5 Simple ways to get in the mood for sex
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Posted:Dec 10, 2017 8:16 pm
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Easy bedroom bliss
Sometimes getting in the mood for sex can be easier than you think. Sure, there are often more serious things standing in the way of sex (job stress, family drama, etc.) but the things that hold you back from getting in the sack can also be pretty straightforward. Take a look at our five simple ways to get in the mood.
Up the ambiance
What your surroundings look like can play a role in how much you feel like having sex. Are the lights blaring? Is the bedroom a disaster? Dim the lights, put on some sexy music and remove the piles of clothes from the bed. It's hard to feel romantic in the midst of a messy room.
Think about comfort
Like ambiance, comfort is another simple yet sneaky factor in how you feel about sex. Being too hot or too cold can be an instant turn-off. Close or open windows, adjust the heat or air conditioning and you may feel a bit more in the mood for love.
Minimize distractions
It can be hard to get in the mood for sex when your phone keeps beeping to let you know you have a text or new email. Put your phone away or turn it off (or hide it) so you're not wondering who's trying to get in touch when you should be focused on being touched.
De-stress together
After a long day at work or at the end of a stressful week, it can be understandable that you don't feel like getting frisky. A good remedy for this is to de-stress together, which can be a good way to reconnect while easing you into the idea of sex. Take a hot bath together, have him give you a massage or even go for a long walk after dinner to unwind before getting into bed. The more relaxed you are, the easier it will be to get in the mood.
Do something to feel sexy
Whether it's putting on your favorite lingerie, listening to a specific album or song, lighting candles or strutting your stuff in a little black dress and sky high heels, do something that makes you feel sexy and confident if you're having trouble getting in the mood. By making an effort to feel sexier, you'll be much more likely to get into the right frame of mind required for an enjoyable sexual experience -- meaning one that's fun and satisfying for both of you.
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Selfie tips
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Posted:Nov 5, 2017 2:10 pm
Last Updated:Apr 17, 2024 11:11 pm
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1. If You Take It, Assume Everyone Will See It.
If your phone (or your lover's phone) ever goes missing, you'll want as little damning evidence on there as possible. If you send naked photos with both your face and nipples in plain view, you could very well end up in a a Google search, a gross meme, terribly embarrassed, or all of the above. Same goes for identifying jewelry or tattoos. Proceed with caution.
2. Send Your Face Or Your Body, Not Both.
Go ahead and send a sexy pout with a suggestive bare shoulder, but if you're sending your bare butt or boobs leave any identifying parts of your face out. Besides, it's a lot of work to get a photo where your face AND butt look good (at least it is for me). And remember: a little mystery is sexy. Shadows on a collarbone can be infinitely more seductive than a straight-on tit shot. (Plus, if you can't be easily identified in your nude selfies, you have that much less to worry about after a messy breakup.)
3. Do Not Send a Crotch Shot Unless Specifically Requested
Let's be honest, vaginas aren't exactly the prettiest thing in the world. Even if your face is as gorgeous as Megan Fox's, if your other "lips" are showing they're all the viewer is going to be able to focus on. (Same goes for your penis, fellas. Why must you insist on sending us junk shots? We'd much rather see a flexed bicep or that little dip at your hipbone.) Also, it's really strange when you leave your underwear bunched up around your knees. (Is that a fetish I'm unaware of?) It just looks lazy and weird.
4. Double-Check Your Background.
If a racy selfie of my taken in a filthy bedroom hit the Internet, I'd be more furious about her negligent attention to detail than the photo itself. I don't care how hot you are - if you're a slob, it's gross. Is there trash on the floor behind you? A pile of dirty laundry in the background? White spots on the mirror? Pay attention to what's in your photo, because while YOU may be focused on your fierce face and excellent rack, WE can see the toilet, , or trashcan in the background - and trust us, it ain't pretty
5. Good Lighting Is Key.
If you're somewhere with excellent lighting, TAKE ADVANTAGE. Capture a few shots to send later on rather than using crappy fluorescent lighting at 10 p.m. when you're in the mood to send your lover a little something, something. Is it cheating? Perhaps, but unless your beloved asked you what you're wearing rightthissecond, a hot shot where you're glowing in the morning sun will keep your mate happy until they can see you again.
Lighting hints: Some of the best places to find good lighting are in hotel rooms during the day. White walls + white sheets = you will practically glow. Standing in front of a window is always better than standing in front of a lamp, although bright, direct sunlight can be a bit harsh. Try turning your phone's camera on yourself and walk around in front of different windows until you find a spot where you are evenly lit and your eyes sparkle.
6. Suck It In, Hold It Up (But Don't Make It Obvious)
Every girl knows the elbows under the boobs trick to make her cleavage pop. Most of us also know the right angles to make us look curvy where it matters and a little smaller where it doesn't. Here's the catch: no one should be able to tell that you're pushing stuff in or holding stuff up, it ruins the illusion. Even if you're terribly uncomfortable, no one will ever know you almost popped your hip out of joint to get the perfect curve as long as the photo looks good.
7. Duckface Is Out, Gasping Is In
Newsflash: The entire world is over duckface. No one can see that pose anymore without rolling their eyes. So what do you do with your mouth, then? Right before snapping your photo, quickly gasp the way you would during some good, old-fashioned lovemaking. Part your lips ever so slightly and as you inhale, heave those bosoms and think about how damn sexy you are. Works like a charm
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Selfie tips
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Posted:Nov 5, 2017 2:10 pm
Last Updated:Apr 17, 2024 11:11 pm
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1. If You Take It, Assume Everyone Will See It.
