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Knowing what's on the other side  

Cumfindoutmore 56M
7 posts
10/12/2019 12:10 pm
Knowing what's on the other side


Being on the site for a while now I have realized many are called but few are chosen. So many times some of us reach out to others and yet we are never taken seriously. Is it because so many of you have been disappointed to such an extent that you prefer not to respond to others? How many of you have had such experiences?

BiggLala 49F  
29742 posts
10/12/2019 12:49 pm

Well, this question can apply to most things. Yes, I think most people apply the results to past experiences to current and future decisions. That's pretty reasonable most of the time.

That said, I'm going to be specific and answer your question in the category of you being attached. I don't take married/attached men seriously because I'm simply not interested in them. Be sure that you don't assume my reasons for my disinterest...I do not judge them. I am not interested because, based on the experiences I HAVE had with them, they are never available. Or...to rephrase...their availability is extremely limited and erratic compared to mine. I'm not inclined to accept small scraps of time that will most likely not be worth my time in the long run. I'd rather go without. Period.

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jajo696 66F
3412 posts
10/12/2019 2:52 pm

Exactly what LaLa said....yes..past experiences dictate how we engage or attempt to engage in other pursuits....or not.

She has also told me in the past to take EVERYTHING anyone says with a.....huge grain of salt. That in itself, if we can do it ..lessens the disappointment.

.......and then specifically, people need to locate like minded individuals....that takes patience and perseverance. Both of which are in short supply here ~~


White_Gardener 46M

10/13/2019 8:50 pm


I wouldn't be so harsh as the previous commenters. Yes, for most your status is a turn off, for a lot of reasons. I would still keep it rather than lie about it, cause the truth always comes out.

I am sure there are members here who will go for attached, but the majority avoids them, and for a good reason. Don't fret, and be honest. Is the best quality you could have.

Welcome to Blogland, hope we see more of your thoughts.


Cumfindoutmore 56M
65 posts
1/6/2020 9:07 am

Thanks for the responses. I would prefer to be honest than to be deceitful. If I am not accepted for being truthful then let others live their lies.
My truthfulness keeps me free and I look for honesty, not the fake profiles and those who dwell on hiding the truth. Eventually it catches up and as I always say, "all unfair games will play over"


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