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This is our City of Angels (and Porn Stars)!!! Have you ever wondered what’s is really going on here in Sexland what we call Los Angeles which is the "Internet" and "Movie" Porn capital of the world?
My blog (hopefully) will be funny, witty, enjoyable and informative with my tilted perceptions on and about really nothing except various meandering thoughts and open conversations about living life here in the Porn capital of the world, Los Angeles (okay ..really the San Fernando Valley)!
Lucky for me, much of my time is spent out driving about in and around Los Angeles. From the trendy areas of Silverlake/Echo Park and Downtown LA to the Glitzy Westside areas of Pacific Palisades and Brentwood to the conservative Palos Verdes Peninsula.
Every neighborhoood around LA has its own lifestyle ..so to speak!!!
So truly my hope is that we can enjoy this exercise together and please be constructive in your comments!!!
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Should you fuck your ex's sister or best friend..Trust me, the answer is no
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Posted:Nov 7, 2016 11:14 pm
Last Updated:Nov 9, 2016 11:27 pm
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A few weeks ago, I posted an article and Blog post regarding my ex girlfriends sister. Long story short, no I did not fuck her (but really thought about it). For me, and many friends who put their two cents in the mix, It just seem weird and would cause dynamics within her family and excessive and unneeded drama for me.
As a younger man in my teens/early 20's, It was widely known that I was guilty for fucking several close friends and relatives of a platonic girlfriend of mine, Carlotta. While attending college, sex was easy and plentiful (almost like now in my 50's) just different.
Upon meeting me, many of the girls trusted Carlotta's opinion of my character of being a good guy. Not a goof who was relatively educated and upon verifying that fact (or opinion) usually they would witness my kindness to my friend and her family (mom, dad, sisters etc). They would see me at the family gathering and extended family parties, helping out and having fun. It seems, being at a family party is almost like being at a wedding, the single available women are always looking to hook up with an available "nice guy". By the time we graduated college, she told me she had to stop introducing me to her friends since I fucked most of them all. She called me, and still calls me, the only male slut she knows.
The one chance I had with fucking her older (middle sister) sister, Sherrie (5'5 shapely) I stopped myself while in motion to close the deal. It dawned on me that her sister Sherrie seemed to go through a lot of guys and was, let's just say, always moody. Moody and emotionally unstable. Sherrie seemed to have all the right things going for her, great body, educated and family money yet she lacked common sense in my opinion. Her "guy picker" seemed to be broken or was not installed.
Lucky for me my black cock never fucked her tanned pussy. It never happened and today, almost 40 years later, that is something that I am thankful for. There is a higher power watching out for us! Last time Sherrie and I spoke, it was surreal and she is bat shit crazy. Imagine how much trouble and drama that would have created with her family and my dynamic! Imagine how much other pussy that by fucking her might have blocked from my cock?
If you have the chance to fuck a sister or a best friend of one of your former lovers, think twice and then think twice again. Just don't do it, it is not worth the pain and aggravation that might follow the stink and gossip. Yet if you think the sister is a keeper, then get on it......
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sexual positions, are they that important?
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Posted:Nov 5, 2016 3:31 am
Last Updated:Nov 5, 2016 3:33 am
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How many sexual positions are there? As my memory serves me well with my past reading (okay I have a pop up book) of the Kama Sutra, there are 64 positions outlined.
Yet tonight when "Googling" sexual positions the number of sex positions possible ranged from one (1) (yes one web site on the World Wide Web suggested the "Missionary" position as the only real sex position) to 400. One web site even mentioned there were 100 variances on the 64 sex positions in the Kama Sutra. As members of the human race, it amazes me that we can find new (really not new) ways of fucking.
Is it the position of sex connection the thing we enjoy or is it the person and then the position we have sex in is secondary? This mind of mine is an inquiring one. Over the 45 plus years of being sexually active with all of my partners/lovers/friends (the number is an arbitrary one – I did count once in the early 90s) for the most part of my sexual partners, not all positions have been tried out completely.
