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Small Grindr rant
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Small Grindr rant Okay, so I really to get this off my chest even if no one reads this. Around mid summer of 2018 I started using Grindr. I browsed around, chatted, and met a few guys. So far things were good. I'd tell every guy I chatted with about my limited availability and the ones that were understanding and stuck around were the ones I'd meet. Some time around October I started having family issues and, since I currently live with my parents, I was sucked into it. not going to into it for privacy reasons, but it ended up limiting my already limited availability. At the time I was chatting with a guy on Grindr ( going to him Bob for this post). We had been chatting for about a week or so and had made plans for us and his buddy to meet up soon. I had to let him that I had to cancel and that my availability was even more restricted. He was upset, but accepted it and we kept chatting. About a week later the issues in my family escalated and I didn't really have time nor the energy to hookup with people. I began messaging all the guys I was chatting with and, since Bob recently messaged me, he was on top of inbox so I messaged him first I told him I was having even more family issues and that I was going to take a break from Grindr until things settled down. He asked me if I wasn't interested and if he should block me. I told him to feel free to block me because I understood that it would be upsetting and frustrating for him to keep trying to chat and hookup with me and I didn't know when I'd start hooking up with people again.. He replied with a "k" and didn't block me. I then began messaging all the other guys I'd been chatting with and telling them that I'd be taking a break. Some of them were not online and took a while to reply so I was on and off Grindr for a bit. An hour later Bob messages me. I checked it and was welcomed by this. "I thought you were taking a break you fucking flake. Your a waste of time" I was a bit mad. I understood why he was mad, but I told him that I didn't know when I'd start hooking up again and that he was free to block me. I didn't reply which looking back I should have just told him I was messaging my other fuck buddies that I'd be taking a break and after finishing I uninstalled the app. Today I reinstalled it because my family issues have settled a bit. I still have a very restrictive availability schedule, but I have enough time to hook up with guys in the immediate area, about 2-3 miles from me. I started messaging some of the guys that I'd chatted with and met before when Bob sends me a message. We chatted for a tiny bit and about four messages in he asked if I wanted to chill in his hot tub for a few hours. He lived about 8 miles from me, which to be fair isn't very far from me, but I didn't want to travel that far.( I don't own nor for the gas of the car I use) I told him that I wasn't interested because he was to far for me to travel to and because I wasn't looking for long dates. "Come on, we can do a blow and go. Lets work something out" he replied. I told him again that I wasn't interested and he sent one last reply. "Your a waste of time you fucking flake. Chat and no show. Fuck you." I blocked him after reading the message. I was pissed. I understand why he was so pissed but, A) I told him several times that I had limited availability.  I told him that he was free to block me and most importantlyC) Learn to take no for an answer! Circumstances change. What people are looking for change. Their availability, how far they can travel, their interests change. People you used to fuck all the time or people you made plans with might not be able to hookup with you or they might change their mind because they just changed their mind. Just learn to take no for an answer and for fucks sake you're on Grindr. They are so many young twink out there who are hotter than me that want to fuck. Its not hard to find people who want to fuck unless you're a fugly bastard who never trims. TLDR: Things change. Learn to take no for an answer. |
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I understand perfectly. I am limited also.
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