel a need to take him in deep, thats the kind of attitude that will drive any man wild. When you drool it says this is delicious.
Your totally wet mouth communicates an important message to him: Im super-excited.
And theres nothing more exciting than knowing that you love it, that youre turned on and that there is NO OTHER PLACE in the world you would rather be now more than on your knees, enjoying yourself.
Spit on his penis, gather more saliva, drool over it, dont worry about the weird sounds you might be making. Theyre a turn on!
Stop being so self-conscious and get out of your mind. Stop thinking and be in the moment, in the zone, enjoying it completely.
37. Turn Yourself On to Turn Him On
Masturbate while sucking on his penis. Turn yourself on. Some women are so in love with giving blow jobs that they can even achieve an orgasm from it. Thats the level you should get to, and even if you dont, act as if fake it till you make it and just see how mind-blowing his orgasms will be.
The best time to give your guy a blow job is when you are turned on naturally and want to have sex, instead of jumping directly to sex, use blow jobs as foreplay, and maybe even after play just for the fun of it. The more youre turned on, the more hell enjoy the blow job. Its the same like sex, when you are super-wet, he feels wanted and that feeling is what triggers the orgasm in his mind.
38. Be Naughty, but Innocent
Be naughty, kinky and playful, but also act innocent at the same time, as if you didnt know what you are doing.
Its playful and attractive simply because nobody wants to think about how you got all that experience. Act as if this is something you dont usually do and you dont do it with all men, but that he is special for you and turns you on in ways other men never did and thats why you are just now discovering your love of blowing him.
39. Dont Expect Anything, Just Enjoy the Journey
This is probably the most important blow job tip youll get: Stop expecting him to orgasm.
He does not have to orgasm. Period.
Simply, that should not be your goal, if it is, then youre not relaxed, youre under pressure and you are waiting for him to finish.
This only puts pressure on him and makes him feel as if he is torturing you or making you do something you dont really want to do. Be in the moment and enjoy it, forget about the results. Theyll come, and if they dont dont take it personally. Not every day is a perfect day for a blow job. Really, sometimes its him, not you.
Not every day is a day for mind-blowing orgasms. This tip is the most important lesson you should learn: do not have a goal or expectation in mind, other than having fun.
When you dont have a goal, you de-pressurize your blowjob and he isnt under any type of stress and he isnt thinking. When hes not thinking, then all his attention is focused on you (right where you want it) and this means hell always orgasm.
40. Change Location
Same place, same time, same style even if you give great blow jobs, at some point too much of a good thing can become a bad, boring thing.
Freshen up your blowjobs by changing things up, from your style, to the location and mood in which you give him supreme pleasure.
Leave the bedroom, go out in the wild sometimes even just the change in room will do. Get kinky and adventurous with your blowjobs. Give him a blowjob in public, in a car, in a cinema. Get adventurous. Remember tip 9, you want him so bad that you cant control yourself or wait until you get home. You need to go down on him right now, right here. Or else.
The best blow jobs are memorable not so much because of their quality but because of the atmosphere, situation, role, and surrounding. In the end, what we remember is the emotion. Always aim to be remembered!
41. A Real Woman Never Lets Her Man Leave the House Hungry or Horny (Horngry)
Thats why you should give him a surprise (see tip 20) good morning blowjob while hes shaving or cooking bacon and eggs for breakfast.
How would you like your eggs, honey? and you just appear there, giving him a mind-blowing blowjob and say Good morning baby.
This one move alone will help him have a great day at work and stop him from checking out his shamelessly slutty, overdressed, mean machine maneating co-worker.
Or at some other moment, after a delicious romantic dinner at home with some wine. We all know men have a one-track mind, while you sexy ladies can multi-task forever. So try matching the perfect meal with a perfect blowjob and youll go a long way with any guy you want.
42. Give Him a Sneak Peak of the Destination
Your tongue is your weapon of mass explosion. Make it sharp, fast and passionate. Let him see it, say Aaaaah as you open your mouth wide for him to see what he can expect.
Show him your tongue so he knows where hell arrive sooner than later. Its an awesome turn on to see your wide open mouth.
43. Build It Up and Down to Prepare a Tsunami-Orgasm
Remember that you are not in a hurry, theres no such thing as how long should a blow job last? It lasts and doesnt have to arrive anywhere, thats the surest way it can arrive somewhere. Dont worry, with practice youll get to a point where you control when hell come.
Either way, when he gets closer to orgasm, youll feel his balls stiffening, his pulse speeding up and hell start making the oh, my, god face that youre already familiar with right then slow it down instead of speeding it up. Tease him to perfection.
Be playful again, take it slow, massage his penis slower and make a naughty look.
You control his orgasm.
Build up his orgasm so he doesnt come immediately but stacks it up. Then when it finally comes, when You let him come, it comes big time. Like a volcanic eruption. You know youve got him when he makes a SHOCKED face.
44. Massage The Right Spot
Heres a little tip you can use immediately.
He has a PC muscle. This muscle is what shoots out his love-potion when he orgasms, its also the muscle he contracts when he wants to control when he stops or starts peeing.
This muscle begins behind his testicles at his perineum. There are other muscles here (kegel) that are responsible for his orgasm.
What makes his orgasm 10 times more powerful is when you massage his perineum (the area between his testicles and anus) during a blow job.
Cup his balls in your palm and move your index and middle finger back to his perineum and massage that area first, hell love it, second it will clear the passage and youll make these muscles pump way harder.
When he finally reaches orgasm it will last longer and it will be infinitely more powerful (youll be surprised).
45. Let Him See You From More Than One Perspective
If you dont already, you should definitely put a mirror somewhere on ground level (or bed-level) height so when youre giving him a blow job he can also see your booty from a totally different angle. I know you may be shy dim the lights (a bit), but dont turn them off completely. Definitely put a mirror somewhere.
46. Where Are Your Wings?
Nowadays you have so many options in sex shops, get creative. Why not get angel wings and be his private angel (not Victorias).
Have a sexy costume with wings when giving him your next blow job. Listen, with awesome blow job skills, hell think youre an angel sent from Blowjob Heaven anyway. Just for fun. The key is to make it memorable.
47. Have a Glass of Wine (or Two)
Never give a blowjob when youre drunk. Youll fail, miserably. But a glass or two of wine is ideal. The main reason most women give bad blowjobs is because of negative social conditioning. Some think its dirty, disgusting or demeaning to women or whatever (and they still wonder why they cant keep a guy?). Having a glass of wine will put you both in the mood and help you let go, relax ( stop thinking ) and have an excuse for being shamelessly hungry (see tip 33). Forget about being a lady, now is not the time for that.
48. And Play Some Lounge
A big part of giving great blowjobs is creating a sexy, relaxed atmosphere where you can both forget about the world around you.
Its just him, you and the incredible passion connecting you. Play some sexy music that will put him in the mood.
Jazz, lounge, or whatever the mood you create calls for.
49. Dont Forget the Candle Light
Everybody looks better under candlelight. Forget about blowjobs in the dark. If you are too shy and keep turning the lights off you are really in the dark so to speak.
Remember, you must believe in yourself, enjoy yourself and be happy with who you are.
Be comfortable in your own skin by loving yourself, and improving yourself, not with make-up but with a healthy lifestyle, and, more importantly, a healthy mindset towards your own beauty. Say you are beautiful to yourself every day.
Candles can smell nice and make the atmosphere for your perfect blow job sexier and more romantic. The point is to capture all of his senses.
