I'm betrayed.  

secret_lade 48F
14468 posts
2/13/2022 3:46 pm
I'm betrayed.


You all know that I've discovered I can kind of keep track of where the Mighty Marine is on my phone.... And, yes, I DO pop in there and look to see where he is from time to time, it just helps me to know.

I had popped in there this morning to see where he was at when I discovered he was at the airport.

"Oh My God! [Mighty Marine] is at the airport. You don't think he'd just take off and not tell me he was leaving do you? Oh my God.... What if he's going to the Ukraine?!?"

Freaking out, I hurried into the Spawn's bedroom and sat on her bed.

"How do you know he's at the airport?"

"It's right here on my phone."

"Oh my GOD mom.... What's wrong with you?"

She was all snotty and it kind of pissed me off.

"I worry about him, this helps me feel better, a bit closer to him. I know if I can see him, he's ok."

Feelings hurt, I left her bedroom and headed back out to the living room and picked the remote.

"He said he's headed to Georgia."

"What?!? What did you say to him?? What did you do???"

"I told him you saw he was at the airport because you're watching him like a creepy stalker."

"Why would you do that?!? Now he's going to turn off his location settings...."

Sure enough, they were off when I picked my phone and looked.

I'd never been so mad in my entire life. Or hurt. Or felt so betrayed.

I am so very mad at her....

In my heart of hearts, there's nothing happy about this Sunday, at all.

citizen4722 64M  
74582 posts
2/14/2022 12:50 pm

That was uncalled for what Spawn did. You will have to get your own back on her.


Blueyedguy823 55M  
1077 posts
2/14/2022 6:06 am

He might have been ordered to turn off his location settings. It could compromise troop movements and locations. Even if he hasn't been sent to Europe (or anywhere else), the military doesn't want any potential advisory to know if we have, or have not, send anyone anywhere.


positively4you 72F
4605 posts
2/14/2022 6:05 am

Im sure it is hard. At times those in the military have to be cautious about some things being public or tracked. My nephew had 3 stints over in shitland. Communication was always guarded. We couldnt know his exact location. He had a simple code phrase to let us know he was well. Maybe he is just going out for some fun or maybe for maneuvers. This is new for you and worry is part of being the great mom you are.


topherific 59M
5209 posts
2/14/2022 5:10 am


spunkycumfun 62M/67F  
41171 posts
2/14/2022 4:00 am

I think Biden has ruled out stationing American troops in Ukraine; NATO troops are going to Poland, Romania, Hungary and the three Baltic states, all NATO members.


pagancountrygirl 64F
6466 posts
2/14/2022 3:27 am

Maybe if you text or call him and explain, he will understand why you were tracking him, especially with all the unrest in the Ukraine. Also talk to Spawn and help her understand why you track him, too.

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MrWrong4RghtNow 56M
2439 posts
2/14/2022 1:31 am

It's difficult to hear but your daughter reacted like any teenager would. Her lack of perspective meant she could only relate from her POV only. "Mom is infringing on my and my brothers privacy" was more than likely her thinking. I totally understand your need for comfort both by knowing where your son is, and also the hope that your daughter would sympathize with you. Instead you were hurt on so many levels.
Hopefully, both she and your so will understand your actions when or if they become parents too

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secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
2/14/2022 12:16 am

    Quoting mufdiver69er2:
    funny aint it? the closer we are the more the hurt...otherwise we wouldnt give a shit...i feel ya lady..btdtsttsatys...thats been there done that sold the tee-shirt at a yardsale..
Yes, the closer we are, the more hurt we feel. She knew he would turn off his location settings, and he did.


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
2/14/2022 12:00 am

    Quoting 69ereatwetpussy:
    well ill never know what it is to be a Mother
    yet i had one and we didn't have tracking devices back then
    she would wait up till i got home in good or bad condition
    so let him grow up and he will let you know what is what when he can
    i know it hard to hear something like this but life not easy for anyone
    an a service person signed up to work where and when ever
He just feels.... Gone. It's really hard for me. Maybe if he hadn't left 2 days after he graduated from high school I wouldn't still feel like this. I didn't get the opportunity to see him as anything other than a child, a high school student. He didn't get the opportunity to become an adult in my eyes.


