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In a meaningful relationship - hell yes. It never happened, but if somebody had bothered my wife I would have put a stop to it. In the swinger world, by definition, there are much weaker (if not no) ties with a play partner - unless you play in a couple, of course. Reading the dynamic at a club between a man and a woman is always tricky (particularly when they aren't speaking your native language!), most people accept "no" with grace - not all, of course!
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9/10/2020 10:38 am |
I think the whole territorial thing that you describe is a state of individual insecurity, that is why on a site such as this you wont get it. A place like this is to let go of all that and understand that nothing is certain. Real life however is a place of constant competition and race to the finish line!
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Umm . . . There are men who get territorial here in the chat rooms. Just saw it happen in a chat room a couple nights back. The guy doing the "she's mine!" thing was the dick in the whole episode. There wasn't any way to know the woman was taken and guys were just basically saying Hi. I must say this is a much more rare occurence than in the heyday of Senior Sizzle and all the oter dating sites. People who had never met in IRL (and likely never would) were all "I'm married to XXXX. Sorry can't talk to you" It was a weird(er) time
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I keep things simple... if a woman I am dating is flirty, enjoys being hit on, and stands to talk to men who hit on her, I will only date her for a short time, then I will no longer see her.
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...interesting perspective.... the corollary is the saying... " if you love someone set them free... if they don't come back, it was never meant to be" .... there is so much strength in knowing that your partner will be there for you.... allows many situations to be defused easily.... less of an issue when both say, we're together.... ...and on here when strangers get possessive of other strangers... well, that one is a head scratcher..... but heck, who says people are logical... lol....
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9/10/2020 2:24 pm |
I seem to find very territorial women. I can get jealous too, but from the ladies behaviour towards another guy. This is obviously a need to be liked, which can get in the way... Sometimes it is habit, sometimes I can behave much better.
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I think men are very possessive. Able202
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Not worth it!
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- In the many years I’ve been on site, I never once came across a situation of jealousy rearing it’s ugly head my way. Now that I’ve returned, there seems to be some territorial rights in regards to who belongs to who, which I find it weird in itself - last time I checked we were free people. I know in my hearts of hearts my fondness towards my favorites in particular, and that through our common interests, there is a bond...we should be adult enough to know, and even swell with some pride at the notion when she exchanges chats with another, it’s what people are hardwired to do. Unless specifically noted of said attachments being written in stone, last time I checked she’s free to come and go as she pleases... Alas, I don’t think guys are keeping themselves busy enough on the interwebs in order to keep their emotions in check. M~
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nd she goes for his flirt or attention , she is not the lady I want .Go take him and enjoy ,get out of my life .I reward devotion with devotion , loyalty with loyalty and trust with trust .If you want someone else go have em . don't play games with me . karma can be a very harsh friend . Now saying that I let one go who i really loved ,soulmate level .I could not give her and her family what they needed at the time ,so i stepped away and she chose the security .Now 5 yrs later he was abusive and is gone .I am now back in her life .guess love wins in the end .
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This blog reminded me of an ex lover who I saw years ago. I was dating some one new and we went to a Meet and Greet in Winston. When we got to the place a girl I knew asked me if she could kiss Ron and I said yes. We meet a lot of nice people from this site there and we all decided to go over to Metal Rebel. ( Bar). Some played pool and I got asked to dance so I did and I came back to the table sit down, and asked what was going on over there and a guy looks at me, and says they are fighting over you. I said " WHAT". I got up and walked over to my ex lover and my new guy I was dating and looked at the ex lover and said to him: you are the one who decided not to see me any more, so I moved on. Then Ron and I walked off. When I see someone one from this site or in Real Time I do not see other men. I sure don't want my guy to date other women and if I find out about it, then that is over and done with. We you want to see others then on that first meet you should get everything out as what you are wanting and expecting. The Light is shinning and she is lonely and waiting in the darkness. 
