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The Work BFF
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The Work BFF I don't get a chance to work with him often anymore, but I really appreciate the time I do get. It's raise time where I work and this year the raises didn't come from the management staff within. They came from the next level up on the corporate chain. Unfortunate for those of us who have leaders that only give a Meets Expectations, no matter how hard you kick your ass, because "there's always room for improvement". The worst part about the whole thing is when the Boss Duo start the process by saying "You KNOW how we feel about you! You KNOW how much we appreciate you....." But, here's your pidly 2.7%, less than cost of living raise. "This is NOT the raise we submitted. We were upset when this was what was returned to us, this is something that is out of our control, though. In an effort to keep it fair and consistent...." Etc, etc.... "But we know now, going forward, we need to be more diligent in rating you on what your efforts are instead of....." Bastards! I don't know how many times I've heard.... "Don't worry about them! Don't worry about what corporate thinks! I do your eval, I decide your raise!" Lies What does this have to do with the Work BFF? He came to my office to tell me about his incentive talk, I was still smarting over mine that happened on Monday. I couldn't stop myself and started telling him about my experience and how disappointed I felt. Before I knew it I was getting teary eyed and said I had internalized a bunch of it and apologized. He was getting teary eyed too. Thankfully his phone rang and someone came to my office in search of help with something, so the conversation ended, otherwise I'm certain I would have ended up breaking down and crying. How do you know a work bff is a true friend? Empathy Only a true friend will have empathy for what you are going through. |
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A trustworthy and empathic friend at work Or in life is a true treasure. Then there are the scum sucking pigs that run to the boss behind your back and tattle on anything you say or do to make themselves look better or get points. I've known enough of both. Sometimes it is worth looking quietly for a better job somewhere else. But don't share that with anyone at your place of work if you do, not even the trusted friend, unless you are very certain they can be truly trusted and I wouldn't even then.
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A trustworthy and empathic friend at work Or in life is a true treasure. Then there are the scum sucking pigs that run to the boss behind your back and tattle on anything you say or do to make themselves look better or get points. I've known enough of both. Sometimes it is worth looking quietly for a better job somewhere else. But don't share that with anyone at your place of work if you do, not even the trusted friend, unless you are very certain they can be truly trusted and I wouldn't even then. Vive La Difference
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It does help finding another who can understand your pain and where your coming from. Those people are few and far between.
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4/1/2020 6:03 pm |
It does help finding another who can understand your pain and where your coming from. Those people are few and far between.
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Bottom line to this is big business don't care. They pay you to work. They need to make a profit. So they do what it takes even if it means downsize Push the work on to you They can give you a raise to keep you there. Know you will stay ....... It happens to my wife in Kmart for 26 years. Got to a point she come home crying every night. I told her time to move on. You have friend 13 of them that quit moved on to better place and are happier they did. So she took the leap found a new job and was lucky Over the next 14 years there she took on different jobs as the company was sold to a much bigger company She to now has more work to do because of the bottom line. People getting fired yet she still has her work and theirs. What I'm trying to say is I'm her BFF and there for her give her the support she needed in ones if need. So be happy with what you got or look for greener pastures ask yourself are you happy where you are. Ask your BFF then you well know your answers to your ? Either way have a wonderful day XOXO THOMAS
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I've been on both sides of that discussion. Never took the patronising crap, never gave it out. I always took the view that if someone was worth it I would pay them their worth, businesses and owners make enough money without screwing hard working people for more. Sorry you feel shafted McLade, you deserve better. Your BFF Colleague sounds like a good un. Some people have an ability to empathise and do well at it. Would it do any harm to finish that chat with him? He might be looking to get stuff off his chest too? I hope it works out whichever way you decide to go with it.
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That's true. You're lucky 🍀 if you have found someone to cry with at work. Good thing I wasn't there - we would have had a group CRY. They're good for you once in a while. Clears up the debris... until it piles up again. Ya need a release valve? 🤔 Hmmm.... Yep I hear ya. Bottling things up isn't healthy. Hey... On another thought... What ever happened to your promotion offer and that whole 'moving away' option? 🤔 Too early for a glass ? 🍷🍷❗😎
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Hi secret_lade thanks for sharing another page out of your life you are right, he's a keeper it's hard to find a person that will listen and speak to you we're all so different you don't need friends in numbers, just friends in kind I have friends at my current job and past jobs as well those are the ones that you keep have a great day stay safe this one came to mind James Taylor, Carole King - "You’ve Got A Friend" When you're down and troubled And you need a helping hand And nothing, nothing is going right Close your eyes and think of me And soon I will be there To brighten up even your darkest night You just call out my name And you know wherever I am I'll come running, oh yeah baby, to see you again Winter, spring, summer or fall All you've got to do is call And I'll be there, ye, ye, ye You've got a friend
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Hi secret_lade thanks for sharing another page out of your life you are right, he's a keeper it's hard to find a person that will listen and speak to you we're all so different you don't need friends in numbers, just friends in kind I have friends at my current job and past jobs as well those are the ones that you keep have a great day stay safe this one came to mind James Taylor, Carole King - "You’ve Got A Friend" When you're down and troubled And you need a helping hand And nothing, nothing is going right Close your eyes and think of me And soon I will be there To brighten up even your darkest night You just call out my name And you know wherever I am I'll come running, oh yeah baby, to see you again Winter, spring, summer or fall All you've got to do is call And I'll be there, ye, ye, ye You've got a friend To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!! 
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That's true. You're lucky 🍀 if you have found someone to cry with at work. Good thing I wasn't there - we would have had a group CRY. They're good for you once in a while. Clears up the debris... until it piles up again. Ya need a release valve? 🤔 Hmmm.... Yep I hear ya. Bottling things up isn't healthy. Hey... On another thought... What ever happened to your promotion offer and that whole 'moving away' option? 🤔 Too early for a glass ? 🍷🍷❗😎 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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I've been on both sides of that discussion. Never took the patronising crap, never gave it out. I always took the view that if someone was worth it I would pay them their worth, businesses and owners make enough money without screwing hard working people for more. Sorry you feel shafted McLade, you deserve better. Your BFF Colleague sounds like a good un. Some people have an ability to empathise and do well at it. Would it do any harm to finish that chat with him? He might be looking to get stuff off his chest too? I hope it works out whichever way you decide to go with it.
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Bottom line to this is big business don't care. They pay you to work. They need to make a profit. So they do what it takes even if it means downsize Push the work on to you They can give you a raise to keep you there. Know you will stay ....... It happens to my wife in Kmart for 26 years. Got to a point she come home crying every night. I told her time to move on. You have friend 13 of them that quit moved on to better place and are happier they did. So she took the leap found a new job and was lucky Over the next 14 years there she took on different jobs as the company was sold to a much bigger company She to now has more work to do because of the bottom line. People getting fired yet she still has her work and theirs. What I'm trying to say is I'm her BFF and there for her give her the support she needed in ones if need. So be happy with what you got or look for greener pastures ask yourself are you happy where you are. Ask your BFF then you well know your answers to your ? Either way have a wonderful day XOXO THOMAS
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