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isoAlpha 63M/61F
249 posts
7/11/2020 5:04 am
poly relationship - comments welcome

from the "ideal person" section of our profile

local, single, nice guy, great chemistry between 3, close our age (50-65?), stays in touch, non-smoker, bi would be nice, but not required

excited about sharing a caring wife as often as possible ... an intimate partner who is not afraid of an ongoing friendship/relationship AND the minimal but necessary attention that requires

notes on our summer 2020 status:

very happy to be a booty call for the right Man, but if that is we are, it simply is not gonna happen

everyone seems want a quick meet for hot sex ... perfect ... SOMETIMES

sometimes its those chats over lunch, taking pix at the lighthouse, or those scenic country drives that make that possible

sometimes its afterglow breakfasts or foreplay afternoons by the ocean

sometimes its as simple as sharing day day events with someone who actually cares about you

often its a text that says thinking of you and smiling

ALWAYS its the previously established chemistry between 3, the honest open communication that might lead having a friend in your life that you really enjoy spending time with AND going bed with

sound romantic? it is

sound rare? it is

worth holding out for? yeahhhhhhh


bi1946 74M  
76 posts
7/11/2020 6:34 am

almost to nice to be true


isoAlpha 63M/61F
310 posts
7/11/2020 6:55 am

yes it is bi1946, we agree

but ...

having one friend who makes you smile is worth having 100 that don't


Trapper69 63G  
2531 posts
7/11/2020 7:05 am

Sadly, so many men, women and couples want to jump right into a sexual encounter without taking the time to get to know the other person/people. With all the STDs and lunatics out there, it can be very risky. It's so much better when people take their time to establish a trusting relationship before engaging in a sexual relationship Sex is so much better when you know and trust the people you're sharing steamy, hot fun with because all involved are comfortable and relaxed! Afterward, no one has that empty feeling, the feeling of being used! That Mark Twain quote sums it up perfectly!


Leegs2012 47M
54559 posts
7/11/2020 11:29 am

Great post!! It's nice to meet nice people to share sexual experiences with!!


Leegs2012 47M
54559 posts
7/11/2020 11:30 am

    Quoting isoAlpha:
    yes it is bi1946, we agree

    but ...

    having one friend who makes you smile is worth having 100 that don't
So true!


CarriedBack 58M  
117 posts
7/11/2020 1:31 pm

While I'll admit to some sex-on-first-meeting encounters during my six years on Senior Sizzle, with one exception those "quick to bed" scenarios still evolved into something longer-lasting. One reason is that I just cannot get intimate with someone I don't know and trust. And for me, those boxes usually get checked ahead of time in emails, texts and calls prior to the first meeting. Still, even then, it generally it takes additional time to get to the comfort zone. But if you believe that great sex should include good conversation and laughter, then you're on your way to a rich, substantive relationship with a person (or persons) to whom you wish to stay connected and want to keep in your life.

I love that I have at least a half-dozen current Senior Sizzle-initiated friendships that have been ongoing for over a year--and a few for even longer. Some initially involved awesome sex that became unsustainable due to relocations or other life changes. Others have involved NO SEX whatsoever, yet we found a meeting of the minds. And there are still others where a meaningful, ongoing mix of conversation, connectedness to each others' lives, genuine caring, and great sex have all remained as ingredients of an appealing relationship.

And to the subtopic of this post--polyamory--I have had conversations with Senior Sizzle friends (and one non-Senior Sizzle couple) about my openness to such relationships. All would have involved 3 people--either MFM or FMF or MFF. My receptivity in each case depended on chemistry among each of use, and ultimately all possibilities foundered on a "non-sexual chemistry problem" between two of the three proposed participants. But the exploration led me to conclude that I could see it happening with--as you suggested--when "the right people" come along.

Thanks for tossing out the topic for discussion! May we all have the opportunity to find those "right" people and have the opportunity to explore with them.


isoAlpha 63M/61F
310 posts
7/11/2020 4:21 pm

WELL SAID Trapper, if you haven’t developed the trust first, what the heck are ya doin anyway?


isoAlpha 63M/61F
310 posts
7/11/2020 4:23 pm

Thank you Leegs, it’s good to hear from others who think similarly


isoAlpha 63M/61F
310 posts
7/12/2020 2:40 am

CarriedBack said:

"then you're on your way to a rich, substantive relationship with a person (or persons) to whom you wish to stay connected and want to keep in your life."

wow ... you get it and you express how well you get it very well .. thanks for that

CarriedBack said:

"and ultimately all possibilities foundered on a "non-sexual chemistry problem" between two of the three proposed participants"

we think that having a BF that hubby does not sense a connection with (cuckold and/or bi) is a bad idea

we also think that pushing wifee to "take one for the team" is a bad idea

if all three don't enthusiastically agree in the beginning, it is highly unlikely that things will evolve to a better place, and certainly a red flag that more time may be needed


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