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ask a transgender Hi, i'm Danielle. I wanted to start a blog about transgender and topics that need to be talked about. You wanted to become trans-gender, now what? What kind of things can a person expect during transition? In this blog i want people to ask questions. Others to hopefully answer some questions. I have started HRT 3 mths ago, so those of you just starting....maybe i can help. For those who are further along, are encouraged to add comments. Keep in mind that these are not to treat or diagnose any problems. this blog is only personal input and you should always consult you physician before taking any medications. So a little about Danielle. I have lived in the construction field all my life. I'm 49 1/2 yrs old. lol. I guess better late then never. I struggle with coming out. I have let most of my family/friends know, i don't think i will ever come out at work. So my struggle is to figure out what other kind of job i can do and still keep close to the same pay rate. I hope you can bring questions to this blog. I appreciate you taking the time to look. Hugs, Danielle. |
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My only words for you are these. In order to completely enjoy it, you have to be completely out with EVERYONE, but don't do it for them, do it for you. but you gotta be 100% out, otherwise, until them, your life will not change, cause the fear will always hang over your head. Trust me, the road is not easy or will not be easy, just be brave and embrace and love yourself.
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To Carbon, I wouldn't try second guessing someone else's mo. it is too fraught with a myriad of deep feelings, sensations, beliefs, and urges. not all transgender are gay. it isn't so str8 forward. very complicated. i confess to not understanding the motivations, but i would not presume to lecture anyone one way or the other.
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To Carbon That is the most Neanderthal comment I have read in along time. People don't choose their gender it chooses them. To be perfectly honest if I could stop being a CD I would, the guilt, the shame, the secret life but I cant & every time I have suppressed it I have been the most unhappiest I have ever been. How did it start, no idea, why no idea...will it stop no idea... I am happy as a male 50% of the time, but also crave to be female Do some research if you are going to be on a page like this Have you not walked in the streets and seen women dressing as men day in day out & that is becoming more & more prevalent. Are you ok with that or isn't that a double standard
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2/16/2016 1:02 pm |
I'm happy for you Danielle. I'm diagnosed Gender Dysphoria and came out to my wife who told me if I wanted to dress I could get my things and get out forever. Am strictly on the DL now. Would like to meet you and just be able to talk with you. I love dressing and feel so natural and comfortable and feminine as Laurie. Look at the "status" under my picture and get ahold of me. I really understand about not coming out fully to your work mates. I am retired. Have reasons I'm still in my non-intimate, non-supportive situation. Would really like to have like-minded friends that would host and I could visit now and then and talk and meet others. hugs, laurie
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I learned a long time ago that it is not worth the effort to carry on a dialogue with someone who portrays they have all the answers or that their opinion or belief is the way it is or should be. Everyone has the right to their beliefs but what I find disturbing is when someone takes a position on a much more complex issue when they lack the knowledge or background and spout about their superiority or low self esteem, or broken court systems and it is done with what seems to be such anger or loathing. If you don't like or can't accept the way a person chooses to live their life you have that option, but don't try to come off telling someone how they should be or try to analyze and solve what you feel is their misguidance. I doubt you are without any faults...I can think of a few...but I am not about to try and change you! [Everything changed when I went from Why to Why Not!         
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I have cross-dressed for years and have also struggle with coming out to anyone but a couple of very good freinds
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For me:.....i came out in segments. first to my closest people then some at work. I don't feel the need to tell everyone i meet. Since then, i started going out to places i felt safe at. The more i go out, the more i feel comfortable going to new places. Now i have some amazing times going out. Either i meet safe people or i get people that are curious. They ask me questions and such. I'm really finding that most people are excepting. The jerks are a dying breed! I found that coming out to people you know is difficult at times. Telling a stranger...i could care less, i'll be open. But all this started as baby steps. I set some goals, but set no time limits. Like:...I want to tell someone...well, focus on that. When you've done that move to the next desire. ie. telling another or going to the store dressed for simple things. Remember: every sliver of confidence is not a waste of effort. Just put one foot in front of the other and follow the yellow brick road sweeties. You'll get there! XOXOXO Dani.
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