Part 3/5: Charlatan in libertarian disguise
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Posted:Apr 6, 2018 1:26 pm
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Ben Shapiro is a complete scumbag that uses terrible comparisons to make a point/ Liberals and trans people shit on any allies that dont fit their views 100%
One thing that is happening that many people dont realize is this silent recruitment by the right of liberals, libertarians, and centrists who even dared to have an opposing opinion while not being bigots,nazis, or xenophobic assholes, they committed the mortal sin of not agreeing with everything they believe.
I will give you an example, Bret Weinstein is a liberal who fought for equality through his life but was bullied by a few assholes that labeled him a bigot for not going along with their stupid idea of a day without white people at school. What happened next is that no liberal outlet would have him and other victims to PC over reach on their show and only the right wing assholes like Tucker Carlson interviewed him at first. Since then some logical centrists and other podcasters have had him on to talk but moves like this are scary even though i dont think people see it. First off the far right are using their terrible stories of unfair treatment by the nutty left as means to recruit people. I dont think Bret and others like him, Sam Harris comes to mind, know they are being used as recruitment tools, they are just calling out the bullshit to people who realize we have to have the conversation and not knee jerk rage to any criticism. All they are doing is pointing out how fucking stupid some people on the left have gotten and then that ammo is used against the whole entire progressive populous as they paint a narrative that not only is this a problem, but it is the biggest problem as they air nothing but these talks and talk only about these instances, the news cycle becomes the insanity of the left.
I only mention this because when it comes to trans people, they are guilty of the same shit on the fringes. For example the artist Ginuwine didnt want to kiss a trans woman on Big Brother, well you done fucked up cause here comes the uproar! No logic, the thought that it just may not be his preference, that he may not be attracted to her personally and not physically, nope! he is a transphobe! Most don't fall for this bullshit, but most don't call other trans people on that bullshit. I am tired of the trans community seeing allies that push for almost % of the same shit but then get roasted mercilessly for saying stupid thing.A comedian making a joke, a drag queen making a joke,etc. I don't agree with Sam Harris on like 20 things, I think he's full of shit on anything outside of meditation and atheism, but I don't think he is a bigot, I just think he is wrong. I have been wrong, but the default action should not be the assumption some is a bigot.
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Ben Shapiro on the other hand is purposeful in his form of debate, he wants to win the argument and generally is trying to do harm by being disingenuous. argument Ben has is that we are a mental disorder, likens us to people that harm themselves and supporters as accomplices in self mutilation. He will ask why cant you identify as a 60 year old? Why cant you identify as a Filipino? Yeah he';s a shit bag, but I will try and debate this terrible comparisons to gender while conceding the identity as I think this is what he and trans people hang onto and the reason for the ammo in his part and the ridicule on ours.
I will skip the mental disorder for now, I made plenty of points on this and I will make more, If any is interested in my argument against being called a mental illness i can add it again. For now lets answer his question why cant you identify as Filipino?
You can move there, learn the language, marry , become a Filipino citizen, dress like , get plastic surgery and dye your hair to resemble , cook the food, research the history and culture, and have half Filipino if you want. What you cant do is claim that you were genetically born Filipino. So this is not him winning the point, it is both sides hung up on the way you identify, not wanting to let science but failing to get to the root of what being Filipino means. The other side just not willing to admit they are not 100% Filipino. Same with all points, you can dress older, watch Matlock, listen to big band music and Sinatra but you cant collect social security or get a senior discount at IHOP. Same with being a transwoman, you can have almost all of it and most people wont care but if you try and claim something that just isnt true the logical mind may reject it. We know the bigots will but I am not trying to please them. I am trying to get to a point where we are not piping a bunch of bullshit while the other side does.
