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18 Things I've Learned from Being a Slut
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18 Things I've Learned from Being a Slut When you have sex with more than a few people, you start to figure a few things out. Here's a list of things I've learned: 1. People fit together in unique ways resulting in some things working with one partner that aren't so practical with another. I couldn't get down on my knees and deep throat a recent partner because his cock has a curve and I'd literally hurt him by doing so. We had to find another position to be able to do that. 2. Orgasm doesn't work very well for me when I'm having the best sex. Contrary to popular belief, there are things that are more awesome than orgasm. For me, I have something I call a state of orgasmic meditation. You can call it whatever you'd like. I eventually do want to orgasm, but it's a low priority, because I'm enjoying the sex itself so much. 3. Sometimes things are super hot, but there are other things that are wrong. Exhibit A: Mr. Sweet Thing. 4. Keep an open mind and if things are good, but aren't perfect, try things agin, just to be sure. Some people just need to warm up. Sometimes some communication just needs to take place. Some of us have freak outs that are reasonable..and others that are less so. 5. Emotions can be fickle. Something that feels good one day, may not feel right the next time...and that's ok. Know yourself and honor what feels right to you. 6. Sex doesn't always have to be a big deal. I'd rather have sex and see how it goes and just not bother to repeat it than to make a big deal about whether or not I'm having it. 7. Occasionally there really are guys I'm interested in talking to and even having sex with...and really don't see myself having any kind of serious relationship with...but not often. 8. My body may not be the cultural ideal, but there are plenty of guys who think my body is totally awesome, and they are worth far more of my attention than those who don't. 9. I can only date smart men, because they are far less likely to be intimidated by me. 10. What each person is good at sexually varies. This is okay, too. If you can't get your needs met, don't make it the other person's problem. It's okay to state what you want, but no one is your bitch. Either decide someone is right for you or they aren't. No one needs your shit. 11. It's okay to have sex for other people, but if you aren't primarily having sex for yourself, it's no beuno. Seriously, when you can't have sex primarily because it's something you want for yourself, everyone winds up unhappy and everyone loses. 12. Your sexual health is important. Make decisions you can live with. 1 in 5 adult men have genital herpes. 1 in 4 adult women have genital herpes. 13. Being a slut is smart. Seriously, I learn a lot from each and every person I have sex with about how my body works and what I need and what doesn't work for me. Experience always is the very best teacher. 14. Sex is actually a super important part of my personal sense of well-being. I actually suffer emotionally and/or mentally when I can't get regular sex. It doesn't have to be constant, but I need it at least once per week. 15. Know your limits and communicate them. No one should feel obligated to do something sexually that they aren't okay with. 16. Someone else's hardon is not my problem. Seriously, it's not. If they get too pushy, direct them to your favorite porn site. 17. If someone doesn't accept basic limits, they are also high risk for abusing your trust sexually, as well. When I'm planning to meet up with someone for the first time, I have an unuasual (at least for people my age) limitation. I think it not only helps me feel better, because I make it clear what I don't want to do, but I think it also works as a psychological screening tool. Can a guy actually accept simple boundaries? If he can't, I certainly don't want to put him in the driver's seat of responsibly wearing a condom. 18. You'll never regret using a condom.   MOST of the time I'm well behaved...but if you weren't, and, enjoyed having your ass handed to you, visit my blog and become a subscriber. There you can read all about how I am actively authoring, and rewriting, my life .Trying to get a bigger audience? Here's my .02 Content What Content 8 Things To Consider Towards Better Content {=} |
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omg...you are soooooooo right about that...this is exactly how i feel...
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You hit the nail or nails on the head. I totally agree with what you said.
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very good
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True stuff there Lady! 
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Elf I totally agree with your whole entire list thanks for sharing spot on btw too
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5/28/2017 10:21 pm |
19. What you like to do may not be what they like to do.
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