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Quote Of The Day: 12-8-20  

trixietrixster 54F  
3256 posts
12/8/2020 3:41 pm
Quote Of The Day: 12-8-20

"She could feel the echo of lovemaking in her body in the same way she could feel the rock and shift of waves after a day of swimming, long after she left the water" - Abby Geni, The Wildlands, 2018


In Luv, Lite, Laffter ...


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
12/8/2020 8:32 pm

The meme is accurate ?* Trust enables you to push your own boundaries.


justaguyinalaska 56M
879 posts
12/9/2020 12:08 am

To expand upon sexyldy1000's comment:

The boundaries that push against (or collapse from) fear contain the evolving corpus of our *trust*. Psychologists understand trust as having four elements- consistency, compassion, communication and competency. They react in response to our experience and are the *tonics* by which we mitigate fear.

Authentic BDSM is prescriptive and ritualistic; designed to build trust by reinforcing each of its four elements. Over time and repetition, using increasing intensities, kink pushes the *edge* of our fears deeper into the realm of submission and disaffiliation (desire to flee), bringing arousal and pleasure into what were once our *no-fly zones*.

So it is in progressing a *connection* into intimacy. Humans being....well, humans, there is no reliable panacea of process or timeline. If conditions are ripe, *things* move rapidly. Other times, patience and abidance are essential.

What is assured is that *trust* is omnipotent. In remaining steadfastly attentive to consistency, compassion, communication and competency, one will, in time, harvest love's (or lust's) bountiful and amazing fruits.


Tmptrzz 59F  
107039 posts
12/9/2020 7:14 am

Good morning my friend, what a great quote and so very true too we must have the utmost trust in our partners, so that we can take our sexy adventures to so many new heights. I hope you enjoy your Hump Day..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


trixietrixster 54F  
3125 posts
12/10/2020 3:08 pm

    Quoting sexyldy1000:
    The meme is accurate ?* Trust enables you to push your own boundaries.
For shizzle! With trust, our capabilities are often times way more than we thought. Hope is all well with you, keep safe ...

In Luv, Lite, Laffter ...


trixietrixster 54F  
3125 posts
12/10/2020 4:05 pm

    Quoting  :

That's a great point. And, "repressed memories" comes to mind, or something along those lines. Always gotta keep striving on the path ahead, even tho we mite have to walk thru a tunnel. Hope you are staying safe ...

In Luv, Lite, Laffter ...


trixietrixster 54F  
3125 posts
12/10/2020 4:13 pm

    Quoting justaguyinalaska:
    To expand upon sexyldy1000's comment:

    The boundaries that push against (or collapse from) fear contain the evolving corpus of our *trust*. Psychologists understand trust as having four elements- consistency, compassion, communication and competency. They react in response to our experience and are the *tonics* by which we mitigate fear.

    Authentic BDSM is prescriptive and ritualistic; designed to build trust by reinforcing each of its four elements. Over time and repetition, using increasing intensities, kink pushes the *edge* of our fears deeper into the realm of submission and disaffiliation (desire to flee), bringing arousal and pleasure into what were once our *no-fly zones*.

    So it is in progressing a *connection* into intimacy. Humans being....well, humans, there is no reliable panacea of process or timeline. If conditions are ripe, *things* move rapidly. Other times, patience and abidance are essential.

    What is assured is that *trust* is omnipotent. In remaining steadfastly attentive to consistency, compassion, communication and competency, one will, in time, harvest love's (or lust's) bountiful and amazing fruits.
The four components make absolute sense - totally get that. Without those, (for starters), one is not capable of complete trust. Trust without question and/or fear. There are a lot of things that I said I'd never do. Tho, over time, with trust, I've gone further than I could have possibly imagined. Luv and lust = optimally stellar! Hope you are staying safe ...

In Luv, Lite, Laffter ...


trixietrixster 54F  
3125 posts
12/10/2020 4:15 pm

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    Good morning my friend, what a great quote and so very true too we must have the utmost trust in our partners, so that we can take our sexy adventures to so many new heights. I hope you enjoy your Hump Day..
With trust, the possibilities are only as endless as our imaginations. Thank you, my friend ... Happy Thursday!

In Luv, Lite, Laffter ...


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