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Mansplaining  

Secret_Explorer_ 53M
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5/16/2021 9:16 pm
Mansplaining

So I was recently accused of mansplaining by someone that I had hooked up once with through this site. (No, I will not name anyone, that's not the point.)

What happened was that she had sent me some intimate photographs in the lead up to our first encounter. Then, after our first encounter, there was an IOS update (the operating system on the iPhone) and after that, anyone who has included geolocation information in their photographs, those photos will show a map at the location that they were taken.

You don't have do anything include this information -- it is there unless you take special steps to not include it, or remove it afterwards.

After this update the lady's intimate pictures showed up in my apple-maps map, revealing both her home and work address. -- and would now be doing this automatically to anyone with an iPhone that she sent those photos.

So after we had set a day for our next rendezvous, I told her to remind that I needed tell her something about her photos. She pressed, so I explained what I had noticed, and then she stopped responding, and did not respond again until after our scheduled date had passed.

Later, I tried to reschedule, and she responded "No that's OK". And after I pressed, she said that I "only get one opportunity to mansplain to me", and that I "would not have said anything to a man."

Now, I am a cybersecurity expert. I would, and have, explained that very thing to a man, and been paid to do so. I said that, but she countered with the fact that she had not paid me for my opinion.

We basically came to the conclusion that from her perspective, me saying something was an unforgivable sin, and from my perspective, it was my responsibility to alert her to an unsafe situation that she might not be aware of. She told me to fuck off, was not surprised that I refused to believe my behavior was inappropriate and now we're not only going never have sex again, but probably never speak again.

So I am interested in understanding what other people thin Clearly, this is my explanation of the situation, and her perspective was obviously different. But how does a man explain something in his technical field, without "mansplaining"? Was I wrong? If you sent me a nude picture, and it told me your home address, would you want me to tell you about it?

Let me know in the comments.

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