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Is my Ex being.... Helpful?!?  

secret_lade 49F
14127 posts
12/23/2019 4:09 pm
Is my Ex being.... Helpful?!?


unaccustomed to this feeling.... It almost feels like, gratitude.

My Ex-Husband was in<b> shopping </font></b>today, we ended up crossing paths on the sales floor. I asked him what the plans were for Christmas this year and we talked briefly about when I should pick up my .... etc.

He told to wait until Christmas Eve to pick her up, so I told him I'd get her after work. The conversation led to Christmas presents and he said he was just going to give her .

??

I ended up telling him about a few things that were on her Christmas list that I hadn't gotten her. She had wanted a new pair of converse tennis shoes, but I got her Ugg boots instead because she needed new boots. There were a couple of other things that I just hadn't been able to find and I told him about those as well.

She's a lucky little stinker because he told he would shop around town and get the last few things on her list.

It almost felt like I was in an alternate universe, to be honest. My Ex can be such a dink to ....

When it comes to the though, especially our , there isn't much he isn't willing to do for them.

I know a lot of it is because he's older.....

When you're 62 and your youngest is , I think you try to make the most of what time you have with them.

secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
12/23/2019 9:38 pm

    Quoting Normanman69:
    well that's nice that you are cordial to one another for the kids sake.
It makes things easier... My parents weren't in my life when I was growing up, I don't want that for my kids.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
12/23/2019 9:33 pm

    Quoting Nicolecd1966:
    Well it sounds like your daughter is lucky to have you both this Christmas!! I have a similar situation, only my daughter is now 21 and living with me while going to college. I know I would do everything I can for her. My ex and I get along pretty well and that has helped as she has grown. Hope you have a Merry Christmas and I hope your daughter is happy with all the gifts!!
Thank you! I hope you have a merry Christmas too!!!


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
12/23/2019 9:32 pm

    Quoting  :

It makes it a whole lot easier.... That's for certain.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
12/23/2019 9:30 pm

    Quoting Heathen_G:
    When you're 62 and your youngest child is 12, I think you try to make the most out of what time you have with them. .... Only if there is love for the kid. The "Time" concept doesn't matter.
He does love the kids.... I never worried about the age thing, when we were married, he always seemed so young. The drinking is starting to take its toll on him, though.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
12/23/2019 9:05 pm

    Quoting KX450F2016:
    That's good he is being nice. That is helpful. I am usually too nice to my Ex.... then & now. But I get that from my Dad. Right now my daughter (technically my former step daughter) is living with me while she goes to college & works. I do everything I can for her. Kids should always come first.
You are right, kids should always come first. I look at it this way.... I'm responsible for the childhood, the rest is up to them. I'm setting an example.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
12/23/2019 9:01 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    I have an opinion... It's irrelevant.
    Yeah... I've been there... 😎
    Yep... I've been there
    .
    it's fucked up
What's your opinion?


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
12/23/2019 8:58 pm

    Quoting easy_going2014:
    Hi secret_lade

    thanks for sharing this with me

    "for the children", always the right thing

    reminded me of this

    John Mellencamp - "For The Children"

    I wish I could give you an answer
    As to when life really begins
    I wish I could tell you where we went
    When our days here come to an end
    Wish I could see the future
    The same way I see the past
    Wish I could draw a conclusion
    Why nothing here seems to last
    I can't even make a guess
    Or an uneducated thought
    All I can do here is my best
    And be thankful for what we've got
    Why do so many suffer
    Oppressed to the end of time
    Why does freedom move so slowly
    Unable to speak its mind
    Some say it's a circle
    Others think we live on the wing
    Why are promises broken
    And some think life don't mean a thing
    I can't even make a guess
    Or an uneducated thought
    All I can do here is my best
    And be thankful for what we've got
    I hope you can be a child of life
    With big dreams for everyone
    And know that dyings as natural as birth
    And our troubles here they don't last long
    I have worried about many things
    Most of which did not come to pass
    Hope you find someone to give you love
    And that your love will last
    I can't even make a guess
    Or an uneducated thought
    All I can do here is my best
    And be thankful for what we've got
    We've got
That's a great song. ❤


