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I Am Not Saying You Are Stupid  

sexyldy1000 65F  
10238 posts
7/15/2020 1:17 pm
I Am Not Saying You Are Stupid



When I was growing up, calling someone 'stupid' was almost as bad as swearing. It just wasn't allowed. To this day, I don't think I have called someone stupid. However, I have told someone their actions were stupid.

You know the people I mean:

They think yelling at someone whose first language isn't English, is gong to make them understand them.

They run across multiple lanes of traffic on a red light, to catch a bus.

They think no one will notice when they go through the grocery store Express Line with a full<b> shopping </font></b>cart .

They like having a but not the responsibility of cleaning up after them.

They think asking the same question over and over again will result in a different answer.

They get behind the wheel of car to drive when they aren't sober.

They wear their mandatory face mask around their neck or pull it up to slurp their coffee or other beverage.

They have multiple profiles on here using the same pictures



sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
7/15/2020 1:23 pm

What do you do when someone does something 'stupid'?


nightowl35044 63M
61 posts
7/15/2020 1:59 pm

Stupid is as stupid does...


justaguyinalaska 56M
879 posts
7/15/2020 2:00 pm

Poor judgment and acting against self-interest seem more like rules of human behavior than exceptions.

As such, assuming that I am not in harm's way or worried about becoming collateral damage, my preference is (like the Dude) to *abide*. As you point out, other than Schadenfreude, there is nothing to be gained by calling-out people for a public humiliation. Indeed, people are often loath to receive criticism, even constructively and in private.

Let it go and move along to more productive pursuits.


Maize32 54M  
1391 posts
7/15/2020 2:05 pm

Typically I just SMH, as you can't fix stupid.


brandnewman2003 60M
1278 posts
7/15/2020 2:18 pm

I clicked on the like button for your post, but I wish there could be a love option as well, because I do absolutely love what you wrote !


redrockrascal 64M
23580 posts
7/15/2020 2:26 pm

I'm told I get a look on my face the essentially says "you're (stupid, an arcehole, dumber than a rock, etc)

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


mc_justmc 62M
6929 posts
7/15/2020 2:48 pm

I try to ignore them and let it go. I don't want to bring myself down to their level.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
7/15/2020 2:50 pm

I usually swear. I'm a potty mouth....


Tmptrzz 59F  
107039 posts
7/15/2020 2:51 pm

I have to totally agree with you here, and there are so many more that could be added to your list here. Thanks so much for sharing these as many people need to read this as a reminder.. I hope you enjoy the rest of your Hump Day my friend..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


teddy425 64M
294 posts
7/15/2020 4:02 pm

Without stupid people there would be no Darwin Awards..


lonlyforlove2 79M  
32704 posts
7/15/2020 5:31 pm

When some one does some of the things you mentioned I think they need a sign to hang around their neck to remind THEM that they are stupid..At one time there was a show on TV 'Where's your sign". Most of the time, I think, stupid has to be learned, there is no way some of the things they do can be done without some knowledge and fore thought.. I think that most don't even realize what they do , the first time.. The world is full of them , they are allowed to drive and worse they can vote!!, Just my opinion, I think I can have one..Off my soap back and back to the News!!

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thikhead 65M
3346 posts
7/15/2020 6:36 pm

some of the examples you listed ARE examples of "stupid behavior",
some people just make mistakes or poor decisions,
we ARE all human after all. some are just "more human" than others.
but others are people plain being ignorant, there IS a difference,
just the effect on others is the same.

its when they cross the line between hurting themselves
and hurting others that the ethics of how to act comes into question.
go ahead and get yourself hit by a bus, but then medical costs
and availability suffer for ALL of us.
but what if I get hit trying to save you?
dont wear a mask? go ahead and dont!
but if youre an asymptomatic carrier, YOU could infect ME.
unfortunately, there are rarely easy answers, if any at all.

people caught acting stupidly will react with offensive retaliation
out of embarrassment and the fear of appearing inferior
(kinda like in todays american politics, not naming names here).
people acting ignorantly ALREADY decided youre not worth a fuck.

i guess the best we can do is "grin and bear it"
even if its not really the "right" answer, just the easiest,
and hope "they" dont still make "us" suffer some consequence
from their actions.

wish i had a better answer, maybe somebody else does ?

