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……and that brings me to #16
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……and that brings me to #16 Get your mind out of the gutter. The #16 does not mean what you think it means. The #16 represents the number of times I’ve been stood up. While that has been spread across the four years I’ve been here on the merry world of Senior Sizzle, it is still a significant number. When I tell men that I have been stood up, well, 15 times before tonight, they’re often astonished. “Why would someone stand YOU up?” is their usual response. Well, it’s easy. So rather than one of my usual blogs about one of my wonderful – and not so wonderful – Senior Sizzle experiences, I want to get on this soap box and pose a question to the men who might read this. Why would you stand a woman up? I have been chatting with a guy on here for nearly two months. We have not met. A few days ago, he texts me to complain about how I don’t get back to him in a timely manner, and when I do my answers are monosyllabic, blah blah blah. He was partially right. I was in the middle of a work crunch thing and just not able to respond as diligently as I should have. Not to mention the other men that I have been chatting with and arranging dates, times and locations to meet. Too bad I don’t have a secretary to help me organize all this shit. But I digress. I told him as such and asked for forgiveness, and to let him know I would love to make it up to him. He accepts my apology and I thought we had moved on. After sending me lots of sexting messages (“Been thinking about your dark wet pussy”; “just wanted to let you know I’m lying in bed this morning fantasizing a bit, thinking about slowly kissing you, your nipples and making your pussy wet”), we agree to meet tonight for a drink. The last text I got from him was last night, and he said, “Wishing you good night, looking forward to seeing you tomorrow.” I reply the same the next morning. I send another text, “what time did we confirm? Is 6:30 ok for you?” I sent a final text at 2:04 PM this afternoon. “Please confirm by 5 pm.” And cue the cricket sonata. So here I sit, having been stood up an astonishing 16 times. And here is my plea to all of you before it gets ratcheted up to a rant: If you don’t think you can do this, don’t. If you get turned on by sending sexting messages to a total stranger but have no intention of meeting her, don’t. If you haven’t figured out how to actually meet, then don’t. If your life gets in the way of your life, then take a minute and pause and think to yourself, “what the fuck am I doing?” I hear from a lot of men that it’s worse for them, and I sympathize with their plight. The women are even flakier and they’ve been stood up more often than well, whoever the hell stands up a lot. This is Senior Sizzle. We all know why we’re here. We’re all grownups. If you’re working 70 hours a week and trying to get some nookie on the side, you will need to make time for that. Put it on your calendar like it was a dentist appointment. And here’s a newsflash: if you make plans and your plans have changed, text the woman and tell her. I’m not asking you to call because, God forbid, that’s too confrontational. So text her. Use the technology instead of hiding behind it. Because you know what? Your standing me up means I gave up time hanging around waiting to hear from YOU – and you know who you are – when I could have been fucking someone else. |
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BiggLala has provided excellent advice. Do cut off the sexting and meet sooner than 2 months. Hell, meet within 2 days or a week if you can. Not for sex, but just that first meet 'n greet ought to happen soon. It's better to discover the chemistry, or lack of it, ASAP. Good luck!
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All great suggestions, ladies. Thanks.
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Hi there wincardium! Haven't been on for a while, and I see that you befriended me here on Senior Sizzle. I'd like to chat with you sometime, but I'm a standard member have no other means of contacting you on here. Perhaps I can meet you sometime for some oral fun. I don't want to reveal my identity to Senior Sizzle or any site since I'm a long-time married guy and don't get what I need at home. If that's a problem for you I understand and you can just let me know now when you read this and I won't bother you again, or we can hopefully chat for as long as you like before setting up a meeting, phone call...whatever, okay?
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