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Part 2/5:Opposition
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Posted:Apr 6, 2018 1:24 pm
Last Updated:Dec 22, 2018 12:55 pm
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Jordan Peterson is a conservative professor from Canada who got known for shitting on some legislation that added protections for trans people, he translated it to mean that if you dont call some by their pronoun it could be used against you as a hate crime offense. This is a reach, but other concerns from people see it as a fuck you to science, saying that if we ignore science to make a group of people happy, it sets a terrible precedent. Now I dont know much about the bill besides what I read but there is a ton of leaps being made here. He refers to the science community having deeply tied gender to sex for ages and that this would also be an insult to science to just let go for the piece of mind of a few people. He however doesnt seem to be a bigot but has made a controversial statement that he now has to back.
If you look at his definition on what Conservative means, one point that is fitting, besides the irony of him redefining his definition to fit how he lives, is that "It is better to do what every has always done, unless you have some extraordinarily valid reason to do otherwise"; I will respond to all of this.
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Bear with me, the plan is the breakdown all objections of each point till we are left with something both sides have admit. That we are all hung up on shit terms and identifiers that muddy the waters and also let bigots hide behind good points. I plan to remove these points so there is no island for them to swim to some high ground.
So what does gender mean if you exclude sex from the equation and how do you define it? Can definitions of words change or do people still use the word "faggot" as the best way to describe a bunch of loose sticks? Do we really plunge the world into chaos by losing an old meaning to a word by changing that meaning?
So what is the male gender? Is it wearing blue, driving cars, fist fights,wearing jeans, keeping your hair short? What would it take to go against the gender and do the exact opposite from the definition so that you would piss off some cranky professor? We all know men can be cooks, stay at home parents, have a stronger mate, wear their hair long, wear make up, pluck their eyebrows, wax their bodies, have plastic surgery, and take hormones without getting any shit. We know they can marry other men without giving up their gender identity as well. The founding father wore wigs, pantyhose, heels, and make up. Some cultures are gender neutral on clothing, and we know plenty of men who have feminine traits let alone the metrosexual term for men who moisturize and wash every now and then.
So what is their hang up for me putting on a dress or getting a boob job? Plenty of women do so, some men get pectoral implants. I could naturally work my buns and hips to a more feminine look but why the hang up on trans people doing the same exact thing as heterosexual people? No body builder was ever meant to be that muscly in their DNA, it took a shot in the ass of bull hormones to make that man a walking mule. This is ok though, just dont be born a man and want a pair of tits or the hormone estrogen. Does it all come down to the dress or the desire to identify as a woman. My guess is that they would not have an argument if we wanted our own designated identity instead of adding to an existing . All he has is a case for is people wanting to be called her and it being protected. He admitted he would do it if it wasnt being asked to prove a point or it being political. What he was really saying is he can be a decent human being and be smart enough to assume you want to be called her if you dress and act like a woman, this is an easier ask than wanting to change the definition of woman. The bigots will still exist but not with any valid points if we look into ourselves and stop fighting about names.
If their argument for gender is doing what our genes tell us to do like the caveman excuse we do pretty much the opposite of everything we were made to do. The only time we use it as an excuse is that you were born this way and we were made to eat meat. We were programmed to do a ton of shit before we evolved but if gender is tied to human drive, then a man fucking another man is far from the default program. Do they exempt their gender or do they defy their sex? I only point this out because we will always call a lesbian a woman still even if she dresses like Justin Beiber , hell most bigots will still misgender them just to be assholes but if she wants to transition to a man, then the uproar begins and if he is now properly pronoun-ed, it is only by some happy bigoted accident where they thought they were insulting him but called him by his preferred pronoun.
Should we define ourselves as women in general or add a qualifier?