50. Smell Like Sex
And thats why its also important how you smell, put on a sexy perfume to add even more enjoyment to the mix. When he remembers that amazing blowjob you gave him that time in his mind, the first thing that will register is your smell. Whenever you wear that same perfume again hell immediately associate it to that mind-blowing orgasm and just smelling you will instantly get him turned on.
Yep, brainwash him.
51. Turn Your (and His) Phone OFF
Theres nothing worse than getting a call or text messages while giving your guy a blow job.
Sure, it may be attractive to him if hes working, playing video games, cooking or talking on the phone while you are giving him head (do it, sometimes), that makes him feel more powerful and it can be really cool, but its not a regular thing.
In general, he also wants to relax and enjoy the pleasure youre giving him, so turn your bloody phone off, and his, so you dont get distracted all the time.
52. Dont Wait to Get Tapped on Your Shoulder, Take Initiative
You should take initiative by knowing when is a good time for a blow job (most of the time), initiate it yourself to help him relax; youll see a big difference in your relationships quality once blowjobs happen more often because you wanted to please him and not because he had to ask for it.
53. Move Your Hair
Tie your hair into a bun or a ponytail (even better!) or somehow else so that your hair doesnt always jump into the action and distracts you by having to move your hair away every minute. Its annoying and kills the mood by killing your momentum.
Men are visual and love variety. The need for variety is biological. Hes programmed to spread the genes a way to trick his biology is to appear as a different person from time to time thats why role-play is attractive. A good way to use this to your advantage is to change your hairstyle from time to time and how you look.
Sometimes youll give him a blow job when you are completely naked, other times youll be totally dressed, or something in between.
54. Dont Use Hands (Sometimes Its Better Not to)
I said use your hands in tip 11, why? Because a lot of women simply dont use their hands at all. Or dont use them correctly.
Now, if you DO know how to use your hands correctly already, whats attractive is to NOT use them at all and instead give a hands-free blow job. Put your hands behind your back or on his legs (or butt) and use just your mouth.
This will force you to improve your technique and suction to the max. When he slips out of your wet mouth you can chase it back in.
Once you can get your guy to orgasm from a blow job by using your mouth alone imagine the kind of blow jobs and pleasure youll be able to give him once you start using your hands again. It will feel like a miracle.
He wont know that getting such pleasure from a blow job is even possible. You need to do this combined with Tip 30 (Let him abuse you). When using just your mouth, he can then play around with your mouth, thats why you must learn how to deep-throat and take your love deeper than Atlantis (see why in tip 21), otherwise youll never be able to make his semi-sadistic, secret blowjob fantasies and fetishes come true. And I mean, thats like a one-way ticket to happily ever after. Thats what makes him get down on one knee and put a ring on your finger.
55. Let Him Do It
When you are arriving to the finale it might just be that you cant manage to get him to arrive, then you feel like a failure and give up. Dont give up!
Giving up is for quitters and as soon as you start feeling bad about yourself and asking yourself why didnt he come yet? hell immediately see this on your face and HE will start worrying about it and then its over. He wont be able to orgasm.
Theres just no way hell orgasm after that thought crosses his mind.
Again, dont forget that he does not have to orgasm, if he doesnt dont make a big deal out of it otherwise hell have a hard time to orgasm in the future as well.
Then its just a vicious circle.
If he believes that he can not orgasm from a blow job (and many men have this false belief because they havent met a woman that gives great blow jobs, yet) then hell convince himself he cant and this will become his reality. His mind blocks his penis.
Anyway, make sure that you are OKAY with it if he finishes off himself toward the end and you keep touching yourself, massaging your breasts, showing him your open mouth and waiting for your dessert. This is also the best time to talk dirty to him.
Have stroke him while you get as low as possible and sexily lick and suck on his balls gently. (Hell LOVE this).
The point here is to have him finish himself so that he gets used to the idea that he CAN come from a blowjob.
Later on youll be able to get him of completely by yourself.
56. Spitters are Quitters
As I said before, you need to be different (better) than other women when it comes to sex and blowjobs. Set yourself apart.
Nobody says that you need to be the best in the world, just better than any other woman your man will ever come in contact with or did in the past.
Many women are disgusted by getting sperm anywhere near their face or mouth, but then again, are they in happy relationships? I doubt it.
Their man is also watching porn and wondering how come he cant get any of that kind of action?
If you want to give the best blow jobs to your guy then you have to do what most other women dont want to do.
Spitting is basically rejecting him, and its hard to make a guy believe that you truly enjoy giving him blowjobs if you dont enjoy the product of your labor.
Spitting is as if you are spitting him out, making a strange, grossed out look on your face, if you even let him finish in your mouth.
You must embrace and love every part of him. And thats why
57. You Have to Swallow (in Style)
Dont spit, swallow. A lot of people tell you swallowing is totally up to you but thats just advice thats shooting you in your own foot. You must swallow, otherwise all youve done until now is going to waste. The most important part of a blowjob is how you finish it, and if its not done right, then its better if you didnt even start the blowjob in the first place.
Swallow and do it with style, with total passion, devotion and love for your guy.
Swallowing sets you apart. Swallowing says I accept you, completely. Show him what he gave you and then happily enjoy your reward (remember, attitude is everything!).
Worried about the taste? You can make his semen taste better by making him watch his diet, and he will if he knows what benefits that brings him in the bedroom.
Dont blame him for his desires, or me for being honest with you. Blame porn for our high expectations of women. And even instead of complaining about it (as many women do), take advantage of this. Use these realizations of his desires to your advantage thats how you wrap him around your finger, by knowing what he really wants in bed, giving it to him, and then having him sexually addicted to you and seeing you as the love of his life. Men are simpler than you think.
58. Make Your Own Performance
A great blowjob is a great show. If you trust this guy (dont do it if you dont trust him!), make your own video. See how you look and how you perform.
Make show out of it, a true performance. If you make the initiative, hell love it even more. You can watch it together, and hell have some great material when the two of you are apart for any reason. Get into the role completely and have fun with it.
And some more random tips
59. Be a Sinner. Were All Going to Hell Anyway!
I dont care whether youre religious or not, or what your religion is if you are. A supremely sexy thing to add an extra dose of naughty to your blow job is to have a religious symbol on your body during a blow job. For example, if youre Christina, have a necklace with a cross on it or earrings in a cross shape while giving him a blow job.
Anything that shouldn't be done has a dose of kink to it, thats why the schoolgirl/innocent role is a turn on. Get creative with your sinner role.
60. Sit back and Enjoy
And the last tip: just sit back and enjoy ALL THE LOVE youre gonna get once you apply these awesome blowjob tips.
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Sex Games: Have 200% More Fun in Bed—Tonight!
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Posted:Oct 6, 2014 12:53 pm
Last Updated:May 23, 2020 2:43 am
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Time bomb
You need: A clock or an egg timer.
How to play: Pick a time interval —20 minutes, let's say. (If you're like us, even 10 minutes will be a change from the norm.) Whatever interval you choose, absolutely do not allow penetration until that much time has elapsed.
Why: Most busy couples have foreplay down to a science—and a bare minimum as well. "Time Bomb" refocuses you on the pregame show, the part that used to be so much fun before you lived together. You'll be surprised by how much slowing down changes things. You get really creative. You get really hot.
Blind man in the buff
You need: A scarf, a man's necktie or a blindfold.
How to play: Blindfold him. Lead him to the bed or other locale. Then proceed to ravish him—slowly, recklessly, teasingly, however you feel like doing it. You call the shots. Let his arousal be your guide.
Why: Not being able to see during sex has two major effects—it dramatically increases both sensitivity and psychological vulnerability. Either one is a powerful aphrodisiac. Together they can create a love explosion.
