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Caregivers and loss of intimacy in their marriage  

Augiesdad 72M
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2/7/2021 11:11 am
Caregivers and loss of intimacy in their marriage

This is a very sensitive and controversial subject, that is ignored and sometimes ridiculed in todays world.

There are approximately 60 MILLION spouses in the United States are their spouses caregivers. Many of those people are dealing with heartbreaking health problems, from dementia, cancer, strokes, alzheimers, and many other debilitating conditions.

Caregivers lives are complicated, frustrating, and heartbreaking. The demands on their time and on their emotional health and well being are tremendous. Most caregivers suffer a form of burnout or PTSD. at some point.

Many of those caregivers are healthy adults, with an adults needs and<b> desires. </font></b>Is it fair tell them that they have no right those emotions and<b> desires </font></b>that every other human has a right to? Are those husbands and wives expected shut off that part of themselves that hungers for the affectionate touch and attention of another human because their spouse is no longer capable of giving that to them??

There are 3 options for the husband or wife of a person whose health no longer permits intimacy:
1) complete denial and celibacy ie pretending you don't have those<b> desires.
</font></b>2) masturbation when the urges become too great.
3) Have an affair or hire a sex worker.

In other words, there is no ONE answer, as everyone dealing with this sort of situation has deal with it in their own way. Most people deal with it with a combination of one or all three of those options.

It would be wonderful if were a site like Senior Sizzle for caregivers exclusively.

I would LOVE hear from both men and women have had deal with this situation themselves. Have a story?

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