He Got Me SOAKED
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Posted:Jun 19, 2016 9:49 am
Last Updated:Jun 25, 2016 10:05 am
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Last night, that is. It was our first "Date."
Fuck, I'm such a slut!
Now get your minds out of the gutter. I was referring to getting pummeled with RAIN.
We attended an outdoor concert in the park and in spite of having an umbrella, it didn't stop the one hour rain storm from soaking us both.
The rain finally decided to let up and the concert went on albeit one hour behind schedule. It was well worth the wait. Definitely a nostalgic throwback to the 80's:
The Romantics
Night Ranger and
Rick Springfield
In spite of the rain, I had an amazing time. There will definitely be a second date.
My date is a paramedic and a drummer part time in a band. Fuck, what am I getting myself into?!
One of my "dirty little secrets" is I LOVE getting SOAKED.
XOXO{=}
myelin
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Upstate New York Trip
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Posted:Jun 19, 2016 9:01 am
Last Updated:Jun 20, 2016 5:01 pm
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I am continuing to play catch-up blogging about my trip. Some of you have inquired about my tête-à-tête with another blogger. I am conflicted about writing specific details. I don't know if you've ever met other bloggers but for me, there is an unspoken etiquette rule which dictates a need to keep an aura of mystery and anonymity.
However, that being said, I doubt there would be an objection if I shared a few photos of our accommodations to get your mind wondering.
There is a lovely upscale European styled Inn near Washington Park in Albany, New York that I highly recommend if your travels take you to the area. It is called the Morgan State House. It is truly a magical place.
It's tucked away but it is a jewel of a place.
There is a wonderful garden spot for relaxing and talking.
I recommend staying in the Artist's Suite on the fourth floor.
It has a lovely garden tub for relaxing among other activities.
Have your travels taken you to a fantastic Inn? If so, I'd love to hear about it. Who knows, I may decide to add it to my future travel itinerary.
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Covered Bridges of Bennington County
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Posted:Jun 13, 2016 6:42 pm
Last Updated:Jun 19, 2016 12:23 pm
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As some of you know, I have been on vacation visiting the New England states of New York and Massachusetts. Today I decided to take a drive north from Pittsfield, Massachusetts to southwest Vermont. Bennington County is known for its dense concentration of picturesque covered bridges. My driving tour ended up taking me to visit two of the five covered bridges.
The first bridge we visited was 88-foot-long Silk Bridge built circa 1840 to span the Walloomsac River. The builder is believed to be Benjamin Sears. Silk Bridge is open to vehicular traffic.
The next covered bridge, Henry Bridge, was 1.3 miles down the road at the intersection of Murphy Road and River Road.
Henry Bridge was built originally in 1840, but the bridge you'll see is a replica constructed in 1989. The covered bridge is named for landowner Elnathan Henry, whose nearby home, which dates to 1769, is now The Henry House Inn.
Do you know why most covered bridges were painted red? It's because iron ochre was an inexpensive paint pigment.
We ended up picnicking at a nearby park next to the Henry Bridge for lunch.
All and all a fun wrap-up to my week plus long vacation. I'm headed back to Albany tomorrow where I will spend the night and catch an early departure out back to Kansas City just in time for the heatwave. Yuck.
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Symposium Entry: Face It, You’re Addicted to Love
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Posted:Jun 5, 2016 6:05 am
Last Updated:Jun 17, 2016 3:12 pm
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This blog entry is part of the Twentieth Virtual Symposium: “Cravings/Addictions/Obsessions”
“Because your love, your love, your love is my drug”
― Ke$ha
Since the 1940's, psychologists have regarded the compulsive pursuit of gambling, food, and sex (known as non-substance rewards) as addictions. Until 2013, abuse of alcohol, opioids, cocaine, amphetamines, cannabis, heroin, and nicotine were formally regarded as diagnosable addictions. This categorization rested largely on the fact that substances activate basic “reward centers” in the brain associated with craving and obsession and produce pathological behaviors.
Modern research has found that food, sex, and gambling compulsions activate many of the same brain pathways as substance abuse. The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (the DSM) has finally acknowledged that at least one form of non-substance abuse—gambling—can be regarded as an addiction. The abuse of sex and food have not yet been included. Neither has romantic love.
Scientists have long regarded romantic love as part of the supernatural, or as a social invention of poets in 12th-century France. Evidence does not support these notions. Love songs, poems, stories, operas, ballets, novels, myths and legends, love magic, love charms, love suicides and homicides—evidence of romantic love has been found in more than 200 societies ranging over thousands of years. Around the world, men and women pine for love, live for love, kill for love, and die for love. Human romantic love, also known as passionate love or “being in love,” is regularly regarded as a human universal.