With a few of my female partners, they have been sexed from head to toe literally. Some of my past lovers / friends / partners have enjoyed one sexual position over others. One might prefer doggy style fucking, while another may have preferred side to side and another might just love cowgirl and riding my hardened cock. It seems to be a personal preference of course like anything else we humans do!
Here are some ideas for having fun with positions:
1. GO VERTICAL ….
Some women love the idea of being picked up and kissed, touched, and groped against a wall before moving the party to the bed or floor. If you are healthy enough, you can just pick her up and fuck her while standing! Just take complete control. She will love it. Trust me.
2. BE GENTLE, NOT…..
Take charge and use your strength. She wants a man, not a pussy who looks like a man. Be careful and respectful, yet take charge in bed. It seems when I get 'rough' in bed, my partner seems to enjoy when a man wraps his hands around her hair, be it thick and curly or straight and silky and pulls her head back! Usually a light kiss on her neck while my cock slides into her pussy, from behind. Many have cum, almost when my hand cups the front of their neck and are pulled to me.
3. TOOLS OF THE TRADE, SPEND $$$ / EXPERIMENT....
Owning, leather paddles and restraints have opened the door and wet pussy to many partners. Most women love the idea of just totally having to surrender to another person, to be able to trust you with their body. This will get you mad points and repeat business.
4. BE A ROMANTIC, WITHIN REASON....
Rose petals, on-the-bed? Maybe you might use that technique for the right woman, at the right time. Candles, of course that is a must. Yes candles can be an all season thing? It’s so romantic and romance is the ultimate turn-on.
5. LEARN THE DANCE OF ROMANCE, SLOW IS BEST.
Slowly undress your lover and let her undress you. Take your time, it is worth every second. Take in every inch her naked sensual body. Let her know through your touch and please do use your word, by letting her know you are getting more excited with every piece of clothing that comes off. For her this is so sensual. In truth, you should tell her just how excited you are every step of the way.
6. BE CONFIDENT.
Take charge, especially in the bedroom
7. KISS HER LIKE YOU MEAN IT.
Kissing, the most sensual thing is kissing. Never, Never, Never forget the importance of kissing her deeply and passionately…for a very long time! Many men miss this step! Men fail to recognize what a turn-on it is for women.
8. GO SOUTH AND TREAT IT LIKE A JOB.
Hint: Most men are willing to go down but many don't know how to truly take their time and please a woman. If it were a melting ice cream cone, would you work to finish or let it drip and drip …..
Hope you have thought about the positions you might like and why, I would love to hear what your thoughts might be on that subject.
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Breakups.... what are the best ways to get out?
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Posted:Nov 3, 2016 2:31 am
Last Updated:Nov 3, 2016 2:31 am
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Paul Simon came on, my mind started working for the lyrics to sing to the music.... She said it's really not my habit to intrude.....Furthermore, I hope my meaning won't be lost or misconstrued But I'll repeat myself at the risk of being crude... There must be fifty ways to leave your lover.... Fifty ways to leave your lover.... Oh this made me smile.... I really wonder what are the top five (5) ways to break up with your lover?
Of course it really depends on what kind of relationship you might want afterwards. Do you still want to fuck them from time to time (booty call or FW? Do you want to continue a long term friendship, platonic and without sex? Or perhaps you have gone to the nuclear type option and with a quick flip of a switch (or words out of your mouth) completed wiped out all humanity and plan to live underground until the world outside can grow new fresh food.... The truth is: ALL relationships do end. Some end slowly and organically and some relationships are encouraged to end, quickly.
1. Take full responsibility of your part in the break up.
2. Speak from your own point of view, do it with clarity and compassion, be direct.
3. Be kind and loving,
4. Be honorable, a person of integrity. Respect yourself, respect your lover, and the relationship.
5. Take time to digest the loss of the relationship and your partner.
Whatever you do, "Don't Break Up Over Email" or text messages or other high-tech message delivery systems are not the best medium for ending a romantic or a sexual relationship. Social networking sites, like Facebook, allow users to post comments on one another's pages, but they should never be used to end a romantic relationship. Note: "If it's a casual encounter, a text message is perfect since it may not be your day in their rotation. Remember, long term it's better to call and speak and go out to dinner."