Variation: He blindfolds you.
You are my prisoner
You need: Four men's neckties or more elaborate restraints available from a sex-toy and a bed, preferably with bedposts.
How to play: He ties your wrists and ankles to the bedposts and has his way with you.
Why: I have to admit, this is my favorite sex game—and I never even tried it until I was in my late 30s. I find it incredibly erotic to be completely powerless, to be the absolute center of his attention and to have no responsibility for or power over what happens. I find it erotic just to think about. If you've never tried it, please do.
Variation: If you don't have bedposts, you may be able to tie your wrists to some part of your headboard or tie them together over your head or behind your back. You can get extra-long ties and be tied to the legs of the bed. This can be combined with blindfolding, but I actually prefer to see.
Bad girl
You need: A hairbrush or a riding crop—or nothing at all.
How to play: Tell your husband all the things you did wrong today. (You failed to take your coupons to the grocery store. You forgot the name of your new receptionist at work. You told your adolescent to go to hell.) Then kneel on the bed. Your husband spanks you, using his hand or a hairbrush or a not-too-scary disciplinary accessory.
Why: Spanking feels good, actually. A smart smack on the butt creates a tingly, alert sensation that combines well with the other feelings of sex. This is another thing I tried quite late in life and have been surprised to find is fun. I like it even without any role-playing or confessions—really.
Variation: The sensations are especially interesting if he combines them with playing with the various woman parts that will perforce be on display during your spanking. This is an excellent time to try inserting a vibrator again.
Beach blanket bingo
You need: A big towel or blanket and a bottle of massage oil or cream.
How to play: Spread your towel on the bed or carpet and grease each other up with massage oil—legs, torso, breasts, everywhere. Now roll around for awhile and see what happens.
Why: You will really be surprised at the difference a little lubricant makes in the feeling of skin on skin. Sure, it's a little messy. But worth it.
Variation: If you have a favorite secluded spot, this is fun to do outdoors, even on your own patio.
Tip: Don't put mint or eucalyptus oil on sensitive genital areas. But if you have a nonirritating lubricant, greasing up the sexual equipment can be part of the fun.
Note: Oil-based lubricants, including massage oil, can degrade latex. So don't play this game if you're using condoms or a diaphragm.
Close shave
You need: Scissors, a brand-new razor and shaving cream.
How to play: Your husband shaves your pubic hair. First, take a hot bath to soften your skin and hair. Second, use scissors to trim the length. Third, lie on the bed or on a table and let that shaving expert, your husband, foam you up and shave you. It's scary at first, but if he's gentle you will not get nicked. He can shave everything or just neaten you up. One friend's artistic husband shaved her hair into a heart.
Why: This is how the girls in porn magazines look, and you will be amazed at the sparks that fly. Many women find the whole area much more sensitive without the fur.
Variation: Shave yourself without telling your husband, and let him discover what you've done. Be careful when shaving parts you cannot see (this is what mirrors are for). Also, once you've shaved, decorating yourself with the edible treat of his choice—whipped cream, warmed fudge sauce, frozen orange-juice concentrate—can be fun.
Note: Later, use baby lotion or another gentle cream to soothe the freshly shaved skin. And yes, it does get a little itchy when it grows back.
Twister
You need: A car and a parking spot where you won't be interrupted (your driveway and your garage late at night are possibilities).
How to play: Have sex in the car.
Why: A blast from the past.
Sex School You need: Nothing.
How to play: Pretend that one of you is a virgin. The other is going to teach him or her how it's all done. Give a step-by-step lesson on how to use hands, lips and other body parts to stimulate the teacher. Part of the game is to correct and improve technique as you go along.
Why: You find out things your partner likes that you didn't even know. When we did this my husband showed me things to do during oral sex that I really had never tried before, and I know I'm doing a better job now.
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Does age really matter in a relationship ?
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Posted:Aug 4, 2014 3:00 am
Last Updated:Feb 25, 2015 7:27 am
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Please let me know what your opinions are on this subject do you only date guys your own age or younger or older than you.
Most people look for a new partner who is within five or ten years of their own age. While this is natural have you considered you may be missing out on Mr Right by not giving these guys outside this age range an opportunity. When it comes to finding a healthy and lasting relationship does a large age gap really matter?
The main reason people discount older people then them is for fear that they might not be suited in terms of health and energy. The reality is that many people are healthier in later life than they were when they were younger. Awareness of the need for good nutrition and regular exercise often increases with age. Younger people are often more likely to live (and get away with) an unhealthy lifestyle. Life expectancy is much longer now with advances in medicine and improvements in standards of living so if you meet someone who is fit and healthy at 45 there is the possibility you could enjoy at least 30 happy years together.
While some people dont age well there are many that do and its now harder than ever to accurately tell how old someone is. Each week there are new products on the market and the world of cosmetic surgery and dentistry is growing every year as people take control of the aging process. Finding someone attractive is based on far more than how they look, though it is important.
A strong emotional connection is an important factor in a relationship but emotional maturity often has little to do with how many years youve been alive more on what has happened to you during those years and how you have dealt with it.
A 20 year old woman might find a 40 year old man is much better suited to her than a man her own age because they might be at the same life stage ready to settle down and start a family, for example, while a 20 year old man might not be ready for that commitment.
When an older man dates a younger woman it rarely raises an eyebrow but if an older woman dates a young man there can still be some stigma attached to it with terms like cougar being used to describe her. While the opinions of your friends and family might matter to you, its more important that you are happy and confident with your choice of partner and not unduly influenced by what other people think. Love has no age restriction and while people who dont know you might judge a big age gap, the people closest to you will only care that you are happy.
The main consideration with a much older or younger partner is whether you want to start a family. This is important whether youre a man or a woman. As they do say a womans chances of conceiving start to diminish after the age of 35 so a man looking to have with will look for someone younger, but age is also a factor for a man. Biologically a man can father into his 60s, but there are other things to be taken into consideration. If a man doesnt become a father until he is 60, he will be 73 by the time the reaches puberty. Health, retirement and other issues that arise in later life will all affect how well someone can cope with the challenges of raising a family.
A large age gap in earlier life may become a problem later on. A 30 year old with a 50 year old may be perfectly happy and compatible but as they age, and begin to face the challenges that brings, the age difference could become a bigger problem. A 65 year old could be considering retirement and looking forward to free time to pursue new hobbies an 85 year old will have very different preoccupations. An age gap doesnt really matter. If you fall in love age usually becomes irrelevant
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What A Woman Wants
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Posted:Jul 15, 2014 5:04 am
Last Updated:Dec 4, 2014 3:28 am
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A woman wants to be held tight,
To be told everything will turn out all right,
She wants a man who understands,
That she can't always be strong,
She wants comfort in the night,
To be told she's safe in her lover's arms.
She wants to be told she's beautiful,
Especially when she doesn't feel it,
She doesn't want to hear frustrated sighs
When she's down,
She wants to hear quot;I Love Youquot;.
A woman wants compassion and love,
She needs to be told every day
That she's loved in every way,
When she's down and you don't know what to do,
Just hold her close to you,
She needs to be touched in every way,
She wants to be romanced,
She wants to be fought for,
To know she's worth the sacrifice that you will go through.
She wants to know you love her deeply,
And if you don't show it she'll think you don't.
So if you want a woman's heart,
Just keep one thing in mind,
She'll give you everything she's got,
If you do the same,
But if you deceive her,
There's only so far you can go,
Before her love starts to die,
And in the end it will be you whose left to cry.