If your phone (or your lover's phone) ever goes missing, you'll want as little damning evidence on there as possible. If you send naked photos with both your face and nipples in plain view, you could very well end up in a a Google search, a gross meme, terribly embarrassed, or all of the above. Same goes for identifying jewelry or tattoos. Proceed with caution.
2. Send Your Face Or Your Body, Not Both.
Go ahead and send a sexy pout with a suggestive bare shoulder, but if you're sending your bare butt or boobs leave any identifying parts of your face out. Besides, it's a lot of work to get a photo where your face AND butt look good (at least it is for me). And remember: a little mystery is sexy. Shadows on a collarbone can be infinitely more seductive than a straight-on tit shot. (Plus, if you can't be easily identified in your nude selfies, you have that much less to worry about after a messy breakup.)
3. Do Not Send a Crotch Shot Unless Specifically Requested
Let's be honest, vaginas aren't exactly the prettiest thing in the world. Even if your face is as gorgeous as Megan Fox's, if your other "lips" are showing they're all the viewer is going to be able to focus on. (Same goes for your penis, fellas. Why must you insist on sending us junk shots? We'd much rather see a flexed bicep or that little dip at your hipbone.) Also, it's really strange when you leave your underwear bunched up around your knees. (Is that a fetish I'm unaware of?) It just looks lazy and weird.
4. Double-Check Your Background.
If a racy selfie of my taken in a filthy bedroom hit the Internet, I'd be more furious about her negligent attention to detail than the photo itself. I don't care how hot you are - if you're a slob, it's gross. Is there trash on the floor behind you? A pile of dirty laundry in the background? White spots on the mirror? Pay attention to what's in your photo, because while YOU may be focused on your fierce face and excellent rack, WE can see the toilet, , or trashcan in the background - and trust us, it ain't pretty
5. Good Lighting Is Key.
If you're somewhere with excellent lighting, TAKE ADVANTAGE. Capture a few shots to send later on rather than using crappy fluorescent lighting at 10 p.m. when you're in the mood to send your lover a little something, something. Is it cheating? Perhaps, but unless your beloved asked you what you're wearing rightthissecond, a hot shot where you're glowing in the morning sun will keep your mate happy until they can see you again.
Lighting hints: Some of the best places to find good lighting are in hotel rooms during the day. White walls + white sheets = you will practically glow. Standing in front of a window is always better than standing in front of a lamp, although bright, direct sunlight can be a bit harsh. Try turning your phone's camera on yourself and walk around in front of different windows until you find a spot where you are evenly lit and your eyes sparkle.
6. Suck It In, Hold It Up (But Don't Make It Obvious)
Every girl knows the elbows under the boobs trick to make her cleavage pop. Most of us also know the right angles to make us look curvy where it matters and a little smaller where it doesn't. Here's the catch: no one should be able to tell that you're pushing stuff in or holding stuff up, it ruins the illusion. Even if you're terribly uncomfortable, no one will ever know you almost popped your hip out of joint to get the perfect curve as long as the photo looks good.
7. Duckface Is Out, Gasping Is In
Newsflash: The entire world is over duckface. No one can see that pose anymore without rolling their eyes. So what do you do with your mouth, then? Right before snapping your photo, quickly gasp the way you would during some good, old-fashioned lovemaking. Part your lips ever so slightly and as you inhale, heave those bosoms and think about how damn sexy you are. Works like a charm
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Selfie tips
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Posted:Nov 5, 2017 2:10 pm
Last Updated:Apr 17, 2024 11:11 pm
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1. If You Take It, Assume Everyone Will See It.
If your phone (or your lover's phone) ever goes missing, you'll want as little damning evidence on there as possible. If you send naked photos with both your face and nipples in plain view, you could very well end up in a a Google search, a gross meme, terribly embarrassed, or all of the above. Same goes for identifying jewelry or tattoos. Proceed with caution.
2. Send Your Face Or Your Body, Not Both.
Go ahead and send a sexy pout with a suggestive bare shoulder, but if you're sending your bare butt or boobs leave any identifying parts of your face out. Besides, it's a lot of work to get a photo where your face AND butt look good (at least it is for me). And remember: a little mystery is sexy. Shadows on a collarbone can be infinitely more seductive than a straight-on tit shot. (Plus, if you can't be easily identified in your nude selfies, you have that much less to worry about after a messy breakup.)
3. Do Not Send a Crotch Shot Unless Specifically Requested
Let's be honest, vaginas aren't exactly the prettiest thing in the world. Even if your face is as gorgeous as Megan Fox's, if your other "lips" are showing they're all the viewer is going to be able to focus on. (Same goes for your penis, fellas. Why must you insist on sending us junk shots? We'd much rather see a flexed bicep or that little dip at your hipbone.) Also, it's really strange when you leave your underwear bunched up around your knees. (Is that a fetish I'm unaware of?) It just looks lazy and weird.
4. Double-Check Your Background.
If a racy selfie of my taken in a filthy bedroom hit the Internet, I'd be more furious about her negligent attention to detail than the photo itself. I don't care how hot you are - if you're a slob, it's gross. Is there trash on the floor behind you? A pile of dirty laundry in the background? White spots on the mirror? Pay attention to what's in your photo, because while YOU may be focused on your fierce face and excellent rack, WE can see the toilet, , or trashcan in the background - and trust us, it ain't pretty
5. Good Lighting Is Key.
If you're somewhere with excellent lighting, TAKE ADVANTAGE. Capture a few shots to send later on rather than using crappy fluorescent lighting at 10 p.m. when you're in the mood to send your lover a little something, something. Is it cheating? Perhaps, but unless your beloved asked you what you're wearing rightthissecond, a hot shot where you're glowing in the morning sun will keep your mate happy until they can see you again.