Remember to always stick to the facts about the relationship. "Face-to-face (or phone if distance is an issue) contact is a must," It is paramount to give the person with whom you are ending the relationship the chance to ask you questions and feel the emotion of the words." Be as direct and honest as you can and whatever you do don't engage in tit-for-tat arguments. You can't win! Stick to the facts: 'It's not working, it's no one's fault, we need to make a change'" is always best the prescription!
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Why does this have to be so hard?
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Posted:Nov 2, 2016 1:17 am
Last Updated:Dec 3, 2016 10:24 am
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Why can’t women just say what it is that they want, without going in circles that begin with friendship and end with sex? Why can’t a she just be honest and let me know that she truly loves sex, just like me?
What is it with (some) you women who have very little imagination and a fixed vision when it comes to romance? Treat us with with respect yet still have a vivid imagination when it comes to sexual desires....
Yes, we know that you are fit and have a healthy appetite. You seem in the “real world” that you do consider opinions of others, and when given you usually follow any sage advice. You seem to have a desire to read more than just the fashion and gossip (online), and are optimistic and seemingly not addicted to anything except me.
I will admit that you are well groomed and have fabulous oral hygiene. Those nice hands, do they mean that you have also a nice ____. Wow, you really know how to dress and hmmmm undress well.
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SexCapades ..Sex Tourism .... Sex vacations..are they worth it?
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Posted:Nov 1, 2016 12:07 pm
Last Updated:Nov 7, 2016 4:21 pm
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A few days ago, at the Lakers home game / season opener, I ran in to a good friend and an acquaintance I've know since high school. It was nice to see them and talk to them at the game and catch up since we don't talk on a regular basis, except at a gathering, social event or party once or twice every year. They were both in exceptional spirit. laughing and joking like we were still in high school. It seems they had just scheduled a trip in December to the Dominican Republic. That country / destination just seemed a bit random, they also had told me it was their first trip to the Caribbean. Why the Dominican, when there are several other places that seemed more... let me say it this way "exciting". They could visit the British Virgin Islands, St. Lucia, U.S. Virgin Islands, the Cayman Islands, Turks & Caicos, St. Kitts & Nevis or Jamaica or Barbados.
Then they spilled the beans about their plan. It was a for a sex vacation or sexcapades. My mouth must have dropped, especially when they suggested that I could come along. A Sex Vacation? Of course while in my twenties (my swinging years), my older lover and I visited Sandals in Jamaica in the early 80s. It was a swingers resort filled with a lot of drinking and sex. yes it was truly an experience that has helped shape my life today, yet that is not what they are talking about.
These guys are planning on flying to The Dominican Republic and visiting a resort there that has promised them sex sex and more sex! Here is a quote from the website they are using: "The Playboy Mansion of the Caribbean and you are Hugh Hefner! Our Exotic Adult Sex Vacations are created with your fantasies in mind. Our sex resort is a place where you will physically transport to a piece of paradise where you may and will do as you’d like. This includes: party, relax, unwind and be pampered by beautiful girls at all times. Our companions are warm, friendly and very beautiful girls whose ultimate goal is to cater to your specific wants and desires during your sex vacation."
My smile actually masked my frightened laughter. These guys were the Jocks of the high school we attended. My friend was one of the most popular guys in our high school, dated the cutest women and so many knew and liked him even at the surrounding schools. What happened for him to want to fly 3000 miles to get fucked by young tender nubile women at a cost that might not be in only money?
Five countries account for 96% of all people living with HIV in the region: Cuba, the Dominican Republic, Haiti, Jamaica and Trinidad and Tobago. And remember, Haiti and the Dominican Republic share a border. The odds are good, since the goods may be odd. What the fuck were they thinking.
