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Relationships, dating, and a bit of advice:
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Relationships, dating, and a bit of advice: I am kind of a robot when it comes to emotion. I will tell a trump supporter to eat shit and die but it doesnt really piss me off and its more matter of fact, you suck, go die somewhere, pass the potatoes. Nothing really does get to me, with the exception of driving( see offspring - nitro lyrics), I dont get phased by much. I tend to watch other people and how they act like im an observer more than an active participant in emotion. My will tell me her woes with her mother or boyfriend and I will be engaged and fully invested but if she cries I look like Data from ST patting her on the back. This does have its advantages, people tend to act how every expects them to, they do the things that people think are normal, and if some says A to a person, most people will react in a few variations of the norm either B C or D. If you stop for a second and look at how relationships and love works it seems like most the world is following a script from a soap opera at times. I blame TV for lying about love and creating these false perspectives of what it means that can never be attained. This isnt to say you cant find true love, it is just to say that it wont be like the on tv, and the term true love is pure bullshit anyway. I recently got married, I love my wife and we have been dating for over ten . This means nothing other than as of this moment and for those in this relationship I have loved her enough to stay with her and vice versa. It isnt a secure future because anything can happen to change her mind or mine and this idea of unconditional love is not real. What I wanted to get to is a couple of flaws I have seen besides the complete bullshit terms like love at first sight, soul mates, happily ever after, high hool sweethearts,etc. You can tell me if im full of shit in the comments section but here I go: Looking for your everything when you enter the dating arena: How many of you have ever walked up to a peer in any part of your life and asked a complete stranger to be your best friend forever? No ? Then why the fuck do people want to skip all the time and process of developing something from casual acquaintances to life long mates. I have seen this offense in every profile on dating apps everywhere. Looking for a relationship, plans for , plans for marriage,etc. It almost seems like it doesnt matter who you marry, they just have to want the same things. rew going in casual, I want to tell you I love you after 2 weeks like that isnt the most insane thing on earth. This leads me to the next point. Falling in love too quickly: Of course people do this shit on FB but it is a microcosm of real life as well. The only difference is you can see the whole thing unravel in a span of 2 days like the lifespan of a flarm that ientists test on. Real life s take 5-10 so FB is the best testing subject because you can witness 3000 fails in year for data analysis. So there is a two fold issue. If you can love so quickly it negates all the relationships with others that put the effort in their whole life to be your good friend just so they can be equal levels with some random asshole you barely met. The other problem is if you are prone to love so quickly youre probably prone to falling out of it as quickly which just makes you chaotic and not some empath with super powers to feel things(also complete bullshit). This is compounded by the fact that you know very little about the person so it means you are into them for shallow reasons or you are assuming a shit ton about the person which is worse somehow. I get optimism but if you dont care to find out the facts about a person then you are going into relationships willfully blind on purpose. I would write more but no reads these things and its more therapy to get the thought out of my head and I wrote enough to achieve that so phooey. |
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I can't say I've ever heard anyone I know go there. There's only a handful of people on any given site that might put that drivel in their profiles. It's only when they get burned by their perfect specimen of foreverness that they actually pull their heads out.Then everyone that looks at their profiles or sends very compelling messages like "hi!" or "What up!" that everyone is suspect and they're all out to do them harm. And while their sentiments about love or finding a soul mate may be real it's the people whole aren't who aren't. Using more than all the road!
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true on the perfect specimen bit, the idealistic seems to be more about a person superimposing their hopes and expectations over some other person excluding all evidence to the contrary that they are not that person. I get it from a sexual angle on here. People assume I want what they want even though I express the opposite, its infatuation over tried and true discovery and time invested. My point isnt about FB being different but more so of a good way to see the folly of the thought process since the life span of FB relationships happen over a small span of time. My sister for example dives into every relationship like this without the use of social media. True love, love at first sight, soul mates, are all a lie when you consider I could pull you out of a burning building today but if I decided to fuck your mother or lover the next day I doubt most people say water under the bridge. It is all what have you done for me lately and it takes work every day to keep it going. Trivial things can ruin even the strongest relationship but I will leave that subject to another time.
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