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honesty with yourself and your partner - cant be a bad thing can it?
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honesty with yourself and your partner - cant be a bad thing can it? I wrote this article and posted it in the magazine back in 2005. had a great response with it in there. Thought was worth re-posting in here to get others' reactions and insights. It is intriguing to me to see how few men in couples (or indeed single men for that matter)are willing to use either the words "bi-curious" or "bisexual" in relation to themselves. Yet they are very comfortable with their wife/partner using the same words. It is frequent to see a profile omitting any reference to the male's sexuality when they really want to say "yes I AM interested in exploring sex with another man". The same profile however will go into detail of the woman's bi-sexual interest. What a pity. I have been in correspondence and have met and had sex with in "real time" several couples where the man has listed himself in Senior Sizzle or Alt.com as "straight" but has admitted to me in private he is very very keen to explore sex with me together with his wife. Indeed several men have asked me to meet them separately to explore their bi-sexuality without their wife's knowledge. Same goes for several single men listed as "straight". Again that seems a great pity to me. Why, even in a place such as Senior Sizzle, do men feel the need to hide this desire from not only the world but their partners? Is it that they feel their manhood would be questioned? Are they concerned that people will view them as less than 100% Macho male? Do they feel women will find them less desirable? I will be honest that in my real life I do not flaunt my interest in bi-sex but then again I do not flaunt my interest in heterosexual matters. It is interesting to note that friends (those not aware of our swinging lives) will often raise issues of a heterosexual nature with me/us in adult conversations and my wife has several times been asked point blank if she has experimented with other women but NEVER has any man asked me if I have experminted in bi-sexual activity. Strangely though in very private conversations with women friends I have been asked that very question and have answered honestly that I have experience in this (I would answer the guys just as honestly - if they asked.). Without fail those women have all admitted that the idea is a huge turn on for them and that they would love their men to experiment. No doubt if I asked the guys they would say the wives would be horrified - how I wish I could enlighten them. Personally I do not like kissing other men - it simply feels wrong for me. However oral (both ways) and anal sex (both ways) is wonderful - for me. Sharing a husband with a wife is an experience that is difficult to describe adequately. If many men were honest, with themselves let alone others, the thought is a wonderful one. Every single occasion (again without fail) I have "played" with a couple in a 3some the man has shown distinct interest in mild oral play and has become very excited when he and I come into direct physical contact. Despite that, most would still describe themselves as strictly "straight" and would deny even to themselves that they found such physical contact with another man sexually arousing. I am not arguing that every man has bisexual tendencies, that would be ridiculous. Nor am I advocating bisexuality for everyone - each to their own. I am however arguing that men should be allowed to express their sexuality in a more open and honest way. It is almost socially acceptable for a woman to be seen as "bi" these days however for a man it is another story totally. Girls, if ever your man raises the subject of bisexuality with you, in regard to you with another girl, tell him (if you are comfortable with the thought) that it is a turn on for a lot of women to see two guys "playing" together as well. Reassure them that it is okay for them to enjoy themselves and to be comfortable in all areas of sexuality. Why should a man in a swinging couple be restricted by outside moral codes we are already flaunting in the first place by swinging/swapping? Daft isnt it? Just maybe if couples talked with total honesty they might find that in many cases that (like my wife and it is the guy that has more interest in bi matters than the girl. I would be really interested to hear from couples - both male and females - and single guys and women their thoughts and reactions to these comments. Open discussion on such issues is healthy and just maybe talking will help some realise it is really ok to be what you want to be and not what you think others think you should be. Have fun all. |
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8/26/2011 5:33 am |
Although I have not seen the research, and I am sure is empirical research on the subject, I am quite sure most if not all men have thought about sex with other men. I've been an erotic thinker / wanderer all my life and have enjoyed mild activities with other guys from time-to-time on quiet beaches,etc. Always fun and I anticipate ging a bit further to enjoy my first hot 69 session with a guy who is totally smooth, like me. Yes, I anticipate enjoying some more bi three way soon again. Have only had 2 experiences thus far. Pity.
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Although I have not seen the research, and I am sure is empirical research on the subject, I am quite sure most if not all men have thought about sex with other men. I've been an erotic thinker / wanderer all my life and have enjoyed mild activities with other guys from time-to-time on quiet beaches,etc. Always fun and I anticipate ging a bit further to enjoy my first hot 69 session with a guy who is totally smooth, like me. Yes, I anticipate enjoying some more bi three way soon again. Have only had 2 experiences thus far. Pity.
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