For the same money, if they are paying for sex, Las Vegas is 4 1/2 hours northeast. They could rent a great room at the Bellagio or the Wynn or even MGM and be serviced by three four or five women....for less money and less possibility of contracting a communicable disease especially a deadly one. This one spins my head and makes me think how many men take these sex -cations?
Several guys I know have flown to Thailand, Indonesia, Cambodia and even the Philippines for vacation and while they were there like many red blooded and horny american men, they have met and fucked women there. I have done the same on several of my vacation, so that is nothing new for me. My purpose of the trips abroad to Asia, Middle East and South America were usually for curiosity of the country (Nile River, Brazilian Carnival, Rain Forest,Golden Triangle <-- I am sober was just curious about the beauty) its culture, sightseeing, historical significance and at least for me the sex always happens often when travelling.
Perhaps, they are right and my viewpoint is completely tilted and off track. Maybe my sexual adventures that happened in my younger years are not a compass to assess theirs. Our lives all have taken a different path. The sexcapades, at least for them it is happening (maybe again) right now. Let me check my passport and schedule, it might just be fun for me too.... naw, i'll pass.
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College days memories, what a fuck fest.....
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Posted:Oct 28, 2016 2:17 pm
Last Updated:Nov 7, 2016 11:15 pm
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Yesterday while taking the train (yes riding mass transit is fun for me) to the USC vs Cal football game and seeing many USC and Cal fans on the train,excited for the game, laughing and enjoying themselves. It triggered a reminder in me of the fun times that were had in my college years. Sex was easy, quite abundant and no stress.
My mind drifted back the mid-late 70's and early 80's (yes it took me 7 years) and the sweet young and tight pussy this black cock had the pleasure to fuck across the many different campuses, especially those of USC and Cal Berkeley. Although I attended undergrad a different school (Cal Poly) I had fraternity brothers, relatives and friends all around the state within driving distance. USC was in my back yard and Cal was up north near my aunts house, walking distance from the campus in Berkeley.
What memories. The excitement and experimentation of our youth! The first time having a threesome with two female roommates, I cannot remember their names at all, in the "girls only" housing (Hoyt hall). I do remember we met at a disco themed party on the UC Berkeley campus and we all danced a lot. I also remember there was a blond white guy with longer hair guy who was with us dancing and laughing, he bailed after we were all getting high (for you young folks that was only Marijuana and beer) at their place after the party . He was pissed and paranoid about the music they were listening to. His loss.
I remember doing the hustle (yes imagine Saturday Night Fever) dancing and then one of the girls grinding on my pelvis, which used to to get my cock hard at the sound of anything related to sex or the idea of a wet pussy riding it. I remember a lot of kissing and my cock being pulled out and played with while being kissed by the other girl. Although the details are spotty, I do remember cumming with one while sitting on the couch and the other one in her bed later that early morning. I also remember my walk of shame (lol) around 6am when I got my ass out of there. I also got a parking ticket. Memories.
For USC, there are many memories of fucking there. The several young (late teens) tight pussies of the young Mormon girls from Utah and Arizona who wanted to experience a black cock. A few OC and Palos Verdes girls who wanted to fuck me to piss off their parents and just the sluts that every campus seems to have.
Maybe the fuckfest happened for me due to the low self esteem of the girls or the idea for them that being away from home the first time they can spread their wings (and pussies) whenever they wanted and experience life. Who the fuck knows for sure. Yet for me the memories came flooding back on the train ride to the USC game ....
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Fucking over 50 ... and closer to 60!
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Posted:Oct 25, 2016 1:47 pm
Last Updated:Dec 13, 2016 4:48 pm
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There’s a popular perception that older people lose interest in sex over time. At least for me, it is not true. Several studies have been taken, yet who cares what a study says, many people maintain active sex lives well into their later years.t At least with my friends, who have told me, they were still sexually active. Yes while women go through their change and men usually lose "stiffness" in their older age, it still does not stop a healthy and usually happy sex life.
