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It's not you, it's me....
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It's not you, it's me.... Yup, it's an oldie, but it can be the best thing to say, when saying goodbye. A few months ago I told you about a man who was boyfriend material. He really is a lovely bloke, BUT he is no longer on my boyfriend radar. I met him on another dating-site, quickly built a rapport, and within a few days was talking to him evey night. I finally met him a month ago, spending a few nights with him, in his home. Now, I'm not exactly the neatest of women, but I am a clean one. I was met with a sticky kitchen, a bed without a sheet, and the state of his toilet was horrendous! In short: a man living alone, having done so for a long time, who didn't think to clean before inviting a woman into his home. I looked beyond, seeing a nice guy, and we had a nice enough time. When I got home, I spent some time soul-searching, trying to gauge my feelings for him, weighing pros and cons, in short deciding whether I was going to continue. I decided not to, partly based on conversations we had during my visit, my gut-feelings about a future, and not least: the lack of effort before my visit! So, I called him (having spent a nervous afternoon going through scenarios in my mind), said "We need to talk. I don't think we can be together..", to which he said "Oh, Ok, goodbye!" and hung up! That left me non-plussed, and with a distinct feeling of having hurt someone, who at heart is a nice guy, but not the guy for me. I ended up writing him a message, which he answered the next day, and we wrote together, clearing the air a bit. All in all an experience more for me, one for the books, and yes a 'It's not you, it's me'-moment. |
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Neat n clean is ALWAYS important no matter how rich or poor you or how big or small you live...
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