Love addiction is somewhat more difficult to define simply because (whether we choose to admit it) by nature we are all addicted to love - meaning we want it, seek it and have a hard time not thinking about it. We need attachment to survive and we instinctively seek connection, especially romantic connection. There is nothing dysfunctional about wanting love.
According to Psychology Today, love addiction is a compulsive, chronic craving and/or pursuit of romantic love in an effort to get a sense of security and worth from another person. During infatuation we believe we have that security only to be disappointed and empty again once the intensity fades. The negative consequences can be severe and yet the love addict continues to hang on to the belief that true love will fix everything.
As a therapist, the root cause of love addiction is fairly easy to identify: inadequate or inconsistent nurturing, low self esteem, absence of positive role models for committed relationships and indoctrination with cultural images of perfect romantic love and happily ever after endings.
Love addiction can distort reality, change a person's perceptions and priorities to accommodate the beloved and result in personality changes (affect disturbance). As a result, love addicts may often do inappropriate or risky things to impress this special other. Many are willing to sacrifice, kill and even die for, “him” or “her.”
Case in point: In 1983, the world was introduced to Diane Downs, an Oregon woman who tragically shot one and attempted to murder her other two (who survived) all in the name of love. The true story was made into the best-selling book "Small Sacrifices" by Ann Rule in 1987 and then into a movie in 1989.
So, once you've identified that you are under the spell of love addiction, how do you break the destructive cycle that can interfere with having a healthy relationship?
Identifying dysfunctional patterns in any current and past relationship is the first step. Complete honesty is essential. Often this may require being open to hearing feedback from others. Accept this as constructive feedback without being defensive. As you do your assessment pay close attention to common themes in your relationships. Does there appear to be a similarity between your childhood experiences and your choices as an adult? If so, take note!
Ask yourself, what would my life look like if I took responsibility for my own happiness, successes and failures and loved myself the way I want to be loved?
Finally, make a plan of action and agree to commit to it on a daily basis. Most likely you will feel lonely, sad and frustrated at first but if you can persevere, you will be giving yourself a valuable gift. You will know and love yourself. Only then can you choose well and have the real, albeit imperfect relationship you deserve.
Due to the chemical reaction produced in the brain, the effects of love addiction can be powerful and toxic. Have you experienced the effects of love addiction? How has it impacted your life and your relationships?
Please read and comment on the other wonderful symposium submissions here: Participants List For the Twentieth Virtual Symposium CravingsAddictionsObsessions
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An Adventure Awaits
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Posted:Jun 4, 2016 7:04 am
Last Updated:Jul 6, 2016 3:11 am
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My travels are taking me to the east coast in a few days. I might have planned an adventure with a blogger while I am there. (Shhhh! It's a secret!) 
My trip coincides with a week-long vacation to visit family in Massachusetts although I will be spending time in New York.
My biggest dilemma: trying to fit a week's worth of clothes in a carry-on bag! Yes, I am too cheap to pay the baggage fees!
For those that frequently travel by air, do you have any tips for organizing a lot of stuff in a carry-on?
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FWB Without The
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Posted:May 30, 2016 5:49 am
Last Updated:Jun 23, 2016 3:08 am
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The first time I slept with "J" in 2010, I immediately judged myself for being excited about it. “Shut it down. You don’t want a relationship right now,” I thought to myself. After all, I was in my final year of grad school and in the thick of hell with research papers, a clinical internship, and working full-time. Not to mention being a single parent to my two .
Unfortunately, what we want and how we feel don’t always see eye-to-eye. I decided to try something new: to allow myself to have feelings without judging them. I felt that the distance factor (he lives 8 hours away) would make it easier to justify it as a "FWB" relationship.
Over the years we've managed to get together a couple of times a year. Each subsequent time, I felt the friendship aspect of the relationship increasing but the sparks I once had for him sexually have faded. Cue "J's" most recent visit this weekend.
Here I sit, after his departure lamenting my lack of libido for a man who has been such a good friend and judging myself for this lump in my throat, wondering how it is possible to feel both sad and disappointed at something that never was.
In the past, my mistake had been centered around letting the other person decide and pretending to be okay with whatever that decision was. I didn’t want to do that this time.
I realized the source of my inner conflict: knowing that I probably should, but don't want to walk away from the friendship. It's not the inner conflict I feel for "J" as a friend, but mainly the future "benefits" aspect to our relationship.
