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Pleasuring Straight Men
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Pleasuring Straight Men Long ago I discovered that my fetish is "pleasing" or "pleasuring" and giving pleasure to straight horny men you could say is my passion. There is something about the male mind that is so interesting and thought provoking. Men work hard and men like to play hard and most men only get to do one of the two of those things in their daily lives and that's the "work hard". With that in mind I found myself on a mission to change that and the mission is an ongoing thing a constant effort to reach those men who are living out their sexual lives in their minds vs. their actions. I'm not out to get all the straight men I know out of their personal closet because I like to think that most aren't in a closet and they are who they are. If a man is straight and married or single and straight thats their business. I for one am attracted to those types of men. I know men fantasize about sexual pleasure and being pleasured and giving pleasure all the time. I know there are (straight) men out there who are open minded, confident in who they are, smart, self assured, who are actively participating or they are contemplating the idea of being pleasured by another man. With society so accepting of sexual freedom and personal sexual identity these days it raises a personal question in the minds of straight men "am I interested in seeking out sexual gratification from a man like I do with women"? "am I going to be considered gay"? "will this make me gay"? "will it destroy the life i've built with my wife and "? the lest of "mind" questions is endless... It has been my experience that there are millions of straight men who identify as straight and like being straight but they are also "men" men with high sex drives and needs and some have the ability to crossover to another man allowing the other man to give him pleasure without letting the experience(s) interfering with the life he's built that revolves around his wife and , etc...These types of men are very self aware. The idea that there are men in the world who want to give another man pleasure and want nothing more than that. Period. A man who has a very high sex drive will in his mind repeatedly ask himself if he thinks he has it in him to seek out another man to give him what he needs and at the same time he has no interest in reciprocating. Thinking about it long enough its not uncommon for a straight man to give into the experience. I say "experience" because that is what it is...an experience to discover will this work for me? Lets face it...not just men but people in general know that there are other people in this world who are sexually self aware and confident in themselves and who like nothing more than to be the person to give that straight man what he needs and who will likely offer himself to him whenever asked. In other words be a "go to" for a man who seeks his talents and his complete ability to satisfy him. I'm not talking about about payment in cash....I’m talking about an understood relationship that is for this purpose only and it's fully understood by both parties and move on. I liken it to getting a hair cut....you go get a hair cut because you need one. It's likely you've been going to the same guy for months or years - you have developed a level of comfort, you engage in personal conversation, the barber isn't out to destroy your life, he may be interesting, you are two people who are present in the same room one is touching you via a haircut and he's here doing his job. He cuts hair, you need a hair cut its a win win. How is that any different than say a man you visit to give you outstanding oral service or a man you visit that will let you fuck him vs. making love at home (which is something you may not be getting enough of or you're bored with "making love" and you really just want to pound one out and not have to dance around moods, dinners, wine, etc...)YOU WANT TO FUCK. There is nothing wrong with wanting to F U C K and by F U C K I mean throw down put it in and go to town on an eager willing hole. Al the straight men I've met over the years have a few things in common... 1) married very young and never gave themselves the opportunity to truly discover/explore their own personal sexual self. Not identity but rather "self". Most...at an early age lock themselves into a marriage and are for the most part happy with it (until) enough time has gone by and they discover just how much they still haven't experienced or learned about themselves sexually. Some as they get older their sex drive sky rockets contrary to the popular belief that as you get older your sex drive diminishes. When a man feels the need to (finally) explore and experience vs. dwelling on all of his "thoughts" then he will either do something about it or he will suffer in his sexual madness and simply grow old with all those years behind him and only his thoughts of what might have been or what could have been or what this or that might have felt like, etc... 2) some not all....earlier than other others come to the realization that they are able to adjust to a same sex partner for self sexual gratification only. In the straight mans (open) mind he is aware of the fact that there are many other men out there who will gladly be his "go to" and leave it at that.....it is what it is and nothing more. Finding a "go to" same sex partner isn't much unlike finding a girl friend or potential wife. You have standards and they don't stop at the front door....you of course want to be pleased with a persons overall appearance, feel safe around the person, find out just what talents that partner has that will fit your horny needs, etc... I liken being a mans "go to guy" as a job. Think about it....being a straight mans "go to guy" is work no matter which angle you look at it from - it's work. It's work you ENJOY...but work nonetheless. Now...if you have a great work ethic it will show in your talents and you absolute ability to keep up with your straight man, your absolute availability, your absolute ability to be flexible to his life and his commitments to his established family, his job, all those things that come first before you do. Your dedication, the environment you provide in which to make anything happen are all crucial to making it work for both parties. If you live in a dump, you can't live with his schedule, you are a jealous person, you are moody and strike out if he cancels, if you are any of those things then leave the poor straight man alone and let be on his way to find someone who isn't all those things. Here are a few examples of what will turn your straight man away for good: 1) If the environment you provide is unkept and full of drama 2) Your in ability to be available more often than not 3) Your poor talents 4) Your bad hygiene 5) Your insecurities 6) Your selfishness (no man is going to stick around with all or some of those defaults) You must be of a mindset that it's all about him and his needs because it is and will always be about hime and his needs thats what this is all about. You MUST ENJOY giving and not receiving. Your goal is PLEASE - PLEASURE so with that said you must LIVE UP TO YOUR TALENTS AND YOUR WORK ETHIC. If you have a poor work ethic in your own daily life (all sex aside) that will translate into everything you do that requires action, talent, mindfulness, your physical appearance, your ability to please and be good at what you might "claim" to be good at. If a straight man is seeking oral sex from you...it's because it's something he's not likely getting at home or if he is it's mediocre. Give a straight man *outstanding* oral sex...suck down the shaft and not just the head. Do your job the job you damn well know a female isn't doing. SUCK THE COCK ALL OF IT....thats what you are there for...if its bad well say goodbye because any man whether he's getting it from a chick or a guy is going to look elsewhere vs. returning for boring. If a straight man is seeking an excellent bottom he can use/abuse for his own sexual pleasure.....then be that excellent bottom and with that comes you ability to take whatever he dishes out and do so without whining and setting too many limits. Remember....at home he has to "make love" he's not at your place to "make love" to you - he's at your place to F U C K you. F U C K in its purist form. Stick his horny cock in your hole and own it until he's finished with it. If he's shy at first you are responsible in bringing him into your world so let him know it's all about him and his needs. Tell him to fuck the living daylights out of you in any position in any length of time do the polar opposite of what he has to do at home. Give him the sexual freedom he's there for. |
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