Lighting hints: Some of the best places to find good lighting are in hotel rooms during the day. White walls + white sheets = you will practically glow. Standing in front of a window is always better than standing in front of a lamp, although bright, direct sunlight can be a bit harsh. Try turning your phone's camera on yourself and walk around in front of different windows until you find a spot where you are evenly lit and your eyes sparkle.
6. Suck It In, Hold It Up (But Don't Make It Obvious)
Every girl knows the elbows under the boobs trick to make her cleavage pop. Most of us also know the right angles to make us look curvy where it matters and a little smaller where it doesn't. Here's the catch: no one should be able to tell that you're pushing stuff in or holding stuff up, it ruins the illusion. Even if you're terribly uncomfortable, no one will ever know you almost popped your hip out of joint to get the perfect curve as long as the photo looks good.
7. Duckface Is Out, Gasping Is In
Newsflash: The entire world is over duckface. No one can see that pose anymore without rolling their eyes. So what do you do with your mouth, then? Right before snapping your photo, quickly gasp the way you would during some good, old-fashioned lovemaking. Part your lips ever so slightly and as you inhale, heave those bosoms and think about how damn sexy you are. Works like a charm
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Selfie tips
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Posted:Nov 5, 2017 2:09 pm
Last Updated:Apr 17, 2024 11:11 pm
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1. If You Take It, Assume Everyone Will See It.
If your phone (or your lover's phone) ever goes missing, you'll want as little damning evidence on there as possible. If you send naked photos with both your face and nipples in plain view, you could very well end up in a a Google search, a gross meme, terribly embarrassed, or all of the above. Same goes for identifying jewelry or tattoos. Proceed with caution.
2. Send Your Face Or Your Body, Not Both.
Go ahead and send a sexy pout with a suggestive bare shoulder, but if you're sending your bare butt or boobs leave any identifying parts of your face out. Besides, it's a lot of work to get a photo where your face AND butt look good (at least it is for me). And remember: a little mystery is sexy. Shadows on a collarbone can be infinitely more seductive than a straight-on tit shot. (Plus, if you can't be easily identified in your nude selfies, you have that much less to worry about after a messy breakup.)
3. Do Not Send a Crotch Shot Unless Specifically Requested
Let's be honest, vaginas aren't exactly the prettiest thing in the world. Even if your face is as gorgeous as Megan Fox's, if your other "lips" are showing they're all the viewer is going to be able to focus on. (Same goes for your penis, fellas. Why must you insist on sending us junk shots? We'd much rather see a flexed bicep or that little dip at your hipbone.) Also, it's really strange when you leave your underwear bunched up around your knees. (Is that a fetish I'm unaware of?) It just looks lazy and weird.
4. Double-Check Your Background.
If a racy selfie of my taken in a filthy bedroom hit the Internet, I'd be more furious about her negligent attention to detail than the photo itself. I don't care how hot you are - if you're a slob, it's gross. Is there trash on the floor behind you? A pile of dirty laundry in the background? White spots on the mirror? Pay attention to what's in your photo, because while YOU may be focused on your fierce face and excellent rack, WE can see the toilet, , or trashcan in the background - and trust us, it ain't pretty
5. Good Lighting Is Key.
If you're somewhere with excellent lighting, TAKE ADVANTAGE. Capture a few shots to send later on rather than using crappy fluorescent lighting at 10 p.m. when you're in the mood to send your lover a little something, something. Is it cheating? Perhaps, but unless your beloved asked you what you're wearing rightthissecond, a hot shot where you're glowing in the morning sun will keep your mate happy until they can see you again.
Lighting hints: Some of the best places to find good lighting are in hotel rooms during the day. White walls + white sheets = you will practically glow. Standing in front of a window is always better than standing in front of a lamp, although bright, direct sunlight can be a bit harsh. Try turning your phone's camera on yourself and walk around in front of different windows until you find a spot where you are evenly lit and your eyes sparkle.
6. Suck It In, Hold It Up (But Don't Make It Obvious)
Every girl knows the elbows under the boobs trick to make her cleavage pop. Most of us also know the right angles to make us look curvy where it matters and a little smaller where it doesn't. Here's the catch: no one should be able to tell that you're pushing stuff in or holding stuff up, it ruins the illusion. Even if you're terribly uncomfortable, no one will ever know you almost popped your hip out of joint to get the perfect curve as long as the photo looks good.
7. Duckface Is Out, Gasping Is In
Newsflash: The entire world is over duckface. No one can see that pose anymore without rolling their eyes. So what do you do with your mouth, then? Right before snapping your photo, quickly gasp the way you would during some good, old-fashioned lovemaking. Part your lips ever so slightly and as you inhale, heave those bosoms and think about how damn sexy you are. Works like a charm
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How to Eat Pussy Pie Good Guide
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Posted:Oct 13, 2017 4:54 pm
Last Updated:Oct 20, 2020 4:22 am
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Step One. How To Eat Pussy.
Sweet cunninglingus. How I love it! After kissing her I take her hands, place them above her head a little forcefully and start kissing her neck…
Then, I take off any top she had on, leaving on her bra… I then kiss along her collarbone and shoulders and kiss the exposed flesh above her bra…
I give her deep eye contact, (her eyes are the window to her soul) so I make sure to peer into her soul before I do all this.
Then kiss her passionately on the lips whilst taking off her bra… Then go down to her beautiful breasts, cup them, kiss them, flick your tongue over her nipples and if you feel like biting them, bite very LIGHTLY…
Continue sucking and licking her nipples for a few more seconds…
Step Two. I make sure she is really comfortable.