MrRareity 62M  
4589 posts
2/13/2022 10:18 pm

The app is to see where someone is if you need to get in touch with them in case of an emergency. If something happens to your kids you will find out. Parents do worry about there children but you also have to let go.

You feel betrayed because your daughter told your son, and he did what any kid would do is to turn off the tracker so you can't keep tract of him. If he was headed to the Ukraine he would have known by now and I'm sure he would have told you.

I think you panicked because your son was at the airport and he didn't tell you that should tell you something. Why don't you just send him a text from time to time? I totally agree with 69ereatwetpussy, and I think that once you cool down you will feel differently after you had time to think about it.

We have two lives, and the second begins when we realise we have only one - Confucious


jolielaide 50F  
1754 posts
2/13/2022 9:53 pm

OmGod!. I'm sorry that all happened. And you have every right to feel the way you do. Spawn or no, people need to stay in their lane. That was not her place to say or do anything; absolutely no boundaries whatsoever. Unfortunately, some don't have the capacity or wherewithal to protect adult feelings, not even the feelings of their own Mother.

It's a tough lesson learned: going forward, think twice and chose wisely the things you care to share lest you have it blabbed.


lonlyforlove2 79M  
32704 posts
2/13/2022 8:46 pm

Don't feel betrayed, it just a bit of confusion, in the Mighty Marine's thoughts, he most likely thought you were infringing on his privacy, He will figure out sooe that it was just your way of staying close, Happy Valentine's day, I 'm sure he has already sent his...

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Ultraviolet_Sol 42M  
622 posts
2/13/2022 8:42 pm

I sympathize with you.

That was not very cool, at all.

Sending positive energy.

*. *. *


New2Midlo 52M  
1075 posts
2/13/2022 7:27 pm

I know how much that tracking capability meant to you, so I know you're devastated.
If it means anything, I don't for a moment believe she acted out of malice. She lacks the understanding of what it means to be a parent and how we desperately want our kids to be safe.

Keep your chin up and, yeah, I got nothin'.


Jules1590 54F
8151 posts
2/13/2022 5:29 pm

OMG that's so awful! I can totally relate and I'm so sorry that happened. There is a tiny comfort in being able to see their location that brings a infinitesimal sense of peace. I cannot imagine the stress level with having a son who is a Marine.

You have every right to be upset.

Maybe, when cooler heads prevail, you can have a discussion as to how this tiny link brings you a small comfort. How could he say no to that?


mufdiver69er2 62M  
1951 posts
2/13/2022 5:11 pm

funny aint it? the closer we are the more the hurt...otherwise we wouldnt give a shit...i feel ya lady..btdtsttsatys...thats been there done that sold the tee-shirt at a yardsale..

woop woop


69ereatwetpussy 60M
6784 posts
2/13/2022 4:33 pm

well ill never know what it is to be a Mother
yet i had one and we didn't have tracking devices back then
she would wait up till i got home in good or bad condition
so let him grow up and he will let you know what is what when he can
i know it hard to hear something like this but life not easy for anyone
an a service person signed up to work where and when ever


secret_lade 48F
9227 posts
2/13/2022 3:46 pm

You all know that I've discovered I can kind of keep track of where the Mighty Marine is on my phone.... And, yes, I DO pop in there and look to see where he is from time to time, it just helps me to know.

I had popped in there this morning to see where he was at when I discovered he was at the airport.

"Oh My God! [Mighty Marine] is at the airport. You don't think he'd just take off and not tell me he was leaving do you? Oh my God.... What if he's going to the Ukraine?!?"

Freaking out, I hurried into the Spawn's bedroom and sat on her bed.

"How do you know he's at the airport?"

"It's right here on my phone."

"Oh my GOD mom.... What's wrong with you?"

She was all snotty and it kind of pissed me off.

"I worry about him, this helps me feel better, a little bit closer to him. I know if I can see him, he's ok."

Feelings hurt, I left her bedroom and headed back out to the living room and picked up the remote.

"He said he's headed to Georgia."

"What?!? What did you say to him?? What did you do???"

"I told him you saw he was at the airport because you're watching him like a creepy stalker."

"Why would you do that?!? Now he's going to turn off his location settings...."

Sure enough, they were off when I picked up my phone and looked.

I'd never been so mad in my entire life. Or hurt. Or felt so betrayed.

I am so very mad at her....

In my heart of hearts, there's nothing happy about this Sunday, at all.


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