ONE NIGHT STANDS
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Posted:Aug 14, 2007 1:11 am
Last Updated:Feb 26, 2015 3:58 pm
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Are one night stands appealing to you, I know of several men who would not mind indulging in a bit of casual sex without any hope or binding that it should culminate in a serious relationship. As a general rule, men do not have too many hang-ups about such indulgences. There are a lot of women too, who are not keen on getting into any commitment and can agree to this kind of casual sex with their dating partners. There are very heavy chances though, that during your dating life, you will get into a situation, what I term as reverse-payback. This means that while you get mentally attached to a woman who you indulged with, for a quickie, but before you know it, she has left you.
If your sole aim is to have these one night stands, go ahead, indulge, but prepare yourself with a stronger head and a steadier mind. While there are enough women not too keen on commitments, but have casual sex as a mode of having fun, they are essentially however, looking for the same standards from men , as other women : dignity, trust and that magical spark called attraction, except, may be in different amounts.
If you are seriously contemplating to indulge only in these casual sex encounters, you have to hype up your seduction powers: abundance of humor, charm and the ability to tease your way through, so that your plan bears fruit faster. From a public arena, move quickly to a more private, romantic and secluded place, where you can communicate with her one-to-one. While you move her away from the public glare, pump up your seducing prowess to the hilt. The two should be worked out simultaneously to make that magic happen.
In case you are in a quandary, as to which women to select for such a sexual escapade, the right target are those women who you have an instant chemistry with. Through the right communication, glances, touches, the instant chemistry �clicks� � and you have found the right person. Please don�t judge these women as �easy� or �cheap� � it is simply that they are �readily available� at that moment. One can�t deny that ever so often we meet such women, with whom just the eye contact, spells instant attraction and we have that butterflies-in-the-stomach feeling from that moment. But beware, such women fall in to the far side of the range � from �super-easy� to super-rigid� � and all along you must have to practice the basic principles of self-discipline and controlled behavior.
How you manage a one night stand depends primarily on your personality and your requirements. There are many instances where a one night stand has culminated in a brief romantic interlude. Please note that it is indeed hard to graduate from a one night quickie and glide into a steady, trusted and stable relationship. The basis of almost all short to long term relationships is, a far more lengthier period of romancing rather than jumping into frenetic sex.
It is beneficial for you to remember one basic fact: honesty is the best policy, even in bed! While you are in the seduction process, be honest and truthful about your intentions, face up to whatever you are committing � do not glib talk your way through right into her bed or panties ! For the simple reason, lies ultimately don�t take you anywhere. Not only is deception dishonorable, you do get paid back in your own coin, sooner or later. I am not scaring you with concepts of bad �karma� but as an adult, you know that every action you take today, will pave the way for your tomorrow, and many tomorrows.
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BEST SEXUAL POSITIONS ~ FOR SPICYING UP THE WOMEN ON HER BACK POSITION??
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Posted:Aug 14, 2007 1:09 am
Last Updated:Aug 2, 2010 10:14 am
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Are you tired of having your lover fall asleep on top of you after sex? Then it’s time to introduce the best sexual positions into your love making and possibly even fire-up the intimacy between the sheets. Adding variety in sexual positions with the woman on her back can potentially lead to the most amazing sex and bring you the most incredible orgasm, if you know how.
First, spice up the woman on her back position by participating in the pumping, the gyrating and all that coital hip movement that comes with this sexual position. Lift your hips and meet him thrust for thrust. Experiment with different angles in this sexual position. This will allow for variance in depth of penetration, intensifying the sex. To get the best out of this sexual position, raise your knees up, bracing your feet on the bed or ground or wherever you are lying down, gyrate your hips as you bring your lover towards the pinnacles of sexual pleasure.
One of the best sexual positions to try during love making is to open your legs wide lifting them up. Open your legs as wide as you can in a letter V-shape and you’ll see that this simple leg movement allows for even deeper penetration. The higher you can lift your legs up, the deeper your lover can penetrate you. For best results, embrace your lover with your legs or brace your feet on his butt and increasing the depth of his thrust.
The key to the best sexual position for the woman on her back is to prolong your orgasm by relaxing your vaginal muscles. Put your legs down alongside or underneath your lovers’. The shallower thrust with this position enables him to maintain a rock-hard erection and make the loving last for hours.
Most important of all, is to practice these sexual positions, it is essential to unlocking the secrets to sexual pleasure. By making your lovemaking technique supercharged, steamy and earth-shattering the last thing he’ll do is fall sleep!
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HOW TO REALLY MAKE YOUR WOMAN HAPPY!!!
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Posted:Aug 14, 2007 1:07 am
Last Updated:Dec 4, 2014 4:39 am
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I cannot Believe how many men I have come across men who are extremely anxious about performing oral sex on a woman as they pefer to receive than gave. For some reason they feel they can’t do anything right or at the very least are a little insecure about whether or not their partner is experiencing pleasure and having an orgasm. If you are one of these men do not despair! There are many things you can do to improve your skills in this area! There is no need to be intimidated. Oral sex is like any other part of expressing your sexuality in a healthy, successful, pleasurable way-if you are able to pay attention and put forth a little effort there is no reason why you should not be able to give your partner tremendous pleasure!
Some simple tips you can use as a starting point for amazing oral sex. They are perfect examples of steps you can take that do not require a lot of thought or preparation. Check them out and give them a try!
1.Put a pillow under her hips. It provides easy access!
2.The tongue can feel rough when it is dry! Be sure to coat your lips and tongue with saliva!
3.After you have been going down on her for a while, try inserting your finger in her vagina and stimulating her g-spot!
4.Work UP to the clitoris. Start by kissing the inside of her thighs, then her whole vulva and finally the clitoris.
5.Know your anatomy!! It is hard to stimulate the clitoris if you don’t know what it is or where it is located! Or anything else for that matter…
6.Ask your partner for feedback. Every so often, ask her if it feels good, what would feel good etc. There is a gentle way to ask and give feedback about sexual performance. If the lines of communication are open from the start, this will be easier but also, don’t be afraid to jump in during the middle of things!
7.Vary your intensity! Many women prefer that you start slow and gradually increase the intensity and many women need more intensity the closer they get to orgasm.
8.If your woman is experiencing vaginal dryness, try some flavored lube!!!
Remember - You guys aren't the only ones that enjoy oral sex.. And if you are going to do it, we want you to do it well! So keep the above in mind next time the occasion comes up ( no pun intended!) and you and your partner will both enjoy a more gratifying and intimate sexual experience.
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THE WOMENS GUIDE TO HIS BODY !!!
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Posted:Aug 14, 2007 12:36 am
Last Updated:May 23, 2020 3:04 am
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When it comes knowing your mans body are you in touch with all his sweet spots. That is, "are you enjoying all that your man has to give?" Or do you just stick to what you know? Well here are a few spots that you might like to try if you have not done so already.
I will cover all these points in detail for you..
G-Spot, Ears and Neck, Nipples, Stomach, Back, Butt
Foreplay <--- covered entirely in it's own article
Keep in mind that foreplay should last at least 20 minutes to achieve the staying power that you are seeking. Never rush take your time and enjoy your love play with your partner.
Here are some Sweet Spots to get you started:
Ears & Neck:
Ok I have started with the ears and neck because its at the top. It is your choice where you would like to start. For the purpose of this article I am working from the top and working my way to the bottom with stops every where in between.
So lets get started. Even the lightest touches will get your partners attention. Just bringing your lips close your partners neck or giving him a brief soft sensual kiss will start to make the hair stand up on his nec Moving nibble on his ear will then start getting his engine going. It will be like making a Tiger start purr. Be attentive and watch what you are starting stir in your partner.
There is a hidden pleasure spot behind the ear, it the little place that indents where the ear joins the nec With a little pressure and a rolling motion of the tongue in that spot should get him going as well.
The neck muscles of a man are super sensitive spots to sensual bites and touches. Nibbling on your partners neck muscle that leads from the neck to the shoulders should send shivers down his spins and make him start to think what other parts of his body that you are going to devour. It creates lots of passions sparks and will keep him coming back for more and more.
You do not only have to use your lips and tongue. Be creative and get intimate. Try ice, a silk or satin against his skin. Feel his body respond to your touch
Nipples:
Now men's nipples have as many sensations as a women's nipples. To keep him as attentive as you had him when you were nibbling his ear try doing the same to his nipples. Gently start with running your fingernails lightly around his nipples and then follow that with your tongue. At the point when he wants more of the nibbling and kissing keep him guessing by heading elsewhere. Keep his guessing of where you are going to touch him or kiss him next. Return to the original spot where you started the more he responds to your touches. All these things together are starting to heighten his arousal and builds the intimacy between you both.
Stomach:
This is always a favorite erotic area, especially early on in your foreplay. This is a tease, as you are frustratingly close to the Man's penis. This tease is best used early on, as it's too frustrating to bear for long.
Back:
I am sure that your partner will be a willing partner for this one. Ask him to roll over on to his stomach. When he does straddle him and then start to massage his shoulders and neck as well as leaving a trail of kisses with your soft sensual touches. This will give his passion a little bit of a breather and prep him for what is to come.
While you are caressing his back gently move your nails lightly down his spine, stopping just at the base of his rear end. You can also follow this path with your tongue as will leaving a soft sensual trail with your tongue. You will be defiantly getting him in the mood for what is to come.