Her body is her femininity. I am sure to make her comfortable in her own skin. So I will begin to kiss slowly down her body… along her waistline, and with one hand I pull her trousers down ever so slightly and run my tongue along where her waistline was.
Now I would take off her jeans…
Keeping her underwear on for now… let her get comfortable I now kiss along the V where her underwear meet her thighs and guess whereabouts her clit is make an O shape with my mouth, place it over that area and I give one hot breath over her underwear.
Step Three. I tease her.
I now tease her a little, kissing away from her pussy… down her legs and making my way back up again, I do this down both legs, making sure I touch her pussy. You need to know how to tease.
A lot of women tend to feel a bit exposed if you take her jeans off straight away so when I finish kissing up her thighs, I move her panties slightly to the side and I kiss around her pussy but I don’t go for the prize just yet. This is how to eat pussy… eat it by not eating it… mmm, yeah!
Step Four. I lick up her pussy to find her clitoris.
When I feel her starting to arch her back, (I know she is getting a little restless for me), with one strong tongue stroke lick, I lick from her vagina opening (NOT HER ASSHOLE!) upwards.
When I feel a slight bump, just above the opening, (about the size of a pea) I know that’s her clitoris, and I don’t let go of it.
If you’re having some trouble finding it run a finger down her divine pussy and see if you can feel it if she’s horny you should have no trouble).
Step Five. I slow it down or speed it up to find the stroke of the pussy eating king (or queen).
Once I find her clit, I start with slow, harder strokes and speed it up gradually. If you find she’s moving herself so your tongue is touching a different area that may mean you aren’t on the clit.
If all else fails, don’t be embarrassed ask if it’s the right spot. She’ll show you where to be! Increase your speed with your tongue. Listen to her body. Pay attention. This is how to eat pussy.
If she grinding faster and into me that means she wants me to press my tongue harder on her clit and flick faster. If she is slowly grinding then she wants me to slow it down a little and maybe flick a little lighter, her clit may be sensitive
Step Six. I tell her how great she tastes when I eat her pussy.
The biological and soul benefits of tasting her sacred pussy are beyond words. When she’s nice and wet, and I can tell she’s enjoying it I will always tell a girl how divine her pussy tastes….
Girls worry about this kind of stuff…
Under no circumstances will I do the alphabet with my tongue!
Some girls like if I twirl your tongue in circles around their clit, but in all honestly, if I’m flicking my tongue in the right spot I really don’t need loads of variation, it actually becomes quite distracting and frustrating if every time you are getting close you change what you are doing.
Keep tasting that heaven!
Step Seven. I use my fingers & ask how she wants it.
Now she’s loving my tongue, and I’m loving her… I look up into her eyes and then slide one finger slowly into her pussy. Then I get straight back to that clit, most girls come quickest from combined clit stimulation and putting your finger/fingers (depending how wet she is) inside her. I make a come hither motion with my fingers on her vagina wall and press harder or lighter depending how she is moving.
It’s actually always a good idea at this point to ask the girl how she wants it
To which she’ll reply ‘fast and hard’ or ‘more fucking’ to which you can finger fuck her harder but keep this pace up with how fast you are licking her clit. I.e. if you are fucking her fast, lick her clit fast. There’s no designated process to all this, it’s down to the girl, but this is my general (and professional lesbian) process.
Pay attention to how she’s moving her body into you and every so often don’t be afraid to ask questions.
Another tip of mine is not too much tongue; use just the end of your tongue. I find otherwise – (sorry to be so explicit) – but your saliva gets everywhere and she can feel spit dripping down her butt crack – not a great feeling!
What do you think about when you eat pussy?
I think about how much I love it! Sometimes your mind can’t help but drift. If you can’t stay focused on her try thinking about things that turn you on to keep up sexual momentum. When you’re thinking of errands you need to run or a joke you heard earlier it shows in your oral. This is a massive turn off for the girl! Keep focused on the moment and the task in hand.
For the women reading this, how should she communicate what she wants?
Saying things such as “no I don’t like that” is the wrong way to go! If you don’t like something… don’t react or give a sexy order like “uh more tongue”. If he or she is doing something good, give lots of positive affirmations “you’re so good at this” or “that feels so good… keep doing that”. The worst thing you can do is say “you aren’t doing it right” – it’s so de-moralizing and he or she may not want to give you oral sex again.
The How To Eat Pussy Summary
Keep this rough plan in your head but next time you have the chance to eat pussy don’t be thinking, ‘Lizzie from Raw Attraction Magazine told me to do this’ – focus on eating for your own pleasure!
If you are not sure what she likes then ask something like, “How do you like it?” There is no shame in asking! A courageous man or woman asks!
Women: Give your lover the opportunity to ask and use positive language when he or she is doing something right. Make sure this is an amazing experience that your lover is going to enjoy again and again.
Always use one finger first… then use two if it feels right. Be gentle at first. Use the come hither motion and use your intuition for speed and pressure. If you are unsure… ask!
Don’t do the alphabet with your tongue! When you find a tongue rhythm she likes, stick with it. As always, ask her if you are unsure. It takes confidence to ask… she will like it.
Enjoy her and tell her she tastes amazing!