This is where I differ from most. I dont want to be called a woman. Being a woman is different than being a trans woman. Ignoring these differences is folly and adds to the ammunition of delusion. Some trans people that pass can do this, but only because the others cant tell, this is not some form of acceptance by the whole of society, you have just pulled off the illusion so you dont have to deal with the discrimination as you remain undetected. It is not your winning personality or the way you dress conservatively that gets you the respect you deserve, they just cant tell or you would be getting all the same shit sandwich non passable trans women get. This is where the waters get muddy. The reason i know we need another definition is the same reason I know the term sexual assault should not be used as a term for everything from groping to r*pe, it requires more information. For example I will have a conversation about me and my wife. The first question is "is she trans or cis" The reason why is because we had to add the term CIS to a definition that already existed so that we could take the meaning from the that already used it, but you cant really do that without confusing people. This is where it goes off the rails to me. I know that my brain is wired similar to a woman cause i feel that way. We know hormones do effect behavior as well as other things. There is a huge spectrum of intersex and so on that make the areas more grey but in my case, it is kind of obvious. I was not born a woman, some people dont want to date trans people, and i should not hide that fact if it comes up, much like being gay or lesbian doesnt discredit someones existence, me putting transgender isn't going to discredit mine. I dont want to go down that road too much but I have better written points on the matter.
So right now I know I pissed some people off by even attempting to say maybe we should define ourselves as something other than women. Most of you will see the irony that you do it to crossdressers all the time and while you are ok with identifying in your own circles to make things easier to understand you expect the public to not benefit from the same shorthand and probably revel in the confused looks for some of the real jerks.
Transgender women in sports, I really do think we need to let this one go. I was called a bigot for this and blocked but no one can argue that if Lebron James decided to transition today, 3 years from now, if he joined the wnba he would still be dunking on everyone. Denying the current differences between biological(another qualifier) women and men from a hereditary trait and breeding level leaves us open to ridicule cause it is really hard to stand on this . I know there are grey areas but lets not die on this hill.
So what of his belief of doing what has been done before as a default logic? Well majority rules has never been a completely good or bad thing. We know that in order to keep going we need to keep producing but then there is Britney Spears selling more albums than talented musicians, slavery(should have come first but you wouldnt get the point as clearly), civil rights, gay rights, opposing the Iraq war. Majority doesnt rule all the time and when you have a fringe of a population that they would admit would be more if universally accepted, then you have to admit that this is more than just some fad and that it has been around historically for centuries. So what do you do? Cleanse the anomalies? Ostracize them because large varieties are a danger to the status quo? How bout you do the same thing you did for gay people? Never admit you were wrong and quietly accept their existence?
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Part 1/5: The transgender argument and the opposition, and a call to reason
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Posted:Apr 6, 2018 1:24 pm
Last Updated:Apr 7, 2018 12:47 pm
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FYI may be a touchy subject, I expect respectful counters, I have the ability to change my mind but not without some logic and never because of some PC overreach or emotion. So please keep this as respectful as I mean it.
What's in a name, What's in a definition? What's in an identity? I have mentioned before that I am like a robot with emotional things and come off Vulcan to some people. I currently identify as transgender, some people don't think I should, I really don't give a shit and this is the whole point of this post. I have combated many elitists here for shitting on others because they want to identify them as less than or not of us so they can feel good about who they are. They blame others for their discrimination and it drives me batty but there is something in common here that I think needs to be explored with the critics and haters of trans people. It is also present in what I think is an overreach by our own and allies in some aspects. I will explain more but this is just a preface to what comes next which will sound incendiary very soon.
I am breaking them down since they are really hard to summarize but this is my thoughts on transgender people in sports, opposing views from haters and critics and where I agree and where I dont agree, and arguments I think you should use in response along with a call to reality for some people that may be the person that expects too much or is biased.
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Addiction, therapy, future, mental illness, bad social constructing, and the huge danger of boredom
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Posted:Apr 6, 2018 1:12 pm
Last Updated:Apr 6, 2018 1:13 pm
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These questions keep coming up in my head and I haven’t d a brain dump on these specific thoughts to get them out, so here we go:
1. Are people addicted to drugs because the chemicals have addicting attributes of is it more than that?
2. Are there better alternatives to therapy and why do we think the current models work?
3. Is mental illness genetic or the life experiences you encounter through living?
4. Do we give enough concern to the problem of “boredom” and it’s correlation to depression?
5. Are the people designing our new social world really qualified to do so and what adverse effects are the results of these design?
