PSA - Getting The Last Word On Tinder  

New2Midlo 52M  
714 posts
9/20/2021 6:23 pm

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9/23/2021 1:00 pm

PSA - Getting The Last Word On Tinder

Since beginning to use the app (off and on), I've found myself in two situations where the interaction ended in a less than amicable manner. In both cases, I had reached my limit of 'what I'm willing to tolerate for some boom boom' and metaphorically dropped anchor in terms of further entertaining the behavior being exhibited by the other party. And in both cases, the other party fired off a 'fuck you' note and unmatched with me. However, I admit to having no real insight into the content of their messages, since unmatching deletes the entire conversation and I never saw them. Thus, they weren't actually able to get in the last word or parting shot.

Therefore, the takeaway should be that if you feel the need to fire a last shot and get in the last word on Tinder, wait a few hours to ensure the other party has time to read your fuck you. Of course, that deprives you the pleasure of unmatching and making that person go away. Your revised takeaway is you can't have it all.

Under the heading of pleasant surprises, earlier today, I'd been trading notes with a woman who went into full bitch mode and I called her out on it. There were notifications of additional messages from her, but for the reasons above, I didn't bother looking for them for a bit. The pleasant surprise was that the message she sent included an apology for being bitchy.

New2Midlo 52M  
1075 posts
9/20/2021 6:24 pm

Happy dating...

G000dbuddy 34M  
1676 posts
9/21/2021 6:38 am


jc_powerman 61M  
254 posts
9/21/2021 11:38 am

I have to say I have run into situations like what you are talking about on several apps which also included Tinder. I have found that many individuals actually enjoy that negative argumentive thrill they create but I have run into individuals which are opposite and occasionally been able to meet and have positive results. Like real live things can be a crap shoot. Just brush off the bad and seek the positive.

New2Midlo replies on 9/21/2021 4:20 pm:
This is where I'd normally bemoan how internet dating has become more tiresome and less fruitful, but I'll skip it this time.
I think the important thing is to go in armed with the knowledge that it's going to suck, but remain hopeful a small sliver of positive may shine through.

lust4life59 63F  
2552 posts
9/22/2021 9:19 pm

I try not to be argumentative on places like tinder, I means, what's the point? It's easy to spot a red flag (and there's many of them out there), I just quickly and quietly exit stage left.

New2Midlo replies on 9/23/2021 1:00 pm:
In some cases, it's not much different than some of those you run into here.
Interestingly enough, you just made me start writing about how ghosting isn't always a bad thing.

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