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threesome
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Posted:Sep 4, 2017 9:01 pm
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The best way to bridge the conversation about having a threesome with your partner is not to just spring it while drunk and horny at a party. Jealousy (which, as I have said in the past, is just insecurity wearing a very ugly mask) is primed to flare up, and you have to tread with caution. I suggest discussing your fantasies. Ask her if she has any sexual fantasies she wants you to fulfill and then you can bring up yours. It’s healthy, open discussion between partners that makes for the best sex. If you both know what you want, you can aim to please one another. Maybe her fantasy is to do a little DP with you and another man? You never know. You may have an interesting trade-off here, but you won’t know unless you discuss. Use language that lets her know she is still the main event: “I would love to see you with another woman.” The guest star is the sidebar; this is about you and her and making your sex that much more interesting. Make sure it’s very obvious that you want to see her happy as much as you want your own fantasy to become a reality
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facebook account for pussy
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Posted:Aug 5, 2017 1:16 pm
Last Updated:Apr 17, 2024 11:11 pm
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If the average woman had a Facebook page for her private parts (we know, shut up), odds are her relationship status would be "it's complicated," and she'd desperately need to post a profile picture. After all, new research from the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University suggests that she hasn't checked herself out much—only 26 percent of women look closely at their lady bits. Hey, we get it. Guys have it so much easier. Their junk is hanging out there, just waiting to be experienced. Most of our parts are internal, so we can't exactly see what we're working with.
Well, here's some incentive to change all that: The more you make your vagina your business, the more pleasure you'll experience. In a separate study published in the International Journal of Sexual Health, scientists found that women who had a positive view of their genitals were more comfortable in their skin, more apt to orgasm, and more likely to experiment in bed. Ding-ding-ding rings the pleasure bell! In fact, just looking at your goodies can be a turn-on. "Research shows that seeing signs of sex helps inspire arousal and lubrication," says Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., a research scientist at Indiana University and the author of Because It Feels Good. So allow us to scroll down there, if you will, for a better view. Oh, and when we're done, you might want to update your status.
PRIVATE INVESTIGATION
To start, let's clear up one of the biggest misconceptions about the vagina. It's not the entire genital area. If you're standing naked in front of a full-length mirror, you're actually seeing your vulva, the exterior portion of your privates, which was covered in hair before your aesthetician went hog wild with the wax and muslin.
Think of your privates as an award-winning cast: You have your supporting actors (the vulva) and your marquee stars (the clitoris and G-spot). Every part is there to entertain your sexual needs, but to milk the best performance out of each one, you have to show them all a little love and attention. So lock the bedroom door, kick off your shoes, and grab a hand mirror.
Without even spreading your legs, you'll see your pubic mound and two folds of skin called the labia majora (the outer lips). Both contain layers of fatty tissue that protect your clitoris and vagina. While pleasure reception is typically weak in this area, manual play can help increase the signal. "Rubbing the pubic mound and outer lips readies the clitoris for stimulation," says Herbenick.
Now, if you gently push apart the outer lips, you'll reveal a thinner set of lips called the labia minora. These hairless babies are loaded with blood vessels, nerve endings, and secreting glands. "To the naked eye, the glands may look like tiny bumps," says Diana Hoppe, M.D., author of Healthy Sex Drive, Healthy You. "They release secretions that actually help to separate your lips for easier penetration."
But they're not the only things lubing up your nether regions. When you spread the labia minora apart, you'll encounter Bartholin's glands (which are microscopic, so you can't actually see them with the naked eye) on each side of your vaginal opening. As you become aroused, these glands lubricate the outer portion of the vaginal canal. They typically release only a small amount of moisture, which is why so many women need plenty of foreplay to stay wet.
WELCOME TO THE PLEASURE CENTER
Here's where the clitoris comes in. She's that proud little pink nub, roughly the size of a pencil eraser, and she's there only for sexual pleasure. The girl's got some nerve—approximately 8,000 nerve endings, to be exact, the largest number found in the entire body and double the amount found in the glans of a man's penis, says Hoppe. Of course, that number makes her crazy sensitive, but you already knew that. What you probably didn't know is that she's got legs. Literally. "We see only the head of the clitoris," says Herbenick. But it has a body that's shaped like a wishbone, with two legs (called crura) that reach three inches into the vagina, just under the pubic mound and straight into G-spot territory (but more on that later). This gives the clitoris incredible sexual reach and depth. "It's the powerhouse of the orgasm," says Ian Kerner, Ph.D.author of She Comes First. "It connects with every single structure in the genitals."
The best way to make the clitoris happy is through direct, consistent, yet gentle oral or manual stimulation. But it's also quite responsive to woman-on-top and during a twist on missionary called the coital alignment technique, says Herbenick. In this position, your guy enters you as he normally would during missionary, with two simple tweaks: He inches his body up until his shoulders rest above yours and the base of his penis directly hits your clitoris. Then he grinds in a circular motion instead of thrusting, which "creates more friction against the clitoris," explains Herbenick.
Friction can feel fabulous, but sometimes the little starlet can be a touch overexposed. As you head toward climax, "the clitoris swells in size, which can make friction painful," says Hoppe. Some women report that clitoral stimulation at this point can feel like an irritating tickle, and in some cases, like a really sharp shock. To protect itself, the clitoris retreats back under the protective awning of the clitoral hood. Often, simply lightening up the stimulation a bit will make it feel good again.
An overly sensitive clitoris is your body's way of saying, "Let the vagina soak up some of the sexual spotlight, please!" The four- to seven-inch canal (it varies depending on the woman) can't hold a candle to the clitoris in the nerve-ending department. But it does boast a bunch, says Hoppe. The first two to three inches of the vagina "have hundreds of nerve endings and are majorly sensitive," she says. "That's why when a woman is giving birth and the baby is crowning, they call it the 'ring of fire.'" To stimulate these first few inches of your vaginal canal, try shorter, shallower thrusting during sex.