A study that was d in 178 tested the addiction to morphine in rats that I think is highly relevant today. Now there we plenty of other studies before that showed rats would prefer morphine water over plain water and that it was addicting and blah blah blah. The difference here is Alexander made a rat park, basically Disneyland for rats. When this alternative was introduced the rats, who are social creatures like us, took the regular water over ol’ bama water( Alabama has the highest opioid use in the country).
The idea being that if you give rats and therefore humans rewarding alternatives, you have less drug use.
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https://www.summitbehavioralhealth.com/blog/overview-rat-park-addiction-study/
I was talking with my who knows people who have addiction issues as many of us do now considering it will only be a matter of time before we all have a loved in the same boat. thing she noticed was that the people she knew that were home-hooled all seemed to jump right into every drug known to man once they got to the real world. She thought it was because they were deprived from the experiences of interaction and then kind of went loose with all the sensory enhancing once they got a chance. This is kind of what is happening in rural areas everywhere. Most addicts when interviewed in these small towns will tell you there is literally nothing to do here besides drugs. Of course there is no real job opportunity, no future of that changing, and it doesn’t that Big Pharma has just been allowed to send pallets of dangerous drugs to cities without any oversight.
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https://www.summitbehavioralhealth.com/ience-and-health/2018/1/30/1651316/opioid-epidemic-painkillers-west-virginia-shipments
things interest me in this information. is that you could probably see a map of the issues with Opioids and where places have dick all to do, Buckeye ring a bell? Apache Junction isn’t known for its parks people.
The other is this conservative idea that the decline of western society is in divorce, the liberal agenda, and not wanting to have this nuclear family model from the 60s. The way they combat this is by homehooling their to hide them from influence and liberal programming. The problem is the result of this is drug addiction is ramping up more kills than Mortal Kombat.
The bible belt is hit very hard by drugs, my pointed out some terrible success rates with the rates of the she knows that were raised in home hool christian settings and their battle with drugs. example is brothers both dying from alcohol excess, a complete shut in with a heroin problem, the other who just slammed a bottle of fireball after heart surgery due to the effects. Overall it was 8 out of 10. The s that joined the military seemed to avoid the issue the rest were swept away.
So the question is how dangerous is boredom? How dangerous is not having prospects of a future? I think the rat park is an example of idle hands make devil’s work. We know that parents that get their into extracurricular activities have better outcomes but considering that most poor areas don’t have the option of job, and purchasing soccer outfits for , this may be a luxury of the rich. Rehab is a pipe dream for most poor people as well. Job opportunity and college plans is also a luxury of the affluent as much as the model of parent working per household. So how do you combat and epidemic that poor people cant fix without an economic plan to shift poor and bored to middle class and working? Not by cutting funding but that is another debate. There is a finding that shows poverty is linked to mental health issues as well which makes perfect sense and the ramifications on addiction fall perfectly in line with that sense.
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https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2016/10/30/4777541/can-poverty-lead-to-mental-illness
So how do you combat the addiction we now know exists? This idea of habit forming is true and dangerous if you don’t respect it but do you heal the mind or do you fix it chemically? Some people have been going to extremes in the psychedelic frontier but I think they’re missing something in some areas and completely bullshit in others. Where does the mental illness reside? Some think it is in your DNA. Others believe that is its a genetic trigger, like you are born with the genetic disposition but if certain events happen then the genes change. example is how you can be predestined to develop breast cancer but it never triggers. Another is a linking between smoking at an early age can cause your to be overw. other study was d on the MAOA, the warrior gene, or psychopath gene to some. The study showed that if certain environmental factors did not happen the gene would not trigger and the person would not be more impulsive of violence.
