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How To Show Your Intentions... Without SCARING Them Off... ๐Ÿ˜ฎโ—  

Paulxx001 64M
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5/25/2021 10:46 am

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How To Show Your Intentions... Without SCARING Them Off... ๐Ÿ˜ฎโ—

There are NO 'excellent' Samaritans, so the best I can do is 'good'. I'll help out a stranger when I can. The other night, paranoia and perceptions conspired to blow up any 'good' intentions I had.

Darkness had draped the landscape as we all drove down that wide boulevard with our blinding lights blazing. Except for the person in that car in front of me, they merrily rolled along โ€” in their own dark shadow. I felt I should do something for the safety of all of us. At the next light, I had my opportunity.

I eased up to that blacked-out vehicle to find a middle-aged woman behind the wheel. I motioned her via sign language โ€” two fingers pointing at my eyes then at the road ahead โ€” and by turning my lights on and off. She looked at me, bewildered. I lowered my window to speak with her and suggested she do the same. Well, the reaction I got was completely unexpected.

Immediately, she turned her head, as if I didn't exist, raised all her windows and, as soon as the light had changed, ripped down that road into the distance. Do I look that terrifying? Did she ever suffer from a bad experience? Could she be SO oblivious?

A half dozen blocks up ahead, that speeding 'stealth' car had caught the attention of flashing, red, white and blue lights. As I slowly passed to rubber-neck, I watched her gesticulate with animated enthusiasm as she tried to explain why she was a twit.

And then it dawned on me. I tell my daughters, who are well into adulthood, to be wary of strangers; had that lady's parents once advised her likewise? I think a certain amount of mid-life skepticism is valid, but an equal helping of driver self-awareness is also essential.

When I got home, while brushing my teeth, I looked into the mirror. Damn, maybe I do look scary. Now what the fuck am I supposed to do about THAT? I spent the next couple of minutes practising my smile. ๐Ÿ˜Š

.......................


I think I'll wear a shirt, next time I drive.



Paulxx001 64M
20754 posts
5/25/2021 11:00 am

How do you think you're perceived, the FIRST time you meet someone in a social or business setting? ๐Ÿค”

The first time is pretty laid back ; I'm not trying to project much of anything. Aren't impressions built over multiple meetings? ๐Ÿ˜Žโ—โ—


Paulxx001 64M
20754 posts
5/25/2021 11:03 am

This experience with that random lady was rare. They USUALLY don't freak out like that.lol ๐Ÿ˜‚
Do you ever have things go off the rails when you stop to help a stranger? ๐Ÿค”


smartasswoman 63F  
34711 posts
5/25/2021 11:21 am

I've had the same level of success in trying to signal to someone that they forgot to turn on their headlights. Makes me glad that I have full-time headlights on my car! Cuz it's not like I'm any more on top of things.


benard69 63M/63F  
5993 posts
5/25/2021 12:38 pm

I Tried to convince a lady who left her purse on top of her car that I wasn't the Hillside Strangler once...Took a whole stop light before she would roll her window down so I could convey the message...


Paulxx001 64M
20754 posts
5/25/2021 1:02 pm

    Quoting smartasswoman:
    I've had the same level of success in trying to signal to someone that they forgot to turn on their headlights. Makes me glad that I have full-time headlights on my car! Cuz it's not like I'm any more on top of things.
OMG... you're one of THOSE!
LOL ๐Ÿ˜‚
Ok, did you know that those 'constant on' lights only turn on your front lights on a low beam, and your rear lights are off? ๐Ÿค”
Puhleez, if a random person drives up to you โ€” put on your lights.
Or... maybe... your car is different from all the rest? ๐Ÿค”


Paulxx001 64M
20754 posts
5/25/2021 1:04 pm

    Quoting  :

Thanks for popping in!
Is that light on a car thing, restricted to women? ๐Ÿค”


Paulxx001 64M
20754 posts
5/25/2021 1:06 pm

    Quoting benard69:
    I Tried to convince a lady who left her purse on top of her car that I wasn't the Hillside Strangler once...Took a whole stop light before she would roll her window down so I could convey the message...
Omg... I can only imagine. lol ๐Ÿ˜‚
It seems that younger drivers are more likely to be spooked? ๐Ÿค”
Well, ya got it done! ๐Ÿ‘
Thanks for sharing. โ—๐Ÿ˜Ž


smartasswoman 63F  
34711 posts
5/25/2021 1:58 pm

My car has an 'auto' setting where when there's light out, it has daytime running lights, and in low light the headlights and taillights come on. Headlights for dummies.

I know it works because my headlights magically get brighter when I pull into my garage.


Paulxx001 replies on 5/25/2021 2:43 pm:
No need to reply, I'll google it and educate myself. lol ๐Ÿ˜‚

Paulxx001 64M
20754 posts
5/25/2021 2:13 pm

    Quoting smartasswoman:
    My car has an 'auto' setting where when there's light out, it has daytime running lights, and in low light the headlights and taillights come on. Headlights for dummies.