To all the men out there, take care of your woman and she'll take care of you. Treat her with respect and love, don't deceive her.
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How to Prolong Your Foreplay and Have the Best Sex EVER
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Posted:Apr 11, 2014 6:29 am
Last Updated:Feb 23, 2021 4:35 am
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If you think "sex" refers only to intercourse, it's time to reconsider what it means to score. The payoff to slowing down: a longer, stronger, more electrifying orgasm
When you and your man get together, he's pretty much guaranteed to hit a home run, right? And likely, the sequence of steps involves little more than a few kisses before leaping into intercourse. But by skipping "bases," you're not living up to your pleasure potential.
Extending foreplay can rev up your arousal and your likelihood of having an orgasm. "You may discover things about each other's bodies you didn't know or learn new ways to please each other," says therapist and relationship expert Amber Madison, author of Hooking Up: A Girl's All-Out Guide to Sex and Sexuality. "Plus, it's bound to make the experience more intimate, and it can remind you of the early days of your relationship when the sparks were flying." Follow these tips for holding at each base
First Base
Focus on making out. With tongue. A study published in the journal Neuro Endocrinology Letters found that couples are happier and less irritated after kissing, and the warm, face-to-face contact boosts peripheral circulating proteins in the body that improve overall health and well-being. "French kissing offers a deep connection in a small moment of time," says Kristina Wright, author of Bedded Bliss: A Couple's Guide to Lust Ever After.
Start by planting a closed-lip kiss on him as you straighten his tie or collar. Gently tug on his bottom lip with your teeth before introducing your tongue. (As a bonus, first smear on a mentholated lip balm or gloss for plumper, more sensitive lips.) Or try what Jessica O'Reilly, Ph.D., a sexologist in Los Angeles and author of The New Sex Bible, calls "lip lining": Trace your tongue around the curves of his lips, paying extra attention to the thin skin at the corners. "It will give your honey a peek into your sexual skills, too," she says.
Second Base
Holding hands on your way to dinner is cute and all, but copping a feel in the car before you walk in? That's hot. "Touch is important throughout a relationship, not just in the beginning when you're learning each other's bodies," says Wright. Research in the journal Sexual and Relationship Therapy suggests that couples who caress their partner's body experience an increase in erotic feelings and overall marital satisfaction.
So if you and your man are feeling a little frisky in a secluded corner of a bar, a dark movie theater, or the back of a cab, don't swat each other's hands away from exploring underneath your shirt or over his pants. Better still, channel your adolescence by getting off with your clothes still on: Rub up against each other at a concert or on a dance floor. "Just be slower and more deliberate with your motions, so you can avoid that awkward, sometimes painful humping you did as a ," says Madison.
Third Base
Once you're in the privacy of your own bedroom, you may have gotten into the habit of rushing through this base—which includes any manual or oral action below the belt, say our experts. It's a shame, considering that both men and women in long-term relationships wish foreplay would last longer: specifically, for about 18 minutes total, according to the Journal of Sex Research.
O'Reilly suggests performing this move on your guy: After asking him to close his eyes, wet your hands with lube and use them to fondle his testicles while you perform oral sex. The mixture of your slick hands and mouth will give him the sensation of two mouths on him instead of one—and will surely send him over the edge. In return, have him kneel on the floor between your legs (as they dangle off the bed) and roll the sides of his tongue together so it forms a tube. "He should slide his tongue in and out of you while pressing his lips into you in order to create wet suction—starting slowly and then picking up the pace," says O'Reilly. Try a range of third-base acts like this and you'll both be more likely to reach a happy ending.
Home Base
Most of the time, you're going to go all the way. But sex that's had this kind of a pregame is not the same as a let's-get-naked-and-do-it quickie—especially if you, or your guy, have already climaxed. If that's the case, it helps to call in some reinforcements. "Many couples use lubricants to maintain wetness and vibrators to add sensation to sex if they're going for orgasm number two," says Logan Levkoff, Ph.D., a sexologist, author, and sexual-health educator.
If two O's are unheard of for you, it's especially important to relax—which means forgetting about the finish. "If you focus on the goal, you may psych yourself out altogether," says Levkoff. Control your breathing so that it's slow and deep, and communicate to each other about what spots are too sensitive, or which moves feel just right. Overall, think of revisiting the bases "as not just physically intimate," says Levkoff. "It's emotionally intimate too."
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How to Get a Girl to Like You
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Posted:Feb 24, 2014 8:49 am
Last Updated:Feb 1, 2015 1:03 am
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1. Have your own life.
If you tend to fall into the "friend zone", this will be especially important. Real girls (girls with a strong sense of purpose and self-worth) don't like guys who have no lives or who cling to them like plastic wrap . Some girls do like that, but for all the wrong reasons—either they're insecure and needy for attention, or they're control freaks who have a need for dominating guys. Unless you want to sign up for one of those scenarios, focus filling your time with your own friendships, interests, hobbies, and goals. This also gives her a chance to do something with you without it becoming a date.
2. Look neat.
Keep yourself well groomed and in shape. If you want to get a woman to like you, basic cleanliness and appearance are extremely important. Girls notice things like bad breath, flab, body odour and greasy hair before they notice that winning personality. Give them a chance to see your good qualities by making a good first impression with your appearance. •Stay in shape. Work out regularly: run a mile or two, do some sit ups, get a six pack, etc. Note that while fitness is important, you shouldn't overdo it; having too many muscles can make it look like you care more about going to the gym than fostering meaningful relationships. Also, some girls dislike having the Incredible Hulk as a boyfriend, and it makes you look slightly stupid - thanks to the dumb jock cut-out. So make it clear you're fit, but not thick. In other words, stay fit without being obsessive or a pair of walking biceps.
•Have good personal hygiene. Brush your teeth, shave etc. If you can't have access to a toothbrush, carry breath mints. When you take care of yourself, it makes you more appealing to others and it will thus have a positive impact on your level of confidence. Always be sure to smell and look nice, so shower regularly and nothing is worse than the post-gym stink out, so use deodorant.
3. Speak to her.
It's unlikely a girl will be at all interested in you if she doesn't know you exist. Make an effort to talk to her, even if approaching her seems scary at first. Highlight your compatibility as friends and more by talking about hobbies and interests that you have in common. Become her friend; she can't get close to you unless you're friends. •Find a hobby you both like. It doesn't matter if it is anything from sports to school. If you both like hockey, invite her to a game. If you both like video games, play one together, or she could cheer you on if she doesn't usually play. Girls are all different in likes and dislikes.
•If your conversation skills need a polish, read a few of these:
I am doing all these things so whats going wrong - Ladies help wanted.
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Successful Women Do Not Fall In Love
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Posted:Feb 3, 2014 8:46 am
Last Updated:May 14, 2014 8:04 am
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Do you agree or disagree with this article I just read.
I think the biggest critical thinking error of women of my generation is that in striving to “have it all” they don’t take the necessary first step of asking, “do I want it all?”
The whole cliche presupposes that “it all” is a desirable thing. To me, “having it all” seems bulky and cumbersome. It would be stupid to split my time and energy up among a bunch of things when I could focus my undiluted attention on a select group of things that I really care about.
So then, why isn’t this piece titled “Successful PEOPLE Don’t Fall In Love?”
Because, when men fall in love, they get a wife. When women fall in love they get a husband. Despite idealism, the reality of these two paths is very disparate. For men, falling in love is an asset, for women it is a sentence to hard labor. I have no interest in marrying a woman, but I would love to have a wife. They cook and clean for you, remind you when it’s your mother’s birthday, and shoulder all the biggest burdens when it comes to raising . Hell, my ideal relationship would be if my husband and I could have a wife so we could both be supported without having to deal with all that minutiae ourselves.