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https://www.summitbehavioralhealth.com/us/blog/evolutionary-psychiatry/201410/gene-violence
So how do you go about fixing yourself? Reset the brain with mushrooms? Do some therapy while on ecstasy? Microdosing LSD? Go on a Ayahuaa retreat? Take some electric volts to the brain? How bout regular therapy or counseling? I think you first got to find out thing. Is your mental disorder something you are born with or something you were wired with through environment?
I tend to think it is the latter and here is my evidence. PTSD is a good example of something that was triggered through an event. Now some could say you were predisposed to be effected more so than some else but they cant deny when it changed from dormant to affecting the individual. Another is the way they treat hizophrenic behaviors with electric shock. They could literally wipe your brain of the existence of the disorder if you didnt mind losing your memory. This is a very good documentary on the subject of Bi-Polar but I want to note 2 things here. Most people dont just have disorder, a ton have PTSD and considering they didnt look like vets I can assume their childhood was of nightmares. The other is the woman who didnt want to lose her memory for the cure. Memory is paramount in these disorders even if you make a case for genetic predisposition you would also have to admit that environment s a huge role in all these and in some it is seems like it is 100% that.
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https://www.summitbehavioralhealth.com/watch?v=eyiZfzbgaW4&feature=youtu.be
I believe the big reason why therapy works is because you out the trauma over and over and talk about the terrible things you endured to some. This could be a friend that doesn’t mind hearing the story over and over or a therapist. I think the addition of medication is ary but as a stop gap I can see this as a necessity in a small timeline but there are a ton of adverse effects that are dangerous if going unchecked. Most mass shooters were on some anti depressants or adhd meds. This is why the holistic view garners some respect if used in logical ways and for a short time as well. Case in point is that you cant overdose on marijuana. So holistic does trump pharmaceutical if you cant die from it or the side effects of a pill meant to you be happy makes you want to harm yourself and others. PTSD effected military folks have been swept under the rug by subribing them some meds and sending them on their way. This is not being monitored by therapists but by doctors who get backs from the industry that benefits solely on people using more and more of their drugs. As you can see, business is good.
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https://www.summitbehavioralhealth.com/2014/04/rates-of-preription-drugs-cdc.jpg
This is an example of re-enacting trauma in a light way can repair the mind, this is similar to continuous telling of the story of your trauma. There are more elaborate studies that people cope by recreating high quality versions of the trauma over and over till the brain can cope:
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http://Senior Sizzle.com
Now I think most people go to far on the merits of psychedelics and definitely on the catch all uses of marijuana. There are cases where it s and the evidence in seizures is proof in the pudding. The over exaggeration of its effectiveness on cancer when its anti inflammatory effects are equal to you using tumeric or eating blue berries. Now I do think that if you were to take some ecstasy and focus on therapy, either talking about trauma or working out relationship issues, the different perspective and openness could make what would have been a toxic conversation that is more easy to cope with. They have shown similar success with drugs like Ketamine and huge effects with mushrooms.
Now if you were to take ecstasy and sit there and talk about a bunch of bullshit like music or how could a mouse have a for a pet in Disney films, you are not getting shit out of the experience. The same could be applied to doing a bunch of psychedelics and going to burning man, what would you really learn from that? Intentions matter is all im saying. Other drugs like Ayahuaa and mushrooms have a different effect but the results on heroin addicts cannot be ignored. This isnt because you became with the universe but the effects that brain wiring has on your life. If you were raised in a household where love meant violence and calm could be interrupted by chaos in any moment, you would have some fucked up wiring. It would effect the relationships you choose and the friends you can keep. There are ways to rewire the brain with actions. This is where therapy comes into again. Some telling you that what you think is boring is boring because your wiring needs enough positive links to love and relationships before it is wired to normal. The same reason why habits are formed like drinking while gaming, or the need to workout once you missed a day.
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http://Senior Sizzle.com
These drug may have an effect of getting their sor by ealating the progress and putting you in a frame of mind to take it in more. Now these effects are fleeting but with practice and focus on the therapy and not just watching a shit Dead cover band you may get there without the danger of mood altering drugs that can have terrible reactions.