    I know it works because my headlights magically get brighter when I pull into my garage.
Wow! And kool... ๐Ÿ˜Š ๐Ÿ‘
And, it shows you what I know about recent cars and all their gadgets. Although my daughter has one; I should pay closer attention. So whatcha driving that's sooo smart? ๐Ÿค”

That OTHER scenario happens a lot here. Gradual lights, huh? ๐Ÿค” Kool! โ—โ—๐Ÿ˜Ž


positively4you 71F  
4354 posts
5/25/2021 2:54 pm

I bet she was telling how that creepy man in the next car was trying to abduct her. No good deed goes unpunished.


misskissin 57F
87708 posts
5/25/2021 3:15 pm

LOL some folks are so leery they can't imagine someone trying to help them. I'm certain you didn't scare her. Hugs


Paulxx001 64M
20754 posts
5/25/2021 3:34 pm

    Quoting positively4you:
    I bet she was telling how that creepy man in the next car was trying to abduct her. No good deed goes unpunished.
And THAT'S why I've been practising my smile โ˜บ. ๐Ÿ˜Žโ—โ—


Paulxx001 64M
20754 posts
5/25/2021 3:38 pm

    Quoting misskissin:
    LOL some folks are so leery they can't imagine someone trying to help them. I'm certain you didn't scare her. Hugs
It speaks to people getting influenced by the news and the media; not enough positive publicity. ๐Ÿค”
I've been working on my smile; an underrated asset everyone should own. ๐Ÿ˜Žโ—
How's yours? ๐Ÿ˜


smartasswoman 63F  
34711 posts
5/25/2021 6:04 pm

>> So whatcha driving that's sooo smart? ๐Ÿค”

It's not all that new! a 2014 Subaru Crosstrek.


Paulxx001 replies on 5/25/2021 7:35 pm:
Hmmm... who knew? ๐Ÿค”
So much hi-tec going into cars. โ—

mc_justmc 61M  
6692 posts
5/25/2021 6:28 pm

I remember the Urban myth about flashing your car lights at a car driving with their lights off. They were supposedly gang members who would follow you and kill you.


Paulxx001 64M
20754 posts
5/25/2021 7:37 pm

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    I remember the Urban myth about flashing your car lights at a car driving with their lights off. They were supposedly gang members who would follow you and kill you.
I haven't done the hi-beams in years. Yep... lol ๐Ÿ˜‚ ๐Ÿ˜ฎ
But I've tried opening and closing my lights. These days I'm apt to just drive at a safe distance; especially with my recent success.
Gangs, huh? ๐Ÿค” Eee... โ—โ—


author51 58F
119761 posts
5/25/2021 10:56 pm

Sad now that when offering a helping hand to someone, that they mistake it for something else and become scared my friend..xoxo

You can never have enough JOY in your life..xoxo JOY

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PonyGirl1965 55F
17187 posts
5/25/2021 11:53 pm

I would have rolled my window down and waved as I rolled by her, LOL.


sweet0necter 47F  
2047 posts
5/26/2021 12:12 am

We were traveling through Phoenix I had inadvertently left my keys dangling from the trunk.. my x was driving we pull up to a stoplight this guy jumps out comes to the back then to the drivers window... it was a good laugh! Thank God for good Samaritans!


Paulxx001 64M
20754 posts
5/26/2021 2:02 am

    Quoting author51:
    Sad now that when offering a helping hand to someone, that they mistake it for something else and become scared my friend..xoxo
Perhaps she had a bad experience? ๐Ÿค”Oh well, I'll still do the same thing, if it can help someone. Or should I just give up? ๐Ÿค”

In the meantime, I'll work on my smile. ๐Ÿค” lol ๐Ÿ˜‚ ๐Ÿ˜ฎ A smile is underrated! โ—โ—๐Ÿ˜Ž


Paulxx001 64M
20754 posts
5/26/2021 2:05 am

    Quoting PonyGirl1965:
    I would have rolled my window down and waved as I rolled by her, LOL.
With my luck, the cops would have gotten the wrong impression and come after me.
OMG ๐Ÿ˜‚ ๐Ÿ˜ฎThen this story would have ended with another lesson. โ—โ—๐Ÿ˜Ž
You mighta pulled it off ; police are nicer to women aren't they? ๐Ÿค”


Paulxx001 64M
20754 posts
5/26/2021 6:05 am

    Quoting sweet0necter:
    We were traveling through Phoenix I had inadvertently left my keys dangling from the trunk.. my x was driving we pull up to a stoplight this guy jumps out comes to the back then to the drivers window... it was a good laugh! Thank God for good Samaritans!
Lol ๐Ÿ˜‚ I've actually seen keys stuck in a trunk; that was you? ๐Ÿค” lol
It's a good thing that you didn't freak out when that guy came at you. โ—๐Ÿ˜Ž๐Ÿ‘
Sounds like you're pretty laid back... ๐Ÿ˜Š


sweet0necter 47F  
2047 posts
5/26/2021 10:57 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Lol ๐Ÿ˜‚ I've actually seen keys stuck in a trunk; that was you? ๐Ÿค” lol
    It's a good thing that you didn't freak out when that guy came at you. โ—๐Ÿ˜Ž๐Ÿ‘
    Sounds like you're pretty laid back... ๐Ÿ˜Š
Actually if memory serves my x freaked out.. and then was pissed because how could I be so stupid. But he was the one who closed the trunk so technically he should have grabbed my keys out? But I thought it was funny.. Unlike the time he was working on changing the oil in the car... I didn't drive for a few days.. I can't find my keys he was pissed again your so irresponsible blah blah. I said the last time I remember having them was handing them to you... finally I'm like i need a new set... a little over a year later.. he puts his carharts on to go do something... he taps his chest has a weird look opens the pocket and pulls out my keys... that ofcourse was funny too we both laughed but it hardly made up for the year of guilt..


