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Fitness important?
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Fitness important? I frequently hear that the lifestyle isn’t about sex but relationships. Although this is true, it’s about sex as well. The prospect of sex is what drives our marriage. I’ve seen too many marriages fall apart after years of a piss poor sex life. Mrs. Loveland has a coworker who might have sex two times a year if they are lucky. He sleeps in the basement while his wife is upstairs with the dog. I’ve read many articles detailing this fact in far too many marriages across the United States. Perhaps, this is the state of your union or your last marriage. Mrs. and I have never been this way. We committed to each other to have sex frequently no matter how crazy life got. Over the years as my testosterone waned and life got in the way, I found it increasingly difficult to care about that promise. During a checkup, I discovered like so many of you that testosterone levels drop significantly in men as they age. This indeed is the irony of life. The male’s testosterone drops, and the female sex drive increases. I have spent countless dollars on testosterone replacement treatments and found a way to keep my sex drive high. My weight loss journey, in part, began with the desire to have more muscle mass and less fat. Fat kills testosterone. So, along with hormone replacement therapy and hitting the gym, I began my journey to a fitter me. At least in Colorado, most of the males in the lifestyle are fit. The women tend to range more than men, but I think it’s safe to say that many of the women are fit conscious. When I say fit, I’m not talking Dwayne Johnson fit (although I’ve seen that.) I would say most people have body fat under 25%. Now that I’m firmly part of the lifestyle community the desire and drive to become more fit has become intense. I’ll be the first to admit I’m usually fluffier than our play partners husbands/dates. However, I could outperform, in the gym, many of them, it doesn’t matter if I have the extra layers of fluff. Considering my starting point, I’m not bashing my weight online. I’ve come a long way and still have a ways to go before our lifestyle cruise in April. Having come from an obese weight down to an overweight weight, I applaud and admire the men my age who look a ton better than I do. I have received encouragement from our male friends and been offered help if so needed. That’s what I love about the lifestyle community. We don’t bash but try to encourage one another. I know. I started this post talking sex and switching to fitness and community. The three are inexplicably linked. There are times when I look at Mrs. and say, “You need a girlfriend.” I don’t mean this because a threesome would be awesome. I say this because there are times she’d love to go to lunch or shopping with another woman who knows what she likes. A girl who shares her desires and kinkiness. Mrs. struggles with our vanilla friends who will never know her secret life. The community of women in the lifestyle has made it enjoyable for her. She’s always ready for sex, but sometimes it’s nice to have a friend who you can do girl stuff with. The community of men is great as well. Yes, I get it. You want to fuck my wife. Who wouldn’t? However, it’s the relationships and comradery that we have at the bar before or in between the sessions of sex that I enjoy. Talking sports, cars, fishing, or whatever. There is more time spent talking than fucking. Today, I received an IM from a single male explaining how he was going to fill Mrs. hole with his big cock and blah, blah, blah. The sad part is that this was his opening intro. I have no clue who this guy was. Mrs. never even saw it before I deleted it. I get it. You have a big cock. So what? Mrs. does love a massive cock, but if that’s your intro, you’re the guy who doesn’t understand a woman. Mrs. wants to feel connected, assured, recognized, and then fucked. While some guys get to know Mrs. Loveland before fucking her at the club, others don’t. Those men will never get to fuck her again. She doesn’t expect you to be her husband (me), but maybe she’d like to know if you love cars, sports or sheep. We were at a club a week or so ago, and this guy walked up all friendly to Mrs., told her how good looking she was and seemed friendly. I knew and didn’t care that he was hitting on Mrs. Not at all. He was nice. After asking and receiving both of our permission to touch and kiss, he went in for the kill. DAMN. Was he dying?! SLOW THE FUCK DOWN BUDDY. His touch was nothing like his approach. I approached to ask him to stop when he broke off his assault and thanked her. To answer that question, No. We did not let him fuck Mrs. later that night when he asked. Take a step back from your overwhelming desire to get laid and listen to the woman before you move in for the poke. If you’re overweight, start working on it. Mrs., like most women in the lifestyle, think it’s essential. Don’t assault the woman. Not every chick loves it rough, matter of fact, few women like it rushed. If he had taken it slow and gentle, she would have been putty in his hands. Instead, she had to ask him not to squeeze the tits so hard. I’ve spoken with some men in the lifestyle, and the story is frequently the same. The woman or the man wants to fuck our wives, but it’s not always reciprocated. I know a gentleman who arranged dates for his wife. He knows that not all women would want him. Likewise, I know I don’t have the 8.5”<b> thick cock </font></b>and washboard abs. Mrs. loves the attention she receives from both men and women. She loves a fit, beautiful woman and often won’t play with the spouse without an attractive wife. She’s more lenient on the men than on women. While we love the community and relationships, sexual attraction is equally essential. If you reach out to Mrs., please don’t rush in with the grope like you haven’t had pussy in 10 years and this is your only chance (even if that is true.) Don’t send us an IM talking about you filling her deepest hole with your cum. It’s not impressive or unique, and it makes you sound desperate and pathetic. Try getting to know the woman before stealing second and third base. Otherwise, you’ll never get to home plate. |
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