And for the people who are into this:
Butt:
The bottom is probably the the most softest, most fleshiest part of the body. And lends itself amazingly erotic touch. It is suggested that one of the way to pleasure your partner this way is to use "The Wave. " For this you will need massage oil.
Now while your man is on his stomach you may want to try and sit across his thighs, facing his head. Put some of the massage oil in the palms of your hands and rub your hands together to warm them up. Then place the palms of your hands on his lower buttocks and very slowing and deliberately, lean your body weight onto your hands so that your body weight pushed yours hands up his buttocks, all the way to the base of his spine. When you reach the top, slide your hands down again to where you began.
This kinds of deep on an often ignored pleasure zone of your partner will get him warmed up for sure.
Perineum
( G- Spot):
This is also known as the " G Spot" The perineum is the penny-sized spot between the testicles and the anus. Think of this as an "hidden overdrive button" that will have the potential to take his orgasm over the edge.
The perineum is said to be the "root" of the penis and like the exterior part of the penis has an incredible amount of sensitive nerve endings. This spot is best left to with for the hottest of moments, when he is just about on the edge of his orgasm. During oral sex, after he is already very much aroused place a finger or knuckle on his perineum, pressing firmly in a pumping motion and while doing this you should see instant results.
After you have had fun with all of his body parts you will see the results of your loving work unfold before your eyes. But do not think that your work is done because love making is not a one sided affair. Genuine interest in your partner is a must and any falseness in your feelings or in your actions will definitely be noticed.
Now that you have got him where you want him and if you are anything like me this is the perfect time engage in Oral sex.. However if this is not your thing here are some alternatives that you can do. I suggest that if you have a silk scarf, something soft that would feel erotic the touch. Second you might want to try an ice cube between your teeth and tease your partners penis. Tease your way up and down his shaft and end up at the head of his penis all the while you are letting some of the cold drops of the melting ice cube slide down the shaft of his penis down to his testicles.. You will defiantly start to see his shiver as his excitement builds. Before long you will see his hunger for you has grown fold and he will only be wanting be penetrating you show you the results of your love .
Now that you've got him right where you want him, the goal now is his Staying Power.
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A WAY TO GET A MAN ATTENTION FAST !!
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Posted:Aug 13, 2007 2:23 pm
Last Updated:May 5, 2014 1:03 am
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If you REALLY want to impress a man who is flirting with you... instead of basking in his flirtatious attention, ask him - in an equally flirtatious way - this simple question:
"So tell me... what kind of woman do you respect?"
Adding a flirtatious element to a serious question is fun and inviting way of building SEXUAL TENSION that will instantly separate you from every other woman he's ever met. It lets him know that you're sassy, smart, and selective - an IRRESISTABLE combination.
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WHAT WOMEN WANT !! PART 1 AUG 2008
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Posted:Aug 13, 2007 11:02 am
Last Updated:Feb 23, 2009 3:57 pm
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What look at pictures of celebrity and famous men with women...and who do you think's reality is it? His reality or the girl he's with? She is happy just to be 'near him' and even if you take away the celebrity of men like this, if they still have a strong reality, they will still have hot women in their life.
I've said before that there is still hope for the average man who really understands natural attraction (without having to be termed as a player or seducer); in fact you can live the lifestyle of your dreams while also giving women what they are looking for. Of course our women bring a lot of great value and excitement to life (why men fall for them in the first place), but I'm looking at the other side because men are feeling a lot of confusion when dealing with independent women.Women are dying to finally meet a man who can just be someone who does not put up with her drama or puts and keeps her on a pedestal.
Unfortunately because it has become so much a part of who she is, it works out for the both of you to have a short-term relationship. Otherwise her natural independence and diva like behavior will automatically infiltrate your lifestyle and create a shaky and unstable ground because that is where her reality is based off of.
Of course women will say that they want the attention and to be put on a pedestal; this is only because this is her perception of reality and what our society has programmed her to be.
It is denying everything that is universally biological about her, and that is why she cannot explain it. Women have so many more options other than 'just' to be a mother nowadays. That is why things are different from what she says she wants in a man and what she will often accept when she does find a man (no matter his looks) who knows how to trigger even any little part of her biological unconscious behavior.
That is why she will often accept men who are ugly fat and balding only because they did not put up with her high-level crap and instead treat her like a lady where she is second and he is first because that, I'm sorry but that is the way it's supposed to be and that is what women want.
The 40 year old virgins that we have are a result or by product of everything that is going on. This is a blatant slap in the face to the continuance and existence of all humankind. It is a very serious problem, even though we may laugh at it at the theater.
Okay the guys of us who of 'got some' may laugh at the theater but we may all actually know some guys who do not know how to be successful if women. This is NOT natural at all, I believe these men DO know how to perpetuate and go through the process of natural attraction in order to procreate; but all of this cultural junk and garbage has gotten in the way.
The pervasive 'forced reality' which is perceptual (yet so real) has covered what women want. Women still want a man to be a man (and this is just as real). Unfortunately the effects of feminism encourage men to be 'sensitive' towards women. This may stop most men from trying to be 'dominant' towards them.
You see all these ads with women biting men or men at their heels or service; this is part of the whole problem; but nothing has changed what women want underneath. In fact they want a man to be a man more than EVER.
How can celebrity and famous guys live in a candy shop and most guys are still so frustrated? Well if you look around, there's a candy shop of women everywhere who are fixing themselves up and waiting for a real man.
Of course they are competing with other women but for what final purpose? To attract a real man. You can't let their now inherent 'drama' throw you off; they're not going to tell you how to act. You have to BE the man who has boundaries.
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WOMEN, HOW TO FIND, ATTRACT AND KEEP THE MAN, YOU LOVE !!
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Posted:Aug 13, 2007 10:03 am
Last Updated:Oct 26, 2016 4:02 pm
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Wouldn't it be nice to skip the dozens of dates with lame and shallow men most women have to go through... and fall right into the arms of the man you really want?
Would you like to learn how to captivate a man with your sharp wits and your kind heart... and never have to worry about just being wanted for sex again?
Would you like to have an almost "unfair" advantage over all other women when it comes to meeting and attracting the man you want... including those women who might be prettier and younger than you?
Are you tired of dealing with men who never really commit?
Do you want to break out of the destructive cycle of meeting men, dating them, getting into relationships, quitting things that you like to do... only to end up breaking up with the guy and feeling like you wasted your love and your life away on him?
Do you ever feel like you just can't find the right man for you... and if you did... that he might not be attracted to YOU? Would you like to know how to change this?
Or is there a man in your life right now with whom you would like to take things from "casual" to "committed", but you're not sure exactly how to do it in a way that you know will work... or even if he is interested in in YOU the same way?
Or are you in a relationship right now that seems to be growing "stale"... because your man doesn't do nice things for you, call you, or make plans the way he used to... and you'd like a fast and easy way to get things back to the way they used to be?
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THE 3 DEADLY MISTAKES WOMEN MAKE WITH MEN WITHOUT EVER REALIZING IT !!!!!!...
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Posted:Aug 13, 2007 9:52 am
Last Updated:Mar 12, 2015 1:36 pm
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These are the 3 biggest mistakes that are responsible for more failed dates and relationships with men.
Mistake #1:
Leading A Man To Think You Are "Needy" And "Insecure"
Did you know that there are 6 ways you can set off a man's "Insecurity Alert" and make him think twice about pursuing a relationship with you?
Sadly, even confident women often "accidentally" give off one of these signs... and just one can kill the chance of a man asking you on a second date.
As you read through these signals men pick up on as "needy" and unattractive, ask yourself if YOU have ever been guilty of committing one of these deadly mistakes:
Talking or saying nasty things about your past boyfriends. Saying bad things about men you have been involved with actually reflects the negatively back on YOU. It makes a man worry you are carrying around "baggage" that HE will have to deal with should he become involved with you.
Speaking negatively about other women. When women call other women names like "slut", "bitch", and "crazy", it is anything but impressive to a man you are attracted you. Women will often do this when they see a good looking, desirable woman, especially if they feel their man might be attracted to her. This just makes a man think you are trying to cover up your own insecurities, and looking for validation and attention. Not good.
Too much physical contact, especially in public.
If you are constantly hanging on a man or touching him too much he'll start to see it as clingy behavior... but you'll never hear about this from him. It's far better to save your touches for short and infrequent moments that will surprise and enchant him.
Mistake #2
Appealing To His "Sexual" Side Instead Of His Emotional Side
Many women make the mistake of thinking that men are primarily driven by sex alone... and think if they can attract a man SEXUALLY they will be able to attract him EMOTIONALLY as well.
Women too often give up sex to a man in the hopes that it will translate into a relationship and get them what they want. In reality, a man has the capacity to view a sexual connection and an emotional connection as two entirely different things, and it requires a special set of skills to mold these two things together in a man's mind... and keep them connected.
Men are out for far more than just sex... and a woman who knows how to fulfill a man EMOTIONALLY and SEXUALLY will be the woman who captures a man's heart... and gets that same fulfillment for HERSELF. In a moment, I'll show you how you can learn to do just that...
Mistake #3
Not Knowing How To Size Up A Man's "Relationship Potential"
A lot of women will decide whether or not they should put energy into building a relationship with a man based on ATTRACTION.