"well only get through this if we work together. if we dont, none of us will"


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
7/15/2020 7:05 pm

That is true according to Forrest Gump


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
7/15/2020 7:07 pm

    Quoting justaguyinalaska:
    Poor judgment and acting against self-interest seem more like rules of human behavior than exceptions.

    As such, assuming that I am not in harm's way or worried about becoming collateral damage, my preference is (like the Dude) to *abide*. As you point out, other than Schadenfreude, there is nothing to be gained by calling-out people for a public humiliation. Indeed, people are often loath to receive criticism, even constructively and in private.

    Let it go and move along to more productive pursuits.
You certainly raise valid points. I am sure I would react differently if I was somehow put in harm's way. Thanks for stopping by.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
7/15/2020 7:09 pm

    Quoting Maize32:
    Typically I just SMH, as you can't fix stupid.
Another effective way to deal with 'those' people. Thanks for stopping by.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
7/15/2020 7:10 pm

    Quoting  :

Yes, his seems a popular philosophy.
Thanks for stopping by.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
7/15/2020 7:11 pm

    Quoting brandnewman2003:
    I clicked on the like button for your post, but I wish there could be a love option as well, because I do absolutely love what you wrote !
Thank you. Is there something in particular that you liked about it?


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
7/15/2020 7:13 pm

    Quoting redrockrascal:
    I'm told I get a look on my face the essentially says "you're (stupid, an arcehole, dumber than a rock, etc)
Really? That's sounds effective . Often, less is more!


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
7/15/2020 7:14 pm

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    I try to ignore them and let it go. I don't want to bring myself down to their level.
Sounds like a good strategy!


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
7/15/2020 7:16 pm

    Quoting secret_lade:
    I usually swear. I'm a potty mouth....
Really? I wouldn't have imagined that! I find myself more and more mumbling under my breath what I am thinking.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
7/15/2020 7:17 pm

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    I have to totally agree with you here, and there are so many more that could be added to your list here. Thanks so much for sharing these as many people need to read this as a reminder.. I hope you enjoy the rest of your Hump Day my friend..
I agree. I could have filled several pages but didn't want to ramble. Enjoy the rest of your evening


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
7/15/2020 7:19 pm

    Quoting  :

Sounds like you are pretty tough on yourself. I agree, best that the 'others' not hearing what you are thinking!


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
7/15/2020 7:21 pm

    Quoting onelastchan00:
    Once again you nailed it my friend...
    Excellent post
    Me? I always say thats my biggest peeve
    I dont have the patience for STUPID people
It's not easy tolerating 'those' people. Thanks for the compliment. Enjoy the rest of your evening.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
7/15/2020 7:26 pm

    Quoting teddy425:
    Without stupid people there would be no Darwin Awards..
I wasn't familiar with those, so looked them up. Shaking my head in disbelief at what some of the award winners did to achieve the recognition!


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
7/15/2020 7:28 pm

    Quoting lonlyforlove2:
    When some one does some of the things you mentioned I think they need a sign to hang around their neck to remind THEM that they are stupid..At one time there was a show on TV 'Where's your sign". Most of the time, I think, stupid has to be learned, there is no way some of the things they do can be done without some knowledge and fore thought.. I think that most don't even realize what they do , the first time.. The world is full of them , they are allowed to drive and worse they can vote!!, Just my opinion, I think I can have one..Off my soap back and back to the News!!
'Stupid' seems to exist everywhere. With some, you wonder how they manage to get through each day. Enjoy catching up on the News!


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
7/15/2020 7:30 pm

    Quoting thikhead:
    some of the examples you listed ARE examples of "stupid behavior",
    some people just make mistakes or poor decisions,
    we ARE all human after all. some are just "more human" than others.
    but others are people plain being ignorant, there IS a difference,
    just the effect on others is the same.

    its when they cross the line between hurting themselves
    and hurting others that the ethics of how to act comes into question.
    go ahead and get yourself hit by a bus, but then medical costs
    and availability suffer for ALL of us.
    but what if I get hit trying to save you?
    dont wear a mask? go ahead and dont!
    but if youre an asymptomatic carrier, YOU could infect ME.
    unfortunately, there are rarely easy answers, if any at all.

    people caught acting stupidly will react with offensive retaliation
    out of embarrassment and the fear of appearing inferior
    (kinda like in todays american politics, not naming names here).
    people acting ignorantly ALREADY decided youre not worth a fuck.

    i guess the best we can do is "grin and bear it"
    even if its not really the "right" answer, just the easiest,
    and hope "they" dont still make "us" suffer some consequence
    from their actions.

    wish i had a better answer, maybe somebody else does ?
You raise some interesting examples. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your perspective.


lok4fun500 M
51906 posts
7/15/2020 8:13 pm

You can actually call someone stupid!! even an idiot!! Many do!
We are fortunate he is south of border!


