0 posts 10/3/2018 10:29 am
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cjo46 - Dummy of the day.
Typical nonsense being exposed here.
He initiates contact with me, saying "hello".
I reply "hi" back to him.
He then immediately asks ( seemingly ) aggressive: "why are you on this site if you are not looking to meet people??"
I kindly explain that I'm here socializing, per my profile description, and the site has many purposes and not JUST solely designed for meeting people ( as I explained and gave him fact and advice where to find that source of info at on the corporate page).
Not willing to accept solid fact and proof as fact, he childishly and cowardly wishes me an abrupt "whatever bye", claiming he's not looking for argument and immediately closes out of IM.
Umm, but wait a second...if he's not looking to argue, then why immediately pounce on me for the reasons of why I'm here? Hell, he's not looking to argue, nor was I. I was merely communicating in a civil manner and giving facts, advice and direction. He acts like I have no right or business to be on a site which is jointly designed for socializing/social media aspects, as well as in-person meeting aspects. What's more, he initiated contact with me FIRST. If he had an issue with my existence here, then there is no need to make contact ( and yes, my profile even describes that in detail ).
This is what you get for being a 'nice guy' here, opening a seemingly nice "hello" message, reading it and taking my time in willingly responding back to him and explaining things in a civil manner. As usual, us women get dumped on as the default. No "thanks", no appreciation, no respect, no acknowledgement of courtesy given....nada, zero, zilch, none! Purely disposable!
So, as I always end up saying here: Guys, where's the mystery? Where is the mystery why nearly no women exist here? Where's the mystery why next to none of the women who do exist, won't even bother opening your IM's/emails? Yet, I end up hearing the same sob stories that "no women want to chat", "no women ever want to talk" or "they leave the conversation right away". Honestly, there is zero mystery to that! Once morale improves ( and it won't ) with you men, it'll be at that point when women will actually have a desire, a will and a purpose for being here and/or talking to you men. Funny how you make your own bed in the game, but yet assume no responsibility or seem oblivious to your own actions as being key to the failure here.
Nice going, clown!
cjo46
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78 posts 10/3/2018 10:34 am |
Respect hun, most lack it I guess. Hell, I'd be happy with just chattin myself. If I would get to meet a woman for coffee or a drink hell I'd be thrilled. 
Banana_Canyon replies on 10/3/2018 10:56 am:
Aww yeah. I'm glad you see it that way and that's precisely how things should really go between two adults. Just read, respect and see if/where two people take things. There should be none of this drama, arguing, ignorance, idiocy, nonsense, retaliation, etc... . Seriously, what is really so hard to comprehend here about the idea of basic protocol of just reading ( profiles ), respecting one another as human beings ( whether or not two people are actually a match ) and see if/where two people take things. Simple! I'm speechless at the deplorable level in which society has become.
Appreciate your kind comment! Agreed!  |
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1430 posts 10/3/2018 10:46 am |
Given the geographical limitations, the only real use for this site is the odd conversation now and again. There is, as my northern forebears would say, now't so queer as folks!
Banana_Canyon replies on 10/3/2018 10:59 am:
Right! Between the combined geographical limitations and the extremely low population ( ratio ) of actual real, available, serious and willing women on this site....there really is no mystery as to why almost no men can rarely even chat to women, much less meet them due to those factors.
Appreciate your comment. Also agreed! |
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7024 posts 10/3/2018 11:08 am |
Nailed it!!!!
Banana_Canyon replies on 10/3/2018 12:32 pm:
Appreciate that comment and support in agreeing. |
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10/3/2018 11:12 am
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I may be the second “Dummy of the day”. Being a fairly nice guy myself will initiate conversation by saying “Hello”. Which bring me to the question, Is there a nicer way of initiate conversation?
Banana_Canyon replies on 10/3/2018 12:36 pm:
I'm not sure what you mean. First, I'm a bit confused. Is your question pertaining to the details of this blog, or is your question pertaining to a personal and completely separate question of your own in that regard? I need clarification of understanding whether or not your question is a personal question or if it's pertaining to branching off of this story I posted in my blog today. Know what I mean? Please clarify. |
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10/3/2018 11:19 am
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I ran the math once of the chances of meeting a woman on here... actually in person for coffee or lunch so see if the next step is attainable. Its such a small percentage. I assume it is mostly because of a fear of how they will be treated. Sometimes guys get so horny, though, that they can't read or reason. I'm not saying its right.
