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I need honest opinions here... This has nothing to do with the site and I am simply trying to get completely honest and non-biased opinions on what should be done. Problem: Long time school chums...sisters...live in a town...I go see them...notice one sisters house is completely torn apart...being redone in the living room and dining room with a facelift going on in the kitchen. Turns out it was an insurance thing and the man hired to do the work is the other sister's boyfriend who started this job 6 months ago...well it is almost HALLOWEEN and the place is not finished, the 3 said rooms are inhabitable....the basement where he put all the wood...the dining room...and the living room...the kitchen is the only working room besides the bedrooms which weren't touched. The boyfriend hasn't shown in two weeks but cashed the insurance check...can't figure out how he did because it required a 2nd signature... On top of sall this..the boyfriend has some of his stuff stored in the garage of the house...in the backyard as well..and that has been sitting there for many months...he also has some furniture at the girlfriend's (the sister) apartment taking up 90% of her Florida room. Last night at the house (not the apartment) this comes up as an issue. I told my GF to tell her boyfriend to get his shit out of the other one's garage and back yard, and to get his shit out of her Florida room...since she complains about it so much...but she has excuses...it went to a huge argument last night because sister said fire the boyfriend and hire another to finish the work...i explained to sis that her boyfriend took a very large 2 signature check and cashed it...(which is insurance fraud to a degree) and did so with one signature>?? makes no sense. I asked her if she was ok with her sister firing the BF and getting the insurance company involved...she kept bouncing off into never never land wouldn't stop talking was told to shut up like seriously 60 times...and I asked her where her BF is every day..she said oh well he is working very hard and a lot..I said "not here" and house owner sis burst out laughing... I told her she should intervene because after all they are sisters..twins no less..and that bond is very big and to let this man you are dating the last 11 months is screwing her...so what I wish to know is how to make this workable for all involved..what would you do...because right now sis got thrown out for good from the house...over a non-working contractor who happens to be dating him...ideas?? |
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My best advice would be to contact a lawyer and see what your options are. Many lawyers will give you an hour or so of their time free or charge as an exploratory session to discover what the issues are and what your legal options are. I would tend to agree that the insurance company might look into fraudulent charges with only one signature on the cheque, but then that is their decision as well. You and sis that got thrown out should sit down with a lawyer and explore your options. Good luck with this and I hope it all works out for you. P.S. Up here in Canada there is a tv show called "Catch A Contractor" where they go out on behalf of home owners and find contractors who have taken money and not finished the job over a number of month. Options given the contractor are to finish the job under supervision at his cost, refund the money, or go to court over the situation. Looks like this would have been an excellent idea if it had been available in your area. Please let us know how it turns out. Thinking about you as you go through this..... Lance.
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Simple: you don't. Unless this house is where you live or the money in question is your money, this is not your problem to intervene in. These are all adults who know what to do to end this situation but for some reason they choose not to. I asked her if she was ok with her sister firing the BF and getting the insurance company involved...she kept bouncing off into never never land wouldn't stop talking was told to shut up like seriously 60 times...and I asked her where her BF is every day..she said oh well he is working very hard and a lot..I said "not here" and house owner sis burst out laughing... This is pretty good evidence that neither one of them wants to deal with this situation for whatever reason. You might be a good friend, but they are *sisters*. If you don't let this drop one or both of them might feel pressured or shamed into acting and it can end up having a negative effect on your relationship with one or both of them. If it comes up, you are well within *your* rights to tell them that it's not a topic you want to hear about.
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Honestly... I'd mind my own business here.
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I agree. Mind your own business. You are better off in the long run.
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If it's not on paper she'll be enjoying more of the out of doors and windows and walls and privacy and ......... Using more than all the road!
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as an update, i havent said a word to either...so currently my plan of attack is when the girlfriend sister calls me to come over for some wine (which usually means she needs to talk) i will listen and tell her pretty much not my circus not my monkeys...unless she does something about it i cannot stand by her in the complaints...so i hope this may be better..i just dont want to women i love dearly since childhood who are twins and super close to wind up at each others throats because of some outsider.. 
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as an update, i havent said a word to either...so currently my plan of attack is when the girlfriend sister calls me to come over for some wine (which usually means she needs to talk) i will listen and tell her pretty much not my circus not my monkeys...unless she does something about it i cannot stand by her in the complaints...so i hope this may be better..i just dont want to women i love dearly since childhood who are twins and super close to wind up at each others throats because of some outsider.. Good for you! Here's a little perspective. if they let this guy come between them, it's not that guy coming between them. Something else deeper has been undermining their relationship for a while and he happens to be the right excuse to fight at the right time.
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Update 2: Sis called me and texted me numerous times without an answer from me until I saw *are you mad at me*...I said no..but i am mad at your boyfriend for taking advantage of a situation...so i am keeping my distance because i will only shoot my mouth off....the response i got was simply...*you dont know the story*... i did not reply...because honestly..i dont care to.....all i know is what i see and it is a home all ripped up and still nothing moved or touched...but this clown was paid..and thats all i have to see quite honestly...so no story can condone the house in shambles like it is.. still staying in my neutral corner for the most part....lets see how this plays out for Thanksgiving with no living room, dining room or basement and a half ripped apart kitchen... THANKS GOD I HAVE PLANS ELSEWHERE!!! 
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