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What actually happens on this site?  

westside4more 49M
4 posts
5/20/2016 9:11 am
What actually happens on this site?

I'm in my second month of membership...as a part of the activity schedule, I need to post another blog...I haven't really had any contact from people since joining, the few profiles that are supposed to make me feel better about my membership never responded to my questions or contact, there just doesn't seem to be any real people on this site...it's disappointing!

I have had experience and enjoy a great deal in this lifestyle. If it's my profile, fine. If it's my look/attitude, fine. But with very little interaction, there's just not much to help me determine if there are actual people on this site, or just a complex blend of bot and overseas activity meant to keep us in the states strung along and paying...

If you're reading this and having different experiences, PLEASE share in the comments!

lookn4hrnyfun 53M
149 posts
5/20/2016 9:19 am

 Keep at it! It does take work to filter through the bots and fakes but their are real people here. I've had a few horny hook ups and loved them everyone. Posting a profile pic will help!!


westside4more replies on 5/20/2016 11:44 am:
Thank you for this...I've been a member before (as a couple) and had luck, but this time (as a guy) it seems pretty sparse for interest!

MissCinders 58F
1533 posts
5/20/2016 12:16 pm

 Most women do not want a married man. Married men have so little time to meet. Lot is invested in this organized sex stuff. I, for one, am not here to help anyone cheat but good luck!!!


westside4more replies on 5/20/2016 12:40 pm:
Thank you for the feedback. I do understand the pressures of family, work, and then playtime. I've never said anything but this lifestyle is the #3 priority in my life...but...I've also always said, if I make an appointment it will be an EMERGENCY that changes the plans, not an inconvenience! It's important to me to keep things moving and exciting!

Oh, and my playtime is with discreet permission...as long as a friend or family member doesn't approach my wife saying, "guess what we saw him doing!" I'm fine, and work allows me to be seen in public with pretty much anyone, as long as she's not dressed like a hooker.

I guess I thought there would be more (or at least some) women on a sex-focused site that would relish the chance to be "the other woman"...I could change my profile to single and take my ring off when I went to meet someone, but that's shady and would be something caught by anyone I know seeing me in public!

Couple4you321 50M/61F
Ask me for a photo
26 posts
5/20/2016 12:36 pm

 What actually happens on this site?
You've found that women don't reply. That's typical, since women usually get abuse in return for saying a polite no thanks. And the popular women? Get a hundred emails a day. No way would I spend and hour or two answering emails. This is something men hate, but have to get used to.

One issue also, as stated above, is you are married. That's going to be a big no for a lot of women.

I would suggest some kind of picture, doesn't have to be of your face or your dick. But something to make you stand out from the sea of grey sihouettes. Back when I was chatting up men, I honestly couldn't remember one from another unless there was a pic (and half the profiles read the same). Since women get a ton of messages, you will be remembered better if you have a pic. At least, I remembered men that way.

Not much more I can say except the ratio of men to women is at least 30-1, so just stay polite and keep at it.

Good luck.


westside4more replies on 5/22/2016 7:29 am:
Thanks, I'll work on a few pics and stay polite!

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