As per the title I'm very shy and naturally gentle. That's my nature and I don't want to change. I'm not looking for someone to "bring me out of my shell". I like being the sensitive type and I'd like to meet someone who likes that kind of guy. :) When I was a curious I used to pick up my sister's magazines and see what they were writing about in the sex advice section - reading the letters or looking up the "position of the week" or whatever it used to be. On multiple occasions there were letters from women complaining that they don't orgasm through intercourse, and the columnist would tell them that it's okay, that some women don't, and that they can get around that by doing different things. It's something I've always borne in mind, because I wanted to make sure I was being considerate to any future partners. I'd always thought of it as a "woman's thing" though. After becoming sexually active myself, I found that I wasn't really satisfied with the sex I was having. I put it down to incompatibility at first, but after a while I began to notice a trend: that my enjoyment waned when we moved on to intercourse. It's not that it isn't pleasureable, because it is, but it doesn't make me as excited as touching my partner's body, kissing them, or performing other favours. Neither does it get me off like having the same things done to me. I haven't had a single orgasm through intercourse, and on those occasions where intercourse was the end of sex, I didn't have an orgasm at all. It didn't occur to me that guys could have those same problems. I've never heard it talked about anywhere, so I don't know if it's common, rare, or if I'm a one-of-a-kind freak. :P For a time I avoided trying to meet people, because when sex doesn't work out it can be awkward. People have their insecurities, and blame themselves when partners "don't have a good time" (I've always had a good time, orgasm or no). That was before I understood what the problem was. Now that I feel more confident I'd like to meet people again. I've come here because I can be more up front about it, and it would be nice to have some better experiences, even if nothing serious blooms from the meeting.

My Ideal Person I love curvy girls, pretty eyes, and a good sense of humour. Intelligence and compassion are good traits, and if I met someone who shared my interests in and out of bed, that would be a bonus.

I like girls who are gamers, or who enjoy reading and writing. Nerds are extra hot of course. I'm happy to meet all sorts of people though - I might discover something new to like. Age doesn't really matter to me as long as the connection is there.

Ideally, I'd love to meet someone who enjoys the same kinds of intimacy as I do so we can share the experiences better. I know there are women out there with similar preferences and it would be wonderful to find one, but as long as I meet someone who understands and can be patient about it, it's all good.