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Mental Health and Doing No Harm  

EroticMusings2 58F  
1577 posts
1/4/2021 2:08 pm
Mental Health and Doing No Harm

I am watching my husband who is outside trying do a few things that used be so easy for him. These days he is very disabled and is progressively becoming more and more unable do things physically. I m not just talking sexually, but even simple things like dress and walk. But that is just our journey in life.

Took a long time come terms that this is just our life now. My once very strong, capable and fast husband now struggles even stand. That things like bathing, dressing, etc I must help him with. I was angry, so angry. Not at him, though at times I m sure it came out that way. But angry because he had always been my rock, the person I counted on make things right. The man who everyone was afraid of because of his size and strength.

So let's talk about the mental health side of things, even with sexual problems. We want sex, wish we had sex or more of it. But we can exist without it, even though at times ................. We long for those raw sexual freeing times once again. When we were discovering ourselves, sex and our own sex proneness even. So recently my husband and I had the talk. You know the one. It has been years since we have been intimate. He simply cannot and has been too proud to even talk to a doctor about perhaps being prescribed something to help.

Now he gave me permission. Permission to have a discreet lover. Certain terms were set and I thought it might be okay. But the hurt and agony when eh came to me and said he could not bare to think of me laying with another man. I knew right then and there that I had to not fulfill my own sexual needs at the risk of his mental health. What if it were to drive him to a break down or worse? What If I were the one with the disability?

So for me, as much as I long to be even kissed deeply, I will do without. It is what is best overall or is it? Do I dare even think about myself? ................

Ann


*Creative Outlets of All Forms thru Me*


discreetdesir55 64M/62F
44 posts
1/4/2021 9:34 pm

Life is full of sorrow and hurts, some would say that life sucks. But it is a journey.
There are good memories in life, we can visit them from time to time.
I feel for you Ann . Hugs ...Lee


hardguy0051 70M
503 posts
1/4/2021 11:21 pm

Better living through chemistry.

He needs to take one for the team... in this case, Team You-Two.

I summoned up the nerve to bring it up with my doctor. It wasn't the 1st time a patient had. He just smiled and told me he had some samples I should try.

They work. Hallelujah, they work well!

They saved my life. Ok, my sex life for sure, and my self esteem and self image. Maybe I am that shallow that my self esteem depends upon my ability to perform. So be it-- I can please a woman and that makes me feel like a man. It did wonders for my psyche and it might for your man's, too. It's worth the risk.


LadiesR2B1rst 59M  
2735 posts
1/6/2021 4:55 pm

I really don't have a good answer for you. I do think it sounds like at least you are talking to him about it and that's a great start .


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