I clearly remember several years ago (maybe as long as 10 years ago), when one night it alarmed me that my cock could not immediately get hard after fucking. Damn, I thought there goes the three or four fucks after coming home from the club or a party. Another time (maybe two years ago; maybe three years ago) my cock did not get hard while it was being sucked my the girl I was with. Yes is might have been the fact, she was a complete ditz and talked too fucking much or the fact the last time we fucked she did not want to leave when I asked her to. Maybe me head caused the pause in my cock getting erect or maybe it was the beginning of the path to a maturing body.
One thing that happened in my late 30's and has carried over to now my late 50's is the fact that taking my time and and staying focused on her body pays off big time. An older man is usually not in a hurry. It takes a little more time to do it right. Then why not take the time? Working a woman's body slowly, top to bottom...side to side... peak to the valley's and back. Waterworks is always a bonus when she is excited. There is always great pleasure, for me in making sure that happens! Also one other benefit; usually a second or third (and most cases a fourth) time having sex.
Let's talk about that next issue, one night stands. While over the last ten (10) years, my one night stands are almost non-existent. While one night stands have happened from time to time (with great pleasure) at my age, why work hard on getting fucked, unless you are going to fuck her three or four times (and hopefully more) with the same effort? When younger, my goal was meeting and enjoying my partner sexually. Where she lived (or with who) did not matter as much.
As an older guy, seeing the big picture is important to me. Will the drive to see her be an easy 10 minute drive across the westside of LA or will it take half a day and trek my ass to "The OC" on the 405 or 5 during traffic? These issues have become very important to me as a more mature man.
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Age when losing your virginity; does the age really matter?
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Posted:Oct 22, 2016 3:47 pm
Last Updated:Jun 13, 2018 11:53 pm
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Thursday night, while having a conversation with
Pamela, just my neighbor and friend, it got a bit headed
when we broached the subject of late bloomers and the impact
it might have on an adults sex life later on. Pamela asked
about one of ex'es she became friendly with. Then the
S%$t storm started.
She started pointing out that having so many sexual partners
in life is not a good thing. She guessed that my sexual partners
had to number about 30 in my life so far. My smile then laughter
just really pissed her off. Background, just before turning
a , at 12 years old, sex was introduced to me (with
a partner that is) ..thank you Millicent. I went on and made
a statement; if thirty (30) was indeed the number of partners
my body experienced, and if my sexually only attracted
an average of one (1) partner per year, it meant that there
were seventeen (17) years left unaccounted for (since
currently I am 59 years old). Her mouth dropped, eyes dilated
and she stopped being angry. She did however open up a can
of worms. How young is too young and how old is too old to lose
your virginity?
This morning (1am - ish) The google internet browser was
used to find articles and scientific positions on the subject.
Of course one search on the internet always leads to another
and another. My searching stopped when the tangential
searching hit upon the subject regarding sexual dysfunction
/ kinky behavior is tied to the fact of someone having a bad
experience losing their virginity. Later this subject
will be one to look at, but now let's talk about the age
in which someone loses their virginity.
This will not be a moral debate, please. Of course most parents
(okay at least me) did not want my , now 23 years
old, to be anywhere near sex (except in a classroom, learning
about it academically) when she was a preteen or .
Yet many young people were in the past, currently in the
present and of course in the near future will make a decision
to have sex. There is very little we can do to stop it. Even
in the medieval ages when the use of chastity belts (which
are often referenced in popular culture as an extreme method
of enforcing fidelity) probably did not help keep men and
women from having sex.
It made me wonder even more, what age is the right "healthy" age to have sex?
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Sex, Lies and this election ...