Yes, attraction is important. But it can also be DANGEROUS.
When we feel a strong sense of attraction for someone, it can cause us to override our logic and ignore our instincts... leading us to overlook potential partner's deadly faults that could spell trouble down the road.
If you've ever found yourself stuck in a relationship that is dragging you down, this is probably why.
It's important to be able to size a guy up and spot any "warning signs" of a future bad relationship FAST... so you don't waste any of your time or emotional energy on someone who isn't right for you... or who will leave you heartbroken.
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How to Tease Him With Your Tongue
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Posted:Dec 29, 2016 7:02 am
Last Updated:May 23, 2020 2:50 am
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Tonguetastic tips to tantalize and tease your partner into submission! Learn how to use your tongue to communicate with your partner by giving him pleasure first.
Your Tongue Is Your Weapon But Only If You Use It Right!
Believe it or not, you can use your tongue to give your guy pleasure and when your guy is enjoying himself he is at his most receptive! If you have problems in your relationship that you want to address but he isnt listening to you, first think about how you can use that tongue of yours to give him pleasure rather than stress. Here are some ideas:
Use your tongue as a sexy visual turn-on.
Experiment with deep sensual kissing.
Have fun with some light erotic tongue teasing.
Use your tongue to expertly seduce your man (all the way to submission!)
How to Use Your Tongue as a Visual Turn-on
The first thing you need to do, whatever issues you and your partner are having, is remind him of what he finds attractive in you. This will immediately divert his attention away from all of the more undesirable traits you may have been portraying through your frustration: nagging, moaning, sulking, bitching.
Dress yourself up. You dont have to go over-the-top; were not talking about transforming yourself into the sexual siren he has never seen in you. The idea is for you to feel sexy and confident, but it is more important for you to feel like yourself so go for comfortable attire maybe a casual top that shows off your shoulders or neck. Wear your hair up and away from you face, perhaps with a few feminine tassels. Most importantly, make sure your mouth looks amazing!
Your mouth is perhaps one of the most erotic parts of your body. It is a sexual signifier and when a guys attention is brought to a womans mouth, the only thing he is thinking about is how much he wants to experience it all over him! So, brush your teeth to make sure they are fresh and white, wear a lipstick or gloss that makes your lips look luscious and juicy, and get ready to put that tongue of yours to good use
Now, while you are talking to your boyfriend, whether it is in a formal, social, private or public setting, bring his attention to your tongue by looking at him directly in the eyes while you are talking. Look at his mouth while he is talking, run your tongue over your lips, bite them. Whatever you can do to bring his attention to your tongue, do it! Even if you have to ask him if you have something in your teeth, it will do the trick. As soon as he clocks that sexy tongue doing its thing, you will have caught his attention, and you can be guaranteed that the wheels of his filthy imagination have begun to turn!
The Secret Success of Deep, Sensual Kissing:
When you have been in a relationship with a guy for a while, you may find that you have become so used to each other that you have moved away from all the sexual tension that used to get you both going, to a safer, cutesy communication of feelings, such as quick pecks on the lips that dont involve tongues, tickling and another larking about, or even farting and burping competitions. Yep, that is just how comfortable you may have become. If you want to ignite the sexual fire between you and re-form that intense physical and mental connection, you are going to have to go back into a more risqu territory.
Kissing your boyfriend doesnt have to be mediocre just because it is in the middle of the day and there is no bed in the vicinity. It can be easy to get into a rhythm of expecting a passionate kiss to lead to sex, and perhaps that is why so many couples stop using tongues when kissing if the situation doesnt accommodate the next natural step. You want to feed his sexual anticipation, though, so put that tongue of yours to proper use.
You have already turned him on by bringing his attention to your tongue visually; now give him a taste literally! The next time you kiss him, he will be expecting the usual tongue-less peck. Surprise him by slowly slipping your tongue into his mouth. Not all the way down mind you; you dont want him to gag in surprise! Just slip it in between his lips, touch his tongue with yours, slide your hand around the back of his neck and go a little deeper, let him know you desire him even though you cant have him right then and there, then slow down and step away.
How to Tease Him With Your Tongue:
Now that you have established the initial visual turn-on and the follow-up deep sensual kissing, you can be sure that you have set up a very clear image of what he can expect from you when youre alone together. Be prepared for an evening of seduction.
Make sure that you have set up a nice warm and relaxing environment, with low lighting and pleasant aromas. Make yourself feel wonderful by having a soak in the bath beforehand and dressing in something feminine. You might want to cook some food or open a bottle of wine. Once you are both settled and youve had a bit of a kiss, let your tongue explore.
Start off around his face by kissing and nibbling on his ears and around his neck and collarbones, which are all sensitive spots; work your way over his body in any direction that feels right; focusing on using light flickering movements and small kisses. You can also use your hands to stroke and squeeze, helping to build the tension.
The cardinal sin is to raise a guys sexual expectations without follow-through, so make sure you unbutton those pants of his and make your way down to the only place he really wants to feel your tongue!
How to Use Your Tongue to Give Him Expert Oral Sex!
An important thing to remember ladies is that the woman who knows how to pleasure her man with her mouth is the woman who is likely to get everything she wants in the relationship. Why? Because if you show your man that you can do things with your tongue that no other woman has ever had the self-confidence to do to him before, he will always view you as a sexual goddess. He will feel like the luckiest boyfriend on the planet to have you as a girlfriend, and he will want to make you feel like the luckiest girl on the planet, too. Once you learn how to give the best blowjob, you will have the power to open up his mind so that he is more receptive to your needs in the relationship.
The trick to using your tongue during oral sex is to really mean it! When you lick his penis, it doesnt matter what techniques you want to try and use; the most important thing is for you to be able to communicate to your man that you are thoroughly enjoying having his penis in your mouth. Its difficult to pull this off if you dont genuinely enjoy oral sex, so take your time to get to know his penis, and enjoy finding out what turns him on more.
Here are some tongue-tips to help you explore his penis and bring him to an amazing climax:
Only do what feels comfortable and natural to you.
Experiment by using the different sides of your tongue.
Vary the strokes so that they are light and flickering around the head, and long and purposeful up and down the shaft.
Continue to use your tongue even when his penis is inside of your mouth, as you can give him extra stimulation by moving your tongue about while you apply suction or move up and down his shaft with your lips.
Dont forget to swirl your tongue around the sensitive head of his penis too!
Now that you know how to use your tongue to satisfy your man sexually, you can sit down with him to talk sensitively about the things that you feel need addressing in your relationship. Remember to keep the tone positive and non-judgmental. And perhaps wait until he has come down off his sexual high naturally rather than put a dampener on everything by bringing up your issues immediately after his orgasm!
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60 Tips On How To Give A Great Blowjob ?
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Posted:Dec 29, 2016 7:01 am
Last Updated:May 23, 2020 2:31 am
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1.How About a Blow Job?
The right words are often more powerful than the best blow job techniques. A mans orgasm happens in his mind; saying what he doesnt even know he desires to hear can trigger an instant orgasm. Thats why blowjob dirty talk is so important. Ask him How about a blow job? and see the instant smile on his face.
Most women are quiet and make an Im-working-on-an-important-assignment face, without saying a single word.
Why so serious? Relax have fun with it. Nobody expects you to talk while having a penis in your mouth, stop for a second, take a breath smile give him a compliment, tell him youre enjoying yourself, ask him for feedback, or tell him what you want him to do.
The rule for blowjob dirty talk is: whatever you say, say it with complete belief.
If you are afraid that what you say will sound too fake or awkward: it will.
Believe in what you say and say it fearlessly, and anything you say will sound great. Theres nothing clean about a blowjob, so dont try to be classy about it once you are already on your knees.
Never forget that how you say it is more important than what you say. You dont need dirty talking lines, you need playfulness and the confidence to let go of your fear of being looked down upon for talking dirty. He wants you to be slutty, so give yourself permission to cross the line.
Also, know that saying anything is usually better than saying nothing at all. You dont want him to feel as if you are in your head, thinking, worrying, and giving him the this-is-rocket-science serious face. So speak up!
2. Moan (louder)
If youre not sure what line to throw at him, then at least moan. Then moan some more, and some more.
Moaning creates pleasurable vibrations that make your blow job better in more than one way. Moaning is perfect as a substitute for talking dirty, if youre still shy about it.
Moaning a lot communicates an important message: Im mmm enjoying myself. And that is the core of a great blow job.
Dont expect him to enjoy receiving it if you dont enjoy giving it.
3.It may be called a blow job, but its not a job, if you think it is thats why you suck at it
Viewing a blow job as a JOB is the main reason why most women are horrible at blowjobs. Dont be one of those nasty women.
View blow jobs as a source of ultimate-pleasure for yourself, and thats exactly what it will become for you.
Of course, you need to find the right guy for this, naturally, for some men its simply not worth your effort, but for a guy you truly love, its only natural that you enjoy pleasuring him in any way he desires.
Find a guy like that. (Then keep him by giving great blow jobs!) You deserve it. Or maybe not, yet. As long as you view blowjobs as a job youll have a hard time finding Mr. Right, okay you may find him, but keeping him? Thats a whole other field.
