I haven't decided how much effort I will invest into this site yet  

nahiaka 48F
12 posts
6/18/2020 12:13 pm
I haven't decided how much effort I will invest into this site yet


2:52 PM 6/18/2020

I don't really want start by 'introducing myself.' But that is kind of what I'm doing.

I had started writing a sort of blog over on POF, but I was just writing it on my profile page. I got annoyed with POF because I noticed it was ignoring my search criteria. I haven't done enough thorough testing on this site see if, or how badly, this site ignores my search criteria. I have read reviews of various dating websites, and some reviewers have complained that this or that site ignored your search criteria and just showed you whoever they wanted show you.

I don't know the character limit on these blogs here, but I've seen some pretty long ones, so I'll just go until I feel like stopping.

I have tried a couple different dating sites, briefly, over the . I hate all of them, and I end up leaving in disgust after being on it for only a short time, or setting my profile be invisible, and not bothering go back the site for and , only go back and see that the exact same guys are still there, with the exact same profile pictures. It wasn't the kind of site where you get results, and then leave the site and move on because you've solved your dating problem and don't need a dating site anymore.

I'm not sure how energetic I am actually write everything I hate about dating websites right now - I'm sick today and I'm not very mentally focused. I just sort of have snapped, as a result of not feeling well the last couple days, and felt like I needed to try looking for another real human being to direct my energies into.

I don't feel like putting up pictures at the moment. I might possibly put one up in the future. I've lived around the area for over twenty , and people can see my picture and instantly say, 'Oh! I know exactly who she is! She used work at XYZ, and I saw her every day!' Not only that, but I don't really like go out in public and feel as though people are staring at , thinking about the possibility of having sex.

It's not so bad if they merely recognized me from some place or another. But I don't really want my body be looked at as a potential sex object, by men I'm not attracted . Even when they're nice about it, or even when I am attracted them, I don't really like emphasize the idea that 'I am an attractive sex object.' I want emphasize more whether or not somebody is able communicate comfortably with in an interaction. That's much more important .

Not only that, but I have many flaws, and I'm not the most beautiful woman on earth, and I'm also not the ugliest. Again, it would just be much more productive focus on whether someone is able talk or not. And that's something that I know pretty quickly.

Maybe I will try testing the search function, and finding out whether it works the way I want it , or whether it does anything<b> weird </font></b>and ignores my criteria.

A1GivingLoverPa 51M

6/18/2020 4:15 pm

Taking a look, leaving a comment. What frustrates you with the sites? Relatively new here, would be interested in what you're looking for. Smart, which you are, is a better start than anything else.


Takeachance77756 39M

6/18/2020 7:11 pm

Plays up a lot and lots fakes


lonlyforlove2 79M  
32704 posts
6/18/2020 7:38 pm

I have been here for 8 years, it has changed over the last 3 years... You wont get no more than you put in. no effort , no results, your mileage may vary...have fun..it is a good place with problems.. be patient...

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lyavu 49F
1538 posts
6/18/2020 10:05 pm

Good luck have fun play safe


MrDarkhorseone 47M
30 posts
6/19/2020 2:34 am

Hey. Sorry to hear you are sick... hope you get better soon. Its friday!!😊
I think you will find that you will encounter ghe same bs here as any other site.
Maybe just observe for a bit. I think alot are full of shit myself, but thats just me.

Take care


Owatalife 66M
1711 posts
6/21/2020 12:43 am

Completely agree that most dating sites deserve the middle finger raised in their direction. Need a wee bit of luck whether in real life or any so called site. While there is a lot here to go ballistic over, by posting blogs you have a decent chance of seeing a far more enlightened group of like minded souls.

Best Of Luck.


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