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Posted:Oct 20, 2016 3:20 pm
Last Updated:Oct 20, 2016 3:44 pm
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If you are getting tired of the election headlines, join the club. In July the Washington Post did a survey, it said that almost 60% of those surveyed were sick and tired of the election news, updates and comments. Now that we are within 20 days of the next presidential election, adding in the bonus entertainment of an audio/videotape of a candidate suggesting due to his popularity said he could grab a woman by her pussy (has to be a really big one to get a grip on all of it I am sure), another series of leaked emails from the other candidate stating (maybe out of context) her position of open borders.
This election cycle and the candidates have become true entertainment on one hand and no joke due the impact they will have on the other hand. My guess that the number of people who want this election over and the childish bullshit to stop has skyrocketed to almost 100%. Truly many like me, wish we could get that many people (who are legally registered voters) to get off their asses and make it to the polls.
Are you registered to vote?
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Sober Sex ...good fun, bad or indifferent....
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Posted:Oct 14, 2016 10:48 pm
Last Updated:Apr 30, 2024 1:28 am
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For so many, including me 25 years ago, drinking or recreational drug-driven (enhanced) sex was the norm. Just having any thought of "sober sex" was insane, why would anyone fuck sober?
Perhaps it was terrifying, in case of rejection. Recently, I have heard many share that "if they were high, they were having sex. If they were having sex, they were high." Who cared about taking a look at the roles of sex and drugs while fucking! Not me....
Don't let anyone tell you sober sex is boring and you'll just have to get used to it. That’s just bullshit.
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Sleeping with an ex ... what is the rule?
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Posted:Oct 12, 2016 8:40 pm
Last Updated:Oct 14, 2016 3:11 pm
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I am sure the we all been there; l know I have been in this situation before ,and I am willing to bet at least 90+/- percent of us have also been there. Yes, for some of us, sex with an ex is hard to resist. Remember, it can be complicated, emotionally charged, and fuck just usually pretty good overall.
Let's start with this premise, when the two ex'es make a decision to see each other you can be assured that both parties have weighed the possibility of sex. How could they not? Sex almost seems inevitable.
While the odds are stacked in favor of having sex, but it’s never an easy decision to follow through on! So, let's talk about what might go through our minds when assessing the sex option?
1. We've been there, done that.
Your ex is already in the “queue,” and the animalistic sex was amazing. So, you might as well just do it one (maybe two) last time(s). While some may stress about the number of people we sleep with remember you have already slept with them so an ex can alleviate the guilt of adding another name to that list.
2. You want ass.
You are horny, so what the fuck. Enjoy yourself..let loose. Capitalize on the situation. If it’s been a while since the last time, this option is even more tempting to you.
3. You hope it could bring you back together.
You might still have feelings for them, and you think one last intimate experience could remind you both of what you had together. Take this option out of your head, stop fantasizing and just delete it. Note: They are an ex for a reason.
4. You're already being emotionally reckless.
You're already putting yourself in a somewhat vulnerable spot by meeting them. It is possible you could be setting yourself up. So, you might ask yourself, “Will sleeping with him make that much more of a difference?”
5. The classic denial.
“I can totally do this now and feel nothing,” is probably the most popular and dumbest idea you can use to justify sleeping with your ex. Let us know how it works out for you! It has not worked for me.
Here is my vote. There is no right or wrong choice in this situation. Even though popular belief is to not sleep with an ex, we've all done it before.
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Role Playing; Do Sexual Games really spice up your sex life?
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Posted:Oct 10, 2016 12:23 pm
Last Updated:Apr 30, 2024 1:28 am
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Role play ranges from the spontaneous -- dirty talk turns into an imaginary scenario -- to the detailed, carefully planned and negotiated scenario.
For our purpose, let's say there is no right or wrong way to role-play; role-play is created by your imagination, you don't need to wear anything specific, don’t need to have perfect props, create fake accents, worry about staying in character or carrying off the whole thing by yourself, or learn terminology or rules. Unless you want to, that is: Some people find that wearing the perfect outfit makes it all that much hotter, props heighten the erotic tension beyond measure, or they find that an accent makes it more fun. Because after all, role play is just the same as playing make believe as a -- it's play between two people who want to enjoy the possibilities within a given scenario, and while toy guns made playing cowgirl more vivid, being held at "finger-point" always worked just as well.