Stop viewing blow jobs with a whats in it for me? way of thinking. Or as a gift you are giving him.
Women that give miraculous blowjobs are so good at them because they not only love it, but they also view it as a source of pleasure for them.
They are thankful for the opportunity to get pleasure from it.
4. Look Into His Soul
Dont be shy. Your eyes are the windows to your soul. Let him see the passion in your eyes. Your eyes can almost smile up at him.
Let him see pure joy in your eyes. Smile with your eyes. Wink at him when youve got him deep.
Dont worry, you look great from up there. By looking up at him you communicate; you see his reactions to your moves and you can adjust your performance. The most important moment for eye contact is the moment he is having an orgasm. Thats when he falls in love.
5. Choose a Good Position
When giving a blowjob you have total power over him. Either he gets complete pleasure or complete pain in case you bite off his manhood.
So even tough you have power, still, a blowjob is a submissive act where you submit to your mans power. In a way it is your attempt to tame him, a moment where you have his full attention.
Your submission to him is something you should exaggerate because thats part of the turn on behind a blow job.
Because men are visual be in a position where he has a nice view of you, and a position where he appears more dominant.
Choose a position in which you are more submissive, down, on your knees, for example, looking up at him from below. When thinking about good position look for good comfort and a good view, in the sense that you are comfortable so that you dont lose focus and so that he has the feeling of power over you because of your complete submission to him.
6. Change Your Attitude: just enjoying it is not enough
Attitude is everything. The right attitude means that you give a blow job for your own pleasure, not his, and that you dont just enjoy doing it, as some magazines will tell you, but that you can not live without having his penis in your mouth.
7. Its a Marathon, Not a Sprint
Hurrying during a blow job and racing to the finish line wont make that blow job great.
On the contrary, it will only give an impression that you just want to get it over with and continue with your no-blowjobs policy life. Never make an impression like that because it kills all your previous effort.
Take things slow. Focus on the journey. Enjoy every second of it and forget about the destination.
There IS NO DESTINATION. You dont want to get anywhere.
There is a practical time and place to speed up a blow job and its not now.
Dont worry about weather too much time has passed since you started. Dont put time-constraints on your blowjobs. Let it last as long as it lasts.
You are not in a rush. If you get tired too fast thats because you arent using all of your assets.
8.Turn Off Your Mind You Must
Logic kills emotions.
The two cannot work together, and, in a blow job, there simply is no space for logic.
Emotions, feelings, passion those should be your guidelines for a great blow job.
Any logical thinking can only kill the pleasure and take away your focus.
When you think you are not present, and when you are not present you are not in the moment enjoying it but rather worried about something. Why didnt he come yet? Am I doing it right?
You make eye contact, so he will see that your mind is racing away, and once he sees that you are in your mind, worried about something its over. Youve killed it. Now hes thinking about what you are thinking, and he cant relax and enjoy the pleasure you are giving him.
Dont think. Turn off any logical thinking during a blow job and youll instantly see positive effects.
9.Love It So Much That Hes Scared for Your Sanity
Love his cock. Love it beyond normal love. Love it more than your best friends, family, your dog, air, water. Love it more than your favourite food after months of starvation.
You need to be hungry. Literally starve for it, need it, like a drug addict needs his or her drug, thats the way you must need and desire his penis. Without love for his little friend or big fella you will never give the kind of blowjob every man dreams of.
Believe me, this addiction is the best thing you can do for your relationship.
10.Leave No Solider Behind
Amiga, Im talking about his cojones.
So many women forget about this.
Dare to be different!
There is more to his penis than his penis. All around that area is sensitive and you have to use all of it to create a full-package blow job.
Theres so much you can do with his testicles. Tickle, kiss, gently suck, massage, the list goes on. Just make sure you are gentle and considerate because one wrong move can lead to supreme pain.
11.Use Your Hands (Correctly)
If you think that your mouth is the only tool you can use for a great blow job then you are very, very wrong. Imagine you are going to war with a knife while you have a full arsenal of weapons like bazookas, AK-47s and grenades in your trunk. What a waste.
Your hands are the basis of a great blow job. Use oil, lots of it actually, for foreplay purposes. Learn to give hand jobs by taking your time to practice on him.
Give him a hand job and take your time, let him teach you how to satisfy him, where to have a tighter grip and how. Make sure you oil it up!
You can only learn this by practicing, and again, not being in a hurry. Be playful with it. Have fun and take your time. Every man will appreciate your efforts of improving yourself and the best you can do is to be open about it.
12.Believe in Yourself (even if you have to fake it)
Look, nobody expects you to be super-confident about something you are not yet good at.
People are confident about something they are good at, and the only way you can get good is by practicing. The better you get the more confidant you will become and the better your blow jobs will be until then: fake it.
You know, fake it till you make it.
The worst thing you can do is to be indecisive about your moves, because indecisiveness brings you back into your HEAD. And we dont want that (Tip 8 Dont Think).
So until you naturally get confident about your blowjobs by practicing, simply fake your confidence. Wait. Scratch that. You can practice as long as you want, but if you practice the WRONG stuff, youre just waiting your time (and his patience).
Convincing yourself that what you are doing is the right thing and even though you may be wrong, still, youll be sure of your moves and that by itself is a good thing.
13. Dont Bite (too hard)
This is a tip you already know, obviously, nobody wants his penis chopped off by some razor sharp teeth.
But dont think that teeth can ONLY produce pain, actually, biting his penis can be erotic, but also a bit scary. So, it can also excite him, if you do it playfully.
Just dont try this if youre a beginner.
14. Learn from the Masters, Young Padawan
There is a reason porn is a multi-billion dollar industry.
They know what sells. And theres a reason why it sells, because thats what the market of men are looking for. Thats what makes them hard.
So start watching porn and see how and what the pros are doing.
Copy what you like.
15. Smile, Mona Lisa
Again, its not about techniques, but about what you communicate to your guy during a blow job.
Of course, you cant smile while having him in your mouth, but what you can do is stop for a second, take a breath, say something kinky, then smile the point is that you communicate a simple message I like what Im doing you are there because you want to be there, not because youre just doing him a favor and he should be thankful he got any.
A negative, bitchy attitude like that wont get you far. Communicate the right message and the orgasm will start in his mind, not his penis.
16. Practice, baby, practice!
Ive read somewhere (I think Malcolm Gladwell first mentioned it in his book Outliers) that you need about 10 000 hours of doing something to master it, any skill.
I doubt that you need 10 000 hours of blow jobs to become great at them.
With the right information, you can progress quickly. Unlearning what you are doing wrong is a longer process than learning from scratch.
Whats important is that you understand that nobody expects you to born with awesome blow jobs skills. It takes time and practice.
You know the story when a tourist asked a street musician Excuse me, do you know how do I get to Carnegie Hall? Practice, baby, practice!
Its natural to be a beginner at anything and it takes time, practice and dedication to get good at it.
Find a guy that you truly like so you are naturally motivated to make him happy and practicing on him will be fun.
Dont be afraid of failure or doing things wrong, every sane guy will appreciate your efforts of improving and practicing on him  Just view it as a challenge.
17. Look Better (dont be lazy)
The better you look the more attractive you are to him and this simply adds to the physical and psychological pleasure you are giving him. View it as an extra. All else being equal (sex skills, personality, compatibility etc.) how hot (or not) you are is what makes the final difference.
Discover his fetish. Nice bras, corsets, fishnets, G-strings, high-heels, or spandex he can rip apart also, whatever makes you feel sexier.
This is a rule: You cant be sexy for him if you dont feel sexy about yourself. So dont work on your looks because of him, do it for yourself.
18. Tease to Please
Tease, but dont overtease.
Be playful. Take your time and give him longer and slower licks and kisses. The point is that you have fun all the time during a blow job.
Dont jump into action right away, its should be a fun game, not a race to get a job done.
Add playfulness to your blow jobs and cut out the dull, scientific-like seriousness by teasing him, giggling, taking your time and helping him mentally relax and get into the mood.
Put some temptation into the game before you jump into the real stuff. Bite his shaft for fun to tease him (as if youll bite it off) and see how hell get rock hard in an instant.
19. Play Games
Have fun and play some games Role-play isnt just for sex, you can do it for blowjobs too.
Bring some props, pour chocolate sauce all over him, lick it off of him. Keep it fresh.
Dont forget that too much of a good thing can become a bad thing after some time simply because its not scarce anymore.
This doesnt imply that you should give him a blow job once a year. Hell no. But also not every hour. Find a balance and stay playful and creative about your blowjobs.
Know when its not the right moment for a blow job and when it is.
20. Surprise!
Theres no point in having everything planned out, theres nothing exciting happening then that you didnt expect.
Surprise him from time to time with an out of a sudden blow job when he least expects it. It shows you care. Never wait for him to ask for a blow job, thats just lame. Take initiative. This alone will already set you apart from other women.
Remember, you dont have to give the best blow jobs in the world, just better than anything hes experienced thus far.
21. Go Deep or Go Home
Warren Buffett, the greatest investor of all time said The best investment you can make is an investment in yourself. Amen to that.
If theres one sex skill you should invest in, then thats learning how to deep-throat.
Set yourself apart from other women luring over your guy by being unique in this rare skill. One in 10 women give great blow jobs, and that one can usually deep-throat with ease.