Women respond to me when I talk like this saying, “oh, my boyfriend is progressive, he’s not like THAT.” I don’t mean stating my personal preference to be an insult, but it’s not the truth they relay during any other conversation about their relationship, even if they don’t use those words. We’re kind of brainwashed to take care of other people, and make them happy and for me, being single is kind of an armor guarding against whatever cultural or biological intuitions are telling me, as a woman, to be self-sacrificial.
Let’s say you want to have a husband and and a job that pays enough for you to be comfortable. That’s an achievable dream for most of my peers, the upkeep of a relationship with an easy to moderate job can work for a woman. You can balance. However, there’s people like me who don’t like middle ground, it’s not for everyone. I don’t want to be a latte, I want to be an espresso. I want all of something, or I don’t want it at all.
I want success. I want to be truly great at something. Being great at something requires sacrifice and focus. Like, when you close your eyes and your hearing improves. Obviously it’s possible, and for the vast majority of people, preferable to see and hear at the same time. But when it’s truly important, you’ll sacrifice one for the other. I caught a reality show the other day where a guy was asking his girlfriend to start a rule where three nights a week she would be done with work for the night by 5pm. THREE times a week. 5pm. That’s insane for people who are trying to build something big.
Could the thing I be “successful” or “great” at be being a wife or a mother? Sure? I guess? But then the thing you are great at is helping other people. You are a supporting cast member in your own biography. That’s not for me.
That feeling of belonging you get from being a girlfriend or wife or mother– that’s what other people feel when they’re successful. You might think it’s the “shallow” motivators of power or money. I know, personally, that’s not it. I am in love with myself, in love with building my work, which will outlive me, and in love with proving people wrong, the ones who told me what I couldn’t do– be happy and secure and the center of my own world.
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Break Ups - Wil this mend my broken Heart.
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Posted:Jan 10, 2014 4:45 am
Last Updated:Jan 22, 2014 5:23 am
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They are hard! Here are some of the things you can do to help your friend following a break up:
•Help them to concentrate on getting through one day at a time
•Routine can help
•Help them remember the things they enjoy to do
•Spend some time with them, let them speak about it if they want, if they don’t then respect that but let them know you are happy to listen if they want to talk later. It is likely that your friend can be up one day and down the next.
•Getting over a break up, and we all do get over them, does take time. Really try patience. They may talk about it over and over, but they need to do that to make sense of things. Try and hang in there to listen and know that it will change for your friend eventually if they have the opportunity to express it all.
•Let them cry if they need to. It is a normal response. Let it happen.
•Don’t tell your friend, “just forget about him/her”
•Suggest that your friend try some ritual to acknowledge the relationship and how it changed them but now it is a new phase (e.g. write a letter about it and burn it – don’t send it!)
Please I really need some good advice was with this person for nearly 4 years and was due to get married in SEPT 2014.
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Top 10: Proven Traits Men Desire In Women
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Posted:Dec 11, 2013 7:48 am
Last Updated:Nov 10, 2016 4:21 pm
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I came across this article today do you think this article is correct or wrong.
According to evolutionary psychologists, way back when, men and women crafted different strategies to get what they wanted in the mating game. Modern men and women are, therefore, programmed to find specific biological and psychological traits attractive in the opposite sex.
At present, science has more questions than answers when it comes to our desires: it’s rife with speculation on the origins and meanings of human behaviour. But here we present the top 10 proven traits men desire in women.
10: Moderate neuroticism
Women suffer more from anxiety disorders than men do, and studies show that excessively anxious (or highly neurotic) women report less satisfaction with their relationships than women who score lower on this trait. At the same time, some scientists have hypothesised that moderate levels of neuroticism may actually be attractive, as they imply that a woman will be a good mother, concerned for the welfare of her .
As for what to do if you’re already in a relationship with a neurotic partner, research suggests that having more sex can help salvage your relationship.
9: She wears red
We all know that red is the colour traditionally associated with love, sex and romance, but a study by Andrew Elliot and Daniela Niesta proposes that our interest in this colour may actually have a biological basis.
The idea is less wacky than it seems, as plenty other species use this colour as a marker for mating.
8: Waist-to-hip ratio
There is a magic number when it comes to the ratio between a woman's waist and hips that men find most exciting. In the Western world, that number is 0.7, which means that the circumference of a woman's waist is 70% the circumference of her hips.
In other cultures, slightly lower or slightly higher ratios have been found to be attractive to men from those cultures. From an evolutionary perspective, a ratio under 0.6 may signal hips that are not well suited to childbirth, and a ratio in excess of 0.8 could suggest fertility difficulties related to being overweight.
7: Large eyes and a balanced mouth
Substantial research points toward the notion that men find large eyes appealing on women. The reason is that while such a feature may serve as an indicator of femininity, it has also been linked to long-term health and reproductive potential.
Furthermore, Michael Cunningham’s studies on physical attractiveness have found that men perceive an ideal female mouth as one that, at mouth level, is 50% the width of the face.
6: Bodily attractiveness
A 2010 study by Jaime Confer, Carin Perilloux and David Buss claims that when guys are told to look at photos of a woman and think about her as a short-term dating prospect, men indicate that a woman's body is more of a priority to them than her face.
The idea here is that when cavemen were pursuing a short-term mating strategy, body cues, such as whether a potential sexual partner appeared fertile or was already pregnant, would have alerted a man as to whether getting busy would be worthwhile (genetically speaking). The translation is that for modern men seeking a one-night stand, a hot body counts.
5: Agreeableness and ability to empathise
A study by Daniel Nettle at the University of Newcastle found that on a questionnaire of personality differences, women rated significantly higher than men on scales measuring empathy. Furthermore, this study suggests that empathy may be considered a form of agreeableness.
When theorising on the origins of this sex difference, the researcher hypothesises that for our ancestors, the ability to create and maintain social alliances may have been relatively more important for women than for men in order to help ensure the survival of their offspring. In the modern world, that means men may find women who are extroverted, agreeable and highly empathic more appealing than women who exhibit these traits to a lesser degree.
4: She's ovulating
A large body of research has examined the notion that humans are capable of unconsciously detecting a wide range of bodily chemicals (not just pheromones) that signal a potential mate's reproductive status. A study published in 2009 by Saul Miller and Jon Maner had men sniff the dirty T-shirts of women at different phases of their menstrual cycle. The scientists found that men smelling the shirts of women who were ovulating had higher testosterone levels than men who sniffed the shirts of non-ovulating women, suggesting that men are more drawn toward a woman when she is ovulating.
A further study by the same group, however, suggests that men in a relationship are more likely to rate an ovulating stranger as less attractive compared to single guys, emphasising that other variables, such as the motivation to preserve your present relationship, can exert an influence over your desires and behaviour.
3: Self-sacrificing
A study published by Vladas Griskevicius of Arizona State University and his colleagues in 2007 demonstrated that women in a romantic state of mind are more likely than men to endorse volunteering or engaging in charitable deeds.
The catch, however, is that women indicated a preference for engaging in this self-sacrificing behaviour in public places, suggesting perhaps an unconscious sexual motivation on their parts and the notion that men may find this trait appealing in a woman.
2: She appreciates you
One of the major complaints men have in a long-term relationship is that they often feel criticised, as if nothing they do can please their partner. In other words, they feel unappreciated, which (unsurprisingly) has consequences for their relationship and the couple's sex life.
Conversely, research by marriage expert John Gottman has shown that partners who regularly show appreciation for each other report higher levels of overall satisfaction with their relationships.