Banana_Canyon replies on 10/3/2018 1:02 pm:
That's a whole can of worms to open, let me tell you. I have also ran generalized statistics through and there is an entirely wide variety and chain of reasons and circumstances that interfere when it comes to men's odds of meeting women. It can continually keep being broken down into smaller and smaller particles, the more specific the process of breakdown becomes. It's pretty much entitled to a huge detailed blog of it's own. But here's a simple example: Say that you sign on to messenger at any given time of day or night. You do a filtered search for ALL women aged 18-99 years old. Say your results yield roughly 3,000 women online, for example. Now...out of those so-called 3,000 "women" online via IM...automatically we must assume that probably 3/4 of them are a combination of both site-generated fakes/fake profiles and/or catfish ( men pretending to be women ). That leaves us with an assumption of generally 750 actual REAL women exist on IM at this given time, and I believe that's globally, mind you. At this point, we already see how ridiculous this equation is, for 750 women globally online vs. roughly 16,000 men on IM at the same ( given time via a filtered search for ALL men ages 18-99 ). However, this just scratches the surface of it all. Out of that 750 women online, how many are lesbians? How many are bisexual ( and only seek other women )? How many are here not even looking to meet with men at all ( I'm one of those )? How many are here in search of only joining couples/groups? After breaking all of that down and finding the willing, available, serious women who are here looking for a man, now how many are actually local to you? How many of them seek very specifics ( specific race(s) (bbc), specific age group(s), specific endowment, specific distance requirements, specific time frames/availability, etc...). So you see, the more we keep breaking it down, the clearer the image gets that the site has next to no potential for a man here to find a woman. Then on top of it, 99.999% men act like complete losers, they're rude, ignorant, argumentative, retaliative, etc... . When all of that equation is said and done, well, let's face it....I don't mean to discourage you men at all, but there's almost no hope for the thousands and thousands of men who come here with cookie-cutter "I'm seeking sex/fwb/nsa/oral sex, etc..." type of profiles. There simply aren't enough women to go around...not even close, nor are there even any women who actually care what loser men actually seek here sexually when we are here. Know what I mean? Then like you said...on the extremely rare event a woman does contemplate an offer, she has fear of all sorts of things.
Let's face it, the site has a near zero success rate for those who are here unless you are really sticking out of the crowd, are unique in some way or another or are simply bribing yourself out with monetary/materialistic items ( a.k.a. sugar daddy ).
Hope that helps more. |
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136 posts 10/3/2018 11:34 am |
What ever happened to being polite and courteous towards others?!?
Banana_Canyon replies on 10/3/2018 1:07 pm:
I wish I knew that answer, too.
What I find funny is that mostly everyone reading these blogs will agree with what's said and agree that what they have read in the blog was poor behavior. Judging by that logic, I would have to expect the site to be nearly the opposite of what it is. I should get next to no foul behavior and should be receiving almost all of my conversations with people on a respectful, kind, civil and adult nature. But that isn't the case...never! So either the men who come here agreeing are mostly lying, or that the men who reside on the blog section of this site are of the predominantly normal/kind/respectful nature for some strange reason.
Doesn't that strike you as odd?
Thanks for your comment. I agree with you and appreciate it! |
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3189 posts 10/3/2018 11:53 am |
Ive heard the excuses, hell I've even thrown it out there. "they buy into the get laid tonight line", "it's a hook up site", etc..
The reality is, none of those reasons excuse the shit behavior of lots of the guys on the site. It's just completely unnecessary. It's childish behavior at best. A lot of it is the internet anonymity, thinking they can say and act that way cause they can't be held accountable. It's the equivalent of the internet tough guy.
I've been on and off this site for years, and to be honest, there was a lot of this in the past too. It might be harder these days to meet women, though I have been out with a couple of them earlier this summer. You just have to be patient, don't be rude. And if they say no, just say thanks and move on.
It's not rocket science guys, it's really not.
