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The bisexuality question
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The bisexuality question Hello again, Before getting to work on the fantasy piece, I just have a bit of a bone to pick with someone who had sent me a rather annoying message the other day. And why am I taking it up here, on my blog, as opposed to via IM in private? Simple: because it is a common problem that needs to be threshed out in the open. The title of this post, “The bisexuality question” is aptly named, seeing as that is precisely what the message as about. The individual(s) had claimed that, “If you let a guy suck you off, then you’re bi.” Then they went on to say things like, “Who are trying to ”, etc. – typical moralisms. Here’s the deal: I don’t have any sexual hang-ups. If I was bi, or gay, or whatever, I’d proudly state the fact and that would be that. Being born in 1984, I didn’t grow up with all their sexual stereotyping, all their sexual prejudices. I don’t have the hang-ups that come with that. I don’t see bisexual or homosexual, etc., as being “Bad” and, so, I have no reason to hide my sexuality. If I say that I’m straight, then you can rest assured that I’m straight. I’m as straight as they come. The question remains, “If you let a guy suck you off, does it make you bi?” It seems that a lot of people would say, “Yes”; however, this is not quite right. The problem is that we are misusing our words. Consider the following definitions: • Heterosexual, or “Straight”: physically, or sexually attracted to the opposite sex • Bisexual, or “Bi”: physically, or sexually attracted to both sexes • Homosexual, or “Gay”: physically, or sexually attracted to the same sex Notice anything about these definitions? What is the key element? What makes someone heterosexual, bisexual, or homosexual? The key element is a little thing called, “Sexual attraction.” That is the deciding factor. If that factor is missing, if there is no sexual attraction to speak of, then there is no “Sexuality.” If a guy is sucking you off, that doesn’t mean very much in terms of sexual attraction. How is it any different from, say, fucking a pillow, if you are not actually sexually attracted to the person in question? If you fuck a pillow, does that mean you’re “Sexually attracted to pillows?” Heavens, no - it means you’re a horny Mo-Fo looking for release by whatever means. The problem, then, is that we are assuming the object of sexual stimulus (whether a man, a women, a pillow, etc.) implies sexual attraction to the object of sexual stimulus. By that wonderful logic, we must necessarily conclude that the vast majority of men out there are “Sexually attracted to Kleenex and Vaseline!” We cannot infer sexual attraction like that - going from external objects to internal states - for sexual attraction is, mostly if not wholly, psychological in nature – i.e.: we cannot see it; it is not an object, but a subjective state of desire. This is why women are always saying things like, “Sexuality starts in the mind”, etc. They are right. Sexuality does start “In the mind.” Sexuality is, largely, psychological in nature. We need to separate “Getting off” and “Sexuality.” “Getting off” is practically mechanical: it’s a kind of physical release. Sexuality, sexual attraction, is a whole other thing – a psychological thing. It is a matter of desire. In any case, I think people here are forgetting that I am straight. They are fixated on the fact that I might consider “Select males”, as if that meant it was going to be a common, everyday thing with me. It’s not common, and it won’t be an everyday thing with me. Women always come first. If there is the possibility of fucking a woman, I won’t need to consider anyone. Again: women always come first – because I’m straight. Thus, to sum up: when I say that I’m straight, it means that I am sexually attracted to women. I am not sexually attracted to men. Cocks, balls, and assholes do nothing for me. Zero attraction. When I say that I might consider “Select males”, I mean to say that I might consider using their mouths to “Get off” – like using a Flesh Light - or a pillow - for instance. There is zero sexual attraction in this. It is purely about the sexual stimulus, the sensation of a mouth on my cock. It is about the physical release. How about a little more common sense? How about a little less judgment, and a little less moralism? How about we just learn to “Live, and let live?” We’re all here for a good time, after all – “Whatever floats your boat.” Why do I get the feeling this might turn into a real brouhaha? Cheers, Pleasurabull |
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