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
7/15/2020 8:24 pm

    Quoting lok4fun500:
    You can actually call someone stupid!! even an idiot!! Many do!
    We are fortunate he is south of border!
I didn't say someone couldn't, just that I prefer not to. How do you deal with 'those' kinds of people?


Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
7/15/2020 8:50 pm

Well... there are a bunch of other things what would qualify as being stupid.
I know... I qualify and i'm a card-holding member.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
7/16/2020 1:04 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Well... there are a bunch of other things what would qualify as being stupid.
    I know... I qualify and i'm a card-holding member.
Yes there certainly are but space was limited.
Card-holding? Really? Who’s in charge of that club?


easyrider4008 66M
2563 posts
7/16/2020 1:15 am

I think there are many other adjectives apart from stupid to describe an arsehole!


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
7/16/2020 1:27 am

    Quoting easyrider4008:
    I think there are many other adjectives apart from stupid to describe an arsehole!
Lol. Yes that is so true!


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
7/16/2020 3:41 am

    Quoting mamacita38dd:
    How about they use internet pics and say they are them... How about they use published writings or songs and claim them as theirs... How about they say they have published writings, but write like a 3rd grader... the only stupid there is the people that actually believe them
Yes, those are specific examples of doing stupid things.


pocogato12 70F  
37236 posts
7/16/2020 5:33 am

Ignorance is bliss- NOT but Stupidity well it has its own curse and you cant fix it. I never say stupid- I was brought up to know better- I have other adjectives

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sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
7/16/2020 6:40 am

    Quoting pocogato12:
    Ignorance is bliss- NOT but Stupidity well it has its own curse and you cant fix it. I never say stupid- I was brought up to know better- I have other adjectives
Sounds like we think 🤔 alike. ‘You can’t fix stupid’ seems to resonate with many.


Solfan55 67M
500 posts
7/16/2020 9:48 am

Stupid and entitled is a bad combination sexyldy1000. I expect to see more of both as we move to Stage 3 on Friday, given our proximity to the GTA. Stay safe my dear!


Rockin4u42 46M

7/16/2020 9:58 am

everyone makes mistakes. unfortunately some people just don't care


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
7/16/2020 3:11 pm

    Quoting Solfan55:
    Stupid and entitled is a bad combination sexyldy1000. I expect to see more of both as we move to Stage 3 on Friday, given our proximity to the GTA. Stay safe my dear!
Yes that is true. I do feel for communities that have been invaded by those sense of entitlement people. Look what happened in Kingston. ‘Safety first’ continues to be my mantra.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
7/16/2020 3:12 pm

    Quoting Rockin4u42:
    everyone makes mistakes. unfortunately some people just don't care
I agree. Honest mistakes can happen. It’s the blatant disregard for the consequences that irk me. Thanks for stopping by.


trixietrixster 54F  
3125 posts
7/18/2020 5:08 pm

Well, we all know stupid has no cure, just the same as common sense isn't really that common. Trying to reason with a brain impaired person is a pointless act - just leaves the "smart" one more frustrated. I just let them be a fucking moron and move along. Since we can't strangle them - LOL ... we can at least be somewhat entertained. Hope you are surviving the bloody awful heat!

In Luv, Lite, Laffter ...


anal6ns 49M
48 posts
7/31/2020 5:19 pm

love your post


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
7/31/2020 9:45 pm

    Quoting trixietrixster:
    Well, we all know stupid has no cure, just the same as common sense isn't really that common. Trying to reason with a brain impaired person is a pointless act - just leaves the "smart" one more frustrated. I just let them be a fucking moron and move along. Since we can't strangle them - LOL ... we can at least be somewhat entertained. Hope you are surviving the bloody awful heat!
'You Can't Fix Stupid' comes to mind. And yes, it's crazy hot and humid here too. I can't wait until my favourite season: Fall arrives!


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
7/31/2020 9:46 pm

Thank you. Take your time and look around


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