WHAT LIES BENEATH
Deeper into the vaginal walls, you'll find one of the vagina's trickiest trump cards: the G-spot. If the clitoris is famous, the G-spot is infamous. Not every woman can tap into its potential, but if you do, the rewards are phenomenal.
The G-spot is a spongy area about the size of a nickel, and it's located an inch or two into the anterior wall of the vagina, just under the pubic mound--and you've got to feel it to believe it. It has bumpy, knotty striations similar to a walnut, and it demands a hands-on, tough-love approach. "The G-spot's nerves are contained in fattier tissue, so you have to provide deeper, firmer pressure to stimulate it," says Kerner. For starters, you should already be really turned on before it's accessed. That's because the tissue doesn't swell and make itself known until you've enjoyed proper foreplay.
G-spot stimulation also calls for a tag-team approach. You can hit it by having your guy enter you from behind, but the best bet is to have him go down on you with his tongue and fingers. "With his mouth on your clitoris, have him use his fingers in a come-hither motion to apply firm, rhythmic pressure to the G-spot," says Kerner. Put those two together and it's like they're high-fiving each other for a job well done.
If you haven't had what you think is a G-spot orgasm, don't stress over it. (For the record, orgasms that originate in this zone generally feel expansive and deep, while orgasms that start in the clitoris often feel more acute and intense.) "Many women say the G-spot enhances their orgasm," says Kerner. "They wouldn't isolate it and say, 'Wow, I just had a G-spot orgasm.' It's more like, 'I just had an orgasm, and what he was doing felt really good.' That's why most vibrators come with a clitoral stimulator and a G-spot stimulator. They work in tandem to create what's commonly referred to as a blended orgasm." While you can have a clitoral orgasm without G-spot stimulation, it's a little trickier to achieve the reverse. But ultimately, it doesn't matter where it's coming from—at the end of the day, an orgasm is an orgasm. And they all feel amazing.
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Being a nudist
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Posted:Jun 28, 2017 2:04 am
Last Updated:Apr 17, 2024 11:11 pm
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Being a nudist can help you return to your childhood self, to remember the person you were before you cared about putting your clothes on and ran around naked and happy. It's a very liberating feeling. Nudism can help you return to that pure and un-self-conscious version of yourself and can help you feel happy and free in a friendly environment. Think of how complicated our lives have become. Having to choose clothes, jewelry, footwear, and so many other items only makes it harder to be our natural selves.
One of the greatest joys of being a nudist is sleeping naked, feeling the cool sheets and mattress against your body when you drift off. Heck, many people who aren't nudists love sleeping without any clothes on. If you're committed to practicing nudism, then this can really be your time to shine — especially if you sleep alone or don't have roommates. Set your home to a nice temperature or open a window, depending on the season, and enjoy feeling free as you drift off.
If you do live with roommates and don't want to startle any other people if you take a bathroom trip in the middle of the night, you should hang a bathrobe on your door so you can quickly throw it on if need be.
If you're really interested in becoming a nudist, then you can join a community of people who are also interested in maintaining their rights to be nude and to practice nudism safely. If you're in the USA or Canada, you can join TNS (The Naturist Society), AANR (American Association for Nude Recreation), or FCN (Federation of Canadian Naturists) for example. Most countries have a national nudist or naturist organization. A Google search will find them for you. These organizations will help you find health clubs, private residences, beaches, or other locations where you can safely practice nudism.
Joining the community will also make you feel less isolated about your beliefs and will help you meet more like-minded people.
Though most nudists are focused on being free and communing with nature, there are some communities that do encourage nudism for sexual reasons. If this is not for you, be very careful in your research.
You don't have to be a card-carrying member of a nudist colony to find a nudist beach or a nudist resort in your area. If you can just find a place that fits your ideas of accepting yourself and respecting your own individuality, then you'll be set in finding more places to practice nudism and to meet more like-minded people.
If you practice nudism with your family, make sure that family members of all ages are welcome in the nudist beach or resort area.
The first benefit is to release yourself, your family and friends from the burden of body shaming. Most of us don't look like movie or TV stars most of the time - in fact, neither do they. Staying lean with toned muscle mass takes a few hours a day, as models do before a shoot. Celebrate your body as you are. Join your local World Naked Bike Ride event in June this year and you will find everyone delighted at finally being free and nude. Whether in a room or on a bike, with friends, family or at the beach, when clothes are left behind, so are frowns
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Golden Showers 101: Everything You Wanted to Know About Pee Play
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Posted:May 31, 2017 7:20 pm
Last Updated:Apr 17, 2024 11:11 pm
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From power dynamics to wet sex and eating pineapples, a beginners guide to urophilia.
Golden showers, water sports, or piss play, whatever you call it, urophilia has recently had a resurgence in mainstream interest, following some unsavoury and as yet unproven leaks about a pre-White House Donald Trump. As a kink or fetish, getting sexually excited by urine or the thought of urine is still taboo, even in a world where suburban housewives read 50 Shades of Grey on the subway. A 2010 survey by San Francisco University's Jennifer Eve Rehor found that of over 1700 women surveyed only 36.5 percent said they'd peed on or been peed on by a lover, whereas over 90% percent reported being spanked. So why are most people still so uncomfortable with urine play? Luna Matatas recently taught a class at Toronto sex shop Good For Her called, 'Intro to Urine Play' and I spoke with her just before the seminar to get a urophilia guide for beginners.
VICE: Why pee?
Some people like the sensation of it, the warmth or the wetness. Some people like the taste, they like the idea of ingesting something that's considered really taboo. Some people really enjoy it as a form of power play, they either want to give to a person that's submitting to them or the person submitting to them wants to take it from their dominant as a sign of surrender of the ultimate sign of submission, taking someone inside of you and taking their waste or their fluids inside of you. I really enjoy it as a sign of worship and ritual, so my submissive would drink me as a sign of taking goddess' golden nectar.