Some common character couplings in sexual role playing include:
Boss/Secretary Captain/First Mate
Celebrity/Body Guard Celebrity/Fan
Drill Sergeant/New Recruit Doctor/Nurse, Doctor/Patient, Nurse/Patient
Historical Couples Jailer/Prisoner, Prisoner/Prisoner
Kidnapper/Victim Knight/Damsel in Distress
Master/Slave Parent/
Pirate/Prisoner
Police Officer/Civilian Police Officer/Suspect
/ R-word/Victim, Molester/Victim (do be careful)
Rich lady/Chauffeur Rich man/French maid
Robot/Human, Robot/Robot Scientist/Subject
Stewardess/Passenger Pilot/Stewardess
Stranger/Stranger Teacher or professor/Student
Sometimes role playing may occur where one party remains as "his/herself" while the other takes on the persona of a celebrity or a fictional character:
Common celebrity types: Actors/Actresses, Pop Singers, Porn Stars (my favorite), and fictional characters. It could be that your Halloween outfit inspires one or both of you long past October, either of you might confess attraction to a character on a TV show or movie (or a celebrity), or you may have any number of fantasy sources from memories, porn movies, books -- or anywhere at all.
Perhaps in your fantasies you're often a naughty schoolgirl about to be spanked by a handsome male teacher. Or maybe a patient at the hospital administered to by a sexy nurse who deems your best treatment is oral stimulation. Perhaps you have a repeat fantasy that you've shared with your lover, such as that you visit a darkened movie theater and perform oral sex on the first stranger you encounter -- and your lover wants to make it come true without any risks involved. When you erotically daydream, are you a lost tourist in a foreign land who wanders into a secret sex club -- and they make you their slave?
Have you and your lover shared a role-playing fantasy that you'd like to try? Can you really make all these fantasies come true, safely and sanely, while including a bout of really hot sex? When you learn the basics of role-play, yes, you certainly can!
Erotic role play, when two or more people play roles and act out their fantasies, are a terrific way to add spice and exciting variation to your usual sexual routines. Role play, because you tap into your shared fantasies, takes an already-great sex life and makes it extraordinary, gives it new dimension, and adds playfulness -- or intensity -- to your intimacy. Trying out fantasy scenarios, much like playing an explicit adult version of "make believe," can be added to your sex lives like a sex toy. And like sex toys, some couples will use fantasy now and again to mix things up; others will find a new sexual adventure a regular pleasure, while a number of people will enjoy role play as a regular party of their rich sexual panorama.
Some fantasies you may wish to explore will be about doctors, firemen, nurses or simply sexy uniforms in general. Many fantasies will revolve around subtle -- or overt -- dominance and submission themes, such as when someone finds a stern demeanor arousing, or they have erotic daydreams about being spanked by authority figures. You may find yourself drawn to live out fully-formed scenes that are as far away from reality as possible, that take place on other planets, in other times, or in impossible scenarios that would be impossible -- or dangerous -- in real life. Let the erotic fantasies you already have shape your fantasy role-play scenarios
In erotic role play, you both choose a scenario that sounds like it has the most erotic potential, and go from there. One of you will gravitate to one role or another, though usually the roles in your fantasy role-play experience will come from a strong attraction for one of you to be a particular icon, and behave in a certain way. How far you go with setting, costumes, props and character is up to you.
Role play ranges from the spontaneous -- dirty talk turns into an imaginary scenario -- to the detailed, carefully planned and negotiated scenario.
Start out with dirty talk, explicit banter leading up to or during sex. One of you can describe a fantasy (even closing your eyes if you feel more comfortable), confess a scenario that turns you on, or simply build upon describing (or exaggerate) what you're both currently doing. Mine the ways in which you dirty talk for clues about what he or she responds to. If he gets excited when you call him a "bad boy," push the envelope further and find out how he's been bad. Develop his perspective by egging him on and asking him questions, and fit your persona into his erotic world.