1: Facial attractiveness
When pursuing a long-term mating strategy (that is, a serious, committed relationship), men zero in on a woman's face. In one recent study by researchers at the University of Austin at Texas, 75% of men told to favour a long-term mating strategy indicated that a woman’s face was a more important consideration to them than her body. While this news is perhaps not shocking, another study from the Kinsey Institute has revealed that during sex, compared to their female partners, men are more likely to initially look at their lover's face.
Together, these studies may offer some insight into why women spend significantly more time primping their faces by applying makeup and doing their hair than they do adorning their bodies.
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How to Hug a Girl
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Posted:Oct 11, 2013 4:10 am
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Was Looking today and wanted to know what women feel about getting hugs or cuddles as never really thought about there was a method to it an art to hugs, I just thought that you hugged someone to show that you appreciate and care about them. I must be doing it all wrong then, also so many different hugs with different lines that I have listed below. Have you tried them.
Method One: Hugging a Girl You Like
1. Wait for the right moment
When you hug a girl is just as important as how you do it, so play it safe by picking a good moment. Three good times are:
When you first see her. It's always nice to be greeted by friends with a quick "friends" hug (even if you want to be more than friends).
During an emotional moment. Whether you're on the same team that just won a big game, or if she's having a hard day, a hug can be a really good way to reinforce that you're there for her.
When you are parting ways. As with the greeting hug, saying goodbye with a hug is a nice, friendly gesture.
2. Try to figure out if she'd like to be hugged.
Girls make it obvious with their body language when they are open to physical contact. Based on how she is standing, or how she greets you, you can figure out if she is comfortable with you going in for the hug.
Signs she is interested: She makes eye contact with you.
She plays with her hair around you.
Her hips or feet are pointed directly toward you.
Her tone of voice is animated and bright when she talks to you.
Signs she isn't interested: She doesn't hold your gaze.
Her body language is "closed" (crossed legs, folded arms, body turned away).
Her tone of voice is flat when she talks to you.
3. Approach her gently.
Resist the urge to dive in and hug her as quickly as possible. Instead, take a deep breath and move in at a pace that allows her to decide whether or not she wants to hug you. Make eye contact, move a little bit closer to her, then lift your arms and pull her in.
If you've read the signs incorrectly and she doesn't want to be hugged, it's essential that she has a second to back out before you make contact. Otherwise she'll feel forced, and the situation will turn awkward.
The upside is that slower movements are generally considered more romantic. So if she does want you to hug her, a smooth and gentle approach will seem all the more intimate.
4. Decide how long you're going to hold the hug.
The duration of your hug says a lot about what it means to you. Here's a basic guideline to follow:
The longer you hold on, the more intimate the hug is. Embraces longer than a few seconds are meant for significant others or close family members.
Shorter hugs are more casual. The average "hello" or "goodbye" hug should be about one or two seconds of holding.
5. Release.
Pull back from the hugging position in one smooth move. Typically, you want to begin to pull back before she does. Ending it a few seconds earlier than you have to can keep the hug from veering into awkward territory.
If she starts to let go or you can feel her go limp in your arms, it’s best to just immediately release. The exception to the rule is the "intimate" moment (for example: shes upset and crying or you just kissed) in which its considered appropriate to slowly pull back.
6. Finish it off in a cute way
The way you end it should depend on the situation. If you really like this girl, though, the end of a hug is your chance to do something adorable that she'll remember. Try these scenarios:
For a casual greeting or goodbye hug, say "I'm so happy to see you!" or "See you around later!"
For a hug that acknowledges an accomplishment, that often means a congratulations for an award won, a job well done, a wedding, or other significant life moment. Generally, "Congratulations!" is a great thing to say.
For a comforting hug, tailor what you say to the situation. "It's OK," or "I'm here," are both good things to say.
For the buddy hug, say whatever sparked the hug in the first place. "You're awesome," or "We really rocked that ultimate Frisbee game, didn't we?" is always fun.
If it was a more intimate hug, we'll leave those follow-up words to you. Make them count!
7. Learn about different hugging positions.
If you're still nervous, read up on these different hug positions and visualize which one might work best for your particular situation:
Slow-dance: Her arms will go upward to around your neck and your arms will go under hers. You can put your arms around her waist or higher up her back. The lower your hands go on her back, the more suggestive the hug is. This can be a very intimate hug—use it wisely.
Big bear and little bear: Her arms will go below yours and you will wrap around her back while her arms wrap around your waist. This is a friendlier hug and allows her to be pulled close to you and have her head rest on your chest.
One-arm sling: This is the least romantic kind of hug—more of a buddy hug, really. This is when the hugger comes in from the side and wraps one arm around her shoulders or neck, as a casual friendly hug.
T-Rex: Both the hugger and the girl’s arms stay around the waist and lower-back area. This will allow for the both of you to rest your heads on each other's shoulders. This is going to allow for a friendlier, less suggestive hug.
Criss-cross: One arm goes up and the other goes down to create an "x" with your arms and hers. This can lead to the perfect "pull back and kiss" position where both of you still have your arms holding on to each other with enough room to still kiss.
From behind: This is a hug you only do with a girl you know well, and unless she likes scary surprises, let her know it's you as you move into the hug. This is a very intimate hug that can lead to very intimate things very easily.
Method Two: Hugging Friends
1. Go with the flow
While, customarily, people have greeted each other with handshakes when first introduced, these days people frequently hug on introduction without thinking twice about it.
This is more often seen among groups of friends than one friend introducing you to another friend.
Use your instincts, but the best rule of thumb is that if you're offered a hug, go for it.
2. Make contact.
Remember to keep the physical contact quick and light for hugging friends. Anything more prolonged might be misinterpreted as romantic.
Lean in, bending from your waist. The idea here is not full-body contact, which is a much more intimate and personal hug.
Wrap one arm around her arm, and place your hand in-between her shoulder blades.
Wrap your other arm around her, and place your hand below your first hand
3. Hold briefly and release.
One or two seconds, tops, is the ideal length for a friend hug. Let go of her as soon as this much time has passed, and resume conversing as you normally would.
Tips
Have good hygiene. Unless you just finished a game of ultimate Frisbee (or other vigorous activity), If your body or breath stinks, she's not going to have fond memories of the hug.
Don't hold her too tight. She's not a squeeze toy, so don't treat her like one. Hold her firmly enough so she's comfortable, but leave her room to move.
If you make a mistake, try to recover casually and don't worry about it. Using humor to diffuse any awkwardness.
If you know your girl well enough, she may be flattered if you pick her up and spin her. Be careful with that, though: some girls don't like that, and she may flatten you instead!
If a girl (you know, *the* girl) comes up behind you and wraps her arms around your neck and sets her head on your shoulder from behind, she is comfortable with you and is showing you affection - if you feel comfortable too, lean your head back on her neck and talk to her.
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Posted:Oct 2, 2013 5:27 am
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Please can the women view my profile and let me know your thoughts as was getting a lot of views and would like your opinion on how I can improve it please.
many thanks in advance of your time.
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30 Ways To Get A Guy To Ask You Out !!
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Posted:Sep 9, 2013 7:39 am
Last Updated:May 23, 2020 2:40 am
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If you wonder whether there are ways to get a guy to ask you out, the answer is, yeah! In fact, there are quite a few effective ones! So if you like this guy, call it a crush, butterflies in your stomach or love at first sight, you can easily get HIM to like YOU enough to ask you out! Of course there is no unique surefire formula, as all guys are different and so are the circumstances, but do not despair! These are 30 different ways to get a guy to ask you out that will work. If you try any or all of these awesome ways to get a guy to ask you out, trusty Cupid will do the rest!