Knowing how to deep throat shows your dedication to learn something completely and go through a doze of, lets say pain, but more precisely discomfort, to learn something priceless and get to a stage where its not uncomfortable at all anymore.
With enough willpower you can master anything, even deep throating and killing your gag reflex. Once you can do that, your guy will never, ever desire another womans mouth in his life.
When it comes to deep throating: you have to believe in yourself. You can do whatever you believe you can or cant.
Simply stop being a quitter and giving up every time you try to take him in deeper. Focus on relaxing your gag reflex and pushing through it. Push your tongue out, go a bit deeper and then hold it there for as long as you can until you get more and more comfortable with it. Be in a position where you control the movement so he doesnt try to thrust deeper himself.
Believe you are great at giving blow jobs and you will be with more time and practice, but start by believing in yourself and adding a dose of confidence to everything you do. Every suck, kiss, lick and look needs to be more secure.
22. A Brazilian is Not Just for Women Anymore
Stopping every minute to take hair off your tongue or from between your teeth is horribly annoying not just to him but of course to you as well. It kills your momentum.
Make him shave both his bush and his balls so that its a more welcoming place for you.
Its a simple trade-off. He shaves, and thus you enjoy giving him blow jobs more and youll give them more often. Its a win-win.
23. Dont Make Strange, Confused, or Disgusted Faces (we read them better than you think)
You dont see your facial expressions when giving your guy head so youre not aware of the strange faces you may be making and what these faces may communicate to him.
It doesnt matter if you say you enjoy it when your face tells him the truth.
Let him see true desire on your face. Love all about him and his penis completely.
Just avoid making the Im working on an important project face or the am I doing this right? face, or the why didnt he came yet? face.
These ruin a blow job, no wonder he cant orgasm.
24. Observe and Adjust
Women that give great blowjobs all have a simple thing in common: they are great observers.
They use their intuition and they study their guys movements, reactions, sighs, moans, words, they look up at him from down below seductively and follow his reactions to her every move, then she knows weather she should speed up or slow down. When, where, how.
Force your guy to be more vocal about his true desires and force him tell you what he likes most. Ask him what he likes and hell open up, just make sure he knows that you wont give him a bad reaction if hes brutally honest with you. If he likes giving you a facial then thats what he should get.
25. Use All of Your Assets
Nice breasts? Show them. Put on a sexy bra, or take it off, have a nice long necklace that shines around while youre doing your blowjob magic. Play with your boobs (or give him a boob job too, just oil it up If your booty is your best feature then thats what should be in focus. Put your booty high up in the air so he can have a spectacular view of it as a bonus to looking at you going deep (see tip 21).
Tilt your back so he can see your thongs and butt nicely, and especially your feet if he has a foot fetish (a lot of guys do) and you are on your knees while hes standing.
You need to use all your assets to your advantage. Whatever it is, use it, because a blowjob isnt just about using your mouth.
There must be something specific about you that he enjoys most otherwise he couldnt get an erection.
26. Blindfold Him to Focus His Senses
Men may be visual, but imagination is king.
Blindfold him so he doesnt see you. This is good if you are too self-conscious during a blowjob, youll be able to relax a bit and focus on pleasing him (yourself) without worrying how you look.
The good thing is that hell rely on his other senses, not just his eyes, and this can often lead to something even more powerful because he cant see it in case you pause, move your hair or take hair off your tongue, or make strange faces sometime.
27. Blindfold Yourself to Improve Your Focus
Even though eye contact with your guy is important during a blowjob, still, whats important is that you depend on fewer senses so you can hone your skills.
Blindfold yourself and see how different your technique will become.
Youll improve a lot because youll have more focus on your technique and less on whats going around, this will help you calm your mind (tip 
Give yourself up to him, let him abuse you (gently, of course) or maybe even more roughly if you can deep-throat.
Men like to feel dominant in bed, and the more you can submit to his power the more youll boost his ego and feeling of ownership. Let go and surrender to him.
When blindfolded youll have nothing to see, so youll have to rely on touch, smell, taste, the sounds of his moans instead of looking up at him and analyzing his facial expressions.
28. Wear a Sexy Mask (Who Are You?)
Think of catwoman put on a sexy mask like that so you can still maintain eye contact, and then add black thongs, heels, and a sexy corset what more can a guy ask for?
Just the visual itself will spark his imagination, let alone if your blow job is awesome. Hell go blind when hes eyes flip back from the power of the orgasm you give him.
29. The Blowjob Squad Dress Code: Thongs and High Heels
A great blow job is all about the show, the performance you make for him.
Thats why you have to look as sexy as possible. Get high heels, thongs, and knee pads
You need to be dressed in a way that you FEEL sexy about yourself, thats when youll be sexy for him as well, youll have this attractive energy about you that simply radiates your feminine sexuality.
Invest in a sexy pair of thongs, high heels and other accessories (like a nice necklace) just for his viewing pleasures and youll see his jaw drop sooner than later in disbelief when he achieves the most powerful orgasms of his life, one after the other.
30. Let Him (Ab)Use You
As said in tip 27, let go and surrender yourself to him.
When giving him a blow job you have the power to give him ultimate pain or pleasure, so you are in charge, but at some point you can surrender your mouth to him and let him do whatever he wishes to it.
You may be afraid of choking to death, but you can always hold on to his legs and control his movements to be gentler and less forceful.
Try and see for yourself how much this will turn him on. The gagging sounds you make and the sloppy saliva that builds up will make him think hes dreaming.
Remember, you dont have to be the BEST in the world at giving blow jobs, you just need to be better than all the other women your guy had sex with in the past.
We compare you to past experiences and set benchmarks for the quality we expect in our sex lives. Dont meet his expectations, surpass them. Astonish him.
31. The Golden Word
The thing most women lack in order to give great blow jobs is the right attitude.
You view it as a job, or as something you give him and he should be thankful for.
Thats a HORRIBLE way to view blowjobs and it just makes your blowjobs mediocre, if even that.
Instead, view blow jobs as a gift, a blessing you are getting from him.
Hes giving you this incredible opportunity, an opportunity you are thankful for.
Ask him for permission to give him a blow job and see how this will make his MIND melt before he even reaches orgasm. Just say: Can I please give you a blow job? (playfully) Its the most powerful word in your sexcabulary.
32. Stay Foolish
Dont view blowjobs as rocket science or something.
Its a skill any woman can learn if she wants to, but you dont have to view the learning process and blowjobs as something serious.
Keep having fun. Take your time. Dont worry about making it perfect. The perfect blowjob will happen when everything falls into place, and often it simply is not your fault when things go wrong.
You cant influence everything around you. Control what you can (your attitude) and the rest will fall into its place.
Dont worry about being perfect; just think of it as having fun and that should be your one and only goal when giving a blowjob. Play games, act more innocent than you are but be naughty and dirty at the same time.
Let go of your nonsense fears of being looked down upon.
The only thing you should fear when giving your guy a blowjob is fear itself. Keep having fun and stay foolish.
33. And Hungry
Maybe you misunderstood Steve Jobs when he said Stay hungry, stay foolish in his 2005 commencement speech at Stanford. Just for the record he was talking about blow jobs. He was just speaking in code.
Stay hungry and your guy will stay in love. No joke. Men are far simpler than you think.
34. That Secret Spot
Youve heard this a million times, but its advice worth repeating. It is the string of skin connecting the head of his penis with the outside skin. It is super-sensitive and giving quick-licks to it can be very stimulating.
Use it to your advantage.
35. Slap and Giggle
Put on a show.
Slap your tongue with his penis as youre saying aaah, then giggle and smile.
Its part of taking your time and being playful about it. Grow familiar with his buddy and accept it completely.
Look at it with a hint of fascination in your eyes that will only boost his ego even further. Measure it up to see if its longer than your faces length just for fun.
Anyone can learn the techniques and that will get you somewhere, but a great blow job isnt just about conquering physical but psychological pleasure, thats the harder part.
36. Make It Wet and Sloppy
Saliva needs to be dripping all over the place.
The more excited you are about giving him a blow job the more excited he will be about receiving it.
When you are drooling all over his penis and just the sight of him is making your mouth water and you feel a need to take him in deep, thats the kind of attitude that will drive any man wild. When you drool it says this is delicious.
Your totally wet mouth communicates an important message to him: Im super-excited.
And theres nothing more exciting than knowing that you love it, that youre turned on and that there is NO OTHER PLACE in the world you would rather be now more than on your knees, enjoying yourself.
Spit on his penis, gather more saliva, drool over it, dont worry about the weird sounds you might be making. Theyre a turn on!
Stop being so self-conscious and get out of your mind. Stop thinking and be in the moment, in the zone, enjoying it completely.
37. Turn Yourself On to Turn Him On
Masturbate while sucking on his penis. Turn yourself on. Some women are so in love with giving blow jobs that they can even achieve an orgasm from it. Thats the level you should get to, and even if you dont, act as if fake it till you make it and just see how mind-blowing his orgasms will be.
The best time to give your guy a blow job is when you are turned on naturally and want to have sex, instead of jumping directly to sex, use blow jobs as foreplay, and maybe even after play just for the fun of it. The more youre turned on, the more hell enjoy the blow job. Its the same like sex, when you are super-wet, he feels wanted and that feeling is what triggers the orgasm in his mind.