So what about our current social mediums? Do they actually do what we need them to do? Many people have talked about the dangers of social media and the addiction to likes. Here is a study which ranks them on how bad each sucks but I have an idea behind why.
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https://www.summitbehavioralhealth.com/sites/amitchowdhry/2017/05/31/instagram-depression/#3d5451d7453
Here is a study showing the uptick in stress issues as a whole:
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https://www.summitbehavioralhealth.com/watch?v=vqevGkjuLW0&feature=youtu.be
Now most of these can be contributed to the asshole in charge, health care(mental as well), and economic concerns. 30% showed concerns about trust in government as well. Overall, people are not mentally better than they were last year and there are plenty of studies that show stressed households or classrooms can have huge effects on learning and stress in general. Stress is deeply tied to your health in a biological way as well so it is cause for concern.
I don’t want to get to far down the rabbit hole but I think it is because we have people who have no idea how to talk to people creating social media apps. We have people that have no idea on dating making dating apps. That these applications dont take into account what is best for the user but what is best for making and in return programming people to behave in a way that makes the developers and provides mild success in the results desired by the person.
For example, the interfaces are indicator that no cares how you think. No needed a tile interface for Windows 8/10 but here we are. Games are designed for in app purchasing and are curbing gamers to be loot and grind hounds that keeps them ing an unrewarding experience for continued activity and not a desire for rewarding game . FB does a few things right but there are no ways to actually meet real people compared to AOL chat rooms in the 0s where a ton of people found love. World Of Warcraft does a better job match making friends/lovers than the current offerings and the reason why that is could be attributed to the way the app makes its . chat rewards users by encouraging them to stay active and post often which in turns means more ad clicks etc. N of these reward the user in the ways they want, you get a few clicks but no fill for the lliness.
Use FB,IG, , Tinder all you want but in the end you will be no better off than when you started since there is nothing gained. I can use it to dump my thoughts into the ether but I dont expect any to read it, and no reward will be given for the effort. It has its merits but they are few. FB is great for connecting to the family and friends you already know but rewards you by making meaningless fake friends with no geographical filtering. Friends without the actual benefits of being . It is devoid of filtering to location, unlike Tinder. Tinder on the other hand is devoid of emotion, information, and compatibility. You are given enough to explain yourself in emoticons and maybe your dick size  but all you did was find out of some 5 miles away swiped right, which is usually d be default for people not wasting time. So you match and it is cool you are close but now you have to sift through all the fake matches and see if you are compatible by having shitty after shitty conversation with people too busy maintaining their social media presence to respect your time. Also beware of neckbeards and the crazies. Other sites like OKCupid have personality matching by asking questions, sounds cool until you realize you match with an 80 year old woman or man in Novia otia, too bad they didnt have age or location sorting. It is no wonder ghosting exist, that people have moved their respect of the fake meaningless friends that accrue on social media and it has bleed over to some literally unswiping you in front of your face and not caring about a human they were intimate enough to reply with sentence over a text.
Twitch(Also any live shows with chat) is an interesting case for me. People watching gamers is a simplified term for what it really is. The parts, well some, missing in other applications. For example, FB should have geographical filtering so Tinder half asses it. FB should have ways to talk to others and socialize so another app will half ass the lack of it by creating something that almost gives you everything but not quite to keep you along. Twitch fills in the gap of chatrooms no longer existing but also s to a need of the socially awkward in the guise of gaming. What it really is, is a sense of community without the need for working on your social interaction skills. This is what is lacking in the current apps, this is why men cant put together 3 sentences before they say “I hope you get r*ped” for being ignored. So they go into a chatroom while some is gaming who is successful because they talk to the diontent and not because they are good at them. These people are the therapists, a way to belong while remaining awkward. They can have sided conversations with other regulars but they can still have a connection with the streamer of vlogger who reads their comments and validates them.