1. Be You
No one likes deception. Think about it. If a guy was extremely gentlemanly on the first date (opened doors for you, pulled your chair out, etc...) and all of that magically disappeared when the two of you got a little more serious, you would feel cheated right? So don't do the same thing. Yes, we all tweak our normal selves to impress the other person, but there is a fine line between tweaking and being downright fake. So listen to him when he talks about his favorite sport but don't pretend to be a born fan just to get him to like you and ask you out. This is definitely one of the top ways to get a guy to ask you out!
2. Dress as You Normally Would
Don't dress a certain way because you think that's what he would like. That's a sure-shot sign that you are trying too hard, especially on a first date. When I was 15, I had the biggest crush on this guy and I knew for a fact that his ex always had her face plastered with makeup. If he liked her that way, surely he would like me with a little blue eye shadow? I never found out because the one and only time I experimented with it, my best friend (thankfully) caught me before anyone else could see me and made me swear I would NEVER do that to my face again. I can't imagine what would have happened otherwise. I probably should have read these makeup tips for a successful first date. Moral of the story: If you are uncomfortable with very short skirts, high heels and dramatic make-up, steer clear of them. Try and figure out what works best for you and rock that with confidence!
3. Accentuate Your Best Physical Features
There are some things you can wear and then some clothes that you should just not wear especially on a first date. Fashion trends are going to be the death of us one day! Don't follow them just to get a guy to ask you out because in the bargain, you might be highly uncomfortable and that's not the best thing for your confidence. Instead, figure out what suits your body and find ways to accentuate your best features. Draw attention to your killer legs, wear colors that bring out your gorgeous eyes, wear a belt to emphasize the curves of your waist, you get the point. Just remember that learning what looks good on you is a process. You may goof up every now and then but that's okay. Just be comfortable and enjoy the process!
4. Don't Be Fake
While cultivating the same interests as the boy you like is great, you can't fake it. As you've already read, one of the most important ways to get a guy to ask you out is to, above all, be yourself. So, faking an interest in football or pretending you're also wild about video games isn't the best idea. You can be interested in them – and interested in HIS interest – but don't fake it yourself. That could come back to bite you in the butt later.
5. Eye Contact
Eye contact really is a great thing. You can say so much with your eyes – like telling him you're interested. Whenever possible – again, without being too obvious – try to catch and hold his eyes. If you catch him staring at you, that's even better. Capture his eyes when you do, and smile at him. He'll definitely know you're interested too, and that may make it easier for him to approach you.
6. Flash a Smile
One of the most powerful weapons we have to melt a guy like silly putty is a beautiful smile! So whenever you bump into him, use your pearlies and use them well! There's no easier way to show a guy that you are friendly, approachable and most importantly, interested in him! Also, when you catch that eye contact, don't just stare, flash him a smile.
7. Be Clear
It's hard trying to figure out what another person's thinking, so if you want a guy to ask you out, make sure you're sending out crystal clear signals. You don't have to publicly declare your love for him or anything but make him feel special by flirting with him and treating him differently than you do other guys. Sit near him, flirt with him, touch him a little and even play the game of favorites with him when he's around.
8. Scheduling
One of the most important ways to get a guy to ask you out is to find a way to show him subtly that you are available and very much single. Try and weave it into general banter. That's what I do. Also, this would be the perfect way to find out if he's single or no. If the coast is clear, yay you!
9. Take the Initiative
Shrinking coy violets rarely get noticed. So if you like a guy and you want attention from him, stop waiting and praying and take that first step...no matter how scary! The next time you see him walk by, flash a lovely smile and say hi. You can't possibly go wrong with that! Here are some other ways to take initiative without scaring him off. Confidence is enamoring and sometimes, you might need to push yourself to take that first step but it's so worth it! These tips to show you are interested in him without being too clingy are sure to come handy.
10. Be Approachable
By that, I naturally don't mean you should be easy. You shouldn't throw yourself at him, either. What I mean is that you should make sure he's in the kind of position where he'll feel comfortable asking you for a day. The wrong way to get a guy to ask you out is to constantly be surrounded by a group of friends. That might make him feel really uncomfortable, so make sure you have private moments together without making it too obvious.
11. Common Ground
There are certain specific things most men love talking about: cars, sports, action movies to name a few. Find out what his likes and dislikes are and try to steer the conversation in that direction. And like I said earlier, don't pretend to be a fan of something just because you think it'll get him to ask you out. At the same time, don't shoot down his interests by saying something like "I HATE sports." Seem genuinely interested and listen to what he has to say. And if you really hate something he likes, try to playfully argue with him. That will bring you closer. Remember the keyword: playfully!
12. Seize Every Moment Together With Him
I know that sounds a little vague, but really, ladies, carpe diem. Don't let fear hold you back! Guys like outgoing girls. I don't mean be obnoxious and in everyone's face – I know we all hate THAT girl. I mean, don't let fear rule you. If you're at a karaoke bar, rock it out. Remember that life is a series of opportunities, so don't let a single one pass you by when you're trying to get the guy you like to ask you on a date.
13. Be Witty
You've heard it said that guys love a girl who can make them laugh, right? More often than not, that's entirely true and that's what makes this one of the ways to get a guy to ask you out. If you've got a sense of humor, don't be afraid to show it off! Better, be witty, because that takes both intelligence and humor, and there's nothing sexier than that!
14. Don't Get Friend-Zoned
A lot of girls try to be a guy's friend first, and that's a great idea – theoretically. The thing is, you have to be careful when you do this. Great relationships form when you're friends first, but you don't want to get trapped in the friend zone. He has to see you as a girl, too, not just one of the guys. Otherwise, it might never occur to him to go out with you, and that's definitely not what you want. You can find the balance by never letting him forget you have a feminine side while still coming off as the girl with all the cool points.
15. Leave Your Friends Out of It
Many so-called relationship experts will tell you to get your friends involved in letting him know you like him; they tout that as an excellent way to get a guy to ask you out. I patently disagree. This approach can be way too childish, and might turn him off. If your friends can be subtle and feel him out a little, to see where his thoughts lay, that's one thing. If they're going to be all, “Oh em gee, our friend totally likes you, do you like her??” then definitely don't let them take that approach.
16. Act on It
You took the initiative and used flirting tips to make him notice you and it worked! You and your crush are now talking to each other and now you want ways to increase sexual tension between you and your crush. Here's what you need to do. Glance at him often and if he catches you looking, smile. When the two of you are talking, look right into his eyes, listen to what he says and laugh at his jokes. Twirl your hair. And please make it look playful as opposed to forced. Brush your shoulder or arm against his every now and then. Actions do speak louder than words and you should take a moment to read about these body language signs of flirting. All this will make him realize that you are very interested in him.
17. Find Excuses to Hang Out With Him
I have seen a lot of comments from readers who want a guy to ask them out when they've barely even interacted with him. That's not how it works girls! You need to get to know him and give him a chance to get to know you. Hang back after class, ask him to help you out with homework (even if you don't need it), ask him to teach you how to play a musical instrument (if he does play one), the excuses are endless and any will do!
18. Flirt
This is another one of those occasions where you have to be careful, but as long as you know how to find that fine balance, you're all good! Flirting with a guy – following other tips mentioned, like maintaining eye contact, finding subtle and innocent ways to touch him, and so on – is an excellent way to get a guy to ask you out. Just don't go overboard, because you can come off desperate, and that will turn off a guy very fast.