38. Be Naughty, but Innocent
Be naughty, kinky and playful, but also act innocent at the same time, as if you didnt know what you are doing.
Its playful and attractive simply because nobody wants to think about how you got all that experience. Act as if this is something you dont usually do and you dont do it with all men, but that he is special for you and turns you on in ways other men never did and thats why you are just now discovering your love of blowing him.
39. Dont Expect Anything, Just Enjoy the Journey
This is probably the most important blow job tip youll get: Stop expecting him to orgasm.
He does not have to orgasm. Period.
Simply, that should not be your goal, if it is, then youre not relaxed, youre under pressure and you are waiting for him to finish.
This only puts pressure on him and makes him feel as if he is torturing you or making you do something you dont really want to do. Be in the moment and enjoy it, forget about the results. Theyll come, and if they dont dont take it personally. Not every day is a perfect day for a blow job. Really, sometimes its him, not you.
Not every day is a day for mind-blowing orgasms. This tip is the most important lesson you should learn: do not have a goal or expectation in mind, other than having fun.
When you dont have a goal, you de-pressurize your blowjob and he isnt under any type of stress and he isnt thinking. When hes not thinking, then all his attention is focused on you (right where you want it) and this means hell always orgasm.
40. Change Location
Same place, same time, same style even if you give great blow jobs, at some point too much of a good thing can become a bad, boring thing.
Freshen up your blowjobs by changing things up, from your style, to the location and mood in which you give him supreme pleasure.
Leave the bedroom, go out in the wild sometimes even just the change in room will do. Get kinky and adventurous with your blowjobs. Give him a blowjob in public, in a car, in a cinema. Get adventurous. Remember tip 9, you want him so bad that you cant control yourself or wait until you get home. You need to go down on him right now, right here. Or else.
The best blow jobs are memorable not so much because of their quality but because of the atmosphere, situation, role, and surrounding. In the end, what we remember is the emotion. Always aim to be remembered!
41. A Real Woman Never Lets Her Man Leave the House Hungry or Horny (Horngry)
Thats why you should give him a surprise (see tip 20) good morning blowjob while hes shaving or cooking bacon and eggs for breakfast.
How would you like your eggs, honey? and you just appear there, giving him a mind-blowing blowjob and say Good morning baby.
This one move alone will help him have a great day at work and stop him from checking out his shamelessly slutty, overdressed, mean machine maneating co-worker.
Or at some other moment, after a delicious romantic dinner at home with some wine. We all know men have a one-track mind, while you sexy ladies can multi-task forever. So try matching the perfect meal with a perfect blowjob and youll go a long way with any guy you want.
42. Give Him a Sneak Peak of the Destination
Your tongue is your weapon of mass explosion. Make it sharp, fast and passionate. Let him see it, say Aaaaah as you open your mouth wide for him to see what he can expect.
Show him your tongue so he knows where hell arrive sooner than later. Its an awesome turn on to see your wide open mouth.
43. Build It Up and Down to Prepare a Tsunami-Orgasm
Remember that you are not in a hurry, theres no such thing as how long should a blow job last? It lasts and doesnt have to arrive anywhere, thats the surest way it can arrive somewhere. Dont worry, with practice youll get to a point where you control when hell come.
Either way, when he gets closer to orgasm, youll feel his balls stiffening, his pulse speeding up and hell start making the oh, my, god face that youre already familiar with right then slow it down instead of speeding it up. Tease him to perfection.
Be playful again, take it slow, massage his penis slower and make a naughty look.
You control his orgasm.
Build up his orgasm so he doesnt come immediately but stacks it up. Then when it finally comes, when You let him come, it comes big time. Like a volcanic eruption. You know youve got him when he makes a SHOCKED face.
44. Massage The Right Spot
Heres a little tip you can use immediately.
He has a PC muscle. This muscle is what shoots out his love-potion when he orgasms, its also the muscle he contracts when he wants to control when he stops or starts peeing.
This muscle begins behind his testicles at his perineum. There are other muscles here (kegel) that are responsible for his orgasm.
What makes his orgasm 10 times more powerful is when you massage his perineum (the area between his testicles and anus) during a blow job.
Cup his balls in your palm and move your index and middle finger back to his perineum and massage that area first, hell love it, second it will clear the passage and youll make these muscles pump way harder.
When he finally reaches orgasm it will last longer and it will be infinitely more powerful (youll be surprised).
45. Let Him See You From More Than One Perspective
If you dont already, you should definitely put a mirror somewhere on ground level (or bed-level) height so when youre giving him a blow job he can also see your booty from a totally different angle. I know you may be shy dim the lights (a bit), but dont turn them off completely. Definitely put a mirror somewhere.
46. Where Are Your Wings?
Nowadays you have so many options in sex shops, get creative. Why not get angel wings and be his private angel (not Victorias).
Have a sexy costume with wings when giving him your next blow job. Listen, with awesome blow job skills, hell think youre an angel sent from Blowjob Heaven anyway. Just for fun. The key is to make it memorable.
47. Have a Glass of Wine (or Two)
Never give a blowjob when youre drunk. Youll fail, miserably. But a glass or two of wine is ideal. The main reason most women give bad blowjobs is because of negative social conditioning. Some think its dirty, disgusting or demeaning to women or whatever (and they still wonder why they cant keep a guy?). Having a glass of wine will put you both in the mood and help you let go, relax ( stop thinking ) and have an excuse for being shamelessly hungry (see tip 33). Forget about being a lady, now is not the time for that.
48. And Play Some Lounge
A big part of giving great blowjobs is creating a sexy, relaxed atmosphere where you can both forget about the world around you.
Its just him, you and the incredible passion connecting you. Play some sexy music that will put him in the mood.
Jazz, lounge, or whatever the mood you create calls for.
49. Dont Forget the Candle Light
Everybody looks better under candlelight. Forget about blowjobs in the dark. If you are too shy and keep turning the lights off you are really in the dark so to speak.
Remember, you must believe in yourself, enjoy yourself and be happy with who you are.
Be comfortable in your own skin by loving yourself, and improving yourself, not with make-up but with a healthy lifestyle, and, more importantly, a healthy mindset towards your own beauty. Say you are beautiful to yourself every day.
Candles can smell nice and make the atmosphere for your perfect blow job sexier and more romantic. The point is to capture all of his senses.
50. Smell Like Sex
And thats why its also important how you smell, put on a sexy perfume to add even more enjoyment to the mix. When he remembers that amazing blowjob you gave him that time in his mind, the first thing that will register is your smell. Whenever you wear that same perfume again hell immediately associate it to that mind-blowing orgasm and just smelling you will instantly get him turned on.
Yep, brainwash him.
51. Turn Your (and His) Phone OFF
Theres nothing worse than getting a call or text messages while giving your guy a blow job.
Sure, it may be attractive to him if hes working, playing video games, cooking or talking on the phone while you are giving him head (do it, sometimes), that makes him feel more powerful and it can be really cool, but its not a regular thing.
In general, he also wants to relax and enjoy the pleasure youre giving him, so turn your bloody phone off, and his, so you dont get distracted all the time.
52. Dont Wait to Get Tapped on Your Shoulder, Take Initiative
You should take initiative by knowing when is a good time for a blow job (most of the time), initiate it yourself to help him relax; youll see a big difference in your relationships quality once blowjobs happen more often because you wanted to please him and not because he had to ask for it.
53. Move Your Hair
Tie your hair into a bun or a ponytail (even better!) or somehow else so that your hair doesnt always jump into the action and distracts you by having to move your hair away every minute. Its annoying and kills the mood by killing your momentum.
Men are visual and love variety. The need for variety is biological. Hes programmed to spread the genes a way to trick his biology is to appear as a different person from time to time thats why role-play is attractive. A good way to use this to your advantage is to change your hairstyle from time to time and how you look.
Sometimes youll give him a blow job when you are completely naked, other times youll be totally dressed, or something in between.
54. Dont Use Hands (Sometimes Its Better Not to)
I said use your hands in tip 11, why? Because a lot of women simply dont use their hands at all. Or dont use them correctly.
Now, if you DO know how to use your hands correctly already, whats attractive is to NOT use them at all and instead give a hands-free blow job. Put your hands behind your back or on his legs (or butt) and use just your mouth.
This will force you to improve your technique and suction to the max. When he slips out of your wet mouth you can chase it back in.
Once you can get your guy to orgasm from a blow job by using your mouth alone imagine the kind of blow jobs and pleasure youll be able to give him once you start using your hands again. It will feel like a miracle.
He wont know that getting such pleasure from a blow job is even possible. You need to do this combined with Tip 30 (Let him abuse you). When using just your mouth, he can then play around with your mouth, thats why you must learn how to deep-throat and take your love deeper than Atlantis (see why in tip 21), otherwise youll never be able to make his semi-sadistic, secret blowjob fantasies and fetishes come true. And I mean, thats like a one-way ticket to happily ever after. Thats what makes him get down on one knee and put a ring on your finger.
55. Let Him Do It
When you are arriving to the finale it might just be that you cant manage to get him to arrive, then you feel like a failure and give up. Dont give up!
Giving up is for quitters and as soon as you start feeling bad about yourself and asking yourself why didnt he come yet? hell immediately see this on your face and HE will start worrying about it and then its over. He wont be able to orgasm.
