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date or age ?  

Imthatgirl1122 41F
1528 posts
7/26/2020 11:18 am

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7/27/2020 10:49 am

date or age ?

Im not a fan of know, dressed up, being picked up, fancy restaurant, wine and dine, get know each other...arghhhh....the whole process was too much. I much prefer 'get naked and fuck good' kinda way. but last wee.I thought, ok its been more than a year so let's try date. I got a few guys that always asked out instead of fuck .

so here's probably where the problem started. Guy 1, tall, handsome, yrs older than , smells amazing. we sat in nice restaurant, had a nice food (I'm always happy with food) but as soon as we finished eating..the get know each other part kinda getting intense, I found myself sat there looked around felt bored death. I'm busy with my mind thinking a thousand way go home. I didn't found any. no sex obviously since he prefers date first.
Guy2, I said yes him because I kinda tested myself..I had a theory of why I lose interest. he's very attractive, 9 older than , smells even better..and definitely hinted that he wanna fuck me but he wanna took me out first. so we did. the moment I sat in his car, I lose interest again. I just want to go home. I hate it a lot. I said sorry to both of them and tried to explain the reason why there won't be second date.

Guy 3, just one of my fuck buddy, younger, we went out to grab some food, came home and had sex. didn't feel like runaway.

I kinda thought that it's all because I just hate to date. they both attractive . but then maybe it's not about being in the restaurant or going out itself..but it's being with who they are?? after my break up last year, the oldest guy I fucked I think it's around 42 yrs old and thats only 1 guy. the rest was younger than . is it maybe that they're almost the same age as my ex? I probably in my mid life crisis but I read about it and it got nothing do with opposite sex' age.

it's an awful feeling, I felt like I'm trapped sitting there in front of him, no way out. and I need tell my mind not panic so I won't left him there. the only time I felt relieve was when he asked me if I want a dessert (you should know by now that food made me happy haha). it's a shame because I liked both of them...not sure how it's gonna be if they will fuck me though, haven't go that far yet. but whenever I think of that's like theres someone behind me kicked my ass so hard for me run.

wtf is happen? until today, for age will never be a problem. age is only a number and it will always be. I couldn't be still have a trauma for a break up that happened a year ago, right?? anyone have some theories?

Imthatgirl1122 41F
1835 posts
7/26/2020 11:19 am

hope everyone doing well

Leegs2012 49M
96134 posts
7/26/2020 11:22 am

I'm with you. I prefer to get naked and fuck. NSA sex for me!!!

Imthatgirl1122 replies on 7/26/2020 12:40 pm:
yay..come pick me up then

Mr_Mercedes 60M
617 posts
7/26/2020 12:04 pm

Go with what’s more comfortable for you. Nothing worse than dating when you don’t want to be doing it.

Looking for Mischief

Imthatgirl1122 replies on 7/27/2020 3:00 am:
I did feel like it, but then the panic came like a rush

idblueswoman 64F  
830 posts
7/26/2020 12:45 pm

Maybe someday you will want a person in your life that cares about you and you them. Apparently now is not that time.

Imthatgirl1122 replies on 7/27/2020 3:04 am:
how if that time never trying to wrap my head around it. might give it a go again next week. is it a good idea? thanks

14861 posts
7/26/2020 12:46 pm

*Hope You Are Too*

Interesting Blog!!

~ xxxJackxxx ~

Imthatgirl1122 replies on 7/27/2020 3:04 am:
haha thanks Jack

bitchkitty2017 70F

7/26/2020 1:02 pm

There is a wine and dine? Geez guess i am missing out on that lol

Imthatgirl1122 replies on 7/27/2020 3:05 am:
haha..that was just a term for dating. well, if I'm nearer I'll take you for wine and dine tonight

justaguyinalaska 56M
879 posts
7/26/2020 1:07 pm

It is simply a matter of your personality and your appetites, neither of which is a *problem* at all.

If your suitors had access to (and/or took the time to read) your blog, they would quickly apprehend the futility of conventional dating with you. You are intense and impulsive. Both traits operate on *rocket fuel*, which means that the fuel tank is exhausted far more rapidly than a slow-burn diesel. Hence the window for someone to get in sync with your rhythm is much tighter than the mating rituals most people pursue.

Above all, embrace your uniqueness. To be sure, it can be daunting (perhaps even unnerving) for the dull-normals. However, as you relate in your blog-posts, there are kindred spirits in this community (and elsewhere) who will both appreciate your penchant for *spontaneous combustion* and rise (literally and figuratively) to the occasion.


Imthatgirl1122 replies on 7/27/2020 3:07 am:
that was very interesting. thanks a lot.

NicoleNorth 71T  
17 posts
7/26/2020 1:22 pm

sex starts between the ears. if your partner cant engage your mind, then they are jut a one off. but one offs are great now and then. win my mind, win my body

Imthatgirl1122 replies on 7/27/2020 3:08 am:
that was totally make sense. thanks a lot. we should have a girls night out someday

JKnow303 32M

7/26/2020 5:07 pm

Hoping to get some points? Me too.

Imthatgirl1122 replies on 7/27/2020 3:09 am:
I don't need any points, mate. but glad if you get some

lonlyforlove2 79M  
32704 posts
7/26/2020 5:22 pm

There is both, being patience will make for some fine times, a good wine and dine. some time to get to understand who and what the other person is and wants , I had my first date in 20 years a few years back with a young lady from the site, I enjoyed the hell out of it and am still enjoying it....

Have a good day , wish you good luck in your life adventures...

Stop by at lonlyforlove2
also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow
Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker"
also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'

Imthatgirl1122 replies on 7/27/2020 3:10 am:
yeah I do think it took some time. I wish I can enjoyed my date when the time comes. glad you enjoyed yours. thanks a lot

DoctorBooty 41M  
6426 posts
7/26/2020 7:57 pm

Just seems like its not really the time for you. When you want someone to go do things with besides sex, then its time.

I like taking my ladies somewhere, because I like experiencing things outside the bedroom, so long as we end up back in my bed

Imthatgirl1122 replies on 7/27/2020 3:14 am:
it's been a year and still not the time. I wonder if there will be that time at all. thanks a lot

author51 59F  
130010 posts
7/26/2020 10:59 pm

I find my sweet friend as we get older, some of us want more than just sex, so I date before I mate..Casual sex with one I do not know I just don't do.If there is no chemistry first that I feel, there obviously will not be any sex.. Do what only you feel is right for you and no one else.....xoxo

Imthatgirl1122 replies on 7/27/2020 3:16 am:
I love going out and to do things...but maybe not the get to know each other part. it's weird, I was so freaked out and my heart shrunk. oh well...hope that kinda feeling won't last. thanks Joy

profcoquin27bis 58M
4323 posts
7/27/2020 4:54 am

change your dating method : rendez-vous in a bed !!!

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