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Stupid Girl
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Stupid Girl Something occurred Sunday at our World Cup Party that requires a separate post in my Blog. We had invited a married couple, two single guys and two guys and their girlfriends for Brunch. Nice mix of people. Everything had gone fine and everyone seemed to have had a good time. One of men’s date was a young woman (mid twenties or so) who I had never met before. She was the loudest and most animated of those in the living room during the soccer game and the only woman at the Brunch who never helped in the kitchen. She appeared to want to be “one of the guys”. After the game, after eating and drinking since 11AM or so, some of our guests were siting around with my partner and me sipping after dinner drinks and munching on cake and leftovers. Just casually winding down. I need to mention here, I’m very sure I was the only Transexual at the Brunch. Everyone else was of the “Straight” persuasion so I assumed but I don’t know for sure and honestly don’t care. While we just chatting on various un-important topics, the young woman was clearly watching me. It was obvious to me. All of a sudden she said, “You’re not what I expected”. I think I heard a few gasps. Everyone here knows what I am because my partner, and me for that matter, don’t hide it when the subject comes up. We don’t boast of brag about it, we are just being honest. “What did you expect?” I ask back quietly and not in a confrontational manner. The group at the table was very quite not knowing what to say or what to expect. “I don’t know I never knew a queer before but you’re very nice” or something like that. I could have said something like “You have a tattoo but are very nice” or “You’re very nice for a short person” or any number of stereotypically dumb baseless bias comments. “Being nice is a human quality and has nothing to do with Sexual Orientation. It’s neither a trait nor restriction of the LBGT community ” I said and about to launch in to my lecturing mode when Kelly, the one wife in the group said, “Come on Janice, I’ll help you clean up in the kitchen.” I can take a hint so I calmly grabbed a few dishes and headed to the kitchen with Kelly. I was getting angry but didn’t what it to show. I didn’t want to upset the party and certainly didn’t want to embarrass Richard in front of some of his friends and co-workers. While rinsing dishes and loading the dishwasher Kelly said, “She’s young, probably had too much to drink and didn’t mean anything bad.” Yeah, young and STUPID I thought but said, “ I took no affront from her lack of knowledge and understanding.” What had made me mad wasn’t being called a queer (had that many times before) but just when the world is becoming understanding and accepting of Transexuals and others you run into someone who hasn’t noticed what going on around them. Don’t they see how society is evolving, barriers are coming down, minds are opening and changing. Most of the world isn’t shocked anymore by adult sexual diversity. It’s no longer a simple Man/Woman world but so many variations in between. Lastly, for her to say she never met a queer before is absolutely incredible and shows what a low level of awareness she has. Everyone has but I guess because we don’t wear badges or uniforms or something to universally identify us. we not easy to spot for idiots and those with a high school mentality. I hope to never meet her again or anyone else with a closed mind and low IQ. But the night ended on happy, laughable moment. Later, Richard and I were in bed when he whispered to me, “You’re still my favorite Queer.” Jan |
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7/20/2018 7:04 am |
Oh hon, i know the feeling but we should never miss a chance to educate the ignorant. Of course in a gentle and nice way as some out there in the news cycle create bad stereotypes of us which filter down to those uninformed and thus such comments. Glad your friend was there to calm you down. Take care and be safe. Ciao. Gina {=}
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