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What to do,...What to do....
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What to do,...What to do.... For those of you following this blog, particularly over the last couple months, you know I've been mostly happy and positive. I've talked about some things I learned along with good times with the family. The thing is...I'm starting to get bored...particularly with sex. Not the thought of sex but the act itself with the wifey. She seems to have gotten into this "routine" where she knows what she likes and she wants it done the same way everytime...I'm certain she has this mental to-do list..dishes, laundry, shower, have sex with hubby, go for coffee with Rita etc, etc.... We went to see Jesus Christ Superstar on the weekend...and we were childless for 24 hours...so I'm thinking maybe we can get back to some things we used to like without the little ones around. But to my disappointment, very little was different!!! Of course I have options...and that's why I'm here in this place...but outside that...how can I inspire her to some creativity?...some passion? How did it get this "routine" in the first place??!!? Are any of you "stuck in a rut" in your sex life? Thanks for listening, and any insight would be GREATLY appreciated!! lustytaurus.BOREDTAURUS FYI...If you find yourself choking on an ice cube, don't panic!! Simply pour a cup of boiling water down your throat and, presto, the blockage will be removed...   |
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1/22/2007 10:50 am |
Yeah.....my rut is not getting any. I'm a giver, not a getter. Gotta work on that. Seriously. I need passion. I need to be consumed. I need to be worshipped. I need to get sweaty and incoherent. I need to be touched, felt, licked, sucked, tasted, devoured and depleted. Sigh.
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1/22/2007 11:07 am |
Hmmmmmm... That's tough. If she really does have that mental "To Do" list running through her head, you might try doing what you can to relieve it, or part of it. That, in my household, goes a LOOOOONG way. Not saying you have to take over everything, but do the dishes, or the laundry (make sure not to ruin any of her clothes), or whatever, without being asked and (this is CRUCIA without making a big deal out of it. If she says something or thanks you, just say that you thought it would be nice to help out.
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1/22/2007 11:08 am |
Also, I know a day at the spa always helps me...  Getting rubbed on nonsexually never fails to make me want sex, hot dirty nasty pig sex... Just a thought...
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Ya,married sex,know where your cumming from and if you find the answers let me in on it.     having the same problems when it does happen.They seem to know what they want and that's it,introduce a new position or a few new toys helps for one night,then bammm back to the old.   Later LustyRAWHIDE
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LT, I wish I had some magical answer for you. Being a slut myself, I can't really identify with the lack of variety. *sighs* Have you ever just came right out and talked with her about how you're feeling? Muffy da Brat
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Sex? Can you explain what that is?
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1/22/2007 12:07 pm |
have ya talked to her about it? just a thought... King Nor XVIII  
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1. Well, if you try talking and that doesn't work, sit down write a very sexy fantasy you have , that is about her, or even about the best time you had sex put it in a letter and mail it to her. 2. Think back to when you first met, and what turn her on from the start. time to review the past, and put a flame to it. 3 And as much as you may not want to hear this, it becomes boring when we get lazy, and not just saying you.Flowers_- Don't wait until a holiday to buy them, just the next time you go to any store for food, if they sell them buy them, it doesn't have to be big it the little things that bring big change to all of us. take care Dandy & Snatch
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1/22/2007 2:56 pm |
I'd suggest taking it OUT of the home. Nothing spells routine as much as home. Shame you don't live in Florida, where it's warm all year. Anyway, the spa idea sounds great as well but have you thought about a hotel room??? Just a change of scnery might do the trick.
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1/22/2007 3:50 pm |
agrees with norprin5 and waerlookin4fun
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1/22/2007 4:53 pm |
Get some whipped cream. It worked for my husband, at least for 1 night but better than nothing.
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Hey Im in a rut! Do it the same way every single time! Sorry No Help here.
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1/22/2007 8:30 pm |
Have to admit I agree with King Nor on this one. Maybe if I was asked what I wanted to do... or to try I would not be separated. Talk to her.. take her to a hotel for a night and spice it up. hugs sweetie.
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1/22/2007 10:00 pm |
maybe tell her how your other girlfriend does it,,that should change things up some... ok but seriously duct tape,,a five gallon bucket of crisco and a cattle prod,,gets em every time... sorry can't help ya on this one I guess...speaking of which,,I'm 3 minutes late for sex with the mrs...
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1/23/2007 3:26 am |
well...talk to her..and engage her brain...only thing i can think of...
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1/23/2007 9:25 am |
Erm...I'm single...I'd LOVE a rut! Or two or three. benibluetwo XOXOXOXOXOX
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I'm with Nor and the rest talk to her, I myself have been a rut (yesterday was a much needed fluke). It has to do with my own problems and some relationships ones, but when he asked me about it it was nice. Good Luck, being there is no fun Hugs
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1/23/2007 12:01 pm |
Just wanted to say that I agree with alot of the other comments...Due to the fact that I'm a mother of several childern at times we do get tied up in our to-do-list(been there)and last the last on the list gets the less attention. Get a sitter for kids and have really nice evening planned for you and her.. that seams to work here.good luck to you..Hope all works out.
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1/23/2007 2:20 pm |
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1/23/2007 2:20 pm |
WATCH OUT!! DUCK!!!! ** SPLAT!! ** ** SPLAT!! ** ** SPLAT!! ** ** SPLAT!! ** YOU have just experienced a Blog Snowball fight Brought to YOU from The Sea in Iowa!! Pass the ** SPLATS!! ** on to five other bloggers before they MELT!! yep you guessed it... that brat in Iowa... Nakey Katey... started it so blame her!!
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1/23/2007 6:27 pm |
I think thats the main challenge of sex. I think EVERYONE gets bored of it at some point. Thats why people always try kinky things. They are always looking for some way to make it better, or keep it from being boring. I think the key to this problem, is to try to find an interest in something other than sex and just give sex a break for awhile. As you are stimulated in other areas of life, different ideas, as well as urges will come automatically. Just give sex a little break, and focus on some other aspect of life. The urge will always come back, and in different ways. Maybe you need a break from HER routine. You can surprise her later.
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1/23/2007 8:16 pm |
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1/23/2007 9:16 pm |
Hey, how can jeka95 post a comment and not say anything? .... just like me! L'Oracle de L'Amour What to do? Surprise her and do what you want... we rather like it when a guy takes the initiative... hope she doesn't have your balls in a jar on top of the fridge... if she does go get them put them back where they belong and don't let her have them so easily... and then remind her its just a temporary loan. Hi again
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Sometimes when my partner likes it the same ever time... I flat out ask if we can do one thing differently every time. It allows him some of the routine that he thrives on and gives me a little variety. We sandwich in the new thing between two of our "norms"... just a thought. Good luck. Twist
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1/26/2007 1:50 pm |
Throw off her mental checklist then! Do the dishes, the laundry and help with kids. Nothing makes a woman get in the mood more than when she feels appreciated and relaxed. She will reward your efforts!! Ever try talking dirty?? Always gets me going.
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...easier said than done I'm afraid...
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