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A note to fellow single guys on AFF
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A note to fellow single guys on AFF Something I've noticed after reading numerous profiles and writings is that many single men, especially younger ones like me, vent frustrations about not finding someone . be honest, I this from time time too. We make up an overwhelming majority of the site and some women and couples definitely don't hold single men in regard because of the things they typically see and hear constantly. I'm by no means a professional or entirely experienced with this but I want share a few tips I've learned and hopefully they help whoever is reading this. way catch others' attention is completely filling your profile with enough details and be honest about what you're looking for. If you're single be honest about it. If you're married be honest about it. If you have any type of relationship with someone be honest about it. The point is don't make it sound like you're sneaking around or pretend that you're a "" profile. Try avoid just using adjectives. Be confident and not arrogant/cocky/pushy (yes there is a difference). Don't just post pictures of your junk but it should be fine if you have a few. Just don't overdo it because dick pics are equivalent those random flyers that you find on your windshield wipers. Post pictures without hat/sunglasses or post some of your body since they're more acceptable. Feel free be a tease in them. Be sure completely read other profiles and what they're looking for. If they're looking for women or couples, don't assume they're looking for single men. If they don't have a little green check mark but instead an X in the compatibility chart, don't assume you're going be that exception. Yes this is site but don't be completely crude saying stuff like "wanna fuck?" or a dick picture when you're messaging others especially in a first . Also try not say liners like "hey". It's your first impression so you basically get chance make yourself good. Just be respectful, polite, and don't take your anger on others if they say no or they don't respond back. Just move on, there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Be positive. Remember at the end of the day, they're people too and treat them like it. Get to know them first. If you do find someone, always meet in a public place first. If you can't host, be honest about it from the start and offer to for a room. Also try your best not to flake at the last minute. Let them know ahead of time that you won't be able to make it. Hopefully this helps in any way and I know profile isn't the best either but I'm trying best follow own advice as well. Best of luck in your search. (I know writing isn't the best. I might edit this and some more in the future) |
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 Good post.
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1/9/2020 12:45 am |
Good post 👏👏
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1/9/2020 1:18 am |
As a woman, yes, what you say does resonate. I'm not the best here, but I do receive many messages from young gentlemen such as you, and yes, sometimes it gets very annoying when my wishes are not respected. I do understand that men in general and young men in particular don't have it easy here... but if you want a woman's perspective, here are a few thoughts. A) Please say something about you that doesn't sound like "talk to me to find out more". Do mention about your life outside of Senior Sizzle. (Do you like dogs? Yay!)C) If a woman says that she doesn't see a future, please accept it. She doesn't. D) Don't offer money. Oh please!!!! 🙄 E) Sex - what kind, what do you hate, etc... entice us women. F) Some women prefer a hookup, some like to know you a bit more. Not one formula for all please, no matter how rushed your situation is. G) Please don't send a message that sound like a templated email from the bank...personalize it please. (I personally decline such gentlemen for the lack of personalisation or imagination... depends.) H) Being consistent is good. Being creepy isn't. Thank you.
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You are catching on quickly.  Have a great day, and be nice to one another.
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1/9/2020 4:09 am |
I fully agree any success I've had on here has been because i've been completely honest and hide nothing..
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If I was 25 today, I would be using more specific sites , in search for what I want. Not just this one. "Honesty" online is unsafe. Being vague on details, or not stating certain details is smart. If you're married, or in a relationship, but you're only looking for a lay.... you don't need to say you're married or in a relationship. Many women tend to avoid those males. Better that you don't say, but you look for the woman who says she is married, or in a relationship, but wants to fuck. Younger people , such as yourself, still climbing the ladder to your professional goals, should be very careful about what images of your self, you post online. Future employers could do a deep-dive search on you , and probably there is stuff you would not want them to find. .... Also, in the future, who knows how technology will change, ... do you want your kids or grandchildren or great great grand children finding your naked images online? ....Maybe it doesn't matter... but for sure your future employment should matter. Some women have very wordy profiles and say way too much. This can take up time you could be doing other stuff. So just scan it over quickly ,and see if you can even get her attention. If and when you do get her attention, then look at her profile more carefully. Don't worry about the compatibility chart, and what they say they are looking for. If you see someone who lives close by and seems like someone you would want to meet with , then by all means take that chance. If they freak out? Shrug it off, and move on....but if they don't freak, and they do accept a meeting, then that is one less regretful , "What would have happened if I did contact them", you'd be haunted about in your older years. ............So take your chances. You have nothing to lose. Actually with some women, saying , "Wanna fuck" could be the kind of forwardness she expects out of a man. So don't be afraid to say that. Pick your moment. Women, too, say , "Hey" sometimes..so you can say, "Hey", too , sometimes. This is usually to see if you're answering incoming instant messages..... consider it like knocking on a door. Don't overdo the polite and respectful bit. Get a reading on the person. "Polite and respectful" , for some, could be a complete turnoff .You lose their interest, they move onto someone more sexually aggressive. At a meeting, look for what you want. If that isn't there, then there is no need to "Get to know them". For instance, "Getting to know a woman" , is not going to make sexual energy for you show up. It's there, or it isn't. When the sexual energy is mutual, always share the cost of a room. She wants to get laid, too, just like you.
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Very well-written and thoughtful post for a young guy.. I'm impressed!
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1/9/2020 7:35 am |
here for the points
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Great post, I find the younger men are more polite. if i tell them they are too young they usually say something like.. ok, thanks for taking the time to reply to me. Wise words for one so young,, and don't take Heathens advice!
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Great post, I find the younger men are more polite. if i tell them they are too young they usually say something like.. ok, thanks for taking the time to reply to me. Wise words for one so young,, and don't take Heathens advice! You should consider all advice you get. Seems6666 ... Specify what exactly about my advice , you think he should ignore, and why you think he should ignore it.
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Hey, Brandini - I see you sent me an email. I'm standard, so I can't read it.  Send another friend request, too. Now I know who you are.Have a great day, and be nice to one another.
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1/19/2020 5:32 pm |
Hey, Brandini - I see you sent me an email. I'm standard, so I can't read it. Send another friend request, too. Now I know who you are.
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2/6/2020 10:06 am |
Very well written, common courtesy is always apropos
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i use the phrase: are you married? this is not a judgement. this is a question.
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