Are you nervous about taking the scene from the imagination to the verbal? Start by practicing on your own and taking dirty to a mirror. Don't worry about feeling silly; remember that the person you're with is going to be your willing partner in escaping to your shared imaginary fantasy -- when you do it, it will be in context. When you get your banter going, focus on describing details, such as the way the collar looks, feels, and the buckles sparkle in the light. If you feel comfortable talking explicitly but are still shy about a face-to-face fantasy, begin your fantasy with an email exchange, or a telephone conversation. Easing into role-play dirty talk can be even easier when you read them an erotic short story that turns you on -- and suggest that you enact the sexy details.
Adopting a role or persona can be a lot of fun, and deeply enriching to your relationship. Also, sometimes it might be difficult to start verbalizing a fantasy scenario unless you know what role you're supposed to play. For example, if she finds it hot for you to play a CHP officer, it might be easier for you to come up with things to say while "arresting" her once you start pretending to cuff her. More often than not, one of you will be in a more active role, while the other will be in a more receptive role, allowing (and enjoying) the flow of direction coming from the more active partner. Role-playing is much like erotic theater, and your role can give you the framework for your motivation and language.
When you begin to take role play beyond dirty talk and start to add developed roles, expectations, outfits and scenarios, it's very important to make sure that you both are clear about each other's expectations. She might want to be a naughty schoolgirl, hoping to be reprimanded for being sexually promiscuous by a perverted teacher, while you may think she's naughty because she's going to willfully seduce a hapless teacher -- two very different scenarios and power dynamics.
Talking about it beforehand won't ruin it or give it away, because you can't predict how the scenario will play out, or how turned on you might get. But make sure you will get the outcome you crave, or find yourself in the predicament you desire by giving your role play partner specifics about what gets you hot within the context of the scene. You may find it helpful to write down your hopes and ideas before you have your conversation, and some couples find that writing them down and sharing or exchanging their ideas make their role play sessions more intense. Talk about it -- then plan it.
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Why are we so polarized politically......
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Posted:Oct 7, 2016 10:31 am
Last Updated:Oct 7, 2016 2:13 pm
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When growing up, in the early 60's and 70's, politicians seemed like they were civil and had a sense of decorum except in the deep south when it had to do with civil rights for minorities. For the most part, the major presidential election or senatorial seats, it usually had two politicians battling for the office, it seemingly was a debate of positions and policy, personal attacks were off limits. Today, those leaning far to the right, really on the fringe of their political party if they don't get their way (abortion, education vouchers, immigration etc) they throw a fit like a spoiled , stomp their feet (figuratively) and take their ball and go home.
We called that type of action in the local the playground "punk'ish", or "just being a punk". We, the United States of America, used to be a civilized nation. One nation as a model civilization to look up to, for more than our powerful military. Our various freedoms plus opportunity for all were paramount.
Today, many countries have caught up to us in ways to do business, the technology arena and the sciences. Maybe we have gotten complacent and many in our country think leisure and fun was far more important than education.
I will share about my street, where I grew up, in Compton, Ca. (which is now know for gangster rappers and shootings), out of the 15 on my block, 11 have college degrees (4 from Ivy league type schools - almost 25 percent), 8 of us have master's degrees or professional degrees (law/medical). All of our have college degrees, except two (my older nephew became a commercial diver and younger nephew still in middle school).
How has education become a bad thing for the urban and rural areas of our country in less than 40 years? Why is a woman's right to make decisions about her own body an issue with the religious / right to choose factions?
Remember It is she who has to deal with the aftermath, emotional issues (if any) and come face to face with her creator and explain herself no the religious right! Imagine if religion told you that beef is sacrilegious? And protests happened at the local butcher or supermarket?
How did we as a country become so divided?
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