Paulxx001 64M
20754 posts
5/26/2021 12:37 pm

    Quoting sweet0necter:
    Actually if memory serves my x freaked out.. and then was pissed because how could I be so stupid. But he was the one who closed the trunk so technically he should have grabbed my keys out? But I thought it was funny.. Unlike the time he was working on changing the oil in the car... I didn't drive for a few days.. I can't find my keys he was pissed again your so irresponsible blah blah. I said the last time I remember having them was handing them to you... finally I'm like i need a new set... a little over a year later.. he puts his carharts on to go do something... he taps his chest has a weird look opens the pocket and pulls out my keys... that ofcourse was funny too we both laughed but it hardly made up for the year of guilt..
OMG... One year to get to the punch-line? lol
I spent a good ten minutes turning my car upside down, looking for my keys, after shopping for groceries. It never dawned on me that they might have slipped from my hands and into the trunk.
If keys could talk โ€” the stories they'd tell. โ—โ—๐Ÿ˜Ž


sweet0necter 47F  
2047 posts
5/26/2021 6:31 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    OMG... One year to get to the punch-line? lol
    I spent a good ten minutes turning my car upside down, looking for my keys, after shopping for groceries. It never dawned on me that they might have slipped from my hands and into the trunk.
    If keys could talk โ€” the stories they'd tell. โ—โ—๐Ÿ˜Ž
I like how my keys are just a fob and as long as they are in the vicinity it will lock unlock and start.


Paulxx001 replies on 5/26/2021 7:48 pm:
I imagine the next step will be voice-activated, and then we'll have to find other things to lose. lol ๐Ÿ˜‚

lunchandconvo 51F
3327 posts
5/27/2021 5:51 pm

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    I remember the Urban myth about flashing your car lights at a car driving with their lights off. They were supposedly gang members who would follow you and kill you.
oh, man! i missed this memo!

i thought flashing my high beams was the international sign for hey you... you forgot your lights! or hey you... watch out for that cop head! hey you... there is a log in the road!


Paulxx001 64M
20754 posts
5/27/2021 7:01 pm

    Quoting lunchandconvo:
    oh, man! i missed this memo!

    i thought flashing my high beams was the international sign for hey you... you forgot your lights! or hey you... watch out for that cop head! hey you... there is a log in the road!
I read the same edition of that 'memo' that you did. I still follow the guidelines.
But that gang arousal โ€” doesn't appeal to me that much. I'll have to rethink my practise. ๐Ÿค”


scoupe42 58M  
11797 posts
5/28/2021 9:43 pm

You tried to fo a good deed, but maybe people not used to that. Being scary, I think she just couldn't believe that someone of us are still good!


sexyldy1000 60F  
8610 posts
5/28/2021 10:16 pm

Overall, I think people get an accurate sense of who I am from the 'get go'. I am not intimidating, I am friendly, articulate and easygoing. My friends have often said, they wish they were more like me because I can talk to anyone Much like what I state on my profile, 'who I am here, is the same as who you will encounter offline, out in the real world.'

You donโ€™t know if you donโ€™t ask.
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Paulxx001 64M
20754 posts
5/29/2021 3:14 am

    Quoting scoupe42:
    You tried to fo a good deed, but maybe people not used to that. Being scary, I think she just couldn't believe that someone of us are still good!
Hmmm... You make a good point.
I think, she was in space.
How can you NOT notice that the lights on your car are off? ๐Ÿค”
Ever try and help someone out on the road? ๐Ÿ˜Ž๐Ÿ‘โ—โ—


Paulxx001 64M
20754 posts
5/29/2021 3:21 am

    Quoting sexyldy1000:
    Overall, I think people get an accurate sense of who I am from the 'get go'. I am not intimidating, I am friendly, articulate and easygoing. My friends have often said, they wish they were more like me because I can talk to anyone Much like what I state on my profile, 'who I am here, is the same as who you will encounter offline, out in the real world.'
Hmmm... reeeelee...
Well, that's good to know. You're NOT intimidating? If you're as articulate as you claim to be โ€” that would scare the 'illiterates' away. And, just as well! ๐Ÿ‘ ๐Ÿ˜Š
I'm pretty much the same in the 'real world' as I am here. Perhaps a touch less sarcastic.
Although you don't drive, would you help someone who needed it? ๐Ÿค” Dja think I took the wrong approach with that woman? Maybe I AM scary. ๐Ÿ˜ฎโ—


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