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Blogs > Justagirl9895 > DiaryofaNotSoMadBlackWoman

Of soft things and 2nd dates  

Justagirl9895 41F
33 posts
11/28/2015 1:52 am
Of soft things and 2nd dates

I had sex a couple of days ago, at least I tried to. I was at a party and ran into an old acquitance. We immediately hit it off and by the end of the night had decided we want to see 'more' of each other. Naturally we ended up back at his place and everything was going so well (he's an amazing kisser) until his little guy decided not to cooperate. What an anti climax! Now I have never been in this situation before and I had no idea what to say to make him feel better. He was clearly embarrassed. And then of course comes the self doubt, what's wrong with me that I can't get him hard? Needless to say it got very awkward. He did try to make up for it though and gave me some great head but for me sex isnt sex without penetration. So question to the guys... For those of you who have ever had this happen, what would the lady have said or done to help matters? Any right words? And to the ladies, if this has ever happened how did you react? Did you say its alright or storm off in frustration? Finally the biggest question for me... To see him or not to see him again. Hmmm....

Great_eight 58M
1561 posts
11/28/2015 3:30 am

 As the Countess points out, sometimes life's stresses can build up and make things function less than perfectly. There is little that you can say or do to change things at the time.

I would see him again.


samuraijook 45M
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19 posts
12/3/2015 5:13 am

 I think Countess sums it up very well. Re-assurance at the time it happens it most important. Then above that, knowing (with age and wisdom) that these things happen once in a while, or even seasonally. And so, for his sake, leave the topic on the day it happened and not revisit it; and for you, know it was more of something happening in his life (whether emotionally, stress or even hormonal issues) that caused it to happen as such and so don't be hard on yourself as to think you failed to do something or that you lost your mojo. My two cents!


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