You really do have to appreciate the gift of gab, especially when it s to keep the fans relevant, if you watch the successful s they are really good at stringing people along and keeping then engaged by responding, the game is secondary:
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https://www.twitch.tv/directory/game/Fortnite
It is no wonder an asshole who couldnt keep friends failed at successfully making an application where people have the same effect. They are just not capable of it sometimes, and other times your mental health has nothing to do with profits so it takes a bad seat. Much like our democracy got in the way of paid ads during our presidential campaign, we wonder why we keep getting sicker and never understand that the tools we have at our fingertips have not ed us at all but have made us worse if we put any faith in them. While developers not listening to the users in an Office suite may effect productivity, and a developer not listening to a user on a game may effect entertainment. Social media applications can effect your life, your stress levels, your sleep, your job, your mental health. So we better make damn sure we take that into account when we keep looking to them for happiness when I know they can never bring it.
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Relationships, dating, and a bit of advice:
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Posted:Apr 6, 2018 12:59 pm
Last Updated:Dec 21, 2019 4:38 am
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I am kind of a robot when it comes to emotion. I will tell a trump supporter to eat shit and die but it doesnt really piss me off and its more matter of fact, you suck, go die somewhere, pass the potatoes. Nothing really does get to me, with the exception of driving( see offspring - nitro lyrics), I dont get phased by much.
I tend to watch other people and how they act like im an observer more than an active participant in emotion. My will tell me her woes with her mother or boyfriend and I will be engaged and fully invested but if she cries I look like Data from ST patting her on the back.
This does have its advantages, people tend to act how every expects them to, they do the things that people think are normal, and if some says A to a person, most people will react in a few variations of the norm either B C or D. If you stop for a second and look at how relationships and love works it seems like most the world is following a script from a soap opera at times. I blame TV for lying about love and creating these false perspectives of what it means that can never be attained.
This isnt to say you cant find true love, it is just to say that it wont be like the on tv, and the term true love is pure bullshit anyway. I recently got married, I love my wife and we have been dating for over ten . This means nothing other than as of this moment and for those in this relationship I have loved her enough to stay with her and vice versa. It isnt a secure future because anything can happen to change her mind or mine and this idea of unconditional love is not real.
What I wanted to get to is a couple of flaws I have seen besides the complete bullshit terms like love at first sight, soul mates, happily ever after, high hool sweethearts,etc. You can tell me if im full of shit in the comments section but here I go:
Looking for your everything when you enter the dating arena:
How many of you have ever walked up to a peer in any part of your life and asked a complete stranger to be your best friend forever? No ? Then why the fuck do people want to skip all the time and process of developing something from casual acquaintances to life long mates.
I have seen this offense in every profile on dating apps everywhere. Looking for a relationship, plans for , plans for marriage,etc. It almost seems like it doesnt matter who you marry, they just have to want the same things. rew going in casual, I want to tell you I love you after 2 weeks like that isnt the most insane thing on earth. This leads me to the next point.
Falling in love too quickly:
Of course people do this shit on FB but it is a microcosm of real life as well. The only difference is you can see the whole thing unravel in a span of 2 days like the lifespan of a flarm that ientists test on. Real life s take 5-10 so FB is the best testing subject because you can witness 3000 fails in year for data analysis.
So there is a two fold issue. If you can love so quickly it negates all the relationships with others that put the effort in their whole life to be your good friend just so they can be equal levels with some random asshole you barely met. The other problem is if you are prone to love so quickly youre probably prone to falling out of it as quickly which just makes you chaotic and not some empath with super powers to feel things(also complete bullshit).
This is compounded by the fact that you know very little about the person so it means you are into them for shallow reasons or you are assuming a shit ton about the person which is worse somehow. I get optimism but if you dont care to find out the facts about a person then you are going into relationships willfully blind on purpose.
I would write more but no reads these things and its more therapy to get the thought out of my head and I wrote enough to achieve that so phooey.
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