Theres just no way hell orgasm after that thought crosses his mind.
Again, dont forget that he does not have to orgasm, if he doesnt dont make a big deal out of it otherwise hell have a hard time to orgasm in the future as well.
Then its just a vicious circle.
If he believes that he can not orgasm from a blow job (and many men have this false belief because they havent met a woman that gives great blow jobs, yet) then hell convince himself he cant and this will become his reality. His mind blocks his penis.
Anyway, make sure that you are OKAY with it if he finishes off himself toward the end and you keep touching yourself, massaging your breasts, showing him your open mouth and waiting for your dessert. This is also the best time to talk dirty to him.
Have stroke him while you get as low as possible and sexily lick and suck on his balls gently. (Hell LOVE this).
The point here is to have him finish himself so that he gets used to the idea that he CAN come from a blowjob.
Later on youll be able to get him of completely by yourself.
56. Spitters are Quitters
As I said before, you need to be different (better) than other women when it comes to sex and blowjobs. Set yourself apart.
Nobody says that you need to be the best in the world, just better than any other woman your man will ever come in contact with or did in the past.
Many women are disgusted by getting sperm anywhere near their face or mouth, but then again, are they in happy relationships? I doubt it.
Their man is also watching porn and wondering how come he cant get any of that kind of action?
If you want to give the best blow jobs to your guy then you have to do what most other women dont want to do.
Spitting is basically rejecting him, and its hard to make a guy believe that you truly enjoy giving him blowjobs if you dont enjoy the product of your labor.
Spitting is as if you are spitting him out, making a strange, grossed out look on your face, if you even let him finish in your mouth.
You must embrace and love every part of him. And thats why
57. You Have to Swallow (in Style)
Dont spit, swallow. A lot of people tell you swallowing is totally up to you but thats just advice thats shooting you in your own foot. You must swallow, otherwise all youve done until now is going to waste. The most important part of a blowjob is how you finish it, and if its not done right, then its better if you didnt even start the blowjob in the first place.
Swallow and do it with style, with total passion, devotion and love for your guy.
Swallowing sets you apart. Swallowing says I accept you, completely. Show him what he gave you and then happily enjoy your reward (remember, attitude is everything!).
Worried about the taste? You can make his semen taste better by making him watch his diet, and he will if he knows what benefits that brings him in the bedroom.
Dont blame him for his desires, or me for being honest with you. Blame porn for our high expectations of women. And even instead of complaining about it (as many women do), take advantage of this. Use these realizations of his desires to your advantage thats how you wrap him around your finger, by knowing what he really wants in bed, giving it to him, and then having him sexually addicted to you and seeing you as the love of his life. Men are simpler than you think.
58. Make Your Own Performance
A great blowjob is a great show. If you trust this guy (dont do it if you dont trust him!), make your own video. See how you look and how you perform.
Make show out of it, a true performance. If you make the initiative, hell love it even more. You can watch it together, and hell have some great material when the two of you are apart for any reason. Get into the role completely and have fun with it.
And some more random tips
59. Be a Sinner. Were All Going to Hell Anyway!
I dont care whether youre religious or not, or what your religion is if you are. A supremely sexy thing to add an extra dose of naughty to your blow job is to have a religious symbol on your body during a blow job. For example, if youre Christina, have a necklace with a cross on it or earrings in a cross shape while giving him a blow job.
Anything that shouldn't be done has a dose of kink to it, thats why the schoolgirl/innocent role is a turn on. Get creative with your sinner role.
60. Sit back and Enjoy
And the last tip: just sit back and enjoy ALL THE LOVE youre gonna get once you apply these awesome blowjob tips.
Every man loves a great blowjob and youll see how much more hell appreciate you once you give him the kind of satisfaction he dreams about.
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WOMEN JUST WANT TO BE FRIENDS NOTHING MORE- PLEASE HELP
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Posted:Jan 10, 2011 4:00 pm
Last Updated:Nov 11, 2016 11:16 am
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The dilemma of how to get a girl to like you is one which has mystified me for years. There seems to be no logical conclusion that makes sense to me.
A women criticised me for being to nice and soppy, then after u like bad mouthed me i went to make conversation with another women they they start agreeing over me, why didnt the women who bad mouthed me just tell me that she liked me. In contrast, how many guys do you know, who women have nothing but great things to say about … But … for whatever reason they just can’t get further than “let’s just be friends“?
I believe that compliments from women are not synonymous with interest from women. In other words a woman’s compliments are not an accurate indicator of any levels of attraction.
Maybe you’ve even experienced those dreaded four words “Let’s just be friends” yourself.
Why is it nice guys never get anywhere with women, even though women seem to adore them does it boil down to the fact that people in general are going to like those who say good things about them, and are very pleasant, flattering and accommodating towards them. Guys tend to realise that being a nice guy leads to people liking them; so much so that they start to gain their validation from being a nice guy, and they never look back. Now I’m not saying that there’s anything wrong with being a well-mannered, polite, and decent guy, but if my experience being a nice guy doesnt't seem to work for me.
Is it true that you only really going to get a girl to like you by exhibiting behaviour that is challenging, instead of exhibiting behaviour that is pleasing or flattering. This is because in order for there to be any romantic or sexual interest, there has to be some degree of erotic tension.
No tension = No interest = “Let’s just be friends”
Most people look at tension as a ‘bad’ thing to have in a relationship, but this is due to a common misconception between tension and animosity.
What i have learned through my experiences to get a girl to like you, it would be to create tension with a girl. Tension is really a level of suspense or excitement that is the direct result of provocative behaviour, and it is almost a prerequisite for any romantic or sexual interest. Therefore nice guys just can’t get anywhere with women, as they are never able to spark this excitement that is essential for building attraction.
You cannot create erotic tension without provocative behaviour.
Whats interesting is that generally all nice guys want to exhibit strong, masculine behaviour. But the reason that they become too nice around women is because they are generally afraid of being sexual as they always want to make a good impression.
All you need is power of care-free expression, in contrast to a lot of guys who only speak to girls with the agenda of trying to impress them. It’s ironic that the guys who aren’t necessarily bothered by other peoples perceptions of them, tend to get the results, whilst the guys who are wanting to make a good impression are getting nowhere. The attitude you give off is going to be reciprocated, so by being nice, you are only ever going to have girls being nice back to you – which means getting nowhere near the bedroom.
It’s ironic that the guys who aren’t necessarily bothered by
It’s important that you don’t take this out of context and become a complete dick in an attempt to get a girl.
Yes, guys are able to do this and get women, but it works for certain guys because it is congruent with there personalities. If reading this you can relate to being the nice guy who always tends to end up as the girls friend, you’re not going to do yourself any favours by being a complete dick with women. You need the find the right balance, or as Aristotle would say “the doctrine of the mean”.
This leads us to the question – If we’re not to be too nice, and we’re not to be jerks, what are we to be?
If you are thinking that you are a nice guy at heart, you still can be – just do it in a strong way. You should be expressing your intentions, desires and interests with a girl in a highly confident and unapologetic manner. You don’t want to seem as though you have to go out of your way to get women to like you; the great thing is that once you stop caring so much, you’re going to demonstrate to women that you have other things going on in your life, which immediately makes you a more attractive prospect.
but for me i never seem to have other things going on in my life, as once i get involved in with a women, i get carried away and become to caring and soppy and think that this scares most women and they run away.
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MAKE YOUR WOMEN HAPPY AND FEEL SPECIAL
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Posted:May 14, 2008 9:44 am
Last Updated:Jan 18, 2009 4:13 pm
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When it comes to sex, one question always comes to your mind - how do I satisfy her and myself? The question is so simple yet the varieties of answers you are bout to receive are infinite. And would you be able to see certain pattern in responses? Well, wait a second; are we here to discuss about statistics or to find a simple answer to a simple question? Here in lies the sheer problem, when it comes to sex; nobody seems to have the right answer and neither do I.
Let me ponder on some answers I get when I discuss with my buddies as to how in the world can one please a woman? Try wild sex positions says one friend, whereas the other says hit the g spot and the other states foreplay sets the stage. While none of these are wrong but none of them are the sure shot way for you. Not necessary what works for my friends work for me and similar is the case for you. When I think on the suggestions I run in to nothing but a wall of questions. What positions fit the profile of wild sex positions? What activities and set up will fit the profile for foreplay and where do I find the g spot, forget hitting one? So that leaves us back to square one, what is it really that can satisfy the both sides?
Let us discuss one thing at a time. We all know women are sensual creatures. I don't mean to claim that physical activity won't arouse them but sensual activities prior to getting physical will definitely set the stage. Let me show you some activities which do not involve your other half at all. What I call setting up the stage is building the right atmosphere, creating the aura. During the course of your relationship majority of the time you will end up in a bedroom, so let me show you how to create the right atmosphere.
Scented and colorful candles, that's right my friend, scented and colorful candles will make your moment. Lighting up the room with just two scented and colorful candles will fill up the room with the aroma needed to arouse the pleasing senses. Keep the bed clean and organize with nice colorful pillows and bedspreads, don't drop your jaw surprised, sometimes these little things will go a long way, trust me on this and I am very sure your woman will offer you the best time. To get more creative, you can sprinkle red and pink rose petals on the bed. Buy some chocolates in advance and place them on the center of the bed.
