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Levels of D/s dynamics
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Levels of D/s dynamics A regular<b> vanilla </font></b>relationship is hard enough and a power dynamic can be easier or harder depends upon wants and needs. Either way there must be communication, easier with a D/s dynamic as its requisite then a<b> vanilla </font></b>where usually that is the first element of its demise. I'm going to show my age here and probably be thought of as full of bunk but it's a relationship even though the modern lifestylers squirm when it's titled as such between any D/s or friendship . It's a relationship between 2 individuals. Not sure why that's stigmatism or a evil word. But it is. Here's my take and 18yrs experience and my own experiences. It is a limited grasp upon what relationships in D/s have proven thus far to me and I have much to learn but wish to better understand. 1) The denial it isn't a relationship. It's just play and you're a target, no commitment, no ties, no emotion. Short lived but both involved needs met. Usual out come for myself is devoid, lacking, and added callousness, and short lived 2) The friends with benefits kink style but shelve any feelings: Usually one party's needs being met but the others are not. One side always wants a bit more whether it's attainable or not. The party who's needs are being met usually leaves the others unfulfilled and it ends when they communicate their need of sex or more time etc. 3) Don't come back or don't want to come back tourist . 1 night stand. Again a waste of time like #2 but a one time any play will satiate. 4) The I'm really into you and yes I have feelings but it's work and I'd rather be lazy and go back to #2. To forget the communication and that any thing worth it is going to take effort, communication and work. 5) The golden chalice and coveted of all ... Where feelings are mutually evolved and built upon the foundation of kink and the D/s dynamic it's committal and absolute it's worth fighting for. Any one can play a scene with a friend at an event and or play to mutual needs met and return to the<b> vanilla </font></b>wife and or husband . That's kink and to each their own and I judge no ones dynamic and or needs but wish every one could touch or at least taste what 5 is. I consider my self lucky to have and thought perhaps twice but for certain had it and let it go to experience that level of connectivity of connection of cataclysmic forces in one dynamic I hope every one can experience in a life time. Heed my words of obscure wisdom it's rare and acknowledge it and hope you identify it and not run scared the other way and hide from it. Your far from perfect , they are far from perfect. Accept what it is and embrace it you may not get another chance if you shut yourself off and deny or refuse to work at it. Disposable . Delete . Right click next |
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