Herein lies the conundrum.
So how do you know when a FWB relationship has run its course? If you've experienced a similar predicament, I'd love to hear your thoughts. Would you be more inclined to walk away completely or would you be able to salvage a platonic "friendship only" aspect to the relationship?
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Dodging Massive Tornadoes
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Posted:May 26, 2016 5:27 pm
Last Updated:Jun 2, 2016 5:57 pm
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I live in Kansas but even Dorothy and Toto would be alarmed by the massive tornado outbreak that has repeatedly besieged our area. Last night an E F-4 tornado tore apart 20 homes approximately 25 miles northeast of my city. More storms are expected. I have been lucky whereas others have not. Please keep our state in your thoughts.
XOXO,
Myelin
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Fun Weekend
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Posted:May 23, 2016 6:34 pm
Last Updated:May 26, 2016 4:07 am
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Thought I'd share a photo of my trip to Great Wolf Lodge. This is where we spent most of our day. After conferring with my we both decided that next year's trip is going to be extremely laid back. I'm thinking somewhere in the Caribbean. St. Thomas is looking pretty appealing right now.
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Good Start to the Weekend
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Posted:May 21, 2016 11:26 am
Last Updated:May 25, 2016 8:12 pm
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Happy Saturday to you! I'm enjoying my day so far. Woke up this morning feeling great so I decided to make a hearty breakfast: sausage gravy, biscuits and eggs. Of course I needed to burn off those calories so I went on a short 5 mile walk with my . The weather is overcast but otherwise nice.
Decided to check out the local farmer's market. Ended up buying a few things: garlic infused olive oil, fresh locally sourced honey and some baked blueberry pie filled bars. The bars had a tangy lemon glaze that complimented the blueberries.
This afternoon I have big plans to tackle my yard. I bought an awesome lithium ion powered mower that requires no gas, no oil and no cranking to start. It's also virtually noiseless too. I love it because it's environmentally friendly.
I took Monday off work and I am headed to Kansas City with my and youngest grandson. We are doing our annual trip to Great Wolf Lodge. I've been working my ass off running, doing the elliptical and strength training so I look good in my bikini.
How is your weekend so far? Any exciting plans?
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Tonight's Agenda
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Posted:May 14, 2016 2:08 pm
Last Updated:Jun 23, 2016 3:09 am
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I have a hot date with the doctor from Kansas City. We are going out to an upscale restaurant then back to his hotel for dessert!
I just love getting dressed up and seeing the reaction it gets. A night like this calls for a cute little dress, black fishnet stockings and some black heels that scream, "fuck me!"
How are you spending the weekend?
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Censorship and Banning
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Posted:May 14, 2016 8:42 am
Last Updated:May 30, 2016 10:25 am
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Yesterday a blogger initiated a post and poll regarding a petition to the site to police transgendered members choice of gender in setting up their profile. I voted against it and was one of MANY who left a respectful yet dissenting comment. Here is the comment that I left to support why I voted against it:
Quoting pandora684:
I think one of the founding principles of this site is staying out of other people's business. If a trans person wants to list the gender they identify as rather than the one they were born to, it's not up to any of the rest of us to police them. Far more people are deceived by those claiming to be single when they are married and cheating than by the gender choice you refer to. I'll warrant the damage done by lying about marital status is far worse to those victims. Where does it stop, is that going to be the next petition?
pandora684 has made some valid and excellent points.
Caveat emptor is Latin for "Let the buyer beware." The phrase caveat emptor arises from the fact that buyers (aka members) typically have less information about the good or service they are purchasing, (or receiving) while the seller has more information. The quality of this situation is known as 'information asymmetry'. Defects in the good or service may be hidden from the buyer, and only known to the seller. It's up to members to do their own "due diligence" but I think anyone who's a regular blogger is painfully aware that the person in question is a transsexual thanks to your repeated attempts to get the information out to the blogging community.
You've CLEARLY made your point. (Insert said blogger's profile name here), might I ask why if you aren't "buying" or receiving services this member is offering, whose business is it to you if others get duped? The way I see it, this sounds like a personal vendetta.
Like others that have respectfully commented on a PUBLIC blog posting soliciting votes for a so-called "poll" I have been banned from that person's blog and presumably my vote and comment were excluded from consideration. That is her right and doesn't affect me in the least. I did not read nor follow her blog regularly or the person she refers to. However, the practice of banning and removing bloggers who disagree completely invalidates any results her poll gets.
Obviously this blogger has a right to censor what and who appears on her blog. She does not have a right to censor what appears on mine, nor any other blogger.
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