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And... Today's the day.
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And... Today's the day. I told my Middle I would meet him at the recruiter's office after work today. My heart is sad and I'm feeling so much dread..... But I support his decisions and I want him to feel confident in them. I raised him to be independent, to be able to make wise choices, and now it is time for me to set my baby bird free. Dammit this is hard!! I want to be mad at the Spawn for clipping her toenails on the couch and LEAVlNG the clippings right where they flew.... But, I can't. I swept the stupid things into my hand and cried a little at the realization that she, too, will be flying the coop in just a few more short years as well. It just all feels so final, to me. Like, the end of an era... My ENTIRE adult life has been wrapped up with being a mom of young . I was 19 when my ex-husband and I had my oldest ... I was 28 when we had my middle .... I was 33 when we had the Spawn. I know I should be rejoicing in the fact that I've raised such wonderful, independent, free-thinking and smart , and I am. It was my goal all along to be a good example for them, to teach them to be responsible adults, and to not be afraid to make a decision or put themselves out there. And, I've done just that. Looks like I'll be doing a little extra gym time tonight.... I have a feeling there'll be a lot of feelings I'll need to release and let go... Happy Tuesday |
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Be proud and walk with him in peace . You have done a fine job and be glad he is sharing this decision with you
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Be proud and walk with him in peace . You have done a fine job and be glad he is sharing this decision with you (Virtual Symposium Group) use Virtual Symposium Group
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The world could certainly use more parents like you! You set another good example for him by showing him not only that you love him, but you're trusting him to make good decisions. 
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The rational me knows this..... The emotional, protective mom me, doesn't even want to fathom the thought that he can survive in this world without me. But, I'm getting there.
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Be proud of his choice. It is honorable. And you know he won’t be an unemployed 30 yr old perving porn in your basement all day.
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Cheers to a job well done and to the start of a new era...Whatever that might be. Ya got the rest of your life to watch the chapters unfold. Or you can write a few of your own... 
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You've done such a great job at being a parent and I've no doubt your children appreciates that
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Happy Tuesday!
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7/1/2020 5:01 pm |
Happy Tuesday!
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You've done such a great job at being a parent and I've no doubt your children appreciates that 
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Cheers to a job well done and to the start of a new era...Whatever that might be. Ya got the rest of your life to watch the chapters unfold. Or you can write a few of your own... ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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Be proud of his choice. It is honorable. And you know he won’t be an unemployed 30 yr old perving porn in your basement all day.
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The world could certainly use more parents like you! You set another good example for him by showing him not only that you love him, but you're trusting him to make good decisions. Pagan  Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!
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Hugs. It’s never easy. But having that outlet at the gym hopefully eases that ache in your heart.
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Good luck m'dear, we're all thinking of you....... 
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I don't know why, but the gym was closed when I got there. I was so bummed.... I was looking forward to working out and releasing my emotions.
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It will be ok
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They never totally go away for ever . mine are 33 27 just turned 25 today and 22 . .i will be sharing an apt with the 27 yr old son who needs to get out of moms house finally . i am getting divorced and gave the apt to the ex.i have not lived with the son in 12 years . could be an eye opener lol not sure how long ill stay there ,then he has to take over housing himself . time for you to focus on you after the last is gone . best wishes My best advice for living with the adult child... Let them make their own mistakes and learn from them. I once let my oldest son sit in jail overnight for unpaid traffic tickets. I told him he was 23 and he managed to get the tickets all on his own with no help from me. He could pay for them that way too. It is now a fond story for him as it was kind of pivotal to him becoming responsible, but at the time, I was the most hated person on earth.
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Of all the choices kids make these days, this is a pretty good one. This will set him up with lifetime medical, VA loans for new homeowners, and school loans, not to mention any specialized training they give him. I would hope that both my g-girls follow the same route. You raised a smart one.  And, even when I broke down and cried twice in front of the recruiter, he had his emotions in check and didn't waver. He really wants this. I did apologize to the recruiter for the tears, and he said "I'd rather see this, than the parents who don't give a shit and just sign on the dotted line."
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That moment sneaks up on you real fast.... One day you're dropping them off at kindergarten and the next you're sitting in a marine recruiter's office signing your child away.
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I am so very proud of him... He reminds me a lot of me. I now know what it must have been like for my grandparents when I moved out 2 days after my 18th birthday... And I never moved back home. My grandma would write me letters about how quiet it was and how she would think about me when she did dishes or saw a spider. If I'd known she was going to die of cancer when I was 19, I would have never left....
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Awww, it’s a sad day for sure. You should definitely be proud that you raised great individuals. It takes a special person to serve and I thank him and you as well.
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Hi secret_lade thanks for sharing these thoughts with me your perception is your reality take each day, one at a time make the most of it take time for yourself hmm I'm so glad that my daughter made me watch "Garden State" Nick Drake - "One of These Things First" I could have been a sailor, could have been a cook A real live lover, could have been a book. I could have been a signpost, could have been a clock As simple as a kettle, steady as a rock. I could be Here and now I would be, I should be But how? I could have been One of these things first I could have been One of these things first. I could have been your pillar, could have been your door I could have stayed beside you, could have stayed for more. Could have been your statue, could have been your friend, A whole long lifetime could have been the end. I could be yours so true I would be, I should be through and through I could have been One of these things first I could have been One of these things first.
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Hi secret_lade thanks for sharing these thoughts with me your perception is your reality take each day, one at a time make the most of it take time for yourself hmm I'm so glad that my daughter made me watch "Garden State" Nick Drake - "One of These Things First" I could have been a sailor, could have been a cook A real live lover, could have been a book. I could have been a signpost, could have been a clock As simple as a kettle, steady as a rock. I could be Here and now I would be, I should be But how? I could have been One of these things first I could have been One of these things first. I could have been your pillar, could have been your door I could have stayed beside you, could have stayed for more. Could have been your statue, could have been your friend, A whole long lifetime could have been the end. I could be yours so true I would be, I should be through and through I could have been One of these things first I could have been One of these things first. To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!! 
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6/30/2020 6:31 am |
Awww, it’s a sad day for sure. You should definitely be proud that you raised great individuals. It takes a special person to serve and I thank him and you as well.
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6/30/2020 6:13 am |
Of all the choices kids make these days, this is a pretty good one. This will set him up with lifetime medical, VA loans for new homeowners, and school loans, not to mention any specialized training they give him. I would hope that both my g-girls follow the same route. You raised a smart one.
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They never totally go away for ever . mine are 33 27 just turned 25 today and 22 . .i will be sharing an apt with the 27 yr old son who needs to get out of moms house finally . i am getting divorced and gave the apt to the ex.i have not lived with the son in 12 years . could be an eye opener lol not sure how long ill stay there ,then he has to take over housing himself . time for you to focus on you after the last is gone . best wishes
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It will be ok
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Good luck m'dear, we're all thinking of you.......
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Hugs. It’s never easy. But having that outlet at the gym hopefully eases that ache in your heart. My name is MrWrong and I approved this comment
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