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Hi Joy thanks for taking me further with territorial waters you know, I always enJOY when men hit on the women I am with it lets me know that I have the "cat's meow" I'm not worried about her, she is with me, and we are for each other she will do what she's going to do whether I am there with her or not no need for interference on my part she saw me, and, I saw her my women are confident and want to please and be pleased they know where I stand, and I know where they stand hmm be safe Ben E. King - "Stand by Me" When the night has come And the land is dark And the moon is the only light we'll see No I won't be afraid Oh, I won't be afraid Just as long as you stand, stand by me So darling, darling Stand by me, oh stand by me Oh stand, stand by me Stand by me If the sky that we look upon Should tumble and fall Or the mountain should crumble to the sea I won't cry, I won't cry No, I won't shed a tear Just as long as you stand, stand by me To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!! 
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Did you say Gold Rush.?? North to Alaska by Johnny Horton Big Sam left Seattle in the year of ninety-two With George Pratt his partner and brother Billy too They crossed the Yukon river and they found the bonanza gold Below that old white mountain Just a little south-east of Nome Sam crossed the Majestic mountains to the valleys far below He talked to his team of huskies As he mushed on through the snow With the northen lights a-runnin' wild In the land of the midnight sun Yes Sam McCord was a mighty man In the year of nineteen-one Where the river is windin' big nuggets they're findin' North to Alaska go north the rush is on North to Alaska go north the rush is on
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I suppose it is all about the situation at the time, I am quite surprised it wasn't you that told the guy to get off or thumped him, I have been in a similar situation in the past and after I charged in I found I was in the dog house with the woman for getting aggressive, so for me I would rather talk about it but I appreciate that it can be hard to negotiate with alcohol oiled people.
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I am a man who will fight for your Honor, I'll be the Hero your dreaming of.. Doing it all for the glory of Love....Sry. The song just popped into my head. Now I'll be humming it all day I'm sure. Steve Perry? Who knows? Just one of a few hundred dozen golden oldie's rambling around in my brain at any given moment. Am I that guy? Not any more. Time and tide have changed my nature. I no longer view relationships by "Yours", "Mine", or "Ours" a lesson hard learned really. The famous quote " If you love something set it free, if it was meant to be it will come back to you, if it doesn't it wasn't yours to begin with" Would better sum up the way I feel about things now. When I find myself in times of trouble Mother Mary comes to me speaking words of wisdom.. "let it be" ( another golden Oldie ) Fighting for or about a partner with someone else ( a third party ) isn't worth it. Let it be, as the song lyric goes, if she or he is really and truly yours there will be no need to fight. "so darling save the last dance for me" Have a good one my friend...
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Oh, this is interesting. I have to agree with Halibat. Insecurity can be an awful trait. This reminds me of something that happened over 30 years ago. I was dating a douchebag (in high school) when I met my now husband. Hubby and I had been married a few years, and I ran into the ex in a local beer garden. We were ONLY catching up, saying HI, etc... Hubby got so jealous and pissed off, he poured a beer over my head!! I was pissed!! We both got over it after time, but WTF?? He still has a few jealous moments here and there, but he should know I'm not going anywhere. Have a great day, and be nice to one another.
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Kind of off the main topic subject, but in retrospect, I have to say I can't blame the young man too much...you DO have a great ass !! *widest grin*
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Hello Joy I don't consider myself a jealous person although if in a ltr with someone I am territorial. In the situation as you described if I were your ex, upon seeing another man up close with his hands on you. I would have put an end to that, but his comment on your nice ass would not have bothered me. Instead of hitting him I might have let him know that I would be the one bending you over later that evening. I feel jealousy leads to a feeling of not being trusted by your partner and trust is everything. Being territorial, I would want to help and protect you when needed. When I was with my ex I didn't flirt with other women, there was no need for any jealous behavior. Life should be as drama free as possible
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♫ You fight as you might but you'll never get away ♫ ~ Headpins 'Mine All Mine' I am kinda weird on that topic. I build ice walls. I shouldn't need to fight for a woman to begin with. I avoid confrontation this way. If a woman is that inviting to attract attention from many many men, I won't bat an eye her way. instead I will build an ice wall between us and keep my distance. Basically it is not meant to be if I need to fight. I am not in this life to fight. I do what comes naturally. I shouldn't need to resort to barbaric ways to be peaceful and happy. If I have to compete or fight for it it is not meant to be... I have more to worry about than fighting... nuff said ~Wee~ 𝕋𝕙𝕒𝕟𝕜𝕤 𝕗𝕠𝕣 𝕓𝕖𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕪𝕠𝕦
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