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Why is urine play still taboo?
I think it's because we have such a heavy focus on sanitation and hygiene as a society. We have an emphasis on cleanliness particularly around things that come out of your body and we're constantly bombarded with messages that pee is dirty, pee should be contained, pee should be private. So a lot of people want to explore the taboo of it to be naughty and go against it. The sanitation piece is still very mainstream and so to even bring it up with your partner you're really worried that they're gonna think you're filthy or something is deviant about you or that something's wrong with you because you want to pervert something that everybody else accepts as wrong.
Let's say you're brand new to pee—what do you need to know?
I would figure out what it is about pee that turns you on. Because if it is about sensation then that opens up a range of play for you. Some people are even turned on by the act of being denied the ability to urinate so they get a tense feeling, a feeling of fear, of being out of the their body. Some people are really turned on by wearing it so they like the smell of urine, the wetness of it. So I'd start by exploring the fantasy of it, what do you masturbate to when you think about pee, is it a dominant person, is it just kind of pissing on each other, is it a sensual thing? Once you're able to figure out those flavours for you or your kink, then you're able to look for someone who's like-minded.
OK, what should you drink or not drink?
Lots of water, things that are diuretics so like dandelion tea, beer, coffee, things like that, that will push your pee through. If you're into [it] because of the taste, some people may want an enhanced taste, so morning pee, asparagus, it depends on what they're actually looking for. If you want to change the colour of your pee, beets or for sweeter pee, pineapple juice. But mostly water, keep hydrating.
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How to Tell if a Girl is Horny
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Posted:Apr 30, 2017 10:24 pm
Last Updated:Apr 17, 2024 11:11 pm
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As you might surmise, "she's mean" is going to be one of our dead giveaways that a girl is probably quite desirous of some alone time with a member of the opposite sex. I'll flesh out the other big signs here, too.
She's mean. If a girl's being mean, it almost always means she's horny. Now, you don't want to tell her that -- women rarely admit to being horny, and women who are feeling mean particularly aren't going to admit to wanting or needing anything from anybody else. But if you see a girl being mean, you should take that as a loud, clear sign that she needs a man.
If you're covering your bases and you get women moving with you soon into an interaction and investing and they can tell you're going to lead them and move fast, you'll notice a lot of "mean" women slowly start warming up to you. Their formerly bitter meanness turns into a more playful type of banter, and often eventually (assuming you really are leading decisively, making constant forward progress, and moving them quickly toward intimacy) even warming up to you and becoming almost kitten-like.
Alternatively, women will sometimes maintain meanness throughout an interaction, especially if they're very much in need of a man. So long as a woman keeps following you and going along with you when you tell her to, don't worry about whether she's being mean or not -- you shouldn't even let it be a factor. I've heard men complain about mean women, saying things like, "Who wants to be with a girl like that anyway?" but those were just men in auto-rejection because they didn't feel like they could get those girls. Little did they know those mean women they walked away from only needed a man tough enough to take their verbal jousting and lead them to intimacy.
She's distracted. Ever go out to a bar or a nightclub and notice a group of girls where one of the girls is looking around a little feverishly, constantly scanning the crowd, and being a lot more open and/or flirtatious than her girlfriends, engrossed as they are in the gossip that's being shared in their circle? That's a big sign that something else is on her mind -- and quite often, in a social venue like a party or a club, that something else is men.
One of the most helpful mentalities you can assume in this kind of situation is that of the hero who's going to swoop in and save distracted women from their distractedness. I'll often start talking to women like this with a simple, "Hi. How's your night going?" spoken with a voice tone that assumes she was looking for someone to talk to. And that usually gets a very warm, knowing response -- she knows that you know that she was looking for a man like you.
She's personally flirtatious. This one's a little more challenging to describe to a newer guy, but there're essentially two varieties of flirtatiousness: personal, and impersonal. Impersonal flirtatiousness is the female equivalent of males' impersonal game -- standardized, autopilot, and the same stuff she uses on everyone. Personal flirtatiousness is the variety that stands out because a woman's giving you lots of personal attention, is devoting most of her time, energy, and focus on you, and is either actively moving things forward herself, or giving you lots of hints (some subtle, some not as much) that you should take action and lead.
Personal flirtatiousness is what you're going to run into when a girl wants what you have to offer and trusts that you can lead her to satisfaction. It means that, so far, she feels like you're doing everything right, and she wants you to keep everything moving ahead.
She's hyper-affectionate. This is usually only women who've had some to drink, but you'll see it occasionally among sober women. If a girl's touching you (or other people) a lot, and draping herself over you, chances are she's feeling quite lustful. Get her somewhere alone pronto.
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11 smooth moves to seduce a woman and get her in bed
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Posted:Apr 10, 2017 9:24 pm
Last Updated:Apr 10, 2017 9:24 pm
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Just follow these 11 really simple moves, and you’ll surely be in a great position to seduce her and get her in bed.
Use these moves one step at a time, and as long as you play your cards right, she’d be in bed with you even if there are several other guys trying to get her attention at the same time
#1 Get close to her. If you want to seduce a girl, the first thing you need to do is get to know her better. Don’t come on too strong or she’d feel threatened or find you too easy to get, and may get bored of you.
Talk to her and get to know her better. Text her now and then, and be warm and friendly. Don’t hit on her just yet, but don’t behave like a doormat either.
