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How to Chat up Women in IM
 

Devlynne 47F

7/10/2019 8:56 pm

 So. I have many male friends who are interested in me that I already spend time with. I have about six different social media accounts and receive solicitations daily. The free time I have to put into my existing relationships outside of work is already limited. In order to get time with me it is going to have to be special and demonstrate that effort is being put forth. Many women are in my position. I am really not interested in entertaining your cheap and simple thinking further because it demonstrates a type of selfishness that is prevalent among men and I find highly unappealing. If you already have a formula in place that works for you stick with your formula and your own standards and I will stick with mine.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
7/11/2019 8:37 pm

 I have many male friends who are interested in me that I already spend time with. ... Exactly , you "Spend" time. .... Now try having sex with them.

I have about six different social media accounts and receive solicitations daily. .... Because you have a vagina. A woman having a vagina is like people finding out you won the 10 billion dollar lotto.

The free time I have to put into my existing relationships outside of work is already limited..... Welcome to any working mans world.

In order to get time with me it is going to have to be special ..... You ever consider that you should be special enough for him , too? He's probably busier than you are.

and demonstrate that effort is being put forth. .... What effort are you demonstrating, other than putting on make up and clothing? .... You either want his company or you don't. And when you don't, you wave him off, or as some women do , they "Friendzone" him for the purpose of giving her platonic attention later.

Many women are in my position. ..... Many men are in your position. His time ....his money.... is not for the wasting.

I am really not interested in entertaining your cheap ...So when a man says his time and money are valuable to him, -he won't buy you a drink, it's cheap? You have your own money. You want to be in his company, or you don't. All this is about, "How you feel about being with him, and talking to him"...........He does not, SHOULD NOT have to pay you, directly, or indirectly , to get to know you.

because it demonstrates a type of selfishness that is prevalent among men and I find highly unappealing. .... So you can imagine how unappealing a woman is , to a man, whom insists he should buy her stuff to get to know her.

Wanting, from a man, his opposite of selfishness, is a quality the woman must earn from him.

If you already have a formula in place that works for you stick with your formula and your own standards and I will stick with mine...... But your formula doesn't work. Your approach to men is, "I'm for sale, and to get to know me, you have to pay me for attention". .

..........So , why does he have to buy you a drink, to get to know you?


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