19. Listen
You love it when your friends and dates listen to you, right? Well, he does too! Listening does more than let him know you're interested, though. It will also allow you to pick up subtle clues and hints about what he's feeling, and that might clue you into a better approach to entice him.
20. Don't Talk About Yourself too Much
know a lot of girls who think the perfect way to get a guy to ask you out is to tell him every single thing about yourself. That is not a good idea. If he mentions liking a restaurant, you can say you like it too – but don't “regale” him with anecdotes and stories from every visit you've ever made to the place. That's not giving him a hint; that's hitting him over the head with a heavy brick of information. Keep some of the mystery – let him find out about you at his own pace!
21. Stay On Topic
You've done everything you've had to do. The flirting is on full swing. You've probably also used these tried and tested punch lines for getting asked out. Now all he has to do is actually ask you out to one of these best places for a successful first date. Some guys are smarter and will usually ask you out by this point. Others need a few more hints. So what I do is discuss stuff like upcoming concerts, new movies and restaurants that I can't wait to check out. Sound excited without sounding too desperate and you never know, an invitation may just be a breath away. When you do get to that first date, remember that certain topics are just off limits. Here are some things not to discuss on a first date. Also, read our post on little known conversational tips for a successful date.
22. Stop at a High Point
What I mean by this is when you are having a conversation with him and you feel like it is dwindling or that you may be running out of things to say, find a believable excuse to say goodbye and cut it short. I know it's the last thing you want to do but trust me this way, he'll look forward to your next meeting. The idea is to leave him wanting more of you. This is one of the more cleverer ways to get a guy to ask you out.
23. Position Yourself Cleverly
If the two of you are about to spend a decent amount of time together, just remember to keep changing your position often enough without seeming too fidgety (These ways to calm the nerves before the first date will come in handy). Face to face interaction usually means maximum eye contact and that will help you connect better. But sticking to his side, especially in a crowded room would mean being able to be closer to him physically. Remember to lean into him and talk softly. It's all about clever and timely positioning. And like I said, don't do it too often or you might get asked "Do you wanna use the restroom?" like I did!
24. Have Fun
If you are with another group of friends, concentrate on them instead of having one eye on him constantly. Don't spend your entire time watching his every move like a hawk or you're going to seriously spook him out. Instead, enjoy yourself with your friends. Get them laughing or talking animatedly to you. This will make him wish he was with your crowd, especially with you. And if he happens to walk by, a warm smile and a hi would be perfect. And what if you are in a group with him? Well, read these ways to behave with your crush when you are in a group. I promise they'll help.
25. Make Him Feel Great
How you make a guy feel is probably the most important factor in getting him to fall for you and eventually ask you out. Remember, flattery will get you everywhere. Believe it or not, men love compliments as much as we do. So don't hesitate to tell him that he has an adorable smile or that you love his shoes or the cologne he's wearing. As always, remember not to go overboard with compliments or you will come across as fake. Also, be there for him and be nice to him. It will make him want to spend more time with you.
26. Be Confident
How can you expect a guy to fall for you if you don't love yourself? Confidence is one of the most attractive features about someone and when you are comfortable in your own skin, it shows! Just remember that you are wonderful and unique and that no one is perfect. Of course, be careful not to cross that thin line between confidence and cockiness
27. Have a Sense of Humor
Nobody wants to date a grumpy grandma. Of course, you don't have to have a smile plastered on your face 24/7 but it's nice to be around someone who is cheerful and will laugh at your jokes (or tell him off playfully if you don't find them funny) and most importantly be able to see the funny side of difficult and embarrassing situations. Remember, "if you can't laugh at yourself, life's gonna seem a whole lot longer than you like."
28. Don't Be Obsessive
I know that you think you're in love with him and that he's the one but no matter how intense your feelings, don't give in to any stalker tendencies you might have. Don't text him constantly, don't call him all the time, don't "accidentally" land up where he hangs out or wait for him outside his class everyday. I assure you that there's no faster way to send a guy running in the opposite direction. All men need and appreciate a little space!
29. Be Patient
"My mama said 'you can't hurry love'" and it's so true! I know you can't wait to get into a relationship with him but nothing kills a budding love story like impatience. You've done your bit and put your heart out there and now you need to be patient. Give him his space and time to figure out how he feels about you. I'm not saying you have to wait a lifetime but let things progress naturally. The results are far sweeter that way too...
30. Don't Take Rejection Personally
know this seems like a morbid tip in a post of ways to get a guy to ask you out but there is a little chance this might happen and I think it's very important to not take rejection to heart. If you've tried everything and he doesn't seem to respond or has turned you down, understand that at the end of the day you can't force feelings onto someone. He either does or doesn't feel the same way you do and the important thing is you tried. So move on and remember there are plenty of fish (some better) in the sea.
28. Don't Be Obsessive
I know that you think you're in love with him and that he's the one but no matter how intense your feelings, don't give in to any stalker tendencies you might have. Don't text him constantly, don't call him all the time, don't "accidentally" land up where he hangs out or wait for him outside his class everyday. I assure you that there's no faster way to send a guy running in the opposite direction. All men need and appreciate a little space!
29. Be Patient
"My mama said 'you can't hurry love'" and it's so true! I know you can't wait to get into a relationship with him but nothing kills a budding love story like impatience. You've done your bit and put your heart out there and now you need to be patient. Give him his space and time to figure out how he feels about you. I'm not saying you have to wait a lifetime but let things progress naturally. The results are far sweeter that way too...
30. Don't Take Rejection Personally
I know this seems like a morbid tip in a post of ways to get a guy to ask you out but there is a little chance this might happen and I think it's very important to not take rejection to heart. If you've tried everything and he doesn't seem to respond or has turned you down, understand that at the end of the day you can't force feelings onto someone. He either does or doesn't feel the same way you do and the important thing is you tried. So move on and remember there are plenty of fish (some better) in the sea.
Follow these 30 ways to get a guy to ask you out and I'm certain he will ask you out in a flash! Personally I believe that if the two of you have a great time together but he won't make the first move, just ask him out yourself. When you have this list of places for a date he cannot say no to, you'll feel more confident.
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How to make a woman squirt
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Posted:Aug 5, 2013 1:46 am
Last Updated:Jun 16, 2014 2:39 pm
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If you want to give any girl a mind blowing orgasm? Try this:
Take your middle finger and with your palm facing upwards, start fingering her as deep as possible, feeling for a "squishy" area past the pubic bone. When you find this area, start doing a motion inside of her like you are telling someone to "Come here" with your finger(curl your finger upwards and towards you). Continue doing this until she can barely take it anymore and is almost at the point of cumming(you will know when trust me). Then start using your finger like a jackhammer going as deep and as fast as you can in and out. The girl may tell you she feels like she needs to pee(some girls have never experienced what is about to happen before). Reassure her that she doesn't have to pee, and that she is just going to squirt/gush. Keep going through her screams(and she will be screaming---loud!) and bucking, and you should feel an explosion of cum start...pull your finger out and watch her squirt or gush all over the place. Be ready for her to literally almost tear skin off of your arms, chest, shoulders or back because she will be grabbing/digging her nails in so hard...it really does hurt prety bad and I have gotten some nasty skin gouges when I wasn't prepared for it...
After doing that to her, no matter what else happens, you are the fucking man, and guess what? No need to worry about not lasting as long...you cannot prematurely ejaculate from your middle finger...
Most girls will be so hot for you after that they will literally tell you "We can do anything you want tonight" or "Do whatever you want to me", and trust me they mean it...if you have any porn star fantasies, then is the time to get them out...
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