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Sunday Peeves  

secret_lade 49F
14097 posts
11/17/2019 3:39 pm
Sunday Peeves


We've all been there....

and about running errands on a day off, in our own time, dressed the way we like to dress when we are not work, and we happen across a coworker.

Coworker - Slumming it today?

- What? (Looking around to see who is talking to .)

Coworker - Are we slumming it today? (Giving the over the glasses , up and down.)

- No.... This is the way I dress when not work. (Puzzled, looking down my t-shirt, zip up hoodie, jeans, tennis shoes.) What's wrong with what wearing?

Coworker - Uh-huh, slumming it. (Looking my ) Does she?

- Yes, I do.

Thank you, you fucking troll. I wish I was riding in an amigo, I would have rolled right over you.

Why do people insist on stereotyping a person based on the image of the person they see work each day. Am I not allowed to have a life outside of work? Is it impossible to fathom the thought that I might just throw my hair up in a bun, go sans makeup in jeans and a t-shirt to do grocery shopping?

Why is it that when I do it, slumming it? I've seen this fucking troll wearing sweatpants and flip flops.... what do you that?

Thank you for creating a little more insecurity in my already insecure mind.

Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
11/19/2019 1:03 am

    Quoting secret_lade:
    I think the part that bothered me was the comment that I was "slumming it". What exactly is that supposed to mean? As someone who was partially raised by neglectful, white trash parents, my mind immediately went to that. I've worked really hard to break that cycle and, truth be told, very few people know about my childhood or what it was like.
It means you looked lower class, fitting in with troubled people. Reasonably confusing to her, because she professionally knows you a whole other way.

So her comment , "You look like you're slumming" bothered you...so what..

Every person you meet in your life time, will judge you. Whether they keep their judgement to their self, or tell you, is up to that person....

If you did grow up with white trash parents, and worked to get away from that, then anyone would think you'd be more mindful of your casual appearance.

So you really can't get pissed off with her.


ProfessorNaught 111M
1406 posts
11/18/2019 10:12 pm

    Quoting secret_lade:
    Actually, she is not. She's missing a bunch of teeth and her glasses are always filthy.
OK lol
Then say, "it doesn't take much here to attract the hunks"


KX450F2016 55M
193 posts
11/18/2019 7:01 pm

I say fuck the haters! Wear what you want & do what you want! And don't let their attitude and comments get ya down.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
11/18/2019 3:19 pm

    Quoting Heathen_G:
    Why do people insist on stereotyping a person based on the image of the person .... This is an automatic impulse. A persons mind gets accustomed to seeing you one way, all of the time, then when you show up looking dressed-down... that "triggers" [there's that buzz word of today] ... them to take notice.. [People , well most, are aware of their environment, and when something or someone is out of place or different, they react]. However commenting about their observation? Not really necessary.
    But people will judge. All the time. Even if they say they don't.

    In the Jerry Seinfeld Show.. something like this was talked about...George was asking Jerry what's wrong with wearing sweatpants in public... Jerry says, it's showing everyone you've given up [trying to attract a woman].

    So again.... people do judge..always will , even if they say they don't.
I think the part that bothered me was the comment that I was "slumming it". What exactly is that supposed to mean? As someone who was partially raised by neglectful, white trash parents, my mind immediately went to that. I've worked really hard to break that cycle and, truth be told, very few people know about my childhood or what it was like.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
11/18/2019 4:50 am

Why do people insist on stereotyping a person based on the image of the person .... This is an automatic impulse. A persons mind gets accustomed to seeing you one way, all of the time, then when you show up looking dressed-down... that "triggers" [there's that buzz word of today] ... them to take notice.. [People , well most, are aware of their environment, and when something or someone is out of place or different, they react]. However commenting about their observation? Not really necessary.
But people will judge. All the time. Even if they say they don't.

In the Jerry Seinfeld Show.. something like this was talked about...George was asking Jerry what's wrong with wearing sweatpants in public... Jerry says, it's showing everyone you've given up [trying to attract a woman].

