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Privacy is a really big deal.
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Privacy is a really big deal. I've only been on Senior Sizzle for about a week, and I take all the standard precautions. I make sure to leave my face out of my photos (my mouth can be seen in some but that's it) and I have no tattoos or other identifiable body markings. I haven't sent a single person on this site a picture of my face. And it doesn't matter, because someone recognized me anyway and just messaged me, calling me by my real name and asking if I'd like to hook up. It goes without saying that the vast majority of us on Senior Sizzle are not particularly keen to be identified by anyone we don't choose to divulge that information to, especially women since we're judged much more harshly for being openly sexual creatures, even in liberal Seattle. While there is no true privacy on the internet, Senior Sizzle represents a kind of limited safe space for free sexual expression. While the specific person who contacted me is probably not mean-spirited enough to be a serious threat to my privacy, I feel like he breached an unspoken rule by contacting me and calling me by name. He has no reason to contact me here - he follows my various social media accounts and comments there somewhat regularly. And obviously if I had any sexual interest in him he'd already be aware. For him to contact me on here was just really fucking gross; it felt like an invasion of privacy, like we shared some dirty secret together...only it wasn't one I ever wanted to share with him. It's probably impossible to be completely anonymous on Senior Sizzle if you're even moderately well known in other circles. But if you recognize me - or anyone else that is clearly desirous of maintaining their privacy - DON'T consider that knowledge some kind of an "in", or use it as an opportunity to intersect their public and private lives against their will. There is no scenario in which "hey I follow your normal Twitter, so-and-so, how is work going, btw you've got a great vagina!" is ever going to be anything other than completely awful. Respect other people's privacy and try and show a little ethical decency, please. This place is no fun if I constantly feel like I have to look over my shoulder and worry about being here. (note: that user was immediately blocked, and most of my pictures were moved into a friends-only album...lame, but obviously necessary) |
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Sorry to hear about such an incident. I hope site bores something more fruitful for you in the future
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Openly sexual people don't have a problem with sex.I think the problem they have is with their kids,spouses,ex's,friends,immediate family members,friends of the family,neighbors,work associates and anyone else they're hiding their openly sexual personality from.Anonymous creates the best drama. Using more than all the road!
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You know, i never considered my smile to be very distinguishing, but apparently it is. I have been approached three times in public asking if i am the guy on this site. Usually, it's someone i don't know, but there has been an old high school classmate that found me and messaged me on my fb account to tell me that she saw.... things.
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1 post 9/17/2017 4:45 am |
It's tough these days to be truly private online and a site like this requires extra privacy measures just to maintain. There certainly needs to be an unspoken code that everyone respects and follows, to maintain a private & safe community to engage in a lifestyle that requires at least this much.
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Its unbelievable that some people do not comprehend what you wrote without it being stated explicitly. Sorry.
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If your other identifying info (birthday, location, etc) is correct that would help someone to ID you. Also since you are new here theses sites are prone to being h@cked. Having your actual info here isn't a really good idea. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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I think that it is unfortunate that we have to compartmentalize our lives. If people can't handle all aspects of who we are can we really feel truly safe with other people? Please don't let me be misunderstood.
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SeattleGothGirl replies on 9/17/2017 9:54 pm: My info is all just slightly off, for exactly that reason. Not enough to change anyone's expectations or anything. Smart and beautiful  When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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9/17/2017 9:22 pm |
maybe it is forgettablity or that I am of basically no interest but I do the opposite, clearly show my face which is average, and really some pretty large very unique tattoos and I know that several thousand of people have seen them especially in the local running community. No one has ever commented on seeing profile here or anywhere for that matter. It might be the male/female difference, or just where I live. I guess because it does seem so far out there that it could ever happen someone I know from elsewhere commenting on seeing me here would be kinda interesting, Not the Whole Truth but the truth that I can see.
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i like that
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Actually, it IS a "in" for a lot of people in certain situations; there are so many people on this site that cutting through the noise of numbers sometimes requires a lucky break. Not to mention you spend your time spouting off your "rules" and demands, like insisting on face pics when you won't share yours; you have an over-inflated sense of entitlement. Your definition of "ethical decency" consists of you making demands about the physicality of potential suitors without giving any real reason why anyone should obey you, while you whine about the beta-males who do jump through your hoops not being able to string together a coherent thought. Granted, the males posting here are obviously virtue signalling, but it's still an echo chamber. Maybe you need to do a serious rethink about you, why you behave so disrespectfully to others, and why you're even here. I'll bet you could find all sorts of people at the Seattle swing club scene; but maybe it's because you don't want competition from other hotter women...
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10/13/2017 11:55 pm |
how about you come to vegas for a weekend we will have some fun.
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I have my picture on here, but not because I want people from places other than Senior Sizzle to say, "Hey, I saw you on Senior Sizzle!" I might make an exception for a woman I find attractive, if she adds, "And I'm interested." But the problem is that if the hypothetical woman I find attractive is interested, she could have just as well contacted me by way of Senior Sizzle. The problem with random people knowing about my Senior Sizzle presence isn't that they know. After all, if they know, that means they're on Senior Sizzle too. The problem is that they can tell people I'd rather not have them know, particularly business contacts who might be judgmental. But I don't keep pictures of my junk on this site, which I hope limits the potential for misusing what they can learn from my profile here. - - - I haven't heard of any problems with site security here, but I certainly wouldn't trust their security, given all the other chronic technical and administrative problems with the site. The only companies I trust to be secure are Google and Microsoft. One pretty much must trust Google, unless you avoid their search, Android, etc. Their technical competence is solid, and the secrets they know about everyone are critical company assets they want to keep secret so they can monetize their secrets. Microsoft doesn't have nearly as many secrets as the other tech giants, so they're making privacy a selling point to diminish the advantage competitors have by knowing more. I'm uncertain about Apple's technical competence, and lean toward distrust of their corporate culture. And of course Facebook is both technologically sloppy and openly scornful of privacy. My password solution is to use a different password on absolutely every site, except maybe those under common administration. How do I keep track of all those passwords? I have an easy-to-use formula for generating passwords, based on the domain name. A naive example of such a formula would be the domain name plus the word "password", such as "adultfriendfinderpassword". A more useful formula would be two random words with the first and last three letters of the domain name in between, and some punctuation such as "shiny,adu/der.cupcake". Those are of course not the formula I use, but they can be examples for others who want to use such a system.
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