You might be thinking, after reading the last paragraph, of your wedding night. Well, such intimate gestures every once in a while can keep your woman at the edge pretty much for ever. As I stated earlier, woman are sensual creatures and such little acts from you will please her mentally.
At this point, it is time for you let her be the driver and you can sit back, relax and enjoy the ride to come.
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Do You Men Agree Or Disagree ?? - Fifty Mistakes Women Make When Having Sex.
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Posted:May 12, 2008 3:05 pm
Last Updated:May 13, 2008 6:21 am
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1. Assuming he can get a raging hard on when it suits you. Contrary to popular belief, men can't just flip a switch and get it up because you decided to stop being a frigid bitch. Getting it hard is your job. I suggest you figure it out.
2. Thinking that kissing needs to be this sweet romantic thing all the time. Sometimes pressing your lips against your partners mouth while you get off is the hot. It depends on the situation.
3. Leaving him responsible for your orgasm. You know what gets you off. Tell him. If you don't, it's your own fault when he's snoozing and you're all wound up.
4. Expecting him to cuddle. Men and women are wired differently. Sex makes most women want to talk and bond and all that shit. It makes men pass out. It's a biological thing. Stop fighting it, and stop holding it over his head, it's not his fault.
5. Expecting him to fall asleep with you in his arms. That shit is uncomfortable after awhile. A little snuggling isn't unreasonable, but when it's time to actually sleep? An arm draped over you should suffice.
6. Expecting him to always lay on the charm and romance. Sometimes, that's nice. Sometimes. But expecting him to be all roses and candles all the time is like expecting you to act like a pornstar all the time. If you're not willing to do that, don't expect him to switch for you.
7. Being selfish in bed. Regardless of the shit that Cosmo forces down our throats, sex is NOT just about us. Get over it.
8. Using Cosmo as a sex bible. I dont know who comes up with half that shit, but I'm pretty sure they need counseling.
9. Whining when he pushes your head down on his cock instead of stroking your hair. Know why he's pushing, skippy? Because you aren't doing it right, and have apparently ignored the other clues he's given you. Pay attention to the signals that he's sending you.
10. Not moving at all. Missionary is not an excuse to do nothing.
11. Expecting him to undress himself with any amount of grace. He's about to get some pussy. Be glad he bothered to take his pants all the way off. If it concerns you so much, undress him yourself.
12. Not shaving your legs. Im pretty bad at this myself. But if you want your guy stubble free, you better get out the razor.
13. Allowing your crotch to resemble the amazon. Yes, waxing hurts. Yes, some people don't want to go bare. Thats fine. If you like bush, great. If you have sensitive skin and can't shave, I feel for you. But for the love of Christ, trim that shit if you want him to spend any time down there.
14. Assuming that sex means a relationship. The only relationship you have is that he has now stuck his hoo hoo dilly in your cha cha. That's as far as it goes unless otherwise noted.
15. Withholding oral sex just because you're ragging. He didn't do it. Unless you want him to withhold oral sex because he's hormonal, I suggest you get some kneepads.
16. Expecting him to figure out what you like by what noise you make. Use your words. Have you ever actually heard what you sound like while you're having sex? If you heard yourself on tape, and someone asked you to explain what was causing you to make that noise, 67% of women would respond with answers like "I stubbed my toe" "I ran up the steps" or "I was putting up drywall".
17. Leaving condoms up to him. If you're sexually active and insist that he uses a condom, I suggest buying a box and keeping it by your bed. Not all men keep them on them, and it's just as much your responsibility as it is his. If you think that makes you a slut, you shouldn't be having sex anyway. Go back to Jr High.
18. Getting your undies in a bunch when he talks dirty. A little fantasy can be fun. If he treats you with respect all the time, you shouldn't be offended when he calls you his dirty little slut. When he calls you a and tells you to come, its his way of showing that he cares if you get off. Stop being a sissy.
19. Refusing to be spontaneous. I know this is shocking, but sometimes sex OUTSIDE of the bedroom is fun.
20. Dissing quickies because it's not some slow sensual ordeal. Sex is a dynamic thing. Theres an awesome raw energy when you only have 20 minutes but having to have someone so bad that you do it half clothed against the wall. Readjust your thinking.
21. Being too much of a pussy to tell him what is or isn't acceptable before you start bumping uglies. Be honest. If he asks if he can poke you in the butt, and you giggle and say no like it's an invitation, don't look surprised when he "accidentally" sticks his cock in your butt.
22. Expecting him to undress you. I put a bra on almost every day. I know for a fact that getting them off isn't always easy. Help a brother out.
23. Undressing in the dark. If youre shy, dim the lights, but give the man something to see. No ripping off the clothes and diving under the covers, either.
24. Refusing to get on top. Theres no reason men should have to do all the work.
25. Getting that bored look on your face. Men are more visual than women. Give him something to look at. Get on top and arch your back a little bit. Move. Do something to indicate that you 1) are not dead and 2) didn't suffer a minor stroke rendering you unable to move.
26. Expecting him to do all the touching when you're riding him. It's your body, you're used to it. Play with your tits, rub your clit, do something to make his job easier.
27. Being too afraid to guide your partner's hand when hes touching you. Don't like the way he's doing it? Gently take his hand and show him how you like it.
28. Getting into bed, getting naked, fooling around and then deciding that you just want to cuddle, then getting offended when he doesn't. Its your choice to stop, but don't look all fucking surprised when he's confused. You got him naked in your bed, what else did you think was going to happen?
29. Refusing to let him take control. So your a feminist. Big fucking deal. Letting him call the shots doesn't make you any less of one.
30. Refusing to take control. Its ok to crawl across a bed to him on all fours, push him down and crawl on top. It's not his responsibility to start things all the time.
31. Forgetting that he has a body that likes to be touched, too. Men have things like backs and shoulders and stomachs and other parts that are fun to kiss and touch. You miss a lot of good places by concentrating solely on his penis.
32. Ignoring his balls. Seriously, they are there. Kiss them, lick them, suck on them, make a relationship with them, just don't ignore them.
33. Leaving him to his own devices. Nothing is worse than a girl who gets you most of the way off and then bolts because she doesn't want to deal with the mess.
34. Launching into some speech about not being an object for sex when he tries to titty fuck you. Jesus Christ, just push them together and enjoy yourself. You get a great view.
35. Expecting him to handle you like a porcelain doll. I'd hate to be the bearer of bad news, but you're not going to break, sister. So doing it against the wall gives you a bruise on your shoulder. Look at it later and giggle at the memory.
36. Refusing to try things in the name of "making love". You're not making anything. You are naked. With another person. Making strange faces and weird noises. Stop romanticizing it.
37. Taking things way too seriously. Sex is funny. Actually it's hilarious. Somewhere along the line, someone is going to fall off of a bed, hit their head on a lighting fixture, accidentally kick a midget or trip over a goat. It's how you deal with it that really matters.
38. Throwing a bitch fit when he asks for a 3 some. Its the American dream. (I know my ex is reading this right now, so a quick interjection. One request for a 3 some is ok. Every 5 minutes, not so much. Know the difference).
39. Continuing a blow job knowing that you have god awful cotton mouth. Really. Grab a bottle of water.
40. Nails. Its one thing tracing them up and down your partners back. Its another when you snag the goods with a claw.
41. Bitching when you get jizz on you. You're having sex. That will happen. Thats the entire point of sex. Establish where he can and cant jizz and be done with it. Remember, it tightens the pores.
42. Not making any noises at all. Moan. Scream his name. Something so he knows he's the best you've had, even if he isn't.
43. Faking orgasms. Just. Don't. By faking (IF he believes you) he thinks he's doing everything right. And if he doesn't know its not working, he's not going to change it. Starting a vicious cycle of unfulfilling sex which will eventually be very damaging to his ego.
44. Not washing before sex. I know that sex is spontaneous, this is more of a general statement. If you haven't showered that day, and things smell a little...fishy...perhaps demanding oral sex is a little ridiculous of you.
45. Anything that involves inserting anything into his body that he has not specifically approved before hand. I don't care what Cosmo says, some things are simply not pleasant surprises.
46. Refusing to use oils/whipped cream/other messy but fun things because you have 541510630 count Egyptian cotton sheets that were made by hand by the only person alive capable of sewing that pattern. They'll wash.
47. Doing all of your before bed things before sex. Yes, sleeping with makeup on is bad. Now is not the time to remove it, you can do that later. And really fucking you with your hair in a ratty scrunchie with acne cream on your nose is not all its cracked up to be.
48. Cleaning up after sex. Wiping the splooge off is one thing. But changing the sheets immediately so you can get the other ones in the washer and then sanitizing everything your naked body might have possibly passed by is not the way to do it.
49. Making a big deal out of it if he loses his hard on. This is not an interrogation, or 20 questions. It happens, he's probably mortified and you are NOT helping. Refrain from using phrases like "it happens to every guy". Just move to other activities until it gets hard again, and if it doesn't, get off another way with him. He's still capable of getting you off. Mumbling "Forget it" and rolling over are not ok.
50. Asking questions right afterwards. The woman equivalent of "was it good for you?". Now is not a good time to ask "What this means". Right now, it means he probably needs to take a drink, a leak and a nap, perhaps not in that order.
That is all.
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