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Just Venting I'm one that takes my time getting to know a person before venturing out to meet. My personal safety is impt.....to me. I believe that a person can't pretend sanity forever and sooner or later the craziness will rear it's ugly head. I've dodged a few bullets using this method of vetting. So we IM, we text we phone, we share pics , we email for weeks before a meeting is set. A man whom I've been talking with off and on for years recently wanted to meet. We had never met before, due to either he being involved or my being involved or email addresses being lost etc. There were a lot of false starts. So this go round, I relaxed my process a bit and agreed to meet. After all we had spoken volumes prior. He tells me, " even if it doesn't progress in an a..f..f..way, I still need friends, a person to bounce thoughts off etc ". So we meet ,had a nice lunch, wasn't extended very long, but a leisurely time. My thoughts, a nice man that I wouldn't mind getting to know more. Said our goodbyes and that's that. Two days go by....not a word. So I email him, thanking him for the lunch, saying it was a nice time. He responds with, no thanks necessary , it was my pleasure. This was about two months ago now. Lol. No words since. Now I can certainly understand no connection , no further interest but I can't understand not being able to somehow communicate that. But I guess non verbal communication is just as powerful. He's still around, still viewing my profile. For the most part, it's out of my head, but just today I noticed from my profile that I was a " fan " of his. Well I quickly rectified that, but it lead me to this vent. Naive me, still believing what people say, " good friends, need friends" blah blah blah. I must keep reminding myself, actions speak louder than words. Rant Over....Lesson Learned ...I hope ! ~ja |
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9/16/2018 11:19 am |
It is known, I believe, that "both sexes" have the ability to, let us say, "deceive, mislead and provide false information. Finding that quality of human being, which is desired, is far more difficult that finding people. A grain of salt or a pebble of sand, either way you look and or move forward, tread carefully, safely and even though no fun to do, practice some due diligence. Don't let the acts of some, spoil the positive, productive and constructive potential for others. Treat people as people and when you do find real human beings to share with, "en - joy"! It seems obvious that this people, was not someone who was going to be good for you. Maybe best you are done there. Wishing you better and more fruitful pleasures! 
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Thank you both, grain of salt and due diligence, I must remember those. Today , I also realized that when buzzes on IM " wanna chat ?" , it really means ......you wanna cam , you wanna cyber ? Lol.....oh brother. This a..f..f..ville comes with its own language too!
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Yes... He should have at least said he wasn't interested. Oh well... Best of luck with the next one! 👍🍀 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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Not sure if he was confused on what he was looking for or if things got complicated for him with other things going on in his life. No response is a response. On this site I have had problems with various glitches and would not always trust their IM system (Have not noticed issues with emails that much but as a std member I cannot read most emails sent to me. Good Luck in the future. and I prefer a longer get to know someone process before meeting as well
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1/27/2019 9:32 am |
I was raised to treat others with respect, even if you don't necessarily get along....you were treated very disrespectfully by this person...I means, his non-response borders on gross cowardice, best to have that person out of your life.
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Thank you for those thoughts, i just chalk it up to : it takes all kinds to make this world go round. Everyone is not the communicator that i would hope for. We live and learn....hopefully.
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Faking sanity! Oh wow! You just nailed it right on the head. I've interacted with some great actors, some superb pretenders. They are like chameleons who hide their true nature with emotional camouflage until you'r close enough that they can bite! It's scary to think how many people are like that. Fortunately I have a fairly strong sense of intuition and I've been able to weed them out before I get too entangled. Strong sexual chemistry can get you tied down with some great lovers, but some really awful, rotten human beings.
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Just thought I'd pop in and say hello... So.. What else is new? Are you tired of winter yet? Lol 😂😄 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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The arrival of spring, over here, is like a race for turtles.. Takes forever and you're never quite sure if they'll make it over the line, before they tire themselves out. But I agree.. I dress up for the occasion and plow through it.. Literally.. We got nailed with 20 inches of snow this week.. It was great... Like being on a different planet... 🌍🌏😊 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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Yep.. Just wanted to clarify that I made that comment in error. I was confused. Stuff happens... 😊 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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3/2/2019 11:17 am |
Yeah he could have said something, I get a lot of things I don't understand either. You are a good friend and deserve better!
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Yeah he could have said something, I get a lot of things I don't understand either. You are a good friend and deserve better!
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Firstly for him not responding back clearly shows he was not worth your time. And shows a total lack of respect for your feelings. Honesty is always the best policy when you first talk and eventually meet the person.. Just remember you have a good soul and heart and if the person is not willing to take the time to discover that then he is the one missing out Hugs and Kisses Chris JUST ME A TALL PASSIONATE MAN WITH A HUGE HEART
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He should have been honest with you in the beginning. I am one who prefers you tell me instead of not saying anything at all. Not saying anything, hurts more than anything. I you know I have someone from here that has my heart and even though we have not to meet yet we do email but now he has stopped emailing me and I have decided I was not going to be the one all the time emailing .I am sorry this happen to you. The Light is shinning and she is lonely and waiting in the darkness. 
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He should have been honest with you in the beginning. I am one who prefers you tell me instead of not saying anything at all. Not saying anything, hurts more than anything. I you know I have someone from here that has my heart and even though we have not to meet yet we do email but now he has stopped emailing me and I have decided I was not going to be the one all the time emailing .I am sorry this happen to you. Thanks for stopping by ~~
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