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
12/23/2019 8:55 pm

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    It sounds like a Christmas miracle.
God bless us, everyone!!


mc_justmc 63M

12/23/2019 8:25 pm

It sounds like a Christmas miracle.


easy_going2014 57M
14366 posts
12/23/2019 7:31 pm

Hi secret_lade

thanks for sharing this with me

"for the children", always the right thing

reminded me of this

John Mellencamp - "For The Children"

I wish I could give you an answer
As to when life really begins
I wish I could tell you where we went
When our days here come to an end
Wish I could see the future
The same way I see the past
Wish I could draw a conclusion
Why nothing here seems to last
I can't even make a guess
Or an uneducated thought
All I can do here is my best
And be thankful for what we've got
Why do so many suffer
Oppressed to the end of time
Why does freedom move so slowly
Unable to speak its mind
Some say it's a circle
Others think we live on the wing
Why are promises broken
And some think life don't mean a thing
I can't even make a guess
Or an uneducated thought
All I can do here is my best
And be thankful for what we've got
I hope you can be a child of life
With big dreams for everyone
And know that dyings as natural as birth
And our troubles here they don't last long
I have worried about many things
Most of which did not come to pass
Hope you find someone to give you love
And that your love will last
I can't even make a guess
Or an uneducated thought
All I can do here is my best
And be thankful for what we've got
We've got

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Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
12/23/2019 7:05 pm

I have an opinion... It's irrelevant.
Yeah... I've been there... 😎
Yep... I've been there
.
it's fucked up


KX450F2016 55M
193 posts
12/23/2019 6:36 pm

That's good he is being nice. That is helpful. I am usually too nice to my Ex.... then & now. But I get that from my Dad. Right now my daughter (technically my former step daughter) is living with me while she goes to college & works. I do everything I can for her. Kids should always come first.


curiousone6929 24F
9 posts
12/23/2019 6:21 pm

do it for your kid


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
12/23/2019 5:55 pm

When you're 62 and your youngest child is 12, I think you try to make the most out of what time you have with them. .... Only if there is love for the kid. The "Time" concept doesn't matter.


Nicolecd1966 57T

12/23/2019 5:05 pm

Well it sounds like your daughter is lucky to have you both this Christmas!! I have a similar situation, only my daughter is now 21 and living with me while going to college. I know I would do everything I can for her. My ex and I get along pretty well and that has helped as she has grown. Hope you have a Merry Christmas and I hope your daughter is happy with all the gifts!!


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
12/23/2019 4:20 pm

    Quoting  :

No, he always makes sure the kids get me Christmas gifts, so I don't have to add anything from my wish list.


Normanman69 54M

12/23/2019 4:19 pm

well that's nice that you are cordial to one another for the kids sake.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
12/23/2019 4:11 pm

Is my Ex being.... Helpful?!?

I'm unaccustomed to this feeling.... It almost feels like, gratitude.

My Ex-Husband was in shopping today, we ended up crossing paths out on the sales floor. I asked him what the plans were for Christmas this year and we talked briefly about when I should pick up my daughter.... etc.

He told me to wait until Christmas Eve to pick her up, so I told him I'd get her after work. The conversation led to Christmas presents and he said he was just going to give her money.

Money??

I ended up telling him about a few things that were on her Christmas list that I hadn't gotten her. She had wanted a new pair of converse tennis shoes, but I got her Ugg boots instead because she needed new boots. There were a couple of other things that I just hadn't been able to find and I told him about those as well.

She's a lucky little stinker because he told me he would shop around town and get the last few things on her list.

It almost felt like I was in an alternate universe, to be honest. My Ex can be such a dink to me....

When it comes to the kids though, especially our Daughter, there isn't much he isn't willing to do for them.

I know a lot of it is because he's older.....

When you're 62 and your youngest child is 12, I think you try to make the most out of what time you have with them.


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