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx
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3189 posts 10/3/2018 1:09 pm |
I'd argue that point, but if you use the evidence of most of the messages and IM records the women share on the blogs. I think I'd lose the argument 
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx
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9800 posts 10/3/2018 1:40 pm |
There are plenty of respectful guys who are courteous to others.That read profiles and adhere to what is laid out.It seems odd to have to repeat what is common knowledge in the of process of compatibility but like everything else on a site where everyone that uses it has a different definition of its actual purpose and that is quite simply that guys who possess those attributes nine times out of ten are unattractive.
Describing a simple hello that wasn't face to face as a "seemingly nice" greeting makes me wonder how a
respectful and courteous greeting would be described.
Using more than all the road!
Banana_Canyon replies on 10/5/2018 12:47 pm:
"There are plenty of respectful guys who are courteous to others.That read profiles and adhere to what is laid out."
"Plenty"? I'd say there are a tiny fraction of those sort of men on here that exist, based on my daily experience here for many years. The ones who generally 'seem nice', generally put on a front and show their true colors within a short matter of time when they start pushing buttons and boundaries of what's described, then childishly begin arguing and retorting. I've encountered very few who actually are genuinely contacting me FOR ME, as a person and for truly wanting to communicate within boundary and on a general level.
"It seems odd to have to repeat what is common knowledge in the of process of compatibility but like everything else on a site where everyone that uses it has a different definition of its actual purpose and that is quite simply that guys who possess those attributes nine times out of ten are unattractive."
Attraction doesn't apply to me ( for socializing sake ). I agree, seems odd that a repeat of what should be common knowledge cannot be grasped, for how simplistic the idea is here. There's no gray zone, as you seem to imply. The site very clearly lays out it's various purpose and uses from it's end. From the end of the individual users, the idea should be black and white to actually follow common sense protocol in this order:
1 .) Read a profile ( or find a way to read it on your own terms if unable to and if your intent is to pursue others here). Doing so blindly automatically only brings on nonsense, frustration, discouragement and wasted time. Rule #1, read a profile. Period!
2 .) Comprehend the contents.
3 .) a .) If what you read and comprehend seems to be a match in some way or another to the details provided, at that time give the other party a shout. Complimenting a woman according to her pics is fine and should be left at simply that, but do NOT write to us women based entirely on our profile pics if you haven't read the description. This is assumption, which leads to drama and nonsense. A mistake that I see a lot! A pic is merely a pic, but a description is what's most important, so don't overlook that.
b .) If what you read is contrary to what you seek OR you cannot oblige to the terms of what that person proposes, then no need to make contact and simply move on to another profile.
Simple! Done! It's honestly a process that is that painless to follow, yet nobody can seem to follow the simplicity of that simple three-step process.
"Describing a simple hello that wasn't face to face as a "seemingly nice" greeting makes me wonder how a
respectful and courteous greeting would be described."
Have you actually read my blog?? There was nothing wrong with his "hello", which is simple, courteous and respectful and which IS the reason I opened him IM and replied back. Not sure what you're misunderstanding about that, unless you haven't read the blog and just pick and choose parts to read. |
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10/4/2018 10:09 am
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So what I'm hearing is there's a chance? LOL
Banana_Canyon replies on 10/5/2018 1:55 pm:
Lol. I will say this: Don't give up the good fight. For those who expect success, then bring your A-game and respect. No guarantees, but anything less from that can surely expect zero positive results in your favor as a man. |
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9800 posts 10/5/2018 11:29 pm |
Yes I read her charade!
Using more than all the road!
Banana_Canyon replies on 10/6/2018 9:22 am:
I beg to then ask: What was your confusion regarding a "hello" as a friendly gesture?
I reiterate from a prior comment:
You: ""Describing a simple hello that wasn't face to face as a "seemingly nice" greeting makes me wonder how a
respectful and courteous greeting would be described."
Me: "Have you actually read my blog?? There was nothing wrong with his "hello", which is simple, courteous and respectful and which IS the reason I opened him IM and replied back. Not sure what you're misunderstanding about that, unless you haven't read the blog and just pick and choose parts to read."
If you say you've read it, then I cannot imagine where your confusion is (?). |
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