So again.... people do judge..always will , even if they say they don't.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
11/18/2019 2:44 am

    Quoting Mch3jsb:
    I’ve become more of a “don’t care what you think” kind of person lately. But, I will confess that I have changed the time of day I go grocery shopping just to avoid running into people I know.
I actually did change the time of day..... Waited until after 5pm to go. I have a freak magnet, though, it never fails. Stuff like that is just drawn to me.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
11/18/2019 2:42 am

    Quoting ProfessorNaught:
    I take it she's a high maintenance type - maybe that's the proper response. . .
    "I'm not a high maintenance wench!"
Actually, she is not. She's missing a bunch of teeth and her glasses are always filthy.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
11/18/2019 2:41 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Ahh... Don't worry about THAT stuff.
    If he's not a friend, he's not worthy of the effort to reply.
    It's all good.
    Now... whadja SMELL like? 🤔 🔥 💦

    I cheat all the time. I may look funny (sometimes) ... but I damn well smell like a million bucks.
    I don't mind, how you smell... btw. 😘
I smelled like Bath&Body works Thousand Wishes body lotion. Probably smelled like my shampoo too.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
11/18/2019 2:39 am

    Quoting easy_going2014:
    Hi secret_lade

    thanks for sharing this one with me

    my "free" time is what I do for me

    it is not for those I choose not to allow to participate

    when that's happened to me, I reach for my phone and speak into it, say goodbye to the univited intruder and continue about my business

    I also have a "B+" note in my office, it reminds me to "be positive" and, then, I can make it thru the day

    you never know the hell people are going thru, so, I just try to stay optimisti while at work, and I rarely take "work" home with me, or to socialize with me

    have a great week

    reminded me of this

    Alanis Morissette - "Uninvited"

    Like anyone would be
    I am flattered by your fascination with me
    Like any hot blooded woman
    I have simply wanted an object to crave

    But you, you're not allowed
    You're uninvited
    An unfortunate slight

    Must be strangely exciting
    To watch the stoic squirm
    Must be somewhat heartening
    To watch Shepard meet Shepard

    But you, you're not allowed
    You're uninvited
    An unfortunate slight
I was rude and just chose to walk away. I've told my boss before, when I'm on my own time, I'm on my own time. I don't have to be friendly and smile at people. (He often comments that I'm stoff'ish when I'm off the clock or on break.)


Mch3jsb 47M
8 posts
11/17/2019 9:40 pm

I’ve become more of a “don’t care what you think” kind of person lately. But, I will confess that I have changed the time of day I go grocery shopping just to avoid running into people I know.


ProfessorNaught 111M
1406 posts
11/17/2019 9:26 pm

I take it she's a high maintenance type - maybe that's the proper response. . .
"I'm not a high maintenance wench!"


easy_going2014 57M
14366 posts
11/17/2019 7:22 pm

Hi secret_lade

thanks for sharing this one with me

my "free" time is what I do for me

it is not for those I choose not to allow to participate

when that's happened to me, I reach for my phone and speak into it, say goodbye to the univited intruder and continue about my business

I also have a "B+" note in my office, it reminds me to "be positive" and, then, I can make it thru the day

you never know the hell people are going thru, so, I just try to stay optimisti while at work, and I rarely take "work" home with me, or to socialize with me

have a great week

reminded me of this

Alanis Morissette - "Uninvited"

Like anyone would be
I am flattered by your fascination with me
Like any hot blooded woman
I have simply wanted an object to crave

But you, you're not allowed
You're uninvited
An unfortunate slight

Must be strangely exciting
To watch the stoic squirm
Must be somewhat heartening
To watch Shepard meet Shepard

But you, you're not allowed
You're uninvited
An unfortunate slight

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Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
11/17/2019 5:46 pm

Ahh... Don't worry about THAT stuff.
If he's not a friend, he's not worthy of the effort to reply.
It's all good.
Now... whadja SMELL like? 🤔 🔥 💦

I cheat all the time. I may look funny (sometimes) ... but I damn well smell like a million bucks.
I don't mind, how you smell... btw. 😘


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
11/17/2019 3:56 pm

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    People I know shit bricks when they see me outside of work because I usually wear soccer shorts, not those fucking things that hang down past the knees.
I hate those long shorts.... I call them Man Capris. How can they even be considered shorts when there isn't anything 'short' about them??


mc_justmc 63M

11/17/2019 3:48 pm

People I know shit bricks when they see me outside of work because I usually wear soccer shorts, not those fucking things that hang down past the knees.


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