#2 Be likeable. This is a pretty important stage. And this is where you can actually tell if she’s warming up to you or shrinking away from you. As you talk to her now and then, try to get to know more about her and the things she likes.
Text her or talk to her frequently, and try to bond over something both of you find interesting. If the things you say seem to be working its magic, she’d start to enjoy your chats and your texts and keep in touch with you.
But if you come across as a bore, she may start to distance herself from you. She may avoid responding to your texts, or she may take hours to respond to you. And eventually, she may just get bored and avoid you completely. If you ever notice that she takes a while to get back to you, you really need to talk about something else to keep things interesting.
#3 Get active at night. The best way to get naughty and intimate with a girl is by texting her late at night, or by calling her up when she’s in bed. Start by texting late in the evening to begin with, and within a day or two, she may be comfortable enough to text you or speak with you late into the night even if she’s uncomfortable with the idea at first.
Keep the first couple of texting conversations clean, and flirt casually without making it obvious that you’re trying to get her to fall for you. Right now, all you need to do is get closer to her and make her flirt back with you. Don’t try to get into her pants already, or there’s a chance you may blow the whole thing off!
#4 Live two lives. This is where you need to confuse her. Each time you speak with her at night or text her, be flirty and naughty. But when you meet her during the day, don’t talk about the naughty texts at all, unless she talks about it *which means she really likes the flirty texts!*.
Completely avoid talking about the texts when there are other friends around. But flirt with her when it’s just the both of you. By doing this, you’d make her convince herself that there’s already a secret passionate something brewing between the both of you, because no one else knows what’s going on but the both of you. Who doesn’t love a bit of fun, flirty secret drama in their life?
#5 Don’t let her know you like her. Many guys make this mistake here. They tell the girl they like her, or that they have feelings for her. Of course, you like her. She knows that already, doesn’t she? You text her all the time, both of you flirt all the time, and she can definitely feel the chemistry.
But even though she has a hint that you like her, she needs to hear it from you to confirm her doubts. Play it cool and don’t confess your feelings for her anytime now. Her excitement and curiosity would make her addicted to you. Revealing your affection for her will kill the suspense, which won’t help you in any way.
#6 Get into her comfort zone. When you get some alone time with her, sit closer to her and pretend like you didn’t notice how close you’re sitting. You’ve been flirting with her, now you need to get into her personal space to make her feel the sexual chemistry.
Touch her arms or her fingers while saying something, place your hands around her waist while sidestepping across her or walking past her, touch her while complimenting her, or hug her for just a second longer while saying goodbye.
#7 Build the sexual tension. By now, she’d feel the sexual tingle each time you touch her accidentally or otherwise. This is where you need to make her crave your touch. Let your hand linger on her back or on her arms as you touch her. Go really close and whisper something in her ear. Speak softly and play with her fingers when no one’s around. Build the sexual attraction right, and she’d turn into putty in your hands!
#8 Play games. If you’ve been flirting with her and feeling her up now and then while sitting next to each other, you’ve seduced her already and you’re in a great place to even take her to bed.
But if you want to play it safe and take it slow, continue to text her late at night. Play a few naughty texting games this time around, and initiate them casually. Before you know it, you’d be seducing her while having fun and playing games with her at the same time.
#9 The dirty conversation. You’ve been texting her, flirting with her and seducing her every single night. And if she’s been playing along all this while, this is where you talk dirty and make the big move. Initiate a dirty conversation over the phone. Start simple, and ask her a question that seems innocent, but would definitely lead to something dirty. And before you know it, both of you would be having phone sex with each other!
#10 Ask her out. Once you’ve had phone sex with her, you’ve seduced her already. Now all you need to do is make out with each other in person. Ask her out, or tell her you really want to meet her sometime. Make plans to meet up in your place or hers, and avoid going out on a date unless you’re trying to woo her or make her fall in love with you. This is where you need to choose whether you’re looking for a friends-with-benefits relationship or a romance.
#11 Make out with her! And when you finally do meet her *and she knows why you want to meet her*, don’t jump on her right away just because both of you have had phone sex already.
You may just end up killing the mood, or she may tell you that she’s not feeling the connection, which would take you nowhere. Play it slow, warm up to the act and make sure she’s in the mood before you try to kiss her for the first time.
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vaginal steaming
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Posted:Mar 5, 2017 5:54 pm
Last Updated:Apr 17, 2024 11:11 pm
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Pour eight cups of water (preferably purified water) into a medium-size pot.
Place a handful of fresh herbs (about a quarter cup) into the water.
Bring water to a soft boil (with the lid on) for five minutes.
Turn off the heat and steep for another five minutes with the lid on.
Pour four cups (half of the pot) of water into a bowl you've placed in your toilet.
Wave your hand eight to ten inches over the herbal water to make sure it's not too hot.
Remove your underwear and sit on the seat above the steaming water.
Drape a large blanket or sheet around your waist and down to the floor to make sure no steam escapes.
Keep yourself warm by wearing something on your feet (socks, slippers) and neck. You do not want any cold to get into your body while you are trying to warm it.
You should feel a warm, rolling heat for about ten to 12 minutes.
When the steam dies down, dump the water into the toilet. Starting with step four, begin the second dosage with the other half of the herbal water. If it has cooled too much you'll need to reheat it, but test again before sitting over the steam.
If you get your V-steam done at a spa, they'll seat you in chair with a little hole in the middle, which allows the steam to rise into your hoo-ha. YinOva Center recommended steaming on your toilet. This would be so easy!
Vaginal steam baths come from an ancient Korean tradition called chai-yok, which uses mugwort and wormwood to cleanse the vagina. Both herbs are associated with detoxification, uterine health, and improving hormonal balance.
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