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Part 2 Watching your wife have sex with another man  

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1/13/2022 8:34 am
Part 2 Watching your wife have sex with another man

Physical health issues. In Lady Chatterleys Lover, Lord Chatterley was physically unable to have intercourse with his wife (though as my own wife points out, his fingers and<b> tongue </font></b>still worked just fine; why wasnt he using them?). I did see a number of men who reported that due to physical complaints, they werent able to be as vigorous in bed as they and their wives would like. While the wives, by and large, were happy with things as they were, the husbands often felt their wives loss of sexual satisfaction more strongly than the wife themselves and were motivated to encourage the wife to sleep with other men.

Female sexual fulfillment. Womens sexual capacity is far greater than that of males. The world record for male orgasms is about 26 in a 24-hour period. Per Sherfeys research, women have documented as many as 60-65 orgasms in a single hour. I saw many men who reported that their wives were highly sexual beings, with a greater sexual capacity, and it simply turned the husbands on and pleased them to be able to see their wives sexually satisfied, to a degree that a single husband couldnt match. I also speculate that there is a degree of vicarious experience here: By being a part of the experience, the husband gets to vicariously experience what it is like to have that greater sexual capacity and identify in a strong manner with his wife and the essence of female sexuality in a way that most men never experience.

Masochism. Leopold von Sacher-Masoch was a 19th-century fan of flagellation who wrote Venus in Furs about dominant women. Masochism was named after him. Leopold posted ads in German newspapers of the day, looking for energetic young men to befriend and pleasure his wife. (Check out Craigslist for Leopolds modern counterparts.) Leopolds interest in the experience was specifically the humiliation aspect of being cuckolded, treated as weak, lesser, and not a real man. Like those who seek the taboo, these cuckolds often seek out a strong SM flavor, in which the husbands are dominated, belittled, and degraded.

Financial reasons. Most of the women working in Nevadas brothels have husbands and boyfriends at home, who benefit from the wifes sexual exploits for pay. it is not always about the money. A wife interviewed for my first book told me that when she was working as a manager at a brothel, one of the women always called her husband on her cellphone before bringing a man back to her room for a party. Unbeknownst to that man, her husband was getting off listening in on the phone. The financial part is a piece that cant be ignored, as it has been around for a long time. In England, men would sometimes set up their wives to be seduced by a man, so that the husband could then sue the man in court. In Florida, in the 1990s, the sheriffs husband of the Housewife hid in the closet videotaping his nymphomaniac wife; with other men (notably Republican politicians), whom he then blackmailed.

The royalty perk. In the 1960s Motown song, the line goes save the last dance for me, as the husband watches his wife dance with other men. Many of the men I interviewed got a thrill, a sense of being that they had a wife who was so sexy that other men wanted to be with, but who ultimately came home with him, the husband. It made the men feel powerful and successful that they had such a sexy wife.
Misogyny. Sadly, I saw some couples in which the husband encouragement of the wife to have sex with other men was about degrading the woman. Some of these men talked about treating the wife as a , as a piece of meat, and taking her down a peg.

A common fantasy is that the practice of wife-sharing starts when a husband catches his wife cheating, and finds himself strangely turned on. This might happen sometimes, though very, very rarely. But it is at the root of Dan Savages past responses to these men, a response that he and Ryan didnt repeat in this column. Usually, Savage quotes the ; eroticization of fear; hypothesis, that these men so fear their wifes infidelity that they eroticize the fear, in order to reduce the anxiety, managing it by sexuality, until they have turned the fear into a sexual fetish. In my book, I encountered a single man who described this scenario. It might happen, but it's a lesser answer